Writing for that day, which is inevitable to all of us.


I live on Medical Management after Triple bypass procedure was considered unviable.
I have strict Diet Regimen.
I Walk twice or thrice day and my range is 10 to 15 Km per day.
This has helped me get strength in past 4.5 years.
It does not make me Invincible though.
End comes to all.  I wrote these lines for my last day as I may not have that strength left to write them.
My body is broken, I can feel it.
Weak, crushed and beyond repair.
Surely this is the end, surely there’s no coming back from this.
No, it can’t be, it mustn’t be.
How long has it been?
Minutes? Hours?
Who knows.
Somebody will find me soon though.
Ha, as if. This is no time for jokes, stupid mind.
I’m dying.
Is there really no way out of this mess?
No way for me to live?
I’m not ready to die,
I’m not ready for it all to end.
Somebody please find me, I need help.
Somebody, please save me.
I don’t want to die.

It’s very quiet out here, or maybe my mind is just failing me.

It’s peaceful though, I guess.
But I still need to get out of here, but how?
I’m too tired and too broken to do anything,
I’ll need help.
Oh please let help be on the way, I don’t want to die out here.
All alone, lost and forgotten.

I can’t.. I won’t.. I’m not going to make it.

I can’t be saved, it’s too late.
It’s far too late.
I’m going to die.
Oh no, I’m going to die!
Please, not yet, I don’t want to die. I don’t want to die.

My mind is numb, I’m feeling drowsy.

I can’t think straight anymore, I’m too tired.
The world looks distorted, I can’t make sense of any of it anymore.
My mind is numb.

Goodbye world.

RAK – the Random Acts of Kindness Movement . Choose one.


  1. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  2. Surprise your parents with flowers
  3. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  4. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them
  5. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  6. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  7. Volunteer your time for a good cause
  8. Visit a friend who’s sick
  9. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
  10. Support a small, local business as a customer

Random Phrases for 13th Nov. 2018. Creativity and Lateral thoughts.


Things Average Out – Almost daily ! 🙂

 
  1. My Cup of Tea Meaning: Someone or something that one finds to be agreeable or delightful.  My mentor once sadi, ask a stranger for a feedback or a solution to your top of mind problem and you are most likely to get it.  I used this today with a Film maker and sought his advice and what a wonderful discussion we had – educative, enlightening, inspiring and most helpful.  Acting or making films are not my profession. I did Censor films though 🙂 but being considered for a Cast and an interview by a Top director was not my cup of tea.   Advice just flowed and the expert filled many of my knowledge gaps.  Wonderful day today. 

  2. Quick and Dirty Meaning: Things that done with great speed, but as a result, they are not going to work very well. My MacPro is now old and become so slow that I am fed up. The new models have not arrived in India yet and the dealers are trying to push old models with hard sell.  I was looking for a iMac this time as I rarely step out with a laptop but most dealers do not have it in stock in a IT capital of India Bangalore. What a shame !  Are they discontinuing the iMac ? I wonder

  3. No Ifs, Ands, or Buts Meaning: Finishing a task without making any excuses. To go to a CSC or Family Pension Fund office has become a ritual every year for every Senior citizen.  It is sad.  Most CSC’s are not equipped or have slow networks and avoid this lowly paid activity.  I also face issues with my fingerprints 🙂 – the prints don’t match ! WOW 1  So they take the photo of the eyes at few locations where the queues are huge.  Do I have a choice – No!

  4. Quality Time Meaning: Spending time with another to strengthen the relationship. I am loving the Toastmasters.  I started going for their meetups in mid August, was terrified with the Table topics but started my Pathways journey and crossed Level 1. It is working well. I like the time spent. 

  5. Cut To The Chase Meaning: To get to the point, leaving out all the unnecessary details.  The count from a13th May, the Muse and the message, inspiration or negativity is getting buried today.  100k view is still sometime away but mind is at peace and there is no negativity, The heart is pure. Will keep at it by writing more posts and less sharing going forward on this blog. 

  6. Cup Of Joe Meaning: A cup of joe is an American nickname for a cup of coffee. The new mentee which I reluctantly took on board without even meeting is enthusiastic and experienced.  I receptive and when I pushed him to the wall – his response was fantastic.  I like him and may invite him for a cup of Joe 🙂

  7. Shot In the Dark Meaning: An attempt that has little chance for success.  Not attempting to do any such things. All well planned activities and limited Goals and it feels great to measure and keep my eyes on the finish line. 

  8. Plot Thickens: The Meaning: The latest developments have become made the situation very serious.  But I couldn’t care more. Decided not to take ownership or own others’ problems,  not get emotionally invested in any one and give advice only when asked. and keep arms length distance. 

  9. Beating a Dead Horse Meaning: It is unwise to bring up a past resolved issue.  Today is auspicious to close all such matters and resolved to do it. I have started some of my old favorite activities. Whistling, singing, listening to Retro songs and instrumental music and long walks! They are so refreshing. 

  10. Playing For Keeps Meaning: Said when things are about to get serious.  The coming months are promising. Some good opportunities like filming, Global speakership are coming on the horizon with little efforts.  Will attempt new strategies on the  blogs and make both very active. 

Random Phrases. My week. Lateral thoughts


  1. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious. Yes. I obviously missed it. It was long time coming. Should have gauged and anticipated some responses. I tried to keep my nose clean, kept looking beyond my nose on my way forward and missed something right under my nose. It was a terrible mistake. 
  2. Mountain Out of a Molehill Meaning: One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems. Doesn’t this sound very familiar.  Especially in relationships where you get involved and emotionally invested and the professionalism melts away and gives in to sentiments which cloud judgement. The flip side is when the other person manipulates and makes mountain of molehill and you do not have any lateral means to save the relationships.  
  3. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so. It was a bad sight. All the plans of an ex-mentee went awry by their own design and attitude and mindset. False pride, a deep need of entitlement and gratification did not result in Catharsis and the plot which thickened – did not yield into plans being achieved and inspite of giving full space – failure could not be averted. 
  4. Know the Ropes Meaning: Having a familiarity or understanding of how something works. I have become wiser and more informed, more in-sync now with the Speaker business and enhancing my skills and nuanced learning with the new mentors and evaluators. The Udemy courses I did are wonderful. The interaction with the Writing and Speaking instructors most valuable and fun. 
  5. Jack of All Trades Master of None Meaning: Having suitable skill in multiple things, but not being an expert in any of them. I remember once getting a couplet Quote “Jack of all trades. Master of many. Jay of tall crusades. Blaster unlike any.” in my praise perhaps.  And a poem
    “We cant see them.
    Their existence is questioned by us.
    Though if by some unfortunate stroke,
    they cross over into our world,
    they are cheap,
    filthy and dangerous.
    But our world is more them,
    than us.
    We cant see this.
    Our existence is questioned there
    Though if by
    some unfortunate stroke,
    we cross over
    into the real world,
    we are unfit, scared
    and dangerous.
    ……………………….
    It is about the so-called
    Elite class and the
    so-called Classless” End Quote.  I loved it then. I now realise that it was only a momentary praise – not even skin deep.  I choose to live and die as MASTER OF NONE and attain Mastery in Servitude – Service Attitude – which helps me serve the Humanity .
  6. Mouth-watering Meaning: Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.  What a spread of Sweets and goodies my wife made for past 3-4 days for Diwali. Just mouth watering. And I am almost breaking my Diet Regimen to taste the savouries.  Wish I had also learnt to make some – though I did dabble and disturb for some time to keep her motivated and give her company.  The Smile was my reward. 
  7. Like Father Like Son Meaning: Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior. My daughters – the loving / doting daughters at times display the same behaviour – the appearance is more mother like but mannerisms and logic, the anger, Temper, the drive, grit, determination – much like me =- I pat myself for having great daughters and don’t regret not having a son. 
  8. Ring Any Bells? Meaning: Recalling a memory; causing a person to remember something or someone. A Birthday triggered a memory and I wrote a confession in a post and sent it to the person I had hurt. When words hurt – the pain and wounds take longer to heal so I did not expect any response and predictably there was none.  
  9. Give a Man a Fish Meaning: It’s better to teach a person how to do something than to do that something for them. I am looking for a Fish or a Fishing Rod for 7.5 years post retirement secretly but yet to find it.  Post Heart attacks when the revenue stream dried and dependence on passive income grew – there was no will left to monetise and I continued with my pro-bono work wholeheartedly – All In mentoring. 
  10. Greased Lightning Meaning: Very fast or quick. It still remains my top strength to come to a decision with Lightning speed. It is more now with NeoCortex than the Neo-limbic and that’s even better. 

Thank you for reading.

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Buy someone a coffee
  2. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  3. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  4. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  5. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!
  6. Visit a friend who’s sick
  7. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  8. Save water – take a shorter shower today
  9. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  10. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity

Horns of Dilemma and Jay’s Tantra Way


Whenever faced with a situation leading to horns of dilemma; that could cause me to procrastinate, delay, be in double minds like sitting on the horns of Dilemma, I go back to two holy books.  1. A Bible 2. BhagvadGita.  I randomly select 2 verses and usually find my answers. I named it as Jay’s Tantra way.

See an example:

This is what Gita said.

Job 41:10

Passage: No one is fierce enough to rouse it. Who then is able to stand against me?

This is what the Bible verse said.

See some similarities in the two random verses?

  1. The doubt in my heart is born out of ignorance and I need to establish myself in Yoga and stand up for fight- Cut my doubt in the heart with the sword of wisdom.
  2. Who is able to stand against you? There is no one fierce enough to rouse it.

I derived the following meaning – the chosen path is right. I need to concentrate, meditate and be ready for the fight whether or not it happens.

I also know, I have class and it will have to be a really fierce fight, if someone were to oppose or put hurdles in my chosen path.

Sounds simple, NO?  I like this technique to work all the time.

Random Phrases. Creativity. Day’s Progress


  1. Swinging For the Fences Meaning: Giving something your all.  Yes. Giving All in to the 3 Goals I have set.  Screen time reduced. Walking/ listening time increased. Talk time improving still. Video recordings not on schedule.  
  2. Keep Your Shirt On Meaning: Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset.  Have to learn to like my voice and face and expressions on the video. After all, others are somehow tolerating me 🙂 
  3. Elvis Has Left The Building Meaning: Something that is all over. Yes. This year too many People, Relationships are over. The pleasure was of course, in giving. Giving to those who can not see – the visually challenged people who will never know their Giver, the benefactor.  
  4. Playing For Keeps  Meaning: Said when things are about to get serious.  Joining my third ToastMasters on coming sunday.  The International Champ Speaker is impressive club leader. Worth learning something from him. 
  5. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.  I thought I negotiated well. To the working class painter of the house I was bit benevolent and did not hard bargain – with the shopkeeper though, it was another matter.  In balance a good deal. 
  6. Cry Wolf Meaning: Someone that calls for help when it is not needed. Someone who is lying.  Interesting study I learnt that the highest number of lies are told over phone and the least on the emails. I now understand the meaning of “Plausible deniablility”:) .
  7. Back To the Drawing Board Meaning: Starting over again on a new design from a previously failed attempt.  It is not easy to restart Speechcrafting, writing, learning to punctuate but Udemy and online platforms are the new addictions due to great trainers. One of them, I interacted with today few times over a failed PDF and what great responses – speedy, concerned, showed care and full of support for the student – WOW – I told the lady, I shall enroll for her next course.  It made her day.
  8. Jumping the Gun Meaning: Something that occurs too early before preparations are ready. Starting too soon.  No, not making this mistake again.  Have learnt my lessons in the Shani’s Sade Saati year 2018 😦 .   
  9. Ring Any Bells?Meaning: Recalling a memory; causing a person to remember something or someone.  Reading some poetry blogs these days. I just keep appreciating them as I know I can never write such great poetry. Some are sad souls but most are very sane inspite of their sorrow, sadness, emotive yet sensible.  The art of writing and the flair and flourish of many of them is so remarkable and I believe they must be atleast 30 to 40 years younger to me.  Great poetry. I love it. 
  10. Scot-free Meaning: Getting away freely from custody, punishment, or any type of risky situation.  What am I scot free from? I wonder. Closeted in my drawing room, glued to my chair and the screen – it is only when I walk slowly, calmly, steadily, haltingly, I feel the fresh breath of air, the cool, Bengaluru weather and the breeze and the moment I sweat – my instincts tell me it is going to rain – and it does. The cool weather returns.  Feels like freedom! 

Creativity. Random Phrases. My Day.


  1. Back To the Drawing Board Meaning: Starting over again on a new design from a previously failed attempt.  Restarting the Learning Process after a gap. I have found some interesting courses on Udemy about Startups, Funding, Angel investing and others of my interest. 
  2. Burst Your Bubble Meaning: To ruin someone’s happy moment.  Hmmm… some WhatsApps, some SMS, some emails.  do that regularly but I have cut short on all of them to a bare minimum i.e. Responding by a Namaste and rarely with a request to call if at all.  Mails as per Mail Track are averaging 3 per week and that gives me a lot of time to work on my 3 key goals. 
  3. Cry Over Spilt Milk Meaning: It’s useless to worry about things that  already happened and cannot be changed.  Yes this happens. It is true. And it is best to Let go of the past.  
  4. Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.  Preparing speeches, writing articles, keeps busy and happy.  Once the creativity juices are flowing there is no stopping of happiness – it just follows. 
  5. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited for.  I left a Club last week. I was feeling like a fish out of water as my worth was not respected, people were indulging in groupism and politics.  Best to keep off. 
  6. Quick On the Draw Meaning: Performing an action with the greatest of haste.  My habit of quickest possible withdrawal from situations where I notice personal egos dominating, politics stench starting to form.  I am quick to withdraw – call it draw or my way – with-draw 🙂
  7. Head Over Heels Meaning: Falling deeply in love with another person.  That time is past, those years are gone now. Even the memories are fading – and no use asking doctors for memory booster medicines to get them back as they come with mixed feelings. 
  8. Shot In the Dark Meaning: An attempt that has little chance for success.  No. Not taking unwanted, undue risks. That time is past. Now is time to be calm, quiet and face life and bid the time.  There are some up-ticks and they brighten the day and they are much needed relief. 
  9. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.  Not job. My goals. Speaking learning, Writing, Learning and certification on Udemy online.  
  10. Fight Fire With Fire Meaning: To retaliate with an attack that is similar to the attack used against you.  My counter attack these days is more engulfed in calmness, composure and I speak quietly, eloquently, confidently and I am well grounded and centred.  

RAK Movement – 10 Random Acts of Kindness from which you can choose.


  1. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  2. Smile at 3 people today
  3. Forgive someone who has wronged you
  4. Write a complimentary note for someone
  5. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them
  6. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  7. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  8. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  9. Answer the phone in a cheerful voice – even if it is a sales person
  10. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  2. Share today’s food with your neighbour!
  3. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  4. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  5. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call
  6. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  7. Purchase ethical goods
  8. Recycle 3 things today
  9. Open the door for someone
  10. Have lunch with a homeless person

Random Acts of Kindness. Make it a RAK Movement and Keep at it


  1. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  2. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  3. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  4. Help someone carry their pushchair up/down the stairs
  5. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  6. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!
  7. Go green – don’t waste paper
  8. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  9. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  10. Empty your wallet for charity

Random Phrases, My Day and Creativity


  1. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.  Two impromptu Ice-breaker speeches – moving towards Goal 1. Did not win prize, got a participation certificate but the pleasure was in audience individuals – rank strangers coming back not just complimenting but quoting me ‘VERBATIM’ and saying, they loved it, they would like to keep in touch, some even said we would like to learn a few things from you. I was humbled. 
  2. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers. I wish it does not happen to humans, pests and insects, viruses and diseases is another matter. What I noticed today is the best Evaluators club of Toastmasters had difficulty in filling the hall with audience and participants for the Marathons the Area Directors are planning to hold across city.  One actually said about ATTRITION of members? That was sad.  It said a lot about the lack of leadership and the Pull and Push of the managing committees.  
  3. Man of Few Words Meaning: A person who does not speak a great deal; someone who talks with as few words as possible.  Met an interesting person. He was my speech evaluator. His speciality is being brief and as an extempore impromptu ice breaker speaker who was pushed to speak – I had failed by exceeding the time limit.  He said he will mail his evaluation ! That’s it.  🙂 
  4. Poke Fun At Meaning: Making fun of something or someone; ridicule.  Had this experience. At the end of a dominant communicator speech the speaker did actually did not want any questions. When asked – he asked me to repeat thrice and explain 4 time and I was about to say – “Let’s take this off line as I did not ask this to challenge you but to support your views, just clarifying a point”.  Some Speakers are on their High HOrse ! They feel, they are the only one who can challenge! Anyone asking a question is a lowly minion, dimwit and brainless.  My Professorial hat tells me to answer them – Questions are never stupid – answers are – like mine 🙂 🙂 .  
  5. Hear, Hear Meaning: A shout of agreement, or to draw attention to a speaker. I asked the speaker that when a friend is faced with problems – should I make an appreciative enquiry and find what solutions he has in his mind, as he knows the problems best. Second, is my friend looking for an Affirmation that the solution he has found has my tacit support so that he can try it out with heart? I was taken round and round in derogatory circles with a menacing look on the face by a socalled Guinness Award winner and World Speech champion and I felt very sad for him.  What did I do to hurt his Ego? 
  6. On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others.  Sometimes, in a gathering when you wish to say that you are in the same boat, same page, thinking alike – it is best to use non-verbal communication like nodding your head to convey Yes, I agree.  
  7. Swinging For the Fences Meaning: Giving something your all.  One more article coming up in a new club Newsletter which was launched today. Felt great.  Meeting new Chamber of commerce and meeting some very interesting and interested people ( atleast on the face of it) I felt great and felt genuinely that there are things I can do to assist and help.  The new Chairman was receptive and said wants to have a one on one Strategy/ vision statement session.  He said he is a Visual thinker like me, that was pleasing. 
  8. Up In Arms Meaning: Angry; being roused to the point that you are ready to fight.  But I gave up. I saw on Whatsapp the pictures of a poor girl being honored by a sport shoes company and giving them her name as she could not afford them. i felt sad for someone whose dream was ignited, latent wishes brought to fore in my mentoring but had given up on them with diffidence.  I was angry inside but let go. 
  9. Quick and Dirty Meaning: Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well. Hmmm… it was a busy day, I could have gone and got my Suits overhauled now that I have lost so much weight and bought a new pair of formal shoes as the formal meetings are moving up but I just changed jackets for two occasions – Reminder to self – GO FIX THIS ASAP. 
  10. Mountain Out of a Molehill Meaning: One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems.  I found a senior evaluator indulging in overstatements, exaggerations, over praise, excessive acting skills show and was bit turned off.  Then I met him one on one for about 7 minutes, got his life story out and realised that even at our late age – the need to RECOGNITION is so high that NAME AUR FAME KE LIYE KUCHH BHI KAREGA i.e. I’ll do any thing to get name and fame. I quietly agreed to disagreed and moved on to another person by saying “Sorry, Sir, I do not wish to monopolise you, others also need your kind attention”. Thank you.

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Keep At It. RAK is a Movement – Random Acts of Kindness Daily.


  1. Taking public transport? Offer your seat to someone else
  2. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  3. Bake for your neighbour
  4. Know someone going through something you’ve been through? Give them advice
  5. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  6. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
  7. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  8. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!
  9. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  10. Visit a friend who’s sick

Creativity, My Day and Random Phrases


  1. Tug of War Meaning: It can refer to the popular rope pulling game or it can mean a struggle for authority. That happened for 38 good years – both me and my better half each of us playing bullying games all the time, 🙂
  2. Yada Yada Meaning: A way to notify a person that what they’re saying is predictable or boring.  I almost said this when she proposed a trip to Konark – i said why not the beaches and temples in Thailand 🙂 🙂 and the water sports and the shopping and the boat rides and the coral reefs.  And I said why not go with our daughters’ mother in law and bond better 🙂 🙂
  3. Fight Fire With Fire Meaning: To retaliate with an attack that is similar to the attack used against you.  No. not any more. In fact, I agreed with a friend today to erase all the latest communications also as they also reside in the virtual world and can be read by many. 😦 😦
  4. Quality Time Meaning: Spending time with another to strengthen the relationship. Joining a new Chamber of Commerce tomorrow – let’s see whether there are interesting people around. 
  5. Needle In a Haystack Meaning: To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping.  Three Goals – 1. Learn to be a better Speaker 2. Keep writing blogs, ebooks, books, poems, articles whatever and record audio and video for both Speaking/ writing 3. Erudite Thinking – keep learning and complete my 100th Udemy course by end of this year.  Will just keep at it. 
  6. Fool’s Gold Meaning: Iron pyrities is a worthless mineral that resembles gold. Yes. I have made several errors of judgements this years and cut off all of the people whom I trusted as Gold.  Giving Trust at the first meeting, first call is my biggest problem over the years. 
  7. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  Being judgemental comes last to me, looking at Strengths, getting committed and giving Trust comes first and I need to change to Blue mindset and begin by saying “Basically” more. 🙂
  8. Elvis Has Left The Building Meaning: Something that is all over.  Waiting for my 100 day countdown. 
  9. In the Red Meaning: Losing money. Being in debt.  Never. I never like to be indebted. Even in relationships I like to square up by returning a good deed. 
  10. Mouth-watering Meaning: Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.  Hmmm… sometimes the white spots on my nails are such good indicators of money coming and a trip abroad… Well…. hoping 🙂

Random Acts of Kindness. RAK Movement. Keep At It.


  1. Purchase ethical goods
  2. Know someone going through something you’ve been through? Give them advice
  3. Smile at a stranger
  4. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  5. Buy someone a coffee
  6. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  7. Let someone know how much you appreciate them
  8. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  9. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  10. Help a younger student with their work

Random Phrases, Creativity, My Day !


  1. Like Father Like Son Meaning: Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior.  Yes. The receding hairline on my forehead and rear part of head do make me resemble like my father but he was dark brown, I am pale brown in skin – may be because my mom was fair skinned. 
  2. Back To the Drawing Board Meaning: Starting over again on a new design from a previously failed attempt. To work on the three goals Speaking, Writing, Learning is he only focus. No more mentoring. No more Freebies or free advice to anyone.  
  3. Playing For Keeps Meaning: Said when things are about to get serious.  The feedback slips which many of Toastmasters handed me after my icebreaker speech really make me believe that “It all starts with a speech”.  I am enjoying my Udemy speech and body language lessons and practicing to make videos to self correct as far as possible. 
  4. A Piece of Cake Meaning: A task that is simple to accomplish.  I thought making and watching my own video of speech would be easy – It is scary. I find my voice and face manners unacceptable to myself.  
  5. Give a Man a Fish Meaning: It’s better to teach a person how to do something than to do that something for them.  I facilitate many mentees with Equipments as gifts for improving their skills, helping them practice and books to further augment their sharpening of skills.  I truly believe in this phrase. 
  6. Not the Sharpest Tool in the Shed Meaning: Someone who isn’t witty or sharp, but rather, they are ignorant, unintelligent, or senseless. I sometimes behave this way. My friend read my article and said Mirthful – I had to look up Google and then I realised it is pronounced MOUTHFUL and is associated with fun and my friend was actually pr  aising me. What a dimwit I am but I learnt new word. 
  7. Fight Fire With Fire Meaning: To retaliate with an attack that is similar to the attack used against you. I am a challenger, and I am not under any attack so I think this is a good phrase but not relevant to me and hope it never comes true. 
  8. Love Birds Meaning: A pair of people who have a shared love for each other.  The number of poems I read on WordPress gives me a sincerely a heart break feeling that we have more lovelorn love lost poets here than love birtds. Would be interesting to know if love birds share poetry with social media?
  9. Drawing a Blank Meaning: Failing to recall a memory. Unable to remember something. That’s usually happening with me especially with names, things. Forgetting to wear a watch, taking keys while going out – small things. Some medication is helping or perhaps not. 
  10. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited for. That is the sinking feeling I used to get dealing with TAble topics at Toastmasters. Slowiy my fish is finding water and depth 🙂 . 

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness. Keep At It.


  1. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift
  2. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  3. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  4. Let someone know how much you appreciate them
  5. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  6. Visit a friend who’s sick
  7. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!
  8. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  9. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  10. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?

RAK – Random Acts of Kindness Movement. Keep at it!


  1. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  2. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  3. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  4. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  5. Open the door for someone
  6. Forgive someone who has wronged you
  7. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  8. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  9. Know someone who’s feeling under the weather? Pay them a visit!
  10. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them

Creativity, Day’s Progress, Random Phrases and Observing my thoughts


I have often said that Just by Watching you can Observe a Lot 🙂  and having an investigator, fraud detectors training helps.

  1. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’  The Three Focus areas are clear to me now. 1. Toast Masters – TOCK ( like in Tick-Tock of the clock) journey 2. Continue to write on wordpress, globallinkers and medium regularly and may be, publish some ebooks on Amazon for posterity. 3.  Keep learning i.e. Finish the first 100 courses on Udemy of which I have completed 55 already and then enroll for more. Learning should never end. 
  2. Poke Fun At Meaning: Making fun of something or someone; ridicule.  Abond person who shared others’ SECRET emails can not be trusted – he can do the same to you. I met such a man recently and ridiculed him.  Broke all bonds as breaking a Pro-bono mentor bond is the easiest as the other person who is un-mentorable hasn’t paid me a penny.  I feel happy to GRO – Get Rid Off them from my life. 
  3. Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.  Last week or so been sleeping in the noon and gaining weight for no reason but still feeling a delight inside. I don’t know why. 
  4. Jig Is Up Meaning: For a ruse or trick to be discovered; to be caught.  I retraced a step rather stuck to my principles and values and stayed off from the Thugs masquerading as Mentees and were leeches on my time, efforts and money.  Feels great in exposure, sad in my bad judgement of people and giving full Trust in first meeting.  I guess I can not learn to correct myself ever.  I still have trust in Humanity and Humans. What can I do when I meet animals in the garb of men and women?
  5. Ride Him, Cowboy! Meaning: A cheer people yell, usually at rodeos when cowboys are clinging to the backs of untamed horses.  I am leaving Mentoring – i.e. ProBono mentoring. I have heard several audios and videos now to change my belief system that Coaching is paid while mentoring is free. This year has taught me this lesson. 
  6. Top Drawer Meaning: High quality, exceptional; something that’s very valuable.  I still wish to do the Tony Robbins Coaching course once I have funds. It is too costly given the falling Rupee prices these days. 
  7. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.  I loved and passed the two recent Udemy courses and I found them the best so far that I practiced and practiced and practiced. 
  8. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious.  Trying to become a myopic now and not see beyond my nose as life get difficult and difficult.  A politician who was so upbeat last week to offer me a national position ws so morose and down today that I could not believe my ears. But I did a course that says that people lie the most on phone, SMS, WhatsApp and least on emails.  One of my mentees famously said to me about “plausible deniability” and changed his email servers for entire company emails every 6 months. That was paranoid. 
  9. Right Out of the Gate Meaning: Right from the beginning; to do something from the start.  The latest courses Pathways and Body language are very appealing – the behavioural economics, Brain, Hypnotism, NLP and neuromarketing are next focus  of learning
  10. Par For the Course Meaning: What you would expect to happen; something normal or common.  The astrologers say till 2020 the Saturn 2.5 years are worst indicated. A friendly actuary predicted death in 1000 days and I am on a countdown as per him. I am not out to prove him right or wrong.  I think I shall be par for the course. 

Creativity, Random Phrases and my Yesterday :)


  1. Drive Me Nuts Meaning: To greatly frustrate someone. To drive someone crazy, insane, bonkers, or bananas.
  2. No-Brainer Meaning: Anything that requires minimal brain activity to accomplish.
  3. Hands Down Meaning: Anything that’s easy or has no difficulty; something that is a certainty.
  4. Greased Lightning Meaning: Very fast or quick.
  5. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.
  6. Lickety Split Meaning: To go at a quick pace; no delaying!
  7. On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others.

Jay’s Tantra: To resolve a Dilemma


Sometimes, I have dilemma.  Mostly the decision is about People who come in my life, stay there, get benefitted, some reciptrocate, some don’t. Some cost me money, some Time, Some deep efforts and some simply gifts and for some I give all that I have.

Then come some moments, decisive when the masks are unpeeled, they fall off, the gloves come off, bad behaviour, attitude, insults start hurting and I realise the my Trust was ill-placed. I have made a huge error of judgement.

In such times, I use Jay’s Tantra. The simplest way is to consult and seek advice from the Omnipotent, Omniscient, Omnipotent  – The Om -HIMSELF.   I go to BhagvadGita and choose a random shloka. I also go to a Bible someone gifted me years ago.  I take a Verse for Bible.

I then decipher meaning as per my understanding and draw inferences.  These are not regular moments, they happen when I have a deep dilemma.  It is never a Conscience issue though as Conscientious decisions come to me quick and fast – No problem there.

Today’s Dilemma was solved by these two and I urge readers to try this if you come across such difficult moments in life.

This is what came out as Random Verse from Bible:

Proverbs 23:9

Passage: 

Do not speak to fools,

for they will scorn your prudent words.

This is what came as Random Shloka from Gita

Srimad Bhagavad Gita

Chapter 2 Sloka 70 

Got it!

Yes. I got my answer to the dilemma. That’s Jay’s Tantra.  Use it sparingly and only in dire situations with full belief and trust in the Almighty. Amen!

Creativity, My Day and Random Phrases


  1. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious. How did I miss the obvious that the Business person in a mentee will always prefer MONEY, MONEY, MONEY and if here is seductive voice enticing – he will surely and certainly fall for it. 
  2. High And Dry Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover.  No. That does not happen and it is no pretense, in my mind, I work these scenarios and still try and address issues as a Human being and forgive people as humans. 
  3. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.  I do lose some, but do keep losing – primarily to my false pride, magnanimity and the inability to find untrustworthy people. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  Time is ripe now that I actually should judge the book by its cover. 
  5. Jaws of Life Meaning: Usually this references a tool used by rescuers when they pry or cut open a car to save the occupant.  I take this as a cue to use my strong arms and use the strength to overcome the situations that are regularly arising. 
  6. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so.  Just trying to visualise the moves as -people are sharp, smart and pretend – They appear unable, when able and Appear able when the are unable.  Even the best strategists can fail to read this at first glance.  
  7. When the Rubber Hits the Road Meaning: When something is about to begin, get serious, or put to the test.  This year I have acted more decisively, more abruptly, more impulsively – especially when it came to people decisions.  Most have proved right and initial errors of judgement about them were corrected by breaking up an dblocking them. 
  8. Ugly Duckling Meaning: One who may seem plain at first in appearance or capability, but later turns out to be beautiful or great.  Some ugly ducklings pretend to be the future swans but their company makes sure, the ruboff is so strong that they remain – UGLY. 
  9. What Am I, Chopped Liver? Meaning: A rhetorical question used by a person who feels they are being given less consideration than someone else. Used to happen a few months ago but now things are much under control and survivalism is not required. 
  10. Mouth-watering Meaning: Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.  Paav Bhaji for dinner – home made… wow Yummy ! made my day. 🙂

RAK MOVEMENT – Random Acts of Kindness today.


  1. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  2. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  3. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  4. Bake something for your family/friends
  5. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  6. Go out of your way to thank someone today!
  7. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  8. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  9. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  10. Smile at 3 people today

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness – some choices


  1. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity
  2. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  3. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  4. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  5. Support a small, local business as a customer
  6. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  7. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  8. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  9. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  10. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes

My RAK Movement (Random Act of Kindness). How about you?


  1. Plant a seed
  2. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  3. Purchase ethical goods
  4. Smile at a stranger
  5. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  6. Volunteer your time for a good cause
  7. Go the day without complaining
  8. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  9. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  10. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today

RAK Movement. I chose my Random Act of Kindness. How about you?


  1. Go green – don’t waste paper
  2. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  3. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  4. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  5. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  6. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else
  7. Have lunch with a homeless person
  8. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  9. Share your lunch with a friend
  10. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call

Jay, Creativity, Random Phrases and Daily Weblog


Happy Ganesh Chaturthi to all Readers.  A very auspicious day. One of the 3.5 days of Muhurtha – when beginning a new thing is considered Good.

I started with a long walk, Ganapati Darshan and returned with many thoughts, ideas about a start and towards noon got lazy and just slept.

  1. Wake Up Call  Meaning: An occurance of sorts that brings a problem to somebody’s attention and they realize it needs fixing.  I realised that I need to create the Course outline and content for sharing with a Digital marketer friend for planning a self managed training event soon. 
  2. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.  Yes. I try to do that as I get very few in life as i am more a Giver but I have met the worst ingrates this year. 
  3. Swinging For the Fences Meaning: Giving something your all.  My resolve is to Give my all to Writing, Speaking and organising Self managed training, coaching, mentoring events going forward. 
  4. A Chip on Your Shoulder Meaning: Being angry about something that happened in the past. Yes. I do carry a few and wish that they dissolve.  नींद तो दर्द के बिस्तर पे भी आ सकती है
  5. Lovey Dovey Meaning: The affectionate stuff that people do when they are in love, such as kissing and hugging. Hmmmm…. why did this phrase turn up suddenly today?
  6. All Greek To Me Meaning: When something is incomprehensible due to complexity; unintelligble.  Fortunately, the abstract, Greek, Latin, Spanish speaking rubbish is out of my hair. It was just too much of Intellectual F@#$ing I had gone thru – rather willing/ unwillingly. No one. Just me to blame. 
  7. If You Can’t Stand the Heat, Get Out of the Kitchen Meaning: One should discontinue with a task if they are unable to cope with it due to pressure.  Yes. I am slowly moving out of all the Heat and Kitchen areas. 
  8. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.  Yes. Enrolled for two Udemy courses. Started one. Joined two new FB groups. 
  9. Raining Cats and Dogs Meaning: When it is raining heavily.  It should Bangalore weather in past few days is too hot for my taste. 
  10. Talk the Talk Meaning: Supporting what you say, not just with words, but also through action or evidence.  That’s Integrity for me and I am thinking to change the name of the blog or start a new one soon. 

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness today.


  1. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  2. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  3. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  4. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  5. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  6. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  7. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  8. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  9. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  10. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it

Highlighted ones are my choices for the day.

Strange Bio-Rhythms, Random Phrases, creativity and Daily WebLog :)


I believe in Bio-Rhythms. Have done so for over 30 years – ever since I read the book about the research on Bio-rhythms and wanted to buy the Japanese – CASIO watch which showed 3 biorhythms – Physical, Emotional and Intellectual.  They also sold Cards in those days where you can calculate your critical days and avoid major financial decisions, Driving, Flying a plane etc. etc. etc.

It was interesting when I found the Apps on Android and iPhones.  I downloaded and saw a fourth one added – i.e. Intution !   I said, it is getting interesting.  As per initial book if I were to calculate I should have been Dead when I was 58+ i.e. 23 X 28 X 33 days = 58 years, …. days.  I did not believe it. The book also talked about how they scientifically studied the Date of birth and time of birth of the Rail, Plane, Sea, Cycle, Bicycle, Car, Bus and Electrical accidents and deaths.  It appeared scientific and eventhough a Skeptic I said let us give it a try and it has remained with me as a Daily watch every morning before my morning walks – to watch in the phone.

Today was not supposed to be great.  The biorhythm explanation said do and see what Random Phrases turned up this morning.

  1. Hard Pill to Swallow Meaning: Something that’s difficult to accept.  Wife was travelling and I had to cut short my morning walk by 2/3rd to be back home for opening door for the housemaid. 
  2. Yada Yada Meaning: A way to notify a person that what they’re saying is predictable or boring.  I recall having done this a few days ago and quite harshly using all the bitterness and venom in my brain flowing thru my fingers and typing.
  3. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees Meaning: Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired. True enough, nothing worth challenging the statement but which tree to plant is a question came to my mind as I am seriously thinking of joining some Kisan Morcha of a political party and fight for their rights. 
  4. On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others.  Not happening with me for few months. I am too much of a challenger this year and have broken off with many due to differences, attitudinal issues or having met simple INGRATES and suckers and some who were a disgrace to the word MENTOR.  
  5. No-Brainer Meaning: Anything that requires minimal brain activity to accomplish.  Yeah, Yeah, Yeah,  I recently heard a speech and to a longwinded un=stupid question ( questions are never stupid – answers are) the speaker could not properly respond.  I thought of C A P – Common sense, Alert response, Presence of mind  – if this was used by the old man = A DTM ( toast masters lingo)  he would have been better off.  
  6. Read ‘Em and Weep Meaning: Often said by the winner in poker, as the others ‘weep’ over the loss.   No. Not happening. I am playing for negotiation, accent, agreement these days perforce. 
  7. Jumping the Gun Meaning: Something that occurs too early before preparations are ready. Starting too soon.  May be, I should have waited for the 500 words contest write up submission till the last date but I just sent it.  I also sent an article 3 months before the magazine is due to be published on the occasion of an International conference in which the organisers wish to invite me.  
  8. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers.  We had this with our relatives family when every one fell sick couple of weeks ago. Mumbai weather made me sick too.
  9. Goody Two-Shoes Meaning: A smugly virtuous person.  I met one recently, was introduced by a friend, highly recommended but the guy was so snooty, SOB and highhanded – he did not even offer to shake hands.  I said F. Off!  
  10. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited for. Not seen this yet, but the Astrologer friend’s remark about a foreign proposal that it will be below dignity if we accept was intriguing.  Need to probe him further.

So overall still an interesting day.

Time is Now – Invoke your Creativity, use Random Phrase Prompts for the day.


later tomorrow today now

  1. Elephant in the Room Meaning: Ignoring a large, obvious problem or failing to address an issue that stands out in a major way.
  2. Rain on Your Parade Meaning: To spoil someone’s fun or plans; ruining a pleasurable moment
  3. Keep On Truckin’ Meaning: To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping.
  4. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees Meaning: Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired.
  5. Top Drawer Meaning: High quality, exceptional; something that’s very valuable.
  6. Cut To The Chase Meaning: To get to the point, leaving out all of the unnecessary details.
  7. Lovey Dovey Meaning: The affectionate stuff that people do when they are in love, such as kissing and hugging.
  8. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time.
  9. Head Over Heels Meaning: Falling deeply in love with another person.
  10. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited 

Creativity: Random phrases for Friday and how my day went.


  1. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished.  I finished two article writing and two presentations now one more to go.  Going is tough but it gets going. 
  2. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.  Parting was so damned easy, why did I drag my feet and procrastinate?  I should have listened to my Theta brainwave and the Gut feel the very first time.  
  3. Throw In the Towel Meaning: Giving up; to surrender.  Even the worst of urban commie brainwashed bran-heads give up in surrender, the worst of the masks can be unpeeled and the already Red Inside faces can be made bloody – it is a skill, a technique,  a hard De-mentoring and exposing the pseudos – the Freeloaders who like a pest/ Leech suck your time, efforts, money and peace of mind. Good riddance! 
  4. Right Out of the Gate Meaning: Right from the beginning; to do something from the start. Someone said about hindsight and my polite response was – I have foresight and farsight. I drive with a backview mirror – I don’t need a mirror to see driving in the fore.  The hindsight is reserve of the stray horses and mares with broken or absent shoes with hurting nail which makes them kick at everything – not in sight and ignore what is in sight.  That is where the ‘Saddle point’ of negotiations arrive and the Best Jockeys – Mentors put nose rings and blinkers ON so that they can convert the strays into Race horses.  Best trainers, jockeys have a different approach to deal with them. Branding them is the first step 🙂 
  5. Jack of All Trades Master of None Meaning: Having suitable skill in multiple things, but not being an expert in any of them.  Yes.  For too long I have been that.  45 specific online courses (on Udemy)  later – i am still searching for the right niche’ to be an expert.  Otherwise, I am sure, I shall get an Honorary D.Litt. from a friendly University one day 🙂 🙂 🙂

Random Phrases – Creativity – How did my day go as per these morning pointers?


  1. A Piece of Cake Meaning: A task that is simple to accomplish.  This time the terror topic – Table topic for me was better and I did finish in less than 2 minutes and people remembered one point I made. 
  2. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  The lady who gave an emotional story was so non=descript but the way she spoke – Fabulous – there were tears in my eyes. Such a moving Tale. 
  3. Needle In a Haystack Meaning: To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping. Not cancelling the ticket or taking a rash, impulsive decision helped. The organisers arranged another lecture at same day/ place and topic remains the same. 
  4. Curiosity Killed The Cat Meaning: Typically said to indicate that any further investigation into a situation may lead to harm.  Some things are best buried fast enought. 
  5. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’  Attended 7th Toastmasters club meeting and going faster. Mentor did not turn up or respond. Let’s see how fast I can go  now.  
  6. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.  Hmmmm. …. Not Again ! 🙂
  7. Ugly Duckling Meaning: One who may seem plain at first in appearance or capability, but later turns out to be beautiful or great.  I like the young speakers who speak for the first or second time and they are potential speakers with talent. 
  8. Off One’s Base Meaning: A person that is crazy or behaving in idiotic ways – Who hasn’t met them?  
  9. Keep Your Shirt On Meaning: Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset. Noted. 
  10. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.  Yeah yeah yeah ! I have been at the other end and made to look Yada yada yada ! 🙂

RAK Movement- Friday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe


  1. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  2. Empty your wallet for charity
  3. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  4. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  5. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  6. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  7. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  8. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  9. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  10. Feed a stray animal if you spot one

RAK Movement- Thursday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe


  1. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  2. Surprise your parents with flowers
  3. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  4. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  5. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Make someone a cup of coffee
  8. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  9. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  10. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions

RAK Movement- Wednes Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe


  1. Share your lunch with a friend
  2. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  3. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  4. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  5. Feeling inspired? Make a meal for your family or roommates
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  8. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  9. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  10. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family

RAK Movement- Tuesday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe


  1. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  2. Recycle 3 things today
  3. Share today’s food with your neighbour!
  4. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!
  5. Hug your parents
  6. Let someone know how much you appreciate them
  7. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  8. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  9. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  10. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand

RAK Movement- Monday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe


  1. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  2. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them
  3. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  4. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  5. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  6. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  7. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  8. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  9. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  10. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day

Random Inputs Generated – Creative Weekend and How the day passed.


  1. Every Cloud Has a Silver Lining Meaning: To be optimistic, even in difficult times. This is quite true. Things always average out for us in Life.  Some are unlucky for some time but on a macro-level law of averages applies to all. 
  2. Scot-free Meaning: Getting away freely from custody, punishment, or any type of risky situation. When you are an Evaluator of a meeting and you get away with Murder i.e. very harsh remarks about the weakest of your own team members.  
  3. Under the Weather Meaning: Not feeling well, in health or mood.  The bad biorhythms period has gone away. A week ago, it was very critical with all 3 rhythms passing thru critical level. It can cause accidents, or death. Good the phase is over. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  But some people would subtly, simply invite you to judge every one of their actions willy nilly and we find them sulking when things do not go well with them in terms of feedforward. 
  5. Tug of War Meaning: It can refer to the popular rope pulling game or it can mean a struggle for authority.  I drop Coaching / mentoring clients when this begins and some of them begin back to back coaching/ mentoring when it is clear that what I do is not Peer Coaching.  
  6. Jig Is Up Meaning: For a ruse or trick to be discovered; to be caught.  I tried an experiment today. Wrote 5 points and the person picked up only one to respond – it was about them! There was least concern or expression about other 4 of which 3 related to me. I write such people off as Self-centred, selfish and ungrateful. 
  7. Fit as a Fiddle Meaning: Being fit as a fiddle means to be in perfect health.  A little bad spell with low sugar and BP – otherwise all parameters are good and stable. 
  8. Jaws of Life Meaning: Usually this references a tool used by rescuers when they pry or cut open a car to save the occupant. I just wish no one should go thru such experience. 
  9. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time. I have begun to all the Table topics at Toastmasters as Terror / Horror Topics 🙂
  10. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers.  – No . Not happening. 

Wise Coach – Naive Coach


I was reading this commercial from Tony Robbins’ Newsletter ”

When someone asks you for help, how do you respond?

The naive coach tends to “over-commit.”

They feel this heartfelt pressure to help the person, so the say, “Yes! Let me share my solutions with you. I’m committed to your change. Let’s make it happen!”

Why is this naive? Because if you rush in too much as a coach, you might scare the client away!

Or worse yet, you are seen as a “nagging” friend giving them unwanted advice. Ever experience that?

The wise coach knows better. They say, “Great. I’d love to help you.”

Then the wise coach thinks to themselves, “Let’s figure out what kind of client this is.”

You see, there are four different client types. The four types have different goals. They work at different speeds.

And they have completely different expectations for their coach.

When the naive coach “rushes in” to help, they miss out on the client’s type.

They miss what’s really going on.

The wise coach first understands the client’s type, and proceeds accordingly.

Which coach do you think is more effective?

If you ever find yourself giving advice to someone who doesn’t seem to benefit… I have something for you.

Today we will be sharing one of our top strategies for bringing faster, more profound change to coaching clients.

It will also work on anyone in your life who needs your help.”

I come into the later category of coaches – the Naive Coach! I tend to commit fast, stay committed for long and rarely have I failed.

I believe that Flirting Mentor is an Oxymoron just as a term like Naive Coach is, IMHO.   A TRUE coach or mentor is neither naive nor a Flirt ! Serious coaches are Committed people and whether they commit early or later is a matter of their mind’s processes and early or late decision making capabilities/ habits – nothing else!

 

Wednesday Mentor – Jay Parkhe- Creativity with Random Idioms Generated


Some very interesting Generated Idioms for the day:

  1. Every Fight Is An Awful Sight.
  2. Glue Doesn’t Stick To Everything.
  3. To Be In Need Is Bitter-sweet
  4. Chasing Birds.
  5. Once The Sun Turns Green.

Couple of incidents in the week and the day made me laugh out loud.

On a serious note, Every Mentor and mentee face these situations. The Startpreneurs preparing for bigger competitions ahead need to take inspiration from such random thoughts and using lateral thinking – attribute listing  as problem solving triggers to new and innovative ideas

 

Random Phrases today with Creativity boosters for the day.


Great Sunday.  5th meeting of Toastmasters in 3rd Club of Bangalore. Young, vibrant crowd mixed with some bearded oldies and middle aged Techies.

  1. Love Birds Meaning: A pair of people who have a shared love for each other. No. did not happen. Day of course, began different. 
  2. Jaws of Death Meaning: Being in a dangerous or very deadly situation.  No. Not really. Saw a Premier movie for a while but did not experience it 🙂 
  3. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished. Yes. Today’s short walk left the Udemy course study unfinished for the day .
  4. No Ifs, Ands, or Buts Meaning: Finishing a task without making any excuses. Experienced this later in the day with two Excuse Masters cleverly negotiating with each other. 
  5. Right Off the Bat Meaning: Immediately, done in a hurry; without delay. Yes. without any inhibition responded emails and gave guidance to even a mail marked FYI 🙂 🙂 . Lessons repeated in Communications. 
  6. Break The Ice Meaning: Breaking down a social stiffness.  Great speeches by two youngsters and one International Humorist champs at Toastmasters. The breaking the ice speech was literally great. 
  7. A Chip on Your Shoulder Meaning: Being angry about something that happened in the past. Yes. I still carry one anger chip on my shoulder. 
  8. Shot In the Dark Meaning: An attempt that has little chance for success.  no like hope taking shot in the dark is not part of my strategy. 
  9. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’  If the brainfog is gone and wiser sense prevails – you don’t need any permission. 
  10. Wake Up Call Meaning: An occurance of sorts that brings a problem to somebody’s attention and they realize it needs fixing.  Hmmm… will wait and watch though. 
  11. Keep Your Shirt On Meaning: Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset.  Yes. even while in an angry tone, try not to rant. 🙂

Random Phrases Generated : Creativity: How well will/ did the Day Go?


  1. A Piece of Cake Meaning: A task that is simple to accomplish.
  2. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.
  3. Everything But The Kitchen Sink Meaning: Including nearly everything possible.
  4. Give a Man a Fish Meaning: It’s better to teach a person how to do something than to do that something for them.
  5. Short End of the Stick Meaning: Getting the bad end of a deal, or receiving the least desirable outcome from something.
  6. Hard Pill to Swallow Meaning: Something that’s difficult to accept.
  7. Quick On the Draw Meaning: Performing an action with the greatest of haste.
  8. Like Father Like Son Meaning: Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior.
  9. Right Off the Bat Meaning: Immediately, done in a hurry; without delay.
  10. Love Birds Meaning: A pair of people who have a shared love for each other.

Random Acts of Kindness – Choose one. I have.


  1. Save water – take a shorter shower today
  2. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  3. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  4. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  5. Taking public transport? Offer your seat to someone else
  6. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  7. Surprise your parents with flowers
  8. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  9. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  10. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them

Mentor Master Class- Free Tutorial Series 1-10 for Mentors from Jay Parkhe #4. how coaching helps


Abstract: Let us take an example to understand how coaching benefits employees .M was recently promoted to the post of a Team Manager , something he does not have a lot of experience on . At their first meeting , S asked a couple of questions to M to know more about him , just to get acquainted .  In the subsequent meetings , Stanley and Morgan discussed what ‘s strengths and weaknesses were , and what the improvements in skill-sets were that Morgan had to bring back to his job . Over the next few months ,M and S regularly update their progress . They also discuss game play , tactics ,  and team building .

Let us take an example to understand how coaching benefits employees. M was recently promoted to the post of a Team Manager, something he doesn’t have a lot of experience on. He has been given the task to manage one of the teams in the company, so he sought help from a company coach to help him in understanding the requirements for the job, and to cultivate the right approach for the job. M enrolled for a two day per week course, and was assigned a coach named Stanley, who would be coaching him for the next few months.

S started by asking M to carry a workbook with him, in which M will keep a record of the discussions and guiding points that Stanley will provide to him during the learning. At their first meeting, S asked a couple of questions to M to know more about him, just to get acquainted. Then they discussed how they are going to work together, and with other people, in realizing the goals that have been set.

In the subsequent meetings, S and M discussed what M’s strengths and weaknesses were, and what the improvements in skill-sets were that M had to bring in him to excel at his job. Over the next few months, M and S met regularly to understand and analyze their progress.

They also spent time on discussing game play, tactics, and team building. Stanley constantly referred to his old coaching logs and M’s own workbook as evidences of improvement and encouraged Morgan to keep pushing his boundaries. Mock grills and role-plays were organized to check M’s improvement in team-managing under diverse and difficult scenarios.

At the end of the coaching, M commented on how useful he found the coaching process and how it made him realize the potential inside him that he had no idea he possessed. He is now a successful team-manager and a part-time coach himself to the new employees who join the company.

 

Creativity and looking back at the Random Phrases generated this morning.


  1. Fight Fire With Fire Meaning: To retaliate with an attack that is similar to the attack used against you.  Used judicially, without impulse and impatience – it is one of the best Tactical play – not a strategic one. 
  2. Drawing a Blank Meaning: Failing to recall a memory. Unable to remember something.  True. I have erased my mailbox and social media of one set of memories and I can truly use the expression ‘Tabula Rasa’ – Empty slate today. Even my memory enhancing tablets may not be able to help now. 
  3. Mountain Out of a Molehill Meaning: One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems. Hmmm… but frankly, barring cleaning of my Mac I did not face such issues. 
  4. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time.  Yes. a phase is over. Hopefully. 
  5. Curiosity Killed The Cat Meaning: Typically said to indicate that any further investigation into a situation may lead to harm.  Who can agree more? Me the HyperCurious, HyperCritique, HyperScaler, HyperMentor?  I have faced this and overcome this. 
  6. Top Drawer Meaning: High quality, exceptional; something that’s very valuable.  What is more important in life than LOVE?  Nay, not money. 
  7. Playing Possum Meaning: Pretending to be dead, or to be deceitful about something. No. Not my nature but people promising to do and not doing – I have seen plenty. Lack of integrity.  Even simple courtesies to let people know they can not meet or call due to….  etc. etc. 
  8. Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.  Got three more certifications from Udemy today. 
  9. It’s Not All It’s Cracked Up To Be Meaning: Failing to meet expectations; not being as good as people say.  It takes minimum two to Tango – No?  Just asking?
  10. Quick On the Draw Meaning: Performing an action with the greatest of haste.  When procrastination takes over, self medication, self harm and self-sabotage starts. Drugs, Alchohol and other addictions begin to take over the brain and one flips into an endless abyss.  It is sad but true.