Jay Parkhe – Monday Column – Motto of Life


Generating some random terms is a great way to drive into your creative faculties .

Moving To The Void. Is this going to nothingness? Is this about going towards universe as your marketplace? Do you see a void that you can fill?/is there a space you can create for your businesses?/
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Cause Squinting Eyes. 😂 Funny No? Squint (also known as strabismus) is a condition that arises because of an incorrect balance of the muscles that move the eye, faulty nerve signals to the eye muscles and focusing faults (usually long sight). …

Normally, the two eyes point in the same direction.

What can cause to see with squinting eyes?

Does this trigger a memory?An incident? Was it funny? How can I use this in my speech? Will audience enjoy it?
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Decorating A Cake With Thorns. That’s a very Nasty and Cruel thought, ain’t it?  But no one dared say this to God who designed the Rose and many other flowers with protective shields of thorns around them, did we?  May be, this means we need to have a deterrent created for sugar craving Diabetics like me from eating any part of the Sweet sugary Cake?! I don’t know. Or may be it is just a thought of creating a protective shell around a very attractive product so that the deterrent ( thorns) do not allow it to be broken or stolen. What do you think?
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Living Like A Bear In Winter. – I found this phrase funny and thought provoking. The best Bear I remember is Teddy Bear who loves Honey.  The worst memory I have is of a Hairy, Toothy, Smelly Black bear in a Zoo.  It is said ( I remember from my childhood) that a Bear when he grips a man in the jungle – he does two things – 1. He encircles the man with his arms so powerfully that the ribs break and the man succumbs 2. The bear tickles like hell – so that we die laughing.  Scary stories from childhood. Don’t know how much truth they have. 

t is a common misconception that bears hibernate during the winter. While bears tend to slow down during the winter, they are not true hibernators. Black bears, Grizzly bears and Brown bears do go into a deep sleep during the winter months, known as torpor. Hibernation is when animals “sleep” through the winter.

So taking cues from the above two if we do an attribute listing for a Startpreneur – what do we find:

  1. Hold your customer so tight that the Customer Intimacy grows into Customer Lifetime Value and loyalty.

  2. Like a bear – please the customer so much, pamper them so much that they laugh, feel happy to share their satisfaction with your products/ services and they also spread the word of mouth.

  3. Make your products so Honey like – sweet, habit forming, affordable, accessible, that the customers get addicted to your brand forever. 

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    The Hopes Of The Devil. 

    This one is straight out of Google Search as I did not have another choice 🙂

    Such hopes are highly pleasing to the devil!

    (George Lawson, “A Practical Exposition of the Book of Proverbs” 1821)

    “When a wicked man dies, his hope perishes!” Proverbs 11:7

    Men derive almost the whole of their happiness from the hope of some future good

    Wicked men may indulge themselves in hopes of eternal happiness also. Such hopes are highly pleasing to the devil, who keeps his slaves quiet by means of them, until they are brought into the same hopeless condition with himself! Thus the lief of a wicked man is spent in vain wishes, and toils, and hopes — until death kills at once his body, his hope, and his happiness!

    Does the wicked man expect Heaven? How terrible will be the punishment of his presumptuous hopes, when he shall be hurled down headlong into the depths of eternal despair!

    “But the hopes of the wicked come to nothing!” Proverbs 10:28

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Random Idioms generated: Boost Creativity


No Good Comes From A Favor.

Yes. very true. All that we offer Pro-Bono or free has no value for people who are so Pricey!

Float Like A Brick.

Hmmm…. Not with anger on mind though – Make dream castles – that’s alright.

That’s Swimming Against The Tides.

Which is cool if you are an expert swimmer!

A Light In The Night Is A Night Without Fright.

Nostalgia of my childhood. But later i learnt to walk in the dark, living in the village huts for 3 years – I came closer to the nature.

Glue Doesn’t Stick To Everything.

WOW! That’s a cool Idiom worth using.  A Mentor can prove to be a Tabula Rasa for the Mentee with sparks of Brilliance and Reverse mentoring/ NLP practice 🙂

Mind and Heart


Spiritual understanding is born of harmony between mind and heart.

This harmony of mind and heart does not require the mixing up of their functions.

It does not imply cross-functioning, but co-operative functioning. Their functions are neither identical nor co-ordinate.

Mind and heart must of course be balanced but this balance cannot be secured by pitching the mind against the heart or by pitching the heart against the mind.

It can be attained not through mechanical tension, but through intelligent adjustment.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Source- Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-141 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

As reader of palmistry I was scared when one astrologer gave negative connotation of my head and heart lines going together.

  • it had scared me.

Some of my rash decisions in life always told me about my inner conflict between my mind and heart.

It was soothing to read the Masters advice.

These are the 10 habits of unlikeable people | Ladders. I CONFESS. I have them too.


via These are the 10 habits of unlikeable people | Ladders

No one is perfect. But that’s a very lame excuse! No? I read this article and said. Oh, Gosh! I have the same habits which surface at wrong times.  Interesting article for deeper personal introspection and improvement.  LIked and shared.

 

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10 habits of unlikeable people

Too many people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likeable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few — the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It’s easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, being likeable is under your control, and it’s a matter of emotional intelligence (EQ).

In a study conducted at UCLA, subjects rated over 500 descriptions of people based on their perceived significance to likeability. The top-rated descriptors had nothing to do with being gregarious, intelligent, or attractive (innate characteristics). Instead, the top descriptors were sincerity, transparency, and capable of understanding (another person).

These adjectives, and others like them, describe people who are skilled in the social side of emotional intelligence. TalentSmartresearch data from more than a million people shows that people who possess these skills aren’t just highly likeable; they outperform those who don’t by a large margin.


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Likeability is so critical to your success at work that it can completely alter your performance. A University of Massachusetts study found that managers were willing to accept an auditor’s argument with no supporting evidence if he or she was likeable, and Jack Zenger found that just 1 in 2,000 unlikeable leaders were considered effective by their colleagues.

Being likeable is as much about avoiding behaviors that decrease your likeability as it is about magnifying those that increase it. To help you with this, I did some digging to uncover the key behaviors that hold people back when it comes to likeability. Make certain these behaviors don’t catch you by surprise.

Name-dropping

It’s great to know important and interesting people, but using every conversation as an opportunity to name-drop is pretentious and silly. Just like humble-bragging, people see right through it. Instead of making you look interesting, it makes people feel as though you’re insecure and overly concerned with having them like you. It also cheapens what you have to offer. When you connect everything you know with whoyou know (instead of what you know or what you think), conversations lose their color.

People are averse to those who are desperate for attention. Simply being friendly and considerate is all you need to win people over. When you speak in a friendly, confident, and concise manner, people are much more attentive and persuadable than if you try to show them that you’re important. People catch on to your attitude quickly and are more attracted to the right attitude than who you know.

Emotional hijackings

My company provides 360° feedback assessments, and we come across far too many instances of people throwing things, screaming, making people cry, and other telltale signs of an emotional hijacking. An emotional hijacking demonstrates low emotional intelligence. As soon as you show that level of instability, people will question whether or not you’re trustworthy and capable of keeping it together when it counts.

Exploding at anyone, regardless of how much they might “deserve it,” turns a huge amount of negative attention your way. You’ll be labeled as unstable, unapproachable, and intimidating. Controlling your emotions keeps you in the driver’s seat. When you’re able to control your emotions around someone who wrongs you, they end up looking bad instead of you.

Humble-bragging

We all know those people who like to brag about themselves behind the mask of self-deprecation. For example, the gal who makes fun of herself for being a nerd when she really wants to draw attention to the fact that she’s smart or the guy who makes fun of himself for having a strict diet when he really wants you to know how healthy and fit he is. While many people think that self-deprecation masks their bragging, everyone sees right through it. This makes the bragging all the more frustrating, because it isn’t just bragging; it’s also an attempt to deceive.

Whipping out your phone

Nothing turns someone off to you like a mid-conversation text message or even a quick glance at your phone. When you commit to a conversation, focus all of your energy on the conversation. You’ll find that conversations are more enjoyable and effective when you immerse yourself in them.

Having a closed mind

If you want to be likeable, you must be open-minded, which makes you approachable and interesting to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is unwilling to listen. Having an open mind is crucial in the workplace, where approachability means access to new ideas and help. To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes. This doesn’t require that you believe what they believe or condone their behavior; it simply means that you quit passing judgment long enough to truly understand what makes them tick.

Not asking enough questions

The biggest mistake people make in conversation is being so focused on what they’re going to say next or how what the other person is saying is going to affect them that they fail to hear what’s being said. The words come through loud and clear, but the meaning is lost. A simple way to avoid this is to ask a lot of questions. People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that not only are you listening but that you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking questions.

Being too serious

People gravitate toward those who are passionate. That said, it’s easy for passionate people to come across as too serious or uninterested, because they tend to get absorbed in their work. Likeable people balance their passion for their work with their ability to have fun. At work they are serious, yet friendly. They still get things done because they are socially effective in short amounts of time and they capitalize on valuable social moments. They focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers, remembering what people said to them yesterday or last week, which shows people that they are just as important to them as their work is.

Gossiping

People make themselves look terrible when they get carried away with gossiping. Wallowing in talk of other people’s misdeeds or misfortunes may end up hurting their feelings if the gossip ever finds its way to them, but gossiping is guaranteed to make you look negative and spiteful every time.

Sharing too much, too early

While getting to know people requires a healthy amount of sharing, sharing too much about yourself right off the bat comes across wrong. Be careful to avoid sharing personal problems and confessions too quickly. Likeable people let the other person guide them as to when it’s the right time for them to open up. Over-sharing comes across as self-obsessed and insensitive to the balance of the conversation. Think of it this way: if you’re getting into the nitty gritty of your life without learning about the other person first, you’re sending the message that you see them as nothing more than a sounding board for your problems.

Sharing too much on social media

Studies have shown that people who over-share on social media do so because they crave acceptance, but the Pew Research Center has revealed that this over-sharing works against them by making people dislike them. Sharing on social media can be an important mode of expression, but it needs to be done thoughtfully and with some self-control. Letting everyone know what you ate for breakfast, lunch, and dinner along with how many times you walked your dog today will do much more harm than good when it comes to likeability.

Bringing it all together

When you build your awareness of how your actions are received by other people, you pave the way to becoming more likeable.