Saturday- RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  2. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  3. Save water – take a shorter shower today
  4. Make someone a cup of coffee
  5. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  6. House chores can be tiring – offer a helping hand
  7. Feeling brave? Give blood
  8. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  9. Help a younger student with their work
  10. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day

Friday- RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  2. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  3. Support a small, local business as a customer
  4. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  5. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  6. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
  7. Go green – don’t waste paper
  8. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity
  9. Feeling brave? Give blood
  10. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them

Thursday- RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  2. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  3. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  4. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  5. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  6. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  7. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  8. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  9. Help someone carry their pushchair up/down the stairs
  10. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift

Wednesday- RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Surprise your parents with flowers
  2. Go the day without complaining
  3. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  4. Taking public transport? Offer your seat to someone else
  5. Smile at a stranger
  6. Bake something for your family/friends
  7. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  8. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  9. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  10. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend

Tuesday – RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  2. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else
  3. Surprise your parents with flowers
  4. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  5. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  6. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call
  7. Empty your wallet for charity
  8. Buy someone a coffee
  9. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  10. Open the door for someone

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness. Monday.


  1. Write a complimentary note for someone
  2. Make someone a cup of coffee
  3. Go green – don’t waste paper
  4. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  5. Smile at 3 people today
  6. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them
  7. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!
  8. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  9. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  10. Save water – take a shorter shower today

Sunday – RAK Movement Random Acts of Kindness.


  1. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  2. Buy someone a coffee
  3. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  4. Have lunch with a homeless person
  5. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  6. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  7. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  8. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  9. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  10. Go out of your way to thank someone today!

Saturday- RAK Movement – Random acts of Kindness. Choose one. I have!


  1. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  2. Visit a friend who’s sick
  3. Have lunch with a homeless person
  4. Purchase ethical goods
  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  6. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  7. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  8. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  9. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  10. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like

Random Acts of Kindness



  1. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  2. Volunteer your time for a good cause
  3. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  4. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
  5. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  6. Surprise your siblings with their favourite sweets/chocolate
  7. Recycle 3 things today
  8. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  9. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  10. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  2. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  3. Bake something for your family/friends
  4. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  5. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  6. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  7. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  8. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  9. Smile at 3 people today
  10. Let someone know how much you appreciate them

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  2. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  3. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  4. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  5. Feeling brave? Give blood
  6. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  7. Smile at a stranger
  8. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  9. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  10. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  2. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  3. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  4. Oooh wait! There’s somebody behind you; hold the door open!
  5. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  6. Visit a friend who’s sick
  7. Bake for your neighbour
  8. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  9. Feeling inspired? Make a meal for your family or roommates
  10. Share today’s food with your neighbour!

Random Acts of Kindness – Choose one. I have.


  1. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  2. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  3. Support a small, local business as a customer
  4. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  5. Visit a friend who’s sick
  6. Hug your parents
  7. Compliment someone today!
  8. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  9. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  10. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)

RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS. Keep at it!


  1. Help someone carry their pushchair up/down the stairs
  2. Volunteer your time for a good cause
  3. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
  4. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  5. Surprise your parents with flowers
  6. Oooh wait! There’s somebody behind you; hold the door open!
  7. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  8. Bake something for your family/friends
  9. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else
  10. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!

Random Acts of kindness


  1. Help a younger student with their work
  2. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  3. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  4. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  5. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  6. Answer the phone in a cheerful voice – even if it is a sales person
  7. Offer to babysit your siblings/cousins/nephews/nieces etc
  8. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  9. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  10. Help someone academically – lend them your study note

Random Acts of Kindness – Must keep repeating that we like. ..


  1. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  2. Share today’s food with your neighbour!
  3. Support a small, local business as a customer
  4. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  5. Feed a stray animal if you spot one

Random Acts of kindness


  1. Volunteer your time for a good cause
  2. Neighbour’s lawn looking 

  3. messy? Offer to mow it
  4. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  5. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  6. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  7. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!
  8. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  9. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  10. Know someone who’s feeling under the weather? Pay them a visit!
  11. Visit a friend who’s sick

The Mentor and the MonaLisa Rhyming Couplet Ideas -Ver 1.0 by Jay


The Mentor and the MonaLisa

Rhyming Couplet Ideas by Jay

See the snuffing of the Mentor,
I think he’s angry at the core.

He finds it hard to see the accidental,
Overshadowed by the brainy rental.

Who is that practicing near the coat?
I think she’d like to eat the goat.

She is but a cunning rani,
Admired as she sits upon a sirianni.

Her crazed Snake is just a Car,
It needs no gas, it runs on double Bar.

She’s not alone she brings a Helix,
a pet Frog, and lots of felix.

The Frog likes to chase a Monolith,
Especially one that’s in the rhinesmith.

The Mentor shudders at the sarcastic goat
He want to leave but she wants his coat.

See ver 2.0 on my blog https://csuitementor.blogspot.com/

Random Acts of kindness


  1. Visit a friend who’s sick
  2. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  3. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  4. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on

Story Telling : Lion, Cow and The Master/ Mentor


Why do we need a Master/ Mentor?

Story shared by a friend on WhatsApp this morning.
Once upon a time, a cow went out to graze in the jungle. Suddenly, she noticed a lion racing towards her. She turned and fled, fearing that at any moment the lion would sink his claws into her. The cow desperately looked for someplace to escape and at last, saw a shallow pond. Barely evading the lion’s reach, she jumped into the pond, and in the heat of the chase, the lion blindly leaped after her.

To the surprise of them both, the pond was extremely shallow yet filled with deep recesses of mud. After toppling over each other, the cow and the lion found themselves a short distance apart, stuck in the mud up to their necks. Both had their heads above water but were unable to free themselves no matter how much they writhed.

The lion repeatedly snarled at the cow and roared, “I am going to enjoy the sound of crunching your bones between my teeth!”

He thrashed about in fury but soon became fretful as he found no prospect of escape.

The cow thoughtfully laughed as the lion struggled to free himself and asked him, “Do you have a master?”

The lion disdainfully replied, “I am the king of the jungle. Why do you ask me if I have a master? I myself am the master!”

The cow said, “You may be the king of the jungle, but here all your power has failed to save your life.”

“And what about you?” Retorted the lion. “You are going to die here in this mud too!”’

The cow smiled mildly and said, “No, I am not.”

“If even I, the king of the jungle cannot free myself from this mud”, snapped the lion, “Then how can you, an ordinary cow?”

The cow gently replied, “I cannot free myself from this mud, but my master can. When the sun sets and he finds me absent at home, he will come looking for me. Once he finds me, he will raise me up and escort me home sweet home.”

The lion fell silent and coldly glared at the cow.

Soon enough, the sunset and the cow’s master arrived. He immediately recognized the plight she was in and lifted her to safety. As they walked home, the cow and the master both felt renewed gratitude for one another and pitied the lion they both would have been happy to save if only the lion had allowed them.

The cow represents a surrendered heart, the lion represents an egoistic mind, and the master represents the Guru. The mud represents the world, and the chase represents the struggle for existence therein.
Debrief
Its good to be independent and not rely on anyone. But don’t take it to an extreme, you always need a partner/coach/mentor/ friend who will be always on the lookout for you.

Having them does not mean you are weak, it’s just that you can be stronger with their help.
Make sure to share this story with your partner/coach/mentor/ friend and express your gratitude.

Random acts of kindness – repeat what you like.


  1. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  2. Buy someone a coffee
  3. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  4. Purchase ethical goods
  5. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  6. Empty your wallet for charity
  7. Open the door for someone
  8. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  9. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  10. Support a small, local business as a customer

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!
  2. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  3. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  4. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  5. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  6. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  7. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  8. Taking public transport? Offer your seat to someone else
  9. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  10. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family

Keep repeating Random Acts of Kindness daily


  1. Have lunch with a homeless person
  2. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  3. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  4. Pick up somebody else’ tab next time you go for a coffee
  5. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  6. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  7. Know someone who’s feeling under the weather? Pay them a visit!
  8. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  9. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  10. Volunteer your time for a good cause

Keep repeating Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity
  2. Write a complimentary note for someone
  3. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  4. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  5. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!
  6. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  7. Share your lunch with a friend
  8. Offer to help your neighbours/friends with chores
  9. Hug your parents
  10. Smile at 3 people today

”God thirsts for honest love.”Meher Baba


”God thirsts for honest love.”Meher Baba

Can we love God this way?Ask Baba in a pure and sincere way for the miracle of unconditional Love. And the Beloved will make it come true.

Goes:

”Don’t worry; all this is illusion. You should love me and be honest and faithful. You must be so honest in your love that even God should bow down to you for it. God thirsts for honest love. There must not be the slightest tinge of hypocrisy. Ages have made the mind so dirty that it is quite hard for it to be pure and honest. It is the mind’s nature to doubt, to reason, to be happy, to be sick, to be sore and so forth. Had it not been its nature, there would have been no need for births after births. Imagination has created all this, and the world is so ensnared in it, it is as if bogged down in mire. And extrication from the morass becomes impossible. There is only one remedy for it: honest love for God and help from a Master.” Meher Baba

Lord Meher Online page 3350
http://www.lordmeher.org/rev/index.jsp

Sharing my fav Newsletter – Brainpickings.org weekly digest.


This is the brainpickings.org weekly digest by Maria Popova. If you missed last week’s edition — Bertrand Russell on what makes a fulfilling life, an illustrated celebration of the many meanings and manifestations of love, an immigrant’s tale — you can catch up right here. And if you’d like to try something new/old, I’ve launched another newsletter that comes out every Wednesday, offering a midweek pick-me-up — something inspiring and uplifting culled from the twelve-year Brain Pickingsarchive. You can sign up for that here. If you’re enjoying my labor of love, please consider supporting it with a donation – each month, I spend hundreds of hours and tremendous resources on it, and every little bit of support helps enormously. If you already donate: THANK YOU.

Kahlil Gibran on the Courage to Weather the Uncertainties of Love

“Love is the quality of attention we pay to things,” poet J.D. McClatchy wrote in his beautiful meditation on the contrast and complementarity of love and desire. And what we choose to attend to — our fear or our faith, our woundedness or our devotion to healing — determines the quality of our love. How we navigate our oscillation between these inescapable polarities is governed by the degree of courage, openness, and vulnerability with which we are willing to show up for and to our own hearts. “The alternations between love and its denial,” philosopher Martha Nussbaum observed in contemplating the difficulty of knowing ourselves“constitute the most essential and ubiquitous structural feature of the human heart.”

That is what the great Lebanese-American poet, painter, and philosopher Kahlil Gibran (January 6, 1883–April 10, 1931) explores in one of the most stirring passages from The Prophet (public library) — the 1923 classic that also gave us what may be the finest advice ever offered on the balance of intimacy and independence in healthy relationships.

Kahlil Gibran, self-portrait

Speaking to the paradoxical human impulse to cower before the largeness of love — to run from its vulnerable-making uncertainties and necessary frustrations at the cost of its deepest rewards — Gibran offers an incantation of courage:

When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.

For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.
Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast.

All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.

But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.

Illustration from An ABZ of Love, Kurt Vonnegut’s favorite vintage Danish guide to sexuality

In a sentiment John Steinbeck would come to echo a generation later in his beautiful letter of advice on love to his teenage son, Gibran adds:

Think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.

The Prophet remains a timeless trove of wisdom and a mighty clarifying force for the turbidity of the heart. Complement it with Gibran on why we make art and his stunning love letters, then revisit Adrienne Rich on how honorable relationships refine our truths, Erich Fromm on the art of loving and what is keeping us from mastering it, Leo Tolstoy on love and its paradoxical demands, and this wondrous illustrated meditation on the many meanings and manifestations of love.

Random Acts of Kindness – keep repeating what you like and works for you


  1. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  2. Share today’s food with your neighbour!
  3. Volunteer your time for a good cause
  4. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  5. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them

Render selfless service


When service is rendered in a selfless spirit it always benefits the Karmayogin, although he himself does not do it for the sake of any reward or result.

There is no doubt that even when he renders selfless service unintelligently he derives some spiritual benefit thereby, but in doing so he cannot avoid causing much unnecessary suffering to others.

However, when he renders selfless service with spiritual understanding it not only confers spiritual benefit upon himself, but also promotes the material and spiritual well-being of others involved.

Selfless service must be based upon understanding if it is to be an unmixed boon for all concerned.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Source- Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-129 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

If the day does not seem to be progressing well. Do some Random acts of kindness.


  1. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!
  2. Help someone carry their pushchair up/down the stairs
  3. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  4. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  5. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  6. Bake for your neighbour
  7. Make someone a cup of coffee
  8. Bake something for your family/friends
  9. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk t

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What would you label a person


Who agrees, commits but rarely fulfills?
1. Has No integrity
2. Wanted to say NO BUT said yes!
3. Cheats him/herself
4. Is unable to prioritise and funnel/ filter doables and undoables?
5. Wants to fool others by agreements which are rarely fulfilled
6. Is a chest with self and will cheat others
7. Is exploitative of others
8. Has no sense of right or wrong

Perceptions are right or wrong, assumptions are partial judgements again right or wrong.
But if a person is wrong person?

Random acts of kindness today


  1. Compliment someone today!
  2. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  3. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  4. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  5. Pay for someone’s bus ticket

Random phrases I generate every day


Hello BFFFs.

( Best friends, fans, followers and some Frenemies who also visit my blog 🙂 ) A great morning to all of you.

How do I begin my Blog writing daily and what do I post. 

I find generating random phrases every day as a good creative mind exercise.

I am a lateral thinker, I adapted Dr. Edward DeBono and his teachings early.

My Best Coach and Mentor I respect most is Dr. Marshall Goldsmith who taught me to be HUMAN FIRST.  Take final calls if the relationships are not working by forgiving each other.

The randomness of these phrases adds value and sometimes impacts my thoughts for the day.  I sometimes add few points on how the impact there was or should likely to be depending upon the time I post these on my Blog

Have a Great morning

  1. Jaws of Death

    Meaning: Being in a dangerous or very deadly situation.

    Hmmm… These days the fingers on the Keyboard do more damage than our tongues which are rarely used in the virtual era. 

  2. Down For The Count

    Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so.

    Well, at this moment I feel like the one defeated.  But there are some lights at the end of the tunnel, there are few sparks and things usually average out for me. 

  3. Right Out of the Gate

    Meaning: Right from the beginning; to do something from the start.

    Hmm… let me think about this. yesterday I shared a lesson about Mystery as the opening.

  4. On the Same Page

    Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others. This can always be a game changer in case of differences and disagreements. It works all the time.

  5. Swinging For the Fences

    Meaning: Giving something your all.

    Yes. I am giving it my all. Every effort I do for future today, I believe I am Swinging for the fences. 

Whenever I write Hmmm… EITHER I am undecided, or I am intuitive, Or I have already formed a judgement and still willing to give it a second thought, alternative options – “What else could it mean” chance.  In short, even in a fully stretched Elastic situation – this means I am still FLEXIBLE, I am Receptive to new idea, thought, solutions.

I also write another blog post picking up Random Sentences. 3 to 5 of them and look at them creatively to actually plan some of the days actions – not using the same words but twisting words, looking at their attributes and applying to problems I foresee in the day.

Sometimes, I am sitting on the horns of a dilemma. I turn to Gita and Bible and pick up a Shloka and a Verse to find solution to my problem.

As day advances, I share the best newsletter or quote I have seen on the day. I also then move on to writing a Poem, a Couplet, A haiku or some times all of them.  This is my blog posting.

Then I check the Blog page of every blogger who has liked my post or some of them who have not visited my blog or not given a like or comment on my posts and read their blogs and add like or comment.

That’s pretty much about my last 2 months’s blogging process.


When in Dilemma – I turn to Srimad Bhagavad Gita and a Bible presented to me by a friend and look up a Random Sloka or a Verse and I feel Peace.

Srimad Bhagavad Gita

Sloka selected for the day (random choice)
Chapter 10 Sloka 18 

Psalms 94:15

Passage: 

Judgment will again be founded on righteousness, and all the upright in heart will follow it.

Hope is not a Strategy, These Random Phrases do come true for me sometimes.


  1. Close But No Cigar
    Meaning: Coming close to a successful outcome only to fall short at the end. Will make sure, this does not happen today.
  2. No Ifs, Ands, or Buts
    Meaning: Finishing a task without making any excuses. Yess. FINISHIATIVE.
  3. Burst Your Bubble
    Meaning: To ruin someone’s happy moment. NO. Don’t want to do that. 
  4. Don’t Count Your Chickens Before They Hatch
    Meaning: Do not rely on something you are not sure of. Sane advice. So many plans put in motion, so many processes and work in progress that my elder cousin warned me not to take too much on my plate.  Sane advice. I am still far away from my 9 kilo weight reduction goal for this month.
  5. Cry Wolf
    Meaning: Someone that calls for help when it is not needed. Someone who is lying.  Yes. It happens again and again and again with me and I always fall prey. God give me a Midas touch – Nay! Give a truly healing touch I PRAY to you.
  6. Knuckle Down
    Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job. All the time. Never changed on this. Keep at it. That’s my philosophy and that’s what I preach and practice. 

Random Acts of Kindness I can do today.


  1. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else  Yes.
  2. Share today’s food with your neighbour!  Sad. My 3 closest neighbors shifted residence.
  3. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like. Yes. 
  4. Save your family some time and buy their groceries. Hmmm… 
  5. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it. Yes. will do.  Have one for old people and one basic model phone.
  6. Help a younger student with their work. Sure.
  7. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call. I will.
  8. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day.  I will. 
  9. House chores can be tiring – offer a helping hand.  Yes. Wife out of town. Will cook and do laundry 🙂 

Random acts of kindness


  1. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity – Yes. I am planning this already.
  2. Plant a seed
  3. Support a small, local business as a customer
  4. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call Yes. Doing it.
  5. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes Yes. doing it. 

What will the day be like – Random Phrases predict :)


I like to generate these random phrases and compare their attributions at the End of the day and usually they come correct.

Let’s see what’s in store for me today.

  1. Go For Broke
    Meaning: To risk it all, even if it means losing everything. To go all out.   If the message is about achieving 10000 likes in 58 days and thanking the BFFFs with deep sense of gratitude. I am all for it. 
  2. In a Pickle
    Meaning: Being in a difficult predicament; a mess; an undesirable situation.  Yes. it is true and getting out is messy. Staying in is messier.  Feels like a Camel whose owner wants to make him piss inside the tent but keep his Head out so that owner’s privacy is protected 🙂 
  3. Up In Arms
    Meaning: Angry; being roused to the point that you are ready to fight. Hmmm.. there is no fight left in me any more. I would rather honorably and peacefully walk aaway from UNCERTAINTY and SITUATIONS that bother me. 
  4. Put a Sock In It
    Meaning: Asking someone to be quiet or to shut up. No. That’s not Me. I would rather talk it over to a conclusion. 
  5. Give a Man a Fish
    Meaning: It’s better to teach a person how to do something than to do that something for them. Yes. fully agree. Handholding by the mentor can not become Mentor’s tasks – A mentor needs to find a way to Wean to Win so the Mentees WTW Win The World.  

Jay’s Tantra 7 – For a Bad, Bad, Sad, Sad Day and the day just shines Bright!


I use this small hack I call as Tantra whenever I have a Bad BAd or Sad SAD day.

Someone once gifted me a Bible, and I have a childhood ShrimadbhagwatGita.

I open a page to read a Verse or a Shloka.

Yesterday, was one such day.  I went to my daily morning walks and stopped for taking some change at the Tea Shop.  The devout guy was lighting Agarbatti/ Incense to Lord Ganpati, Goddess Saraswati and Goddess Lakshmi.  I said, Good Omen ( Yes, even a Skeptic on a bad bad sad sad day can become believer ! ).

I read the following

2 Kings 2:18Passage: When they returned to Elisha, who was staying in Jericho, he said to them, “Didn’t I tell you not to go?”

And from Gita came

dhyaayato vishayaanh pumsah sangasteshhupajaayate |
sangaath samjaayate kaamah kaamaath krodho abhijaayate ||

A Shloka – my father taught me at the Age 7.

When a person dwells longingly on sense objects, an inclination towards them is generated.
This inclination develops into desire and desire gives rise to anger.

I got my messages – Strong and Clear. By evening I had put them to use and had Peace of mind and a good night’s sleep. Everything became alright.

Wanna try – Please do. It works for me every time.

 

Random sentences – EOD (end of day) fun


I like these randomly generated sentences. See what I  fond today. They are great creativity exercise. Words in Bold are my thoughts. 🙂

  1. The shooter says goodbye to his love. 
    Well, Almost. The key word missing was trigger and I found the right trigger to do the Right things and took back my Good bye:) 
  2. She works two jobs to make ends meet; at least, that was her reason for not having time to join us.  

    The between the lines word reader, Mean Meaning Making mind of mine found something. Guess what?  Ignore, Neglect to Kill ! 🙂 Happened to you any time? Well, it does happen to me all the time . 🙂

  3. What was the person thinking when they discovered cow’s milk was fine for human consumption… and why did they do it in the first place!?

    I found this sentence very interesting.  Did you?  Provokes thoughts, No? I am called a Provocative Coach, who challenges coachees, mentees all the time with such and other questions 🙂 🙂

To end, I know many in India consider it a Bad Omen if a Cat – especially a black cat crosses the road.  This morning coming back from my walk, I noticed a Golden yellow colored cute cat, waiting to cross the road,  I stopped in my tracks, the Skeptic in me said,  “Move on, you are a skeptic, don’t have these thoughts, there is no such thing as BAD OMEN!  ”

AND,…. What happened was hilarious…..

…………………..

 

…………………… The Cute Golden Yellow color Cat

 

Simply nodded at me – as if saying – you cross first – I don’t believe in Bad Omens either 🙂

I crossed the road and saw the cat also coolly crossing the road. 🙂

Great Weekend – Random acts of Kindness today


  1. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!  YESSS.  WIFE Away, Cooking something. 
  2. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them.  I did. Infact, ventured my opinion on what women should dress. And, trust me it was well appreciated. 
  3. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend.  Only one call but very productive. 
  4. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call  
  5. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  6. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  7. Make amends with someone you may have wronged.  I DID IT. I AM positive. Hope is not part of my strategy but making amends, failure attribution, admitting mistakes and failures is. 
  8. Someone wronged you? Forgive them  I DID. 
  9. Offer to help your neighbours/friends with chores
  10. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them.  Yessss ! 

Random acts of kindness. Choose any you think is doable.


  1. Share your lunch with a friend
  2. Help a younger student with their work
  3. Visit a friend who’s sick
  4. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  5. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  6. Forgive someone who has wronged you
  7. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!
  8. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!
  9. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  10. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions

Random acts of kindness. Choose any you think is doable.


  1. Share your lunch with a friend
  2. Help a younger student with their work
  3. Visit a friend who’s sick
  4. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  5. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  6. Forgive someone who has wronged you
  7. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!
  8. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!
  9. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  10. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions

Random Acts of kindness


  1. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  2. Bake for your neighbour
  3. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  4. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  5. Help a younger student with their work
  6. Plant a seed
  7. Surprise your parents with flowers
  8. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  9. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  10. Give up your seat on the tube/bus

Even Sinners and Saints can become Better and still better.


The sinner need not have the stigma of eternal degradation and the saint need not have pride in his moral attainments.

No one, however saintly he may be, has attained the heights of moral virtues except after a life of moral failings, and no one is so bad as to be unable to improve and become good.

Everyone, no matter how depraved, can gradually become better and better until he becomes the best example for all mankind.

There is always hope for everyone; none is utterly lost and none need despair. It remains true, however, that the way to divinity lies through the renunciation of evil in favour of the good.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Source- Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-94-95 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  2. Feeling brave? Give blood
  3. Offer to babysit your siblings/cousins/nephews/nieces etc
  4. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  5. Help someone struggling with heavy bags

Time to express GRATITUDE again!


Dear Friends and followers,

13th May to 27th June – 6 weeks, 45 days of regular posting on WordPress gave me GFFs:) Great friends and followers who have delighted me with 16000+ views 8000+ likes 6000 Visitors and 300+ comments.  What can I say – I can only express my humble GRATITUDE to you all for this.

Thank you !

Regards

Jay

30 John Lennon Quotes About Life And Lessons To Inspire You – Motivate Amaze Be GREAT


30 John Lennon Quotes About Life And Lessons To Inspire You
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John Lennon was a member of The Beatles band, singer, writer, and peace activist. Born in Liverpool, England in 1940, he created great music, that has become famous over the years.

Together with his friend Paul McCartney, Lennon founded The Beatles, which is one of the most famous and successful pop bands in the history of music.

Lennon left the band in 1969, and later, he released Double Fantasy, along with his wife, Yoko Ono. In 1980, he was shot dead by Mark David Chapman, one of his crazy fans.

John Lennon’s lyrics and quotes had a tremendous impact worldwide.

Even though “you may say he’s a dreamer,” he promoted love, peace, and equality his entire life. Here’s our selection of Lennon’s amazing quotes, life lessons and lyrics, that still inspire people all around the world today:

30 John Lennon Quotes About Life And Lessons To Inspire You

Life Lesson #1: Be Yourself

1. “I’m not going to change the way I look or the way I feel to conform to anything. I’ve always been a freak. So I’ve been a freak all my life and I have to live with that, you know. I’m one of those people.” – John Lennon

2. “You don’t need anybody to tell you who you are or what you are. You are what you are!” – John Lennon

3. “We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” – John Lennon

4. “Time you enjoy wasting, was not wasted.” – John Lennon

5. “It matters not who you love, where you love, why you love, when you love or how you love, it matters only that you love.” – John Lennon

6. “It doesn’t matter how long my hair is or what colour my skin is or whether I’m a woman or a man.” – John Lennon

7. “There’s nowhere you can be that isn’t where you’re meant to be…” – John Lennon

8. “If there’s such a thing as genius — I am one. And if there isn’t, I don’t care.” – John Lennon

Life Lesson #2: Love, Forgive, Enjoy and IMAGINE.

9. “I believe in everything until it’s disproved. So I believe in fairies, the myths, dragons. It all exists, even if it’s in your mind. Who’s to say that dreams and nightmares aren’t as real as the here and now? ” – John Lennon

10. “A mistake is only an error, it becomes a mistake when you fail to correct it.” – John Lennon

11. “If everyone demanded peace instead of another television set, then there’d be peace.” – John Lennon

12. “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

13. “When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” – John Lennon

14. “We live in a world where we have to hide to make love, while violence is practised in broad daylight.” – John Lennon

15. “Reality leaves a lot to the imagination.” – John Lennon

16. “Imagine all the people living life in peace. You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us, and the world will be as one.” – John Lennon

17. “I don’t believe in killing whatever the reason!” – John Lennon

18. “Love is the greatest refreshment in life.” – John Lennon

Life Lesson #3: Accept that You Still Have a Lot to Learn

19. “The more I see the less I know for sure.” – John Lennon

20. “I don’t believe in yesterday, by the way.” – John Lennon

21. “If someone thinks that love and peace is a cliché that must have been left behind in the Sixties, that’s his problem. Love and peace are eternal.” – John Lennon

22. “I can’t wake you up. You can wake you up. I can’t cure you. You can cure you.” – John Lennon

23. “A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality.” – John Lennon

24. “You either get tired fighting for peace, or you die. Declare it. Just the same way we declare war. That is how we will have peace… we just need to declare it.” – John Lennon

25. “Our society is run by insane people for insane objectives. I think we’re being run by maniacs for maniacal ends and I think I’m liable to be put away as insane for expressing that. That’s what’s insane about it.” – John Lennon

26. “There is an alternative to war. It’s staying in bed and growing your hair.” – John Lennon

27. “Only by trying on other people’s clothes do we find what size we are.” – John Lennon

Life Lesson #4: Always Remember

28. “Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” – John Lennon

29. “Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears.”  – John Lennon

Conclusion

John Lennon’s beautiful sayings will remain in our hearts forever. Even though he is gone, his memory and name will never be forgotten. To conclude, let me remind you one of my favourite quotes:

30. “A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality.” – John Lennon

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Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Taking public transport? Offer your seat to someone else
  2. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  3. Smile at 3 people today
  4. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  5. Pick up somebody else’ tab next time you go for a coffee
  6. Make amends with someone you may have wronged

The Petite, young, And Dusky Demure Husky Ms. Voice Tonality


A Poem by jay

Whose Husky Ms. Voice Tonality is that?

I think I know.
Its owner is quite sad though.
It really is a tale of woe,
I watch her frown. I cry hello.

She gives her Nasal Tonality a shake,
And sobs until the tears make.
The only other sound’s the break,
Of distant waves and birds awake.

The Voice Tonality is petite and young.

dusky demure and deep,
But she has friends to keep,
Until then she shall not sleep.
She lies in bed with wounds that weep.

She rises from her sulking bed,
With thoughts of chaotic madness in her head,
She idolises being a Rising Star.
Facing the day with never-ending yet, Far.

With thanks to the poet, Robert Frost, for the underlying structure.

Real Knowledge


The only Real Knowledge is the Knowledge that God is the inner dweller in good people and in so-called bad, in saint and in so-called sinner.

This Knowledge requires you to help all equally as circumstances demand without expectation of reward, and when compelled to take part in a dispute, to act without the slightest trace of enmity or hatred; to try to make others happy with brotherly or sisterly feeling for each one; and to harm no one in thought, word or deed, not even those who harm you.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[From- The Seven Realities of Meher Baba’s Teaching.] [Source- Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-15 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

From commanding troops in the army to leading budding entrepreneurs across the country


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Enterprise: StartupPeopleConsulting

Founder: Vandana Sharma

Year it was founded: 2017

Sector: Business Services

Based out of: Bengaluru

Major Vandana Sharma has been a pathbreaker all her life. Her sense of adventure and tenacity led to her reaching the position of Major in the Indian Army. As a woman and a successful officer, she broke many stereotypes about women in uniform while in service. Her career in the armed forces is distinguished with her contribution to the Kargil War of 1999 being recorded and commended in the Military History of Army Ordnance Corps. From then to today, her entrepreneurial spirit, as she puts it, has attracted her to situations that required her innovative spirit and problem solving skills to resolve. Post her military career, Vandana forayed into the corporate world and has 21 years of diverse experience across multiple sectors. Working in leadership positions, she has added value to hiring practices and organisational transformation at companies like Wipro, Myntra and GMR. She established StartupPeopleConsulting in 2017 in Bengaluru. StartupPeopleConsulting is an organisation geared towards guiding entrepreneurs as they move towards their goals. Vandana is a TEDx speaker and she also speaks at various women’s forums to inspire and motivate more women to live independent and empowered lives.

Time in the army

Vandana was raised as a ‘fauji’ kid. Her father, and many other members of her family, were part of the armed forces. She found herself dreaming of being in the armed forces from a very young age and successfully took forward the family tradition of serving the country. Looking back, she narrates an experience that shaped her conviction. “My father was in the Air Force and my brother who is eight-years-older than me also joined the army. I would wear my father’s cap when he would return home and look myself in the mirror wondering if I could ever wear the uniform. I was in grade two or three then.”

Women were not allowed in the armed forces at the time, but change was in the offing. Women were included for the first time on the rolls in 1992 and Vandana knew she wanted to be part of this landmark change. In a batch of 33, she became one of the first few women to don the army greens. Her leaderships skills shone through, and over the course of the next 10 years, she attained the rank of Major and served with distinction in the Kargil War. Speaking about her time at the Army, she shares, “If you can run as fast, shoot as well, and do what you are signed up for – in my case, it was being able to supply stores effortlessly – as well as other male counterparts, nobody looks down upon you or considers you less.”

Business story

Following her successful stint in the army, she forayed into the corporate world. Her unique brand of leadership and experience helped her make significant contributions as an organisation transformer at Myntra, GMR, and Wipro – all large companies with commensurately large challenges.

While working with these companies, she realised that she had an entrepreneurial streak in her, being drawn to situations where things were “being done for the first time in an organisation or amid chaos and needed a fix.” Importantly, she realised, as she says, “It gave me a lot of joy to share my experience and help guide budding entrepreneurs on setting up startups and working with limited resources, financial constraints and acute deadlines.”

Her passion for supporting budding entrepreneurs took root and she founded StartUpPeopleConsulting in August 2017. Vandana shares, “A lot of entrepreneurs learn the hard way after making mistakes right from the start — from the time of searching for co-founders and early employees to find the right talent as per not just the skill or sector but also the values and vision of the organisations. My project helps early entrepreneurs with all people-related matters and also helps build their networks and teams across locations with minimum effort and speedy timelines.”

Challenges of starting up

Vandana finds, that like most entrepreneurs, her main issues are resource allocation, prioritisation, and selecting the right projects to address the right issues in challenging areas. Of course, scaling up and monetisation are areas of focus as she builds her business.

GlobalLinker Advantage

Vandana finds GlobalLinker very helpful as a networking tool. She says,“GlobalLinker is a great platform for digital meetings for small businesses. I am exploring business opportunities to expand my business network. This platform should be able to bring like-minded folks together who can leverage on each other and grow from strength to strength. The productivity tools and offers are very useful.”

Big business dream

Vandana’s dreams reveal a lot about her determined and visionary nature. When asked about her big business dream, she says, “I want to contribute towards building and nurturing an ecosystem for startups in India. I want to ensure that new-age organisations are agile and swift-footed to enable meeting market dynamics globally, have consistent performances like any other economic power, and build a great work ethic and culture in Indian startups. The right foundation and talent could help them grow into multi-billion organisations. Besides this, I am passionate about making a difference to this world. The causes which are close to my heart are women’s empowerment and doing something meaningful for armed forces veterans.”

Advice to aspiring entrepreneurs

“It’s a marathon so stay the course and don’t sprint. My motto in life has been: The universe falls in love with a stubborn heart! What you wish for always comes true if you work hard for it, so if you believe in your journey and purpose, it will come true one day,” shares Vandana.

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Mazes of our own making and self-created Entanglements


All life is an effort to attain freedom from self-created entanglement.

It is a desperate struggle to undo what has been done under ignorance, to throw away the accumulated burden of the past, to find rescue from the debris left by a series of temporary achievements and failures.

Life seeks to unwind the limiting sanskaras of the past and to obtain release from the mazes of its own making, so that its further creations may spring directly from the heart of eternity and bear the stamp of unhampered freedom and intrinsic richness of being which knows no limitation.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-113 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

SABERA AWARDS in Nov 2018


My latest connection on Linkedin is  Simply Suparnaa

Dear Dhananjay,

Thank you!

Am reaching out to share that this November will see the launch of a platform acknowledging ‘Good’ through the SABERA (Social and Business Enterprise Responsible awards). http://simplysuparnaa.com/sabera/

I am further happy to share that in its maiden edition we already have a broadcast media partner that will showcase content to over 100million plus viewers beyond the the physical event.

I need your help specifically to share this with folks- both individuals and organisations you know of that are doing Good.

The entry fees is a nominal amount of Re1000+ GST for all who have a turnover under 5cr. Registration is open and is a must to the entry forms.

For enterprises there is a first of its kind category of ‘Responsible Business’ There will also be a summit before the awards, would be great to know your perspective on the content too.

Very grateful for your help in making this possible. Warm Regards, Suparnaa

simplysuparnaa.com

Sabera

 

What Random Acts of Kindness can I do today?


  1. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  2. Go green – don’t waste paper
  3. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  4. I rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day

Spirituality is a positive attitude towards life.


Spirituality is a positive attitude towards life.

Spirituality must make man more human. It is a positive attitude of releasing all that is good, noble and beautiful in man. It also contributes to all that is gracious and lovely in the environment.

It does not require the external renunciation of worldly activities or the avoiding of duties and responsibilities.

It only requires that, while performing the worldly activities or discharging the responsibilities arising from the specific place and position of the individual, the inner spirit should remain free from the burden of desires.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-32 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

Airing it All Out – Hopes and Dreams for Our Future – Medium


Airing it All Out
And the Simplistic but Significant Value of Talking Honestly With a Friend

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Selfishness, Selflessness and Personal Ego


Selfishness and selflessness are two phases of the life of the personal ego, and these two phases are continuous with each other.

Selfishness arises when all the desires are centred around the narrow individuality. Selflessness arises when this crude organisation of desires suffers disintegration and there is a general dispersing of desires with the result that they cover a much wider sphere.

Selfishness is the narrowing down of interests to a limited field; selflessness is the extension of interests over a wide field.

To put it paradoxically, selfishness is a restricted form of selflessness, and selflessness is the drawing out of selfishness into a wide sphere of activity.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-29-30 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India)]

A chance encounter in a fertilizer dealer shop reminds me of this caption always.  I met a group of Guntotting Ex Dacoits who had spent 7 years in Open Jail as punishment and surrendered in front of Late Shri JayPrakash Narayan.

This Ex Dacoit was a Farmer and political leader now.  When introduced as the sales person who was selling his favorite brand of fertilizer – He had asked in HINDI whther “Ye Saheb swarthee hain ya parmarthee”. A Deep question about whether this person I am being introduced is Selfish or Selfless?  Even an Ex Convict chooses to know this beforehand.  Why I wondered?

What a Day! Random inputs of the Day.


  1. Shot In the Dark
    Meaning: 
    An attempt that has little chance for success. It actually worked.

    (Out of the box idea seemingly is the RIGHT solution today)

  2. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted
    Meaning: 
    It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.

    (Some live in false pretenses and show off, although paradigms shifted, Reset pressed.

  3. Barking Up The Wrong Tree
    Meaning: 
    To make a wrong assumption about something.

    (Mean- Meaning making machine, lesson of Dissociation on my NLP course ! What a day !)

  4. Mouth-watering
    Meaning: 
    Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.

    (Some Quirky, wacky, tacky, blasphemous, hillarious, original ideas flowed and made the day – very futuristic.  Best to discuss ideas than people and things)

  5. Quick and Dirty
    Meaning: 
    Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well.

    (The sword dangles on relationships, the risks do not go away as communication is onesided as other side is speaking with pursed lips ( suppressed pain and emotions)

  6. Cup Of Joe
    Meaning: 
    A cup of joe is an American nickname for a cup of coffee.

    (Hmmm… and again! I forgot to drink my morning tea before the walk 🙂 )

  7. Keep Your Shirt On
    Meaning: 
    Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset.

    (Silence, Quietude like solitude can be counterproductive among friends)

  8. It’s Not All It’s Cracked Up To Be
    Meaning: 
    Failing to meet expectations; not being as good as people say.

    (To expect is BAD – there is no Good in Expectations, lessons learnt, experience gained).

Mental Turmoil: & a Random Quote from Bible – Jay’s Tantra -3


Numbers 31:15

Passage: 

“Have you allowed all the women to live?”

he asked them.

I had a mental turmoil. At such moments, I turn to Gita, Ramayan, Bible and turn a page and pick one verse or quote.  Try and mull and understand the meaning to find inner peace and God’s message to me to listen to my inner voice with HIS Voice reverberating in my mind together.

This is a personal technique – I call it Jay’s Tantra and it helps me at times to go find the meaning beyond the words, deeply thinking, introspecting, reminiscences of the past and slowly it brings me to the present – my STATE and shows me a path to overcome the mental turmoil, dilemmas, indecisive phase, awkwardness of the decisions I thought or took and their impact.

I need to hear a preacher understand the quote from the bible but the belief that it is a God’s word – leads me to what I began searching and it has helped in terrible moments in my life.  They have always helped me to bounce back with vigor, rigor, self-confidence.

Sunday – Acts of kindness.


  1. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call! ( I reconnected with my granddaughter after a long while – she’s fluent in English, Hindi, Marathi and taught me a few Telugu words too 🙂 . WOW !
  2. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like (Gave away a whole library) 
  3. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  4. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity ( I give it to a Blind school)
  5. Make amends with someone you may have wronged (Hmmm….. May be, I will)
  6. Know someone going through something you’ve been through? Give them advice
  7. Volunteer your time for a good cause  (PLANNING to create a video channel for the charities I support with help of a startup Video/ Filmmaker).
  8. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback (Neyt! I’d rather feedforward as we can’t go back and correct it – but we can shape up in future.)
  9. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift – Yes. worth a thought (Wife and daughter both gifted ME a USPA T-shirt each ! ) 
  10. Plant a seed – yes overdue. Note to self. Must do. 

Thank you friends, you are kind.


I have blogged for 15 years. My other blog on blogger.com has 2,57,000 views todate.

This is my second year of blogging here and from 13th May, my new friends have encouraged me with their comments, likes, views which is astonishing, pleasing and a gratifying experience. Thank you all.

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I appreciate your encouragement and your feedforward always. Regards. Jay

Death will be optional – A WhatsApp forward going viral


Death will be Optional by 2045

https://www.thinkspain.com/news-spain/30425/death-will-be-optional-and-ageing-curable-by-2045-say-genetic-engineers
Death will be ‘optional’ and ageing ‘curable’ by 2045, say genetic engineers

Sat, Apr 21, 2018

news@thinkspain.com @thinkspain

DYING will be ‘optional’ within just 27 years and the ageing process will be ‘reversible’, according to two genetic engineers during the presentation of their new book in Barcelona.

José Luis Cordeiro, born in Venezuela to Spanish parents, and Cambridge (UK) mathematician David Wood, founders of the operating system ‘Symbian’, have just published The Death of Death and say immortality is a real and scientific possibility that could come much earlier than originally thought.

Humans will only die in accidents, never of natural causes or illness, by around the year 2045, say Cordeiro and Wood, who say it is ‘crucial’ that old age starts to be classified as an ‘illness’ so that publicly-funded research into its ‘cure’ can extend.

Nanotechnology is key, among other new genetic manipulation techniques, the engineers said during the presentation at Barcelona’s Equestrian Circle.

The process will involve turning ‘bad’ genes into healthy ones, eliminating dead cells from the body, repairing damaged cells, treatments with stem cells and ‘printing’ vital organs in 3D.

Cordeiro, who is based at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) in the USA, says he has ‘chosen not to die’ and that in 30 years’ time, he will be ‘younger than he is today’.

Ageing is the result of DNA ‘tails’, known as ‘telomeres’, in chromosomes – of which every cell except red blood and sex cells has 23 pairs – becoming shorter, and reversing ageing involves lengthening the telomeres.

Telomeres become damaged and shortened with the passage of time, a process that speeds up in the event of toxins entering the body – smoking, alcohol and air pollution are among elements that reduce the length of telomeres, thus accelerating ageing.

Cordeiro and Wood believe that within 10 years, illnesses such as cancer will be curable, and that major international corporations such as Google will be ‘entering the field of medicine’ because they are ‘beginning to realise that curing ageing is possible’.

Microsoft has reportedly already announced the setting up of a cryopreservation centre in which a scientist is researching the possibility of cancer being completely curable within a decade.

The engineers explain that, although ‘people generally do not know about it’, it was discovered in 1951 how cancer cells are immortal: when Henrietta Lacks died from cervical cancer, surgeons removed the tumour and kept it – and it is still ‘alive’ today.

Immortality will not necessarily mean the planet becomes overcrowded, the scientists say: there is still plenty of room for more people on Earth, and these days, people do not have anywhere near as many children as they did in past decades and centuries; plus, ‘it will be possible to live in space by then’.

“Japan and the Koreas, if they continue with their current trend of hardly having any children, will become extinct – within two centuries, there’ll be no Japanese or Korean people on the planet,” Cordeiro says.

“But thanks to these new techniques, there will indeed be Japanese and Korean people, because they’ll live forever and remain young.”

The cost of anti-ageing treatment was compared to that of the latest SmartPhones.

“At first, it’ll be expensive, but with a competitive market the price will gradually fall because it’ll be something that benefits everyone,” Cordeiro says.

“Technology, when it’s new, is poor and extremely expensive, but it eventually becomes democratic and mainstream and becomes cheaper.”

The engineers say they have already been employing their techniques for two years – illegally, but in Colombia where there are fewer regulations covering genetic manipulation.

Elisabeth Parrish, their first human patient, ‘started to see symptoms of ageing and asked what could be done to prevent it’.

Her treatment is ‘very risky and even illegal’, Wood explains, but at the moment is going well, has not had any adverse side-effects, and the level of telomeres in her blood is ’20 years younger than before’.

“I want Spain to have a place in the world of these technologies and show that we’re not mad, it’s just that people still don’t know about them,” Wood concluded.

The Death of Death will eventually be published in four languages at first – Spanish, English, Portuguese and Korean – and all proceeds from its sales will be ploughed back into the authors’ research.

Random Phrases for today.


Some of these random phrases tell us the course of actions or how the day will unfold.

Take today’s example

Dropping Like Flies

Meaning: 

To fall down ill or

to die in large numbers.

Fortunately, No one died, but because of the biorhythm changes, someone fell sick suddenly.  All well no.

Happy as a Clam

Meaning: 

The state of being happy;
feeling delighted.
My morning walk and stopovers for WhatsApp, Social media and WordPress posting are always good. It is the SMS and emails which make me morose. I believe firmly in Things Average out theory. ( Theory being one man’s opinion 🙂 ) Day is ending much better.  First someone close fell ill, then daughter feel and hurt knees  and day is yet to end and my final article publishing deadline is still looming but I am hopeful that things will average out and I shall be happy as a Clam. 

Drawing a Blank

Meaning: 

Failing to recall a memory.
Unable to remember something.
That’s rough, that’s something no one should have. It is like a brain fog in which we do not even try to find a light.  Like the Dementors in the Harry Potter novels.  It is BAD and I pray to Almighty to cure them fast. 

Talk the Talk

Meaning: 

Supporting what you say,

not just with words,

but also through action or evidence.

I am doing an online UDEMY course refresher on NLP by Kain Ramsay.  It came so cheap! Rs. 640 for nearly 120 videos and articles.  And the trainer Kain is so wonderful. He taught something today and I put it in practice. It was about how NLP practitioners abuse, misuse and manipulate sometimes.  I followed the herd and tried. It came true in actions and evidence.

Amazing Phrases – randomly chosen in the morning.

Learning to let go of the past. Via Medium newsletter


Tiffany Sun
I’m rebuilding my life by discovering who I am, learning what I’m capable of after a 9 year heartbreak that left me stranded in China. http://misstiffanysun.com
Jun 3

Learning to Let Go of the Past
After our breakup, I’d often glance back at old photos, read our messages and reminisce about all the good times we had.

It obviously didn’t help with my situation, but it was strangely one of the few things that actually gave me comfort. Despite the pain, it felt familiar, in a good way — like rewatching your favorite cartoon shows as a kid and I couldn’t help but continue holding onto the past.

But one day, as I was transferring files from an old computer to a new one, I accidentally deleted everything. The folder with over 9 years worth of memories, photos, messages — poof!

Everything was gone, just like that.

It’s been almost 4 1/2 years since I’ve deleted the folder and now I have to say, I’m glad it happened.

If I hadn’t, I might’ve still been reminiscing and holding on to the past. Who knows if I could’ve become the person I am today?

Looking back at the whole experience, it’s made me realize that the only way to build a promising future is if you give up on the past.

It might feel good to hold onto your past now, but what happens when those feelings are gone?

Sometimes it’s better just to let everything go. Anything that has to do with the past, delete it — photos, text, emails, everything. It might be one of the most difficult things you’ll have to do, but the sooner you do it, the sooner you have a chance at rebuilding your life.

This post was originally published on misstiffanysun.com. You can find all of my posts, including ones I don’t post on Medium at misstiffanysun.com.

via Learning to Let Go of the Past – misstiffanysun – Medium

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  2. Smile at a stranger
  3. Answer the phone in a cheerful voice – even if it is a sales person
  4. Help someone carry their pushchair up/down the stairs
  5. House chores can be tiring – offer a helping hand
  6. Purchase ethical goods
  7. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  8. Bake something for your family/friends
  9. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  10. Leave someone flowers anonymously

Dilemmas – What do I do


We all are at crossroads in our life sometimes where there are two routes, options available to us and we have a dilemma to choose the right or left path and come to a decision.

I depend on Facts.  But decision making sometimes is under pressure.  Sometimes we have to make decision without full assessment/ availability of facts. Other times it becomes difficult as there is no time to Assess, Analyse, Deploy, Choose.  Sometimes the options may not be clear.

I look up to my holy books Ramayan, Geeta and at times to a gifted Bible for answers.  Close my eyes, pray to God and open a book and keep my finger randomly on a verse and read.

This morning I read

2 Samuel 7:19

Passage: 

And as if this were not enough in your sight,

Sovereign LORD,

you have also spoken about the future of the house of your servant –

and this decree,

Sovereign LORD,

is for a human being!

Then with my own word associations, perceptions, knowledge about the time, context of the verse I create a linkage – a forced association of words to my situation and find an answer. Usually, the dilemma vanishes.  The holy books become my temporary mentors and show me the path.

Random acts of Kindness we can do.


  1. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  2. Smile at 3 people today
  3. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  4. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  5. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  6. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  7. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  8. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  9. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  10. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!

Begin a Day with Some Random Phrases:


I usually look for a word, sentence or phrase at the beginning of the day.  It gets stuck in the brain like the Musical note or a lyric – (I hear favorite songs daily for 2 hours+ while on the walk) and usually is an important one and sometimes a reminder too. It stays in the subconscious and does its work of sending cues, triggers, prompts or harsh nudges by elbows to my ribs sometimes with its reminders.

  1. All Greek To Me
    Meaning: 
    When something is incomprehensible due to complexity; unintelligble.
  2. Goody Two-Shoes
    Meaning: 
    A smugly virtuous person.
  3. There’s No I in Team
    Meaning: 
    To not work alone, but rather, together with others in order to achieve a certain goal.
  4. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth
    Meaning: 
    When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.
  5. Like Father Like Son
    Meaning: 
    Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior.

My Grateful Thank to all friends. Another milestone becomes possible


Frankly, in 15 years of blogging and in my third attempt at WordPress from last year I never watched the Views, Likes, Comments numbers.  Last month on 13th May something triggered and I began writing regularly.  What it is doing is astonishing to me and I owe my gratitude to the Viewers, my friendly commentators and Readers, Followers and those I am following for this.  Keeps me Inspired.

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Reached 10000 total views , 3014 likes and 208 comments. Incredible. My Grateful thanks. Thank you for keeping me motivated and inspired by what I read in your blogs and generate new ideas for mine.

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Feeling brave? Give blood
  2. Know someone going through something you’ve been through? Give them advice
  3. Go the day without complaining
  4. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  5. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  6. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  7. Visit a friend who’s sick
  8. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  9. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  10. Feeling inspired? Make a meal for your family or roommates

You may have read some of the Acts before – it is good to repeat the ones we like doing most and those which others like most.

Thank you ☺️ Pᶓȵfĩℓả 💕 for kind nomination.


I pay my gratitude to Nirant for nominating me for the Liebster Award. I appreciate the trust that you have on me. He is indeed a unique writer. Thanks a ton. Buddies, it is time you take a glance at his blogs. You will not get back unsatisfied! PS: I take on awards, not for […]

via Liebster Award | 3rd Nomination — Help Break The Silence

As I said to you

☺️ Pᶓȵfĩℓả 💕 I do not understand these awards and have never craved for them. After your reading your blog I have begun to understand.  My sincere gratitude for thinking of me to nominate.  Warm regards. jay

 

Random -Rambling -Rants :)


The Plot generator sent me a few sentences and it started getting thicker. Imagine writing something as mundane as the following statements in Bold...:)

  • She folded her handkerchief neatly.

    And I realized the semi-wet piece of white cloth which got moist just looking at the screen for nearly 100 minutes on a Video call. Eyes were most, but words coming clear and firm. The discussions were heated and the confrontation brought stunned silence. I had to change tracks and laugh out loud to lessen the impact. There was constant wiping of First the right eye and later the left eye and the pursed lips told the story of suppressed sadness and angry emotions.

  • Everyone was busy, so I went to the movie alone.

    The reason is, I tend to emote and shed a lot of tears whenever I see a very heart touching dialogue and superlative acting – and I like to be alone then.  I had struggled during my Film Censoring days when it was embarrassing and awkward and once a Lady Film Director saw me in this mode and smiles understandingly and when we passed her film – she said, “Jay, you made my day. My film and actors had to bring out this emotion and I was happy to see you shedding tears at the right scenes while maintaining your Objectivity as Censor ( and suggesting a few cuts as well 🙂 ) I am certain the audiences will like the film. It did. It was a Hit.

  • The lake is a long way from here.

    No I did not shed so many tears to fill the lake :).  These are our private moments, we shed tears at times very privately, without anyone knowing and we mask our emotions, sentiments.  Some fierce, firebrand people I have met have privately shared with me their quiet moments when they sobbed alone and shed tears profusely to calm their nerves.  IMHO,  it is good to let emotions flow sometimes rather than letting them stay suppressed with more pressure so that others do not know our inner softness. I won’t ever call it a weakness – I feel it is very natural. I tend to think it is Being Human.

  • What do you think?

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Buy someone a coffee
  2. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  3. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  4. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  5. Go out of your way to thank someone today!
  6. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  7. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  8. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  9. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  10. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family

Readers may find some of these repeated again from prior posts – but nothing wrong repeating something which we found good.

Spirit of Giving Self to others. QOTD


“The most satisfying thing in life is to have been able to give a large part of one’s self to others.”

via Today’s Quote https://ift.tt/2EUk2IL

Sometimes it is better to just walk away from things


and go back to them later when you’re in a better frame of mind

Sometimes it is better to just walk away from things and go back to them later when you’re in a better frame of mind.

Try some of these to find your peace back.

  1. Answer the phone in a cheerful voice – even if it is a salesperson
  2. Try being a person who Wouldn’t Harm a Fly
    Meaning: 
    Nonviolent;  someone who is mild or gentle.
  3. Try not to make a Mountain Out of a Molehill
    Meaning: 
    One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems.
  4. And be like The shooter who says goodbye to his love.

 

Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“A man’s got to have a code, a creed to live by, no matter his job.”

— John Wayne

 

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Bake something for your family/friends

  2. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback

  3. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions

  4. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!

  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call

 

Random acts of kindness


  1. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  2. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  3. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  4. Write a complimentary note for someone
  5. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  6. Smile at a stranger

I was very proud of my nickname throughout my life – What’s in a Name?


I was very proud of

my nickname

throughout my life,

but today-

I couldn’t be any different

to what my nickname was.

She told me she won’t use

my nickname again

It so happened,

I said Let me help you with

your baggage and bagasse’

and let’s throw this

into the Sky

with all our might.

But he was too short

to see over the fence.

A song such as this

could make or ruin

a person’s day

if one lets it get to us.

She did her best to help him.

and checked to make sure

that I was still alive and

The mysterious diary

recorded the voice.

but today-

I couldn’t be any different

to what my nickname was.

When I was little

I had a car door slammed shut

on my hand.

I still remember it

quite vividly.

but today-

I couldn’t be any different

to what my nickname was.

The shooter said goodbye to his love.

My Nick Name – WAS – JAYA 🙂

AND Now I know what’s in a Name anyway?

 

 

Milton Fried man Prize for Ladies in White! WOW!


 CONGRATULATIONS ! 

The Cato Institute has presented Cuba’s Ladies in White (Damas de Blanco) with the 2018 Milton Friedman Prize for Advancing Liberty, a $250,000 biennial award presented to a group or individual who has made a significant contribution to advance human freedom. The Ladies in White have a simple message: The political prisoners of Cuba are our sons, brothers, and our husbands. They must not be forgotten.“All who labor in the name of freedom take great inspiration from — and feel a tremendous debt to — courageous people who risk everything to stand up to oppression. The Ladies in White are a stirring example,” said Peter Goettler, president and CEO of the Cato Institute.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Ladies in White (Damas de Blanco) have a simple message: The political prisoners of Cuba are our sons, our brothers, and our husbands. They must not be forgotten.

Every Sunday, the Ladies in White gather, or attempt to gather, for Mass at Saint Rita de Casia Church in Havana, followed by a procession down Fifth Avenue. They wear white to symbolize the peaceful nature of their protest, and each wears a photograph of a loved one who is in prison. For this the authorities have constantly harassed them and organized mob violence against them.

The movement began on March 18, 2003, when journalist Héctor Maseda Gutiérrez was arrested in his home in Havana and sentenced to 20 years in prison for criticizing the regime of Fidel Castro. His case drew worldwide attention, with Amnesty International calling him a prisoner of conscience and demanding his release. Around 75 others were arrested at the same time, in an incident that has been called the Black Spring. All have since left prison, though not unconditionally, with the majority having had to leave Cuba. Since that time, sporadic arrests of journalists, lawyers, and other intellectuals have continued in Cuba, belying the myth that with normalized relations, Cuba’s human rights record would improve. If anything, it has deteriorated.

Two weeks after Maseda was arrested, his wife Laura Pollán Toledo brought together a group of wives, mothers, sisters, and daughters of the imprisoned to pray for their loved ones. They have continued to gather each Sunday, and the movement has since spread to other churches throughout Cuba. Although they are not a political party and do not have an overtly political program, they seek freedom of expression for all and the release of prisoners of conscience in Cuba. In recognition of their courage, the Ladies in White were the 2005 recipients of the Sakharov Prize for Freedom of Thought, awarded by the European Parliament. The Cuban government prohibited them from attending the award ceremony in Strasbourg, France.

In 2015 Berta Soler, one of the leaders of the group, told the U.S. Senate, “Our aspirations are legitimate…. Our demands are quite concrete: freedom for political prisoners, recognition of civil society, the elimination of all criminal dispositions that penalize freedom of expression and association and the right of the Cuban people to choose their future through free, multiparty elections. We believe these demands are just and valid. Even more importantly, for us they represent the most concrete exercise of politics, a step in the direction of democratic coexistence. Cuba will change when the laws that enable and protect the criminal behavior of the forces of repression and corrupt elements that sustain the regime change.”

As the first step, the Ladies in White demand the release of all political prisoners. The outlook for many of the prisoners is grim; prison conditions are deplorable, visits are rare, and even their mail is intercepted by the authorities. And the Ladies themselves have faced increasing police harassment and arrest in recent years, as the Cuban government tries to hide-but not correct-its habit of quashing dissent. Laura Pollán died in 2011 under gravely suspicious circumstances. But the movement she founded continues: The Ladies in White will meet, pray, and bear witness every Sunday until Cuba’s political prisoners are freed.

Mentoring Dreamers to Awaken their Dreams.


Give the spark that may get fanned and become High rise flames and Fire

Begin to light we must ignite the latent subconscious and fight for our Right.

I Wake up the dreamers and demand their need for rights
In the dead corner of their hippocampus lies a sleeping, latent WISH

In the dead of the night,

the mentor makes you set your sights  and

warns of the dangers of letting it remain dormant,

hibernating, not knowing, never knowing

What is inside your brain –

the latent  Potentials and Dreams
Mentor calls for your arms

to begin the Motion arising out of this E Motion.
There are goodbyes and there are no second glances
For in the middle,

We, we see the glimpse
Of the mass of wishes wanting to come alive and

take control of our FOCUS our FUTURE.
They CREATE our desire to  fight

the life’s battles ahead to make these dreams come true.

We’re living trees of our own anarchy
Mentees take hands
It’s our time to give this life its only chance
Not one step back
A Pure Heart will take a stand

Inner liberation thrills
Echoing through the hearts

the beginning of our new being

Take pride as this is the vision for us to live by or die, or die

We”re coming
Light the Spark we must ignite we fire to fight begin our night
We’re coming

 

Inspired by the Story by Chanakya.

चाणक्य नीति: जानिए किन लोगों की मदद न करें और रहें दूर
आचार्य चाणक्य ने अपनी एक नीति में 3 ऐसे लोगों के बारे में बताया है जिनकी मदद न करें और उनसे दूर रहें।

चाणक्य नीति में आचार्य कौटिल्य ने अपनी एक नीति में बताया है कि किन लोगों की मदद नहीं करनी चाहिए वरना आप खुद परेशानी में पड़ सकते हैं। आचार्य चाणक्य ने बताया कि कुछ लोग ऐसे होते हैं जिनकी मदद करने पर आप स्वयं मुश्किल में पड़ सकते हैं। समय, काल, परिस्थिति, धर्म और नीतियों को ध्यान में रखकर आचार्य चाणक्य ने कुछ लोगों को वर्ग विशेष में बांटा है। इसके अनुसार उन्होंने बुद्धि और चतुराई के उपयोग से कुछ ज्ञान की बाते बताई हैं। जानिए ये 3 लोग कौन हैं जिनकी मदद कभी नहीं करनी चाहिए

-चाणक्य ने अपने श्लोक में बताया है कि – मूर्खाशिष्योपदेशेन दुष्टास्त्रीभरणेन च।
दु:खिते सम्प्रयोगेण पंडितोऽप्यवसीदति।

1. मूर्ख व्यक्ति -आचार्य ने जिन लोगों से दूर रहने की बात कही है, उसमें पहला व्यक्ति है मूर्ख। यदि हम किसी मूर्ख व्यक्ति को जानते हैं तो उससे दूर ही रहना चाहिए। मूर्ख व्यक्ति को ज्ञान देने की कोशिश भी न करें। हम मूर्ख को ज्ञान देकर उसकी भलाई करने की सोचते हैं, लेकिन मूर्ख व्यक्ति इस बात को नहीं समझेगा। ये लोग फिजूल तर्क-वितर्क करते हैं, जिससे हमारे समय का नुकसान होगा। इसीलिए ऐसे लोगों से दूर ही रहना चाहिए।

2. बुरे चरित्र वाला व्यक्ति – यदि किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति को जानते हैं, जिसका चरित्र ठीक नहीं है तो उससे दूर रहने में ही समझदारी है। ऐसी लोगों की भलाई करने पर या इनकी मदद करने पर भी हमारा ही नुकसान होना है। ऐसे लोगों के संपर्क में रहने से समाज और घर-परिवार में श्रेष्ठ व्यक्ति को भी अपमानित होना पड़ता है। जो लोग धर्म से भटक जाते हैं, वे स्वयं तो पाप करते ही हैं और दूसरों को भी पाप के रास्ते पर ले जाते हैं। इसीलिए ऐसे लोगों से दूर ही रहना चाहिए।

3. हमेशा बिना वजह दुखी रहने वाला व्यक्ति – चाणक्य कहते हैं कि जो लोग अपने जीवन से संतुष्ट नहीं हैं और हमेशा ही दुखी रहते हैं, उनसे दूर रहना चाहिए। इन लोगों की भलाई करने पर भी हमें दुख ही मिलता है। ऐसे लोगों का जीवन चाहे कितना भी अच्छा क्यों न हो जाए ये हमेशा दुखी रहते हैं। ये लोग दूसरों के सुख से ईर्ष्या करते हैं और कोसते रहते हैं। इस प्रकार ईर्ष्या भाव रखने वाले और बिना वजह दुखी रहने वाले लोगों से भी दूर रहने में हमारी भलाई है।

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?


Dealing with perceptions

in my mind’s eyes

hoping against hope

my presuppositions

my cognitive bias

my hyper criticism brutally

and honestly delivered

Reacted fiercely

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Interpreted differently

Forgetting all the time

There could be another way

May be it means something else

Meanings, judgements passed

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Forgetting our Being Human!

The tendencies to err

To become ruthless

Behave unnaturally with vengeance

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

In the meaningless repetitive

Arguments to prove us Right

Leaving sanity, wisdom

Ignoring subtle visible facts

Getting self centred

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

To prove I’m always right

No remorse, no feelings and

Emotions towards others

No empathy no sympathy

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Being mean before we know it

Mean machines we become

And wonder

Mean machine or

Meaning making Machine –

who am I ?

Is that me?

Who have I become

A Moron, a sadist

A masochist

Or just Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

(Writing poetry after many years! It needs a deep provocation, a shining up a mentors huge stick! And it just flowed)

Get Happy Like the Danes: A Practical Guide to More Hygge in Your Life. Interesting article


Hygge (pronounced HOO-gah) roughly translates to a sense of coziness, togetherness, and well-being. It is warmth, comfort, slowness, intimacy, rusticity, and simplicity. The Danes spend their days and nights pursuin

via Get Happy Like the Danes: A Practical Guide to More Hygge in Your Life

When Forgiving oneself is the hardest kind of forgiveness.


I foundis artic thle very interesting and wort a read.  Sharing.

 

Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T.
Mindful Anger

When Forgiving Yourself Is the Hardest Kind of Forgiveness
How do you forgive yourself even when it feels impossible?
Posted Oct 02, 2017

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So you’ve done something wrong. You’ve hurt someone else or yourself, and now you feel angry, guilty, sad, or ashamed. If someone else had wronged you, you’d want an apology, and then you’d decide whether or not to forgive them. But when it’s you who’s done the wronging, the steps are less clear. Maybe you don’t believe you deserve forgiveness, or you do but don’t know how to self-forgive. Either way, you feel awful.

How do you forgive yourself even when it feels impossible?

The first thing I’d like you to do is to acknowledge and appreciate the way you feel right now. Acknowledge that not everyone is self-aware or empathetic enough to admit they’ve done something wrong. Appreciate that you’re the kind of person who can recognize your faults and mistakes and say, “I did this; I am responsible.” You’ve done something wrong, yes, but at your core, you are a good person.

You may have read one of my earlier articles about forgiving others. Many of the principles of self-forgiveness are the same as forgiving someone else. When you forgive another or forgive yourself, you let go of your grievances and judgments and allow healing to start. By “let go” I don’t mean you pretend it never happened or say that what happened was OK. Forgiveness isn’t a pardon or an excuse, and it doesn’t mean you can’t continue to have feelings about what happened. Forgiving means accepting what happened and finding a way to move forward.

As a marriage and family therapist, I’ve worked with many patients on self-forgiveness. Some have done things that may seem unforgivable, but there’s one thing that those who’ve done the “unforgivable” and those who’ve done the easier-to-forgive have in common: They’re all human. Human beings make mistakes. Some mistakes are small, and some are enormous, but they’re all made for the same reason: We are imperfect creatures, and we’re all deserving of forgiveness.

We’re all doing the best we can with the tools we have. Sometimes those tools aren’t very helpful; our parents weren’t good role models, or our perceptions and judgments are flawed, or our beliefs and points of reference don’t serve our interests. I want you to sit quietly for a moment and say to yourself, “I did what I did because I am human and human beings aren’t perfect.”

The next step toward self-forgiveness is seeing the whole picture of the situation that needs releasing. This means you need to accept what happened,
understand how and why it happened, and see all that came out of it—the obvious bad and the not-so-obvious good.

To forgive yourself, you need to mindfully expand your view of what happened. First, you must own what you have done and the consequences of your actions. And, you need to accept that there’s nothing you can do to change the past.

via When Forgiving Yourself Is the Hardest Kind of Forgiveness | Psychology Today

Excellent short books and download from ChangeThis.


Change speeds. Tom Peters, author of The Excellence Dividend, reading the umpteenth article on how we must now do everything in business at a jillion miles an hour, thought “What a crock,” and decided to pen a response. Read The Speed Trap.
Change sales. James Kouzes, Barry Posner, and Deb Calvert, authors ofStop Selling & Start Leading, discuss how sales can transform “values into actions, visions into realities, obstacles into innovations, separateness into solidarity, and risks into rewards.” ReadWhat If Sellers Behaved as Leaders?
Change the future. Alice Mann, author of Future First, helps leaders plan for, and bring about a more positive future, by detailing “eight essential business practices for futureproofing your company.” ReadFutureproof.
Change relationships. Mary Abbajay, author of Managing Up, suggests we stop wishing the workplace was more of a meritocracy, and start developing a positive and productive relationship with our boss to drive our success.” Read Don’t Suck Up, Manage Up.
Change beliefs. Hylke Faber, author of Taming Your Crocodiles, believes knowing who we truly are is the core of effective leadership and a fulfilling life, and helps us define and overcome our deepest fears to get us there. ReadTaming Your Seven Crocodiles.
Change size. Sharon Rowe, author ofThe Magic of Tiny Business, discusses the many advantages of scaling your business to the needs of your life, and to the needs of society. Read Finding the Magic in “Tiny” Business.

Today’s Inspirational Quote: WONDERFUL!


Did you know…

… that today is Close to You Day? Karen and Richard Carpenter’s song “(They Long to Be) Close to You” was released on this day in 1970 and quickly became a pop music favorite. Celebrate today by getting close to someone you love!

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Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“Look up, laugh loud, talk big, keep the color in your cheek and the fire in your eye, adorn your person, maintain your health, your beauty, and your animal spirits.”

— William Hazlitt

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London Cabbie, Brain, Navigation and Hippocampus


Did you know…

… that today is Cabbie Brains Day? In 2000, researchers at the University College of London announced research showing that the brains of London cab drivers grow and adapt to help them keep a detailed mental map of the city of London.

Brain scans revealed that cab drivers have unusually large development in one area of the hippocampus — the part of the brain which deals with navigation.

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Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.”

— Jon Katz

Random phrases and Acts of kindness todsy


  1. Wouldn’t Harm a Fly
    Meaning: Nonviolent; someone who is mild or gentle.
  • Everything But The Kitchen Sink
    Meaning: Including nearly everything possible.
  • Let Her Rip
    Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster

    Acts of kindness today

    1. Go the day without complaining
    2. Bake something for your family/friends
    3. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause

      Have a great day

Diamond is merely a Lump …


Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“A diamond is merely a lump of coal that did well under pressure.”

— Author Unknown

I was reading an article

From Ashes To Ashes To Diamonds: A Way To Treasure The Dead . It is very interesting ! It talks about “From Ashes To Ashes To Diamonds: A Way To Treasure The Dead””

Most of the diamonds synthesized from cremated remains come out blue, due to trace amounts of boron in the body. These diamonds, made from the ashes of animals, were created through the same process used to make diamonds from human remains.

I once said to a mentee that you are a Raw Diamond and a good mentor can turn you into a Masterpiece.  I mentioned 3 different cuts Indian Cut vs Belgium Cut vs Russian Cut which is given to the Raw Diamond. 
  1. Where a stone is cut has no more relation to the quality of the cut. At least not in what is observable in the finished product. There definitely still is a difference in yield, but that is only of concern for the manufacturer.
  2. The difference in cut-quality depends upon the goals and the organisation of the manufacturer. The cutting might be anywhere in the world for that matter. Therefore, you can still find very nicely cut Russian-cuts, a growing percentage of high quality Indian-cuts and in bigger stones, still more than Gary thinks, mostly Belgian-cut stones.
  • Pre Glasnost Russians cut by the text book with little regard for yield. Russian was the best cut.
  • Belgium has very little cutting today – some is very good – most is pre prepared and sent to Asia for finishing.
  • A few years back all Indian and most Israel diamonds were sold thru Belgium as Belgian Cut – or the better cut stones as Russian Cut.
  • Today it does not matter much as there are terrible and beautiful diamonds cut everywhere. Buy the diamond and not the location – that is the best advice.

Same things almost apply to the Mentor who becomes the Sculptor for the Masterpiece or the Diamond cutter improving the 4C Qualities of the Diamonds and bringing out their inner FIRE and increasing the yield by cuts so that the Weight gives the desired price to the seller.

Sometimes, though it gives me the feeling that the Mentees are not finally CARBON so essential for making of a Diamond but are made of a brittle, fragile sandstone which can only be crushed to make sand and used in the plinth of a building and NOT Diamond. The death wish of the mentee, in such cases to be a masterpiece can only be fulfilled if the building architect designs and makes it the world’s best – otherwise it remains another mundane structure.

To me personally, Mentoring is both art and science.  There are thousands of approaches and there would be million mentors in the world each monopolising their own tricks of the trade and techniques and approaches.  I just focused on 11 of them and practiced them for 20 years.  It does not make me a diamond ! or even diamond material ready for the cuts.  The mentor leaves behind the legacy of mentees who when they do well – the mentor becomes PUREST FORM OF CARBON and may not require any polish – just the basic things they do to be the Blue Diamond preserved by some as their Dead.  That would be my last wish! 

88.8 numerologically may not be ok but ..


Then I read this article somewhere

I Quote

4 Reasons Why You Are Seeing 888 – The Meaning of 888

Are you suddenly seeing 888 everywhere? You were guided here to help prepare yourself for the next stage.

As humans, we are all supported by the Universal Creator and a benevolent spiritual team of guardian angels and spirit guides that steer us in our life purpose and help us remember who we truly are.

One of the ways the Universe communicates with us is through repetitive numbers. For example, seeing 888 everywhere is not just a coincidence, but a message that you need to decode.

This message is important for you to understand as it is a step in your spiritual advancement. Here are the four possible reasons why you are seeing 888 at this time in your life.

1st Meaning of 888: You Have Knowledge and Wisdom to Share

The meaning of 888 can relate to a completion of a spiritual learning. What was meant to be learned was learned.

You weren’t born knowing who you truly are or what you are meant to do in every moment of your life. But you found your way here and realized that every experience in your life – up to this point – was filled with a lesson that helped you learn more about who you truly are.

And from this, you gained wisdom. Wisdom is knowing when to use what you learned to make a situation in your life better.

Your wisdom becomes one of your most trusted sources for guidance and when you share your wisdom, it becomes a guiding post providing inspiration and direction for others as they experience similar situations along their life paths.

You gain a greater sense of purpose for living your own life as you help shape the future path for others as they find meaning from your experiences and wisdom. Your impact affects them personally as they embark upon their own life journey to positively influence others.

You remember that every person that crosses your path becomes better when you contribute your knowledge and wisdom – ultimately making this world a better place for all.

“The wisdom acquired with the passage of time is a useless gift unless you share it.” ― Esther Williams, American Athlete / Actress (1921 – 2013)

2nd Meaning of 888: You Receive Only What You Are Ready to Receive

The meaning of 888 can relate to something that you’ve seeded some time ago and it is finally ready for harvesting. And your return is more than what you planted! On another level, this harvest can also refer to mastering a new skill or some new spiritual learning. Once you truly understand that new knowledge, you’ll be ready to move on to the next level of your spiritual evolution.

As you advance, you understand that your life is a series of choices every day, and every choice you make is like planting or sowing a seed. A seed is anything you give, such as your time, money, resources or love. From the standpoint of “sowing and reaping,” your choices have consequences. So when you see 888, the Universe is letting you know that it’s time to reap whatever you have planted through your choices.

This means every word you spoke and every step you took led you in the direction of your life today. This includes what you read, what you watched and listened to, what you learned, who you spent your time with and what you invested in. All your past choices influenced who you’ve become so far and what you have, or will have soon.

It took patience and persistence. Things were challenging for a while, but you kept going, and now you’ll see what the Universe has waiting for you.

Whatever you’re going to reap – a personal dream, a professional goal, financial prosperity, a relationship resolution, or spiritual healing – seeing 888 is a clear sign that the ripe fruits of your labor are ready to get picked.

In matters of relationships of any kind, the most important part of sowing is your intention behind the giving, even a simple thought is a form of giving. Be sure you are genuinely being helpful, generous and truly happy to give so you can also reap generously and happily in return. Remember that life is like an echo and what you send out in the world, will come back to you. So whatever you think, say or do has a ripple effect, touching everyone and everything. When you look at your life today, what are you sending out that is coming back to you?

In this context, when you see 888, it basically means what you give is what you get. What you see in the world is a mirror of what you have given. So make sure to give the world the best that you have, and the best will come back to you.

“The world is a great mirror. It reflects back to you what you are. If you are loving, if you are friendly, if you are helpful, the world will prove loving and friendly and helpful to you. The world is what you are.” – Thomas Dreier, American Editor (1884 – 1976)

3rd Meaning of 888: You Have an Abundance Mindset That Attracts Opportunities to You

Seeing 888 can mean that you are shifting your perspective to focus on the goodness of what you have in your life and “what is working well” for you. In this sense, you are focusing on the positive things. As you focus on all the wonderful things that surround you, you’re clearing the path for more positive energy to flow into all areas of your life and creating a place for abundance.

When you have a true abundance mindset, opportunities find their way to you more easily, which can lead to achieving financial goals and other favorable end results. The Universe sends you situations that have the same energy of your vibration. Because it’s all energy, the Universe will rearrange itself to match your abundant mindset. Known as the law of attraction, it’s the energy you are focusing on and attracting to you. So when you trust and feel confidently positive about your choices, the Universe will bring you experiences that will match this feeling.

The important point is that you have freedom — the freedom to choose your thoughts and the way you react to situations. Although you can’t control events, you can control your attitude toward those events.

So whether you’re focused on managing financial or legal matters, thinking of a career change or becoming self-employed, or even improving your personal relationships, it’s up to you to have a positive mindset. This will attract more abundance into your life, because like attracts like!

When you see 888, remember this: No one can ever take away your freedom to choose your attitude. When you choose to have an abundance mindset, everything becomes a possibility. There are no limits to what you can have and who you can become.

When you imagine a world based on giving rather than taking, you can see a whole new world with many possibilities. The Universe is abundant and there is more than enough of everything to go around for everyone.

4th Meaning of 888: You Are in The Flow of True Abundance

It is commonly known that the number pattern 888 symbolizes financial abundance and material wealth. Whenever you see 888, the Universe has noticed the efforts you put into your work or professional projects and it’s ready to issue a paycheck, so to speak. In that respect, seeing 888 signifies that some of your projects have come to an end and you are ready to harvest what you’ve seeded which translates into financial reward.

However, being in the flow of abundance isn’t always about having lots of money. Having financial abundance but being a slave to it in some way is not living in true abundance. When you live in true abundance, you remember that you came from the Universal Source. This means you are an individualized expression of the Creator. Like a ray of sunshine, you are an expression of the golden sun and you radiate from it. From this perspective, you’re radiating light into this world by sharing, giving and serving. In the big picture, you see that there is no lack because you originally came from the Universal Source of love and abundance.

A good measurement of your level of abundance is the amount of peace you feel within. The more aligned you are with the flow of the Universe, the more you will allow the divine to effortlessly flow through you in order to feel calmness and harmony at the core of your being.

What Should You Do Next When You See 888?

Life is living in the details. Being grateful for the little things means you recognize that everything is a miracle, even the air you breathe each day. According to John Hopkins Medicine, you take about 17,000 breaths a day, so that’s 17,000 opportunities to be thankful!

When you vibrate in gratitude for the small miracles, your energy for gratitude will radiate significantly more when big miracles happen. So the more thankful you are, the more you’ll attract positive abundance in all parts of your life. As a tip, gratitude also shortens the time to receive abundance. Similar to heating water, when you increase the temperature, the speed of boiling is faster. So add the warmth of thankfulness to everything in your life!

The truth is that the material things of this world won’t last forever, so recognize the things that DO last forever, and build your life around them. You are the artist in your life so be intentional in the life you want to create.

Abundance is present everywhere and it’s waiting for you to realize it. When you are aware of it, you can receive it, be grateful for it, and ultimately be in its flow. It is your birthright. No one is more or less worthy of abundance. You just need to accept it. And when you are grateful to receiving it, you experience even more abundance.

In the end, seeing 888 is a message of being in the flow of divine abundance. As you internally release all that doesn’t serve you, your outer world aligns with peace, harmony and abundance. In this higher state of being, you can create everything you can imagine for the highest good of all.

Go forth and build!” End Quote

WOW! 88.8 ! No its not Poker Win but it is a Win all the same. May make me a Diet Mentor now.


So Congratulations to me.  The credit for this goes to my loving wife and family and my Doctors who did not let me waver like true mentors for one moment from my goal. They set three big strategic targets for me after my 2 heart attacks

  1. Get to 68Kg – your weight when you married 38 years ago and present a Jay as he was to your wife.  Motivating but tough.
  2. Second Get to Under 90 Kg before May 2018 and maintain the weight.
  3. Come to 80 Kilos by 31st July and you will have nearly Reversed your Heart disease by strict medical management, Walking as the only exercise other than some breating Yoga exercises and Extremely strict Dietary conrols and managemnt.

 

I like to MEASURE.  Without measuring nothing is achieved.  I used different Apps for Walking measurement, Steps measurement, Weight measurement, BP measurement, Sugar measurement

Without Documentation of what you do, you can not prove as people are interested to have an EMPIRICAL (sic !) EVIDENCE that what you claim is true..  So I maintained a journal in which i record all the above and my Insulin dosage plus I also record EPISODES such as the number of times I fell down, Number of times I ate out, No. of days on travel, No. of issues – fractured hand, Arthritis, Frozen shoulder, Extreme sweating etc as told to maintain by my Great Doctors who are now friends.  Without their help it was not possible.

Look at these pics – Before and After. This was ME in August 2007 when TNT CEO visited India and I had just returned from Tirupati after a headshave and a Darshan. I weighed a good 135 Kilos then and was ready for a Heart Attack.  I had stopped all forms of Alcohol in 2006 beginning and stopped Non-vegetarian food much before that by I was still eating lots of namkins and salted, fried peanuts and was smoking to glory as a chainsmoker.

dp Aut 2008As Diabetes was detected in 2006, I was put on Tablets and No Sugar, Minimal Salt food and I had reduced my food intake by about 20% overall without of course stopping the peanuts and snacks which put my blood sugar out of control and the Doctor to comment – other than your Kidneys everything seems wrong and you are waiting for a silent heart attack soon.  I changed the doctor though, as he was mostly abroad and was not guiding me correctly and I was left to the mercy of his wire thin dietician who had run out of ideas about giving me recipe’s as none of her 20 recipe’s worked.
dp july 2007 Weight drop after diabetes was not very significant but I managed to get the photographer to get this shot so I look thinner in the picture atleast with a french beard or a ‘goatee”.  🙂 I still weighed 132 Kilos in July 2008

The below picture is when I was honoured as an Honorary Professor of SIBM Pune, Bangalore by the Chairman of Symbiosis Dr. Muzumdar.  I was donating all the honorarium earned adding something from my own for their library.  Did so from 2000 to 2014.

June 2010 and I still weighed 135 Kilos as you can see from the pic below. DP June 2010

The picture below is 6 months after my 2 quick silent heart attacks of which one was noticed in Feb 14 by Symbiosis students and I was admitted to Narayana Hrudayalaya of the world famous Dr. Devi Shetty.  My Weight 108 Kg. August 2014.  When admitted the famed doctor said it is a case requiring triple bypass but your heart pumps at 15% and it is not feasible to operate. They did PET Scan and other tests and put me in ICCU for 8 days which were very boring with hospital diet food and smells and nauseating atmosphere . Two great things happened. 1. I stopped snoring 2. I stopped smoking thereafter. cropped-dp-barcode-with-tagline.jpeg

Dr. Shetty also advised me to meet the HOD of Endocrinology and now my friend Dr. Satish Kumar for putting me on Insulin, his medication and diet controls.

I was very reluctant to take insulin. Wanted to hire a nurse or go to a hospital to get injected as I would relate it to 14 injections in the stomach thing which was a fear I had about the dog bite.  Although I had a pet dog in my childhood called Tomy but I was very afraid of injections in the stomach.  But I changed my fears and went on with treatment.

Next came diet. After 2 – 4 changes of dieticians opinions Dr. Satish asked me to cut food intake to a total of 20% of what I was eating before the Episodes and my wife would listen to his advice intently and make me accept and adapt to this extremely strictly.  She maintained my food timings, quantity and watched for my excesses I would indulge on my walks etc. and added couple of juices = White gourd and fresh Grass juice to my morning breakfast.  Daughter pitched in with her client’s Sericha Tea with lunch and dinner and another daughter suggested Figs to reduce cholestrol with breakfast.

All in all I was in good hands = well disciplined, well monitored and controlled.

Weight 135 Kg.jayparkhe2028729 copy 2Dec2011

My only task was to Walk. I had started short walks post retirement in the morning and evening.  Dr. Satish motivated me to increase it periodically.  So from 2.5Km a day I have come to average 12.5 Km per day this year.  In April I crossed 10000Km on the Nike Apps meant for runners but I measured my Km walked.

All of this worked.  Then this year I realised I sleep a lot in the day time some times 2 to 6 hours as sisesta.  My weight touched on April 9 2018 98 Kilos and I was told to stop sleeping in the noon and instead walk for about 2 Km in the Sun.  It started showing results.

Post my birthday, I fitted into Readymade Slim fit Jeans after many many years and you can see the delight on my face. But I still had to go to the next target level. dp april 9 I weighe today and my Cuttent Weight 88,8kg.  For past 15 days it has been in the range of 89 to 90 kilos.  I think I am going to achieve the 80 kilo target by the due date doing what I am doing. It is working. 

So personally, it is a bigger victory than a Poker victory as even if you win 10 Million or 1- billion you can spend it all but you can not reverse the heart disease and earn more years to live with your family and friends.  My personal gratitude to all who helped.

To end, I had a brief Mentoring intervention of 60 days with a mentee and I once shared a joke with her to say ” Jaane Kiski mentoring karta firta hai,  iska wazan 5 Kilo ghat gaya hai” – it was a rigorous mentoring assignment and what this meant is “Don’t know who he mentors or what he does but his weight has gone down by 5 Kilos” So perhaps she also deserves kudos for being with me in that crucial period of losing weight and helping me achieve my target.

So next is 80.0 Kilos by 31st July. 🙂

 

Interesting day. Great Gyan from WhatsApp on my Walks and some great phrases I learnt.


I came across this Brilliant Quote by Nobel laureate ‘Desmond Tutu’ which read..

“When the Missionaries came to #Africa they had the #Bible and we had the Land.
They said ‘Let us Pray.’
We Closed our eyes.
When we opened them, we had the Bible and they had the land…

Like wise,
When ‘Facebook & WhatsApp’ Came,
they had the ‘Internet’ and we had the Freedom.

They said it’s free.
We closed our eyes.

When we opened them, we had the #Facebook #WhatsApp and they had our Freedom..!!”

It is rightly said, “When anything is free for YOU, Your freedom will be the Price..🕯

 

Think…………………  Thank you Amarendra for sharing.

This one is wonderful and is from my Doc.

Plz remember what these
few organs are afraid of ?

Kidney:
Afraid to stay up all night.
Stomach:
Afraid of the cold food.
Lungs:
Afraid of smoke.
Liver:
Afraid of fatty stuff.
Heart:
Afraid of salty food.
Pancreas:
Afraid of big eating.
Intestines: .. Afraid of
eating seafood indiscriminately.
Eyes: .. Afraid of
mobiles & computers screens.
Gallbladder:
Afraid of not eating breakfast.

So pls take real good care of yourself !
Because spare parts may not fit.
They are very expensive….
& not necessarily available in stock !
🙏

Thank you Doc. I shall be careful.

And now some phrases I came across today.

  1. Short End of the Stick
    Meaning:
    Getting the bad end of a deal, or receiving the least desirable outcome from something.

    That’s a Nasty one! One never should face this in life. I wish everyone well and may God keep you away from having a bad deal or receiving the least desirable outcome.  May you be safe and hail and hearty and healthy.

  2. Quality Time
    Meaning: 
    Spending time with another to strengthen the relationship.

    Sounds impossible in this virtual world NO?  A speaker on Youtube was saying we should not see our smartphone messages within 1 hour of waking up.  I was raised in the Blackberry age when I had to immediately respond at all hours for emergencies, crises – and I somehow have a carry over effect, a baggage of this old habit even after retirement and I must follow what this speaker says. NO?

  3. Under the Weather
    Meaning: 
    Not feeling well, in health or mood

    That is another nasty one today. But fortunately, my Doc sent me the above advice to take care of things I otherwise take lightly or ignore.  If we take care of our body, and its vital organs by excercising self control and feeding it what is good for it – exercise and maintain health – going under the weather will remain a phrase. I wish best of health for all readers and all others. 

Inappropriate, Fell short. Random input phrases to Provoke Thoughts


  1. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees
    Meaning: 
    Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired.

    Expecting Acts of Kindness? Expecting delivery on a platter without doing any Efforts?  Well. Learn to create many many sources of generating passive income. Some may actually work and then the saying can come true. 

  2. Hit Below The Belt
    Meaning: 
    A boxing term. Also often used to refer to inappropriate words, or comments that are too personal.

    Risk and Crisis Management.

  3. Close But No Cigar
    Meaning: 
    Coming close to a successful outcome only to fall short at the end.

    It is OK. It is still a development gap. We lack FINISHIATIVE in the Race that we run and prepare to run again. Not all are able to FINISH the tasks on time all the time. So don’t get disheartened. Wake up . Prepare, Rise and begin again !

Via BrainPickings Newsletter: Theodore Roosevelt on the Cowardice of Cynicism and the Courage to Create Rather Than Criticize


I like this newsletter.  How many of us have met people who take refuge, subterfuge (deceit) of projecting they know everything as Omniscients and Demi-Gods! And their masks of Omnipotence wear out thin as the exposure hurts like Exfoliation of the soft skin exposed to the Tropical Sun. It burns like hell.

“There is nothing quite so tragic as a young cynic,” Maya Angelou wrote in contemplating courage in the face of evil, “because it means the person has gone from knowing nothing to believing nothing.”

How to prevent that cultural tragedy, which poisons the heart of a just and democratic society, is what Theodore Roosevelt (October 27, 1858–January 6, 1919) examined when he took the podium at the Sorbonne in Paris on April 23 of 1910 to deliver one of the most powerful, rousing, and timelessly insightful speeches ever given, originally titled “Citizenship in a Republic” and later included under the title “Duties of the Citizen” in the 1920 volume Roosevelt’s Writings (public library).

Theodore Roosevelt

A century before Caitlin Moran cautioned that “cynicism scours through a culture like bleach, wiping out millions of small, seedling ideas,” Roosevelt admonishes against “that queer and cheap temptation” to be cynical, and writes:

The poorest way to face life is to face it with a sneer. There are many men who feel a kind of twister pride in cynicism; there are many who confine themselves to criticism of the way others do what they themselves dare not even attempt. There is no more unhealthy being, no man less worthy of respect, than he who either really holds, or feigns to hold, an attitude of sneering disbelief toward all that is great and lofty, whether in achievement or in that noble effort which, even if it fails, comes to second achievement. A cynical habit of thought and speech, a readiness to criticise work which the critic himself never tries to perform, an intellectual aloofness which will not accept contact with life’s realities — all these are marks, not as the possessor would fain to think, of superiority but of weakness. They mark the men unfit to bear their part painfully in the stern strife of living, who seek, in the affection of contempt for the achievements of others, to hide from others and from themselves in their own weakness. The rôle is easy; there is none easier, save only the rôle of the man who sneers alike at both criticism and performance.

One of the tendencies I find most troubling in contemporary culture is that of mistaking cynicism for critical thinking. This confusion seeds a pernicious strain of unconstructive and lazily destructive opprobrium. Amid this epidemic of self-appointed critics, it becomes harder and harder to remember just how right Bertrand Russell was when he asserted nearly a century ago that “construction and destruction alike satisfy the will to power, but construction is more difficult as a rule, and therefore gives more satisfaction to the person who can achieve it.”

With an eye to those lazy critics — the dead weight of society — Roosevelt offers:

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat… The man who does nothing cuts the same sordid figure in the pages of history, whether he be a cynic, or fop, or voluptuary. There is little use for the being whose tepid soul knows nothing of great and generous emotion, of the high pride, the stern belief, the lofty enthusiasm, of the men who quell the storm and ride the thunder.

The entire twenty-seven-page speech, found in Roosevelt’s Writings and on par with JFK’s superb speech on the artist’s role in society, is a masterpiece of thought and feeling, replete with insight into what it means to be a good citizen, a good leader, and a complete human being. Complement this particular fragment with Leonard Bernstein on the countercultural courage of resisting cynicism, Goethe on the only criticism worth voicing, and philosopher Daniel Dennett on how to criticize with kindness, then revisit Eleanor Roosevelt on how uncynical personal conviction powers social change.