Tag: Horns of Dilemma

Soul Search: Jay’s Tantra way to find Answers


Sometimes, I have a deep need felt to do a soul search. Not in a Delta State but in an Alpha brainwave State.  I search for answers = rack my brains but sometimes fail.

I then pick a random Gita Shloka, a Bible Verse and relate them as Random Input from the Gods above and relate to my problem/ thoughts and by attribute listing usually find my answers.

I had been misunderstood in communications many times as rude, challenging, overbearing, dominating, assertive, aggressive, abrasive which I do it by habit and on purpose without being any of the above. The intent is to get people to think. I persist, I don’t insist they follow my advice.  But, when it is ill-perceived and people pass judgements – it hurts. While people tell me they are hurt more by my saying so as they expected me to be sweet as they think I am on their side, know them too well inside out and outside in.

It is often seen by some mentees as Dark Mentoring, Tor-Mentoring or De-Mentoring!  It does work though.  It brings out the real, hidden character to the fore without the use of an EG machine which many of the semi-insane mentees with rare sparks of brilliance and insanity hide with all their might – they get exposed.

So this time I used my own Jay Tantra, I have used before for solving complex dilemmas and this is what I got.

Habakkuk 2:18Passage: “Of what value is an idol that someone has carved? Or an image that teaches lies? For those who make them trust in their own creations; they make idols that cannot speak.

I found my answers in these.  I nurtured a wish that post my death there should be a memorial. There should be a charitable trust doing philanthropic activities and humanitarian work, the latest addition was having a memorial lecture series in my parents’ name who encouraged me to be a speaker from the age of 5 !

I realised, these are what the Bible verse refers as Idols who can not speak, and from the Gita shloka I realised that I should remain unperturbed amid sorrows,  and let these legacy pleasure thoughts disappear and become free from passion, fear and anger – this can help me attain steady wisdom.

My day was made!

I liked this parable : Mathew 13


For the novel by Octavia Butler, see Parable of the Sower (novel).

The Parable of the Sower (sometimes called the Parable of the Soils) is a parable of Jesusfound in the three Synoptic Gospels in Matthew 13:1-23, Mark 4:1-20, and Luke 8:4-15.

In the story, a sower sows seed and does so indiscriminately. Some seed falls on the path (wayside) with no soil, some on rocky ground with little soil, and some on soil which contained thorns. In these cases the seed is taken away or fails to produce a crop, but when it falls on good soil it grows, yielding thirty, sixty, or a hundredfold.

Jesus then (only in the presence of his disciples) explains that the seed represents the Gospel (the sower being anyone who proclaims it), and the various soils represent people’s responses to it (the first three representing rejection while the last represents acceptance.

I’m a gardener Mentor. I try and die the seeds to make Dreams grow into ambitions, translating into Vision, mission, goals, objectives, action plans, biz, marketing plans etal.

In my efforts, sometimes I come across very distressed mentees. I have to work on making the soil good as they have rocky soil of past bad experiences, thorny soil which does not allow seeds to germinate, or find soil. I spend 5, 13, 26, 52 weeks depending upon the STATE, and SITUATION.

I Sometimes come across Sand, silt or clay land or simply rocky land. Rarely I find delta land ( usualy in C Suite execs) which is fertile . Each gets a different mentor treatment.

It works. There are failures too. As the mentorees stop responding and throw seeds on footpath – it is eaten by birds and pigeons.

In one case, after sowing 150 revenue ideas and rigorously, tilling the land I found failure. I decided to move on. As the farmer/ mentoree just did not understand and allowed my gardening efforts fail.

Sad but true! It happens.

Gardener then moves on too…