Meet my Virtual Friend – Mr. Nelson Wong


Mr. Nelson Wong and I connected on Ecademy, around the year 2004.  We haven’t yet spoken to each other or virtually or physically shaken hands.  We still consider each other as respected friends whose views we like to read and understand.  Ecademy was a great platform where I learnt “ Connections first – Business Later” and I later added – Business may or may not happen ever but we shall acquire a friend. And Indeed, Ecademy had a campaign called a Friend in Every City which was very popular.

When I requested, Nelson about my sort of inactive blog since 2004 which I had re-activated without any SEO or HTML, CSS knowledge and it was going to touch 100,000 views and I wish to interview and share 20 of my friends, colleagues, mentees, Mentors, Seniors – he readily agreed.

He also helped me with the editing of the interview as this is the first time I am doing these and I am grateful for his help for helping with this edition of the said interview.

 

So who is Mr. Nelson Wong?

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Mr. Nelson Wong was born in Singapore. He is married. By way of education, he did his BS in Computer Science & in Business Administration, both at the University at Albany, New York.  By profession he is a trade & data analyst in international trade & finance. He is also an e-Business owner of a start-up – www.jnellyns.com.

He has almost four decades of working experience in IT in the soft commodities, precious metals, oil & gas, accounting & forestry products sectors. He was also an external consultant & international trade analyst with the UNECE/FAO, Geneva, Switzerland, for 9 years.

His critique of current politics in USA is incisive, precise and very authentic.  I enjoy reading his posts on Facebook.

 

 

  1. What motivated you to become what you ARE today?

 

  1. Family background. Growing up in a lower income family motivated me to break out of that poverty cycle. A poverty cycle can become a self-feeding vicious cycle, if you don’t break out of it.
  2. This gave me the tools that I needed to move forward & ahead.
  3. They gave me the encouragement to become what I dare to be today.

 

  1. What is the greatest joy you get from what you do?

 

  1. Seeing what I do accomplished its purpose. Having a purpose in what I do is important to me. Otherwise, it’ll drain me instead of driving me.
  2. In almost everything that I do, I learned something new. This gives me joy too.
  3. The ability to share with others about what I’ve learned. Sometimes, knowledge is very much like manure. Keep it in one place & it benefits nobody. Spread it around & everybody gets a slice of the action.

 

  1. What do your fans mean to you?

 

  1. Not much. My focus has always been on the task at hand.
  2. While I’ve no problems working as a member of a team, I’ve always enjoyed working alone.
  3. While I appreciate having friends who will encourage me in what I do, I’m not too much into building a fan base. I don’t have a celebrity mindset.

 

  1. What are you working on next?

 

This is provided that I can actually call it a day anytime soon. I’ve always wanted to design a system in bringing water into dry or arid regions or areas undergoing droughts. Believe me, it’s a matter of time before some countries go to war over fresh drinking water. It’s not a matter of “if” but “when.” We’ve also seen the horrific effects of droughts around the world over the last few years due to climate change. The recent fires in California is a stark reminder that we need water & we need it fast. Climate change is real & it’s becoming deadly.

 

  1. Who are your favourite authors?

 

This is a very good question. I actually don’t have any favorite authors apart from JRR Tolkien. I’ve a collection of about 2,000 books in both hardcopy & softcopy versions. Many of them were written by a mixed bag of authors. I normally read what I need to read & learn something, from data science to programming & from photography to playing the bass guitar.

 

  1. Do you remember the first story you ever read, and the impact it had on you?

One of the first was “The Jungle Book” by Rudyard Kipling. I was a cub scout then & we were encouraged to read this book to understand the birth of the Boy Scouts movement. I’ve always loved animals & nature, so this story made me appreciate them even more.

  1. How do you discover the authors you read?

Usually through research & also through recommendations in technical papers & reviews, as well as in trade magazines. As I’ve said before, I’m skewed more towards subject matters than towards the authors themselves.

  1. What are your five favourite books, and why?

 

  1. The R Book by Michael J. Crawley – This is a favorite reference book of mine in R language programming. It’s almost like a Bible to me as I’ve been programming in R for only 2 years.
  2. Financial Risk Modelling & Portfolio Optimization with R by Bernhard Pfaff – This is a favorite reference book of mine in understanding financial data science from an R programmer’s prospective.
  3. The Lord of the Rings Trilogy by JRR Tolkien – I can hardly think of anyone whose writings that could challenge & stretch the human imagination just as much as JRR Tolkien’s.
  4. Music Theory for the Bass Player by Ariane Cap – A very helpful & enlightening book in merging music theory with fingering (finger aerobics) in a very logical & progressive fashion, for bass guitar players.
  5. Various books on photography & travels by the National Geographic Society. These books helped to broaden my mind & enlarge my vision. Very hard to read these books without their amazing photographs embedding themselves inside my mind, for almost a lifetime.

 

  1. What do you read for pleasure?

 

Reading & browsing through books on travels, nature, animals, photography & music.

 

  1. What is your e-reading device of choice?

 

It has to be my iPad mini. I’ve up to 100 of my favorite books in my iPad & at my age, it’s also much easier to read the news from my iPad than from my cell phone.

 

  1. What inspires you to get out of bed each day?

 

I think of it more as an ingrown self-discipline than an inspiration. I used to get up at 5:30am in the morning while growing up in SE Asia. Now that I’m working from home, I still get up at between 5:45am to 6:15am in the morning, even on weekends.

 

  1. When you’re not working, how do you spend your time?

 

Spending time with the family to create memories, listening to music, playing the bass guitar, going for nature walks, nature photography & catching up with friends in church on weekends. Apart from a good movie & watching the news, I’d avoid watching any TV at all. And of course, I still take my wife to the movies, romantic dinners & shopping every now & then.

 

  1. Do you have some work and rest related non-negotiable rules?

 

I spend up to 12 hours a day working on my eBusiness & my consultancy business. I’ll take a catnap after lunch if I can spare the time. Other than that, no work is to be done after 10pm & weekends. Weekends are for the wife. I take over the things she would have to do otherwise on weekends.

 

  1. Do you remember the first assignment you ever did?

 

Well, as a fresh computer science graduate, one of my first assignments was in data entry at an infamous investment bank in New York City in the early 80’s. I say “infamous” because this bank was liquidated & shut down later. And some of the bosses went to prison. No prizes for guessing here.

 

  1. What is your working process?

 

I tend to spend a lot of time on planning. I want to know if the task before me can be done within the time & with the resources I have in hand. I want to know what am I supposed to deliver. If there are constraints, I like to know where or what are the compromises that I’ve to make. I want to know what is the objective or purpose behind the task. I want to know who are all the stake-holders involved. So my working process is a bit like creating a mind map or running an ERP system inside my head.

 

  1. What is your unique Work Style?

 

  1. Always under promise & over deliver.
  2. Always document everything.
  3. Remember a good income is important but a good outcome is much more important.

 

  1. What is your approach and how do you Plan the Finishing touches to the work?

 

From the very onset, I’d try to visualize & imagine what the final deliverables would be like. From there, I’ll try to work backwards in streamlining the processes in factoring in the finishing touches. In working with any clients, I’d query them on their expectations & on what kind of deliverables or end results would they expect to see. If your clients cannot verbalize their expectations, you’ll end up working with a moving goal post.

 

  1. Please describe your desk.

 

A very respectable & decent organized mess, seriously.

 

  1. Where did you grow up, and did this influence your business, If Yes – How?

 

No. I grew up in SE Asia in the 70’s. In those days, I doubt anyone knew what a computer was, unless they were working in a bank or a major organization. To be fair, neither eBusiness nor big data existed anywhere back then. It was a girlfriend of a good friend of mine who introduced me to the world of computer science. She was doing her first year in computer science at Monash University then.

 

  1. When did you first started what you do?

 

Shortly after I got married in the mid-80’s. I realized that there was little financial security in working for somebody else. Worse, if I was working for a family business, which I did a few times. The lack of financial security & an absence of a career path in these companies awakened a deep desire within me to start my own business & put my nose to the grindstone. In striking out on my own as an entrepreneur in the early days were fraught with disappointments. There were many challenges. At one point, I decided that it was best to get a full-time job & worked on my business in the evenings & weekends, until I was really ready. Since then, I’ve been on my own for the last 10 years. It was quite a journey. I learned a lot.

 

Thank you, Mr. Nelson Wong.

Meet my Mentor – Mr. Askander Mirza. ExtraOrdinary Speaker.


Meet my Mentor at and President of the Garden City Toastmasters International
Mr. Askander Mirza.

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Corporate Trainer, NLP practitioner, Leadership coach, Distinguished Toastmaster, Public Speaker,
Life Coach
Mr. Mirza came to our Toast masters club to deliver an Educational Speech. Impressed, I went to meet him next
week He readily agreed to Mentor me as I explained that as a Speaker I wanted to learn and practice on Voice
and Body Language. Next week, he pushed me to give an ‘Ice Breaker’ speech impromptu! The week after, he
asked my speech write up and returned as it was not as per his guidelines. Again, I went to club – without
rehearsing and he pushed me to the Stage and gave a Thumbs up – Meaning – Rock the Stage! And, I did. He
gave few tips and then some more and sent a WhatsApp about my energy levels and Voice lowering as also Time
management in Speeches. He is humble, Hyper-Active – “Walk the Talk and Talk the Talk” and the Soul, Spirit,
Body, Mind of the Club. He is simple, humble and has a habit of Formal Attire, which he has inherited from his
beloved father – as he once told us, when the HyperCurios of the club asked him this question.
He has a Competitive spirit which I still at Peak. He participates in the Contests as also mentors, coaches new,
upcoming speakers including Aged speakers like me who are keen” Erudite” learners like him.
This is the First and the oldest Toastmasters club of Bangalore and he grapples with multiple issues without even
a frown on his smiling face and that is his speciality. As an Evaluator – he is inspiring yet Direct and clear in his
Feedback to speakers. He knows and shares that his club has highest number of Distinguished ‘toastmasters and
the Best in Class Speech Evaluators in the Bangalore town.
When I told him about my Blog and whether he would like to be interviewed – He readily agreed.
Here are some of the answers:

  1. What motivated you to become what you ARE today?
    The Quest for knowledge. In my job and my business I’d rarely come across people of knowledge or Erudite . That left me ever thirsty to associate myself with knowledgeable people, to be in Company of educated people and the search ended when I found Toastmasters.

 
2. What is the greatest joy you get from what you do?
The Joy of sharing. When you share the knowledge you have, when you help
someone in whatever manner , when you impart knowledge to someone else, the
joy , the satisfaction you get is better experienced.
3. What do your fans mean to you?
They mean everything to me. I gives immense pleasure to know that there are
people out there who recognise you, who value you, who place you in high
esteem. In this materialistic world it is definitely appreciable that there are people
who really appreciate your knowledge and experience, who value you for your
asset of knowledge rather than the assets of real estate or money.
4. What are you working on next?
I am working on to write a book on how to tackle day to day problems, to prevent
tension from building up, how to stop bad experiences and failures play on your
mind, to live in present and to plan for future.
5. Who are your favourite authors?
Dale Carnegie, Charles Dickens, Leo Tolstoy, Agatha Christie, Jane Austin, Chetan
Bhagat, Gabriel Garcia, Jibran, Bernad Shaw, Vikram Seth, R K Narayan, Ruskin
Bond, Prem Chand, Shaikh Saadi, Razia Bhat, James Hadley Chase & many more.
6. What inspires you to get out of bed each day?
The morning prayer and pre-morning prayers. I wake up at 4 am most of the days,
sometimes 5 am.
7. When you're not working, how do you spend your time?
Reading books. Watching TV and corresponding on email, face book etc.
8. Do you have some work and rest related non-negotiable rules?

When I am working I don’t like anyone or anything to disturb me. I am fully
dedicated and nothing can deviate me from my work.
I hit the bed before 10 pm and don’t pick up calls after that.
9. How do you discover the authors you read?
I opt for some popular authors. When it comes to new authors I prefer reading the
review of their books before reading the book itself. And sometimes by word of
mouth.
10. Do you remember the first assignment you ever did?
I would like to tell about my first speech rather than my professional experience as
an Engineer. My First Speech called the “ Ice Breaker” in Toastmasters parlance
was delivered in mid 2007 for which I got the Best Speaker Award at my Club.
Before that my Mentor made me deliver the speech in front of him many times, and
after lot of trial and error , corrections and improvements he gave me the signal to
deliver my first speech. Post that there is no looking back.
11. What is your working process?
While working I am opposite of procrastination. I do today what I have to do
tomorrow. I always meet my targets before time. I realise my team finds it difficult
to keep pace with me. In such situations I try to be little flexible.
12. What is your unique Work Style?
No short cuts. I sincerely do what I have to do and hope for the best results.
13. Do you remember the first story you ever read, and the impact it had on you?
Cannot be specific about the first. In our times the stories were heard from elders
rather than read. My father told a story about a scorpion and a tortoise whose
lesson was to not to trust again the person who has harmed you.
14. What is your approach and how do you Plan the Finishing touches to the work?
I divide my work in parts. Tackle one at a time. Integrate the work. Review. If
necessary reorganise it. The finishing touches are by using suitable words,
phrases and idioms wherever possible.
15. What are your five favourite books, and why?
How to win friends and Influence people, Sapiens, Three Thousand Stitches,
Yadoon ki Baraat, Nostradamus, Vulture is a patient bird, Discovery of India, My
Journey, Positive Attitude and many more.
16. What do you read for pleasure?
Short stories .
17. What is your e-reading device of choice?
Laptop
18. Please describe your desk.
A ‘S’ type chair, a small table arranged in a way that the light falls on the book
from my back. A note pad, some pens.
19. Where did you grow up, and did this influence your business, If Yes – How?
I grew up in the city of Mysore. Most of the time my father would take me along. He
was an erudite. He would have long discussions with his friends on topics like
history, religion, literature , psychology etc. That way I had lot of knowledge at a
very young age. Heard names like Frued, Shakespeare, Milton, Chalukya, Jesus,
Ben Hur, Ashoka, Buddha , Bose, Churchill, Hitler, Bernard Shaw etc at an age
when children would hardly know the names of their teachers.
I started my business in Mysore but was not so successful as Mysore is not a
good place for business.
20. When did you first started what you do?
I started my business in Mysore. Was not so successful. Went to Middle East and
started my fabrication and machineries business there. Initially it was tough. Later
on I became highly successful thanks to my technical knowledge , completing
projects before time and giving high quality at the same time. My habit of doing
tomorrow’s work today really worked and also perfect planning.

Random Phrases, My Day and Creativity


  1. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.  Two impromptu Ice-breaker speeches – moving towards Goal 1. Did not win prize, got a participation certificate but the pleasure was in audience individuals – rank strangers coming back not just complimenting but quoting me ‘VERBATIM’ and saying, they loved it, they would like to keep in touch, some even said we would like to learn a few things from you. I was humbled. 
  2. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers. I wish it does not happen to humans, pests and insects, viruses and diseases is another matter. What I noticed today is the best Evaluators club of Toastmasters had difficulty in filling the hall with audience and participants for the Marathons the Area Directors are planning to hold across city.  One actually said about ATTRITION of members? That was sad.  It said a lot about the lack of leadership and the Pull and Push of the managing committees.  
  3. Man of Few Words Meaning: A person who does not speak a great deal; someone who talks with as few words as possible.  Met an interesting person. He was my speech evaluator. His speciality is being brief and as an extempore impromptu ice breaker speaker who was pushed to speak – I had failed by exceeding the time limit.  He said he will mail his evaluation ! That’s it.  🙂 
  4. Poke Fun At Meaning: Making fun of something or someone; ridicule.  Had this experience. At the end of a dominant communicator speech the speaker did actually did not want any questions. When asked – he asked me to repeat thrice and explain 4 time and I was about to say – “Let’s take this off line as I did not ask this to challenge you but to support your views, just clarifying a point”.  Some Speakers are on their High HOrse ! They feel, they are the only one who can challenge! Anyone asking a question is a lowly minion, dimwit and brainless.  My Professorial hat tells me to answer them – Questions are never stupid – answers are – like mine 🙂 🙂 .  
  5. Hear, Hear Meaning: A shout of agreement, or to draw attention to a speaker. I asked the speaker that when a friend is faced with problems – should I make an appreciative enquiry and find what solutions he has in his mind, as he knows the problems best. Second, is my friend looking for an Affirmation that the solution he has found has my tacit support so that he can try it out with heart? I was taken round and round in derogatory circles with a menacing look on the face by a socalled Guinness Award winner and World Speech champion and I felt very sad for him.  What did I do to hurt his Ego? 
  6. On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others.  Sometimes, in a gathering when you wish to say that you are in the same boat, same page, thinking alike – it is best to use non-verbal communication like nodding your head to convey Yes, I agree.  
  7. Swinging For the Fences Meaning: Giving something your all.  One more article coming up in a new club Newsletter which was launched today. Felt great.  Meeting new Chamber of commerce and meeting some very interesting and interested people ( atleast on the face of it) I felt great and felt genuinely that there are things I can do to assist and help.  The new Chairman was receptive and said wants to have a one on one Strategy/ vision statement session.  He said he is a Visual thinker like me, that was pleasing. 
  8. Up In Arms Meaning: Angry; being roused to the point that you are ready to fight.  But I gave up. I saw on Whatsapp the pictures of a poor girl being honored by a sport shoes company and giving them her name as she could not afford them. i felt sad for someone whose dream was ignited, latent wishes brought to fore in my mentoring but had given up on them with diffidence.  I was angry inside but let go. 
  9. Quick and Dirty Meaning: Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well. Hmmm… it was a busy day, I could have gone and got my Suits overhauled now that I have lost so much weight and bought a new pair of formal shoes as the formal meetings are moving up but I just changed jackets for two occasions – Reminder to self – GO FIX THIS ASAP. 
  10. Mountain Out of a Molehill Meaning: One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems.  I found a senior evaluator indulging in overstatements, exaggerations, over praise, excessive acting skills show and was bit turned off.  Then I met him one on one for about 7 minutes, got his life story out and realised that even at our late age – the need to RECOGNITION is so high that NAME AUR FAME KE LIYE KUCHH BHI KAREGA i.e. I’ll do any thing to get name and fame. I quietly agreed to disagreed and moved on to another person by saying “Sorry, Sir, I do not wish to monopolise you, others also need your kind attention”. Thank you.

Flight Fight or Freeze?


What is your primary reaction to

Threat?

Pain?

Stress ?

Perceived Danger?

4 essential questions to ask before launching your dream | Ladders


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Tuesday Column – Jay Parkhe and 10 Character Goal Generator Random Ideas.


Every Tuesday: Jay Parkhe The Mentor shall share with you 10 Random Ideas as Character Goal Generator.

Read all of them.

See which one appeals you most and Think Why?

Is this adaptable? Do you wish to have a Character Goal like this ? Reall?

Think again or choose another. If not, Stick with it for life or re-write your own goal in your own words.

  1. Free the animals.
  2. Save a deity.
  3. Make a sacrifice for the greater good.
  4. More power.
  5. Resolve their guilt.
  6. Clear a family member’s name.
  7. Travel in space.
  8. Restart the world.
  9. Find a more interesting life.
  10. Abandon an ideology.

How are these for a starter? Some may be confusing. Leave them. Some may be weird – leave as they are randomly chosen. Leave also those that do not appeal to you.

If you can’t find what you like best – wait till next Tuesday 🙂

The One Routine Common to Billionaires, Icons and World-Class Performers


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Tuesday Column – Jay Parkhe – Character Goals


Chosen randomly Jay Mentor presents you with some choices

you may take as your character goals

  1. Better yourselves.
  2. Make a sacrifice for the greater good.
  3. Forgive somebody.
  4. Break an addiction.
  5. Find out your true identity.
  6. Gain the approval of somebody.
  7. Find peace within.

Each mentee/mentoree I meet has a different and unique need that helps them define their goals.

I shall share these regularly. Take your pick.

If you require Mentor support – write to me or call me.

Jay Parkhe – Monday Column – Motto of Life


Generating some random terms is a great way to drive into your creative faculties .

Moving To The Void. Is this going to nothingness? Is this about going towards universe as your marketplace? Do you see a void that you can fill?/is there a space you can create for your businesses?/
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Cause Squinting Eyes. 😂 Funny No? Squint (also known as strabismus) is a condition that arises because of an incorrect balance of the muscles that move the eye, faulty nerve signals to the eye muscles and focusing faults (usually long sight). …

Normally, the two eyes point in the same direction.

What can cause to see with squinting eyes?

Does this trigger a memory?An incident? Was it funny? How can I use this in my speech? Will audience enjoy it?
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Decorating A Cake With Thorns. That’s a very Nasty and Cruel thought, ain’t it?  But no one dared say this to God who designed the Rose and many other flowers with protective shields of thorns around them, did we?  May be, this means we need to have a deterrent created for sugar craving Diabetics like me from eating any part of the Sweet sugary Cake?! I don’t know. Or may be it is just a thought of creating a protective shell around a very attractive product so that the deterrent ( thorns) do not allow it to be broken or stolen. What do you think?
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Living Like A Bear In Winter. – I found this phrase funny and thought provoking. The best Bear I remember is Teddy Bear who loves Honey.  The worst memory I have is of a Hairy, Toothy, Smelly Black bear in a Zoo.  It is said ( I remember from my childhood) that a Bear when he grips a man in the jungle – he does two things – 1. He encircles the man with his arms so powerfully that the ribs break and the man succumbs 2. The bear tickles like hell – so that we die laughing.  Scary stories from childhood. Don’t know how much truth they have. 

t is a common misconception that bears hibernate during the winter. While bears tend to slow down during the winter, they are not true hibernators. Black bears, Grizzly bears and Brown bears do go into a deep sleep during the winter months, known as torpor. Hibernation is when animals “sleep” through the winter.

So taking cues from the above two if we do an attribute listing for a Startpreneur – what do we find:

  1. Hold your customer so tight that the Customer Intimacy grows into Customer Lifetime Value and loyalty.

  2. Like a bear – please the customer so much, pamper them so much that they laugh, feel happy to share their satisfaction with your products/ services and they also spread the word of mouth.

  3. Make your products so Honey like – sweet, habit forming, affordable, accessible, that the customers get addicted to your brand forever. 

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    The Hopes Of The Devil. 

    This one is straight out of Google Search as I did not have another choice 🙂

    Such hopes are highly pleasing to the devil!

    (George Lawson, “A Practical Exposition of the Book of Proverbs” 1821)

    “When a wicked man dies, his hope perishes!” Proverbs 11:7

    Men derive almost the whole of their happiness from the hope of some future good

    Wicked men may indulge themselves in hopes of eternal happiness also. Such hopes are highly pleasing to the devil, who keeps his slaves quiet by means of them, until they are brought into the same hopeless condition with himself! Thus the lief of a wicked man is spent in vain wishes, and toils, and hopes — until death kills at once his body, his hope, and his happiness!

    Does the wicked man expect Heaven? How terrible will be the punishment of his presumptuous hopes, when he shall be hurled down headlong into the depths of eternal despair!

    “But the hopes of the wicked come to nothing!” Proverbs 10:28

I’m Organisationally Challenged:) Remember him?


Did you know…

… that today is Odie’s Birthday? Odie the dog, Garfield’s best friend, first appeared on August 8, 1978, in the Jim Davis comic strip Garfield. Trivia buffs: Odie was based on a car dealership commercial written by Jim Davis, which featured Odie the Village Idiot. Davis liked the name Odie and decided to use it again.

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Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“I’m not messy. I’m organizationally challenged!”

— Garfield the Cat

Jay’s Mentor Wisdom Quotes


MENTOR Humor (don’t these sound familiar to some famous Quotes?

  1. Progress does not happen without change, and change doesn’t happen without an open mind. – Jay Parkhe

  2. When no one challenges your ideas; it is even more important to closely evaluate them. – Jay Parkhe

  3. You can’t discover new places if you never leave the comfort of your home. – Jay Parkhe

  4. The more you like yourself, and the less you’re likely to be like others and THAT makes you truly unique. Jay Parkhe

  5. GIVE it Everything You’ve Got, even in you smallest steps and you’ll be on the path to success, surely and certainly – Jay Parkhe

Jay’s Mantra-Random Acts of Kindness Today.


  1. Go out of your way to thank someone today!
  2. Make someone a cup of coffee
  3. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!
  4. Buy someone a coffee
  5. Go the day without complaining
  6. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  7. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  8. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call
  9. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!
  10. Know someone who’s feeling under the weather? Pay them a visit!

From my respected Mentor – Dr. Marshall Goldsmith


In this week’s interview with Chris Cuomo, my great friend, journalist and news anchor of CNN’s Cuomo Prime Time interviews me about one of the trickiest bad habits in my book, What Got You Here Won’t Get You There.
I hope you enjoy and learn as Chris and I explore the concept of “adding too much value”.
For more articles and videos, check out all of my posts on LinkedIn!
Is It Worth It?
Is It Worth It?
Chris Cuomo, journalist and news anchor on CNN’s Cuomo Prime Time, recently interviewed me about one of the trickiest bad habits in my book, What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, adding too much value. We explore the concept in the short excerpt from our interview below. Chris: Chris Cuomo here with the … Continue reading Is It Worth It to Add Value? Not Always.…»

All of these videos are online, so if you haven’t had a chance to see one yet or if you’d like a refresher they are available at Thinkers50. I hope you find these videos to be fun and useful and that you continue to share them!

Life is good.
Marshall

About the Marshall Goldsmith Thinkers50 Video Blog

The Marshall Goldsmith Thinkers50 Video Blog and accompanying written articles incorporate learnings from my 38 years of experience with top executives, as well as material from my previous research, articles, and books, including What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, MOJO, Coaching for Leadership, and my new book, New York Times and Wall Street Journal best-selling Triggers.

Jay’s Quick Poetry-The Sharp And Grand Rock


Short story that inspired me to write a Quick Poem below

Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are called work, family, health, friends and integrity. And you’re keeping all of them in the air. But one day you finally come to understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls — family, health, friends, integrity — are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered. And once you truly understand the lesson of the five balls, you will have the beginnings of balance in your life.

The Sharp And Grand Rock

A Poem by Jay Parkhe

Whose rock is that? I think I know.
Its owner is quite angry though.
He was cross like a dark potato.
I watch him pace. I cry A’llo.

He gives his rock a shake,
And screams you’ve made a bad mistake.
The only other sound’s the break,
Of distant glasses and bars awake.

The Rock is sharp, Grand and deep,
But he has promises to keep,
Tormented with nightbirds he never sleeps.
Revenge is a promise a man must keep.

He rises from his flat bed,
With thoughts of violence in his head,
A flash of rage and he sees red.
Without a men-O-pause you turned and fled.

With thanks to the poet, Robert Frost, for the underlying structure

Hustler Hacker Hipster : the 3 personality types you NEED for your tech start-up


via Hustler Hacker Hipster : the 3 personality types you NEED for your tech start-up

What mentors do for startup founders


A startup can have all of it — a good suggestion, an expanding customer unfriendly, funding, an excellent outlook — yet discover itself floundering, struggling to cope with a transforming into team or finding out the most effective approach to make use of these bucks for enlargement. And that’s the place the appropriate mentor could be helpful, nudging the founders within the appropriate path and helping them develop each for my part and professionally.“Having the appropriate mentor is crucial. It can be the difference between making a fine decision and a disastrous one,” says Abhishek Verma, founding father of nine-month-historic startup Mojostar, a celebrity-pushed retail business. Verma receives advice from those that have been there and accomplished it before him on three counts — navigating massive partnerships and negotiating, hiring the appropriate americans, and getting to know the way to allocate capital. Verma, who became part of Myntra’s brand team previous, has drawn his mentors from the style etailer’s old management team.TIES OF suggestions

Warren Buffett – bill Gates

The Microsoft founder has commonly mentioned famed investor Warren Buffet is his adviser when it comes to ideas and investments, other than being a detailed pal. Gates has noted Buffett asked him a couple of hard questions in the early years of Microsoft, which helped him build the company into the tech giant it grew to be

Larry Ellison – Marc BenioffThey’ve have had public feuds but they’re additionally shut friends, and Oracle co-founder Larry Ellison supported Benioff throughout the early days of Salesforce, offering counsel, assist and day without work from work.bill Campbell – Jeff BezosA former Columbia institution soccer participant and educate, Campbell labored with and mentored with one of the vital greatest names in tech, including Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezos, Larry web page and Eric SchmidtWhile mentoring is constantly about a casual, very own relationship with a senior or more experienced grownup who takes an hobby in a more youthful entrepreneur with spark and power, in some instances the relationships are more formal. a few accelerators assign mentors to the startups of their programmes, while some angel investors play the role of adviser. In other circumstances, “professional mentors” engage a stake in the company to dish out suggestions.A examine by activity insight, a non-profit that supports excessive-impact entrepreneurs the world over, found that 33% of founders who are mentored via a hit entrepreneurs went on to turn into correct performers. “The magnitude of difference between the performance of companies with a success mentors and groups that lack them suggests that the cost of beneficial mentors for startups may well be above all excessive,” activity insight’s director Rhett Morris writes.Sagar Yarnalkar, founder of grocery delivery platform DailyNinja, says his mentors are also his angel investors — TaxiForSure’s Aprameya Radhakrishna, Freecharge’s Kunal Shah and Anupam Mittal of Shaadim. “Aprameya helped me plan my incentive structure to work with companions and milk carriers beneath the gadget. He had journey working with providers right through his time at TaxiForSure,” he says. Shah and Mittal helped set up conferences with key buyers. All this helped Yarnalkar bag an additional round of funding from Sequoia Capital last December. “a pretty good mentor will need the equal factor you desire and back you to the hilt,” he says.usual MENTORS IN INDIAAparameya Radhakrishna, founder of TaxiForSurePhanindra Sama, founder of RedBusKunal Shah, founder of FreechargeAnupam Mittal, founder of ShaadimGlobally, too, founders of tech giants like Apple’s Steve Jobs, Google’s Larry page and Amazon’s Jeff Bezos have mentioned how having a mentor helped them build and scale their companies.

In India, there are lots of a hit entrepreneurs who associate with more youthful ones to support build the startup ecosystem. closing yr, Niti Aayog invited purposes for its ‘Mentor India’ programme, beneath which mentors might guide schools college students in govt Atal Tinkering Labs. around 750 mentors have been chosen for programme throughout the country. whereas some entrepreneurs just put their identify down as a mentor in order that a startup can raise money, others are in fact attracted to the increase of the business and support every time feasible.

Some suppose the word ‘mentorship’ has been abused in India. “Mentors in India are overrated. basically, ninety% of the time an entrepreneur takes the name of someone as a mentor because it sounds respectable. on occasion an angel investor puts in money and leaves however is credited as a mentor,” says Somdutta Singh, vice-chairperson of Nasscom Product Council and a member of the core administration committee of girls Entrepreneurial telephone, NITI Aayog. She says many incredibly-valued startups in India grew through inserting big names as mentors after they had been beginning but the relationship wasn’t really one in every of nurturing and advising.

If entrepreneurs get a “skilled mentor”, it comes for a monthly price. Singh herself is a mentor to startups via her consulting firm and her roles at Nasscom and Niti Ayog and fees a charge for her time.“just a few accelerators charge startups charges each month for an hour of mentoring, but mentorship isn’t consultancy provider. which you can’t pay them by using the hour,” says Ishan Singh, who has led three investments and is a mentor to 10 startups, including WeDoSky and PeeBuddy. He become previously a mentor to the founders of 91 Springboard. An advisory equity stake, constantly 1-5% within the enterprise, helps the mentor be utterly aligned to the growth of the enterprise, he says.There are still risks though. PeeBuddy co-founder Deep Bajaj remembers the time a “mentor” disappeared after inquiring for a 2% stake in the enterprise. “fortunately we hadn’t issued it. but i know many startups who haven’t been as lucky,” he says.To counter this, in Israel, its innovation authority has a formalised mentor-mentee programme, which ensures that the individuals signing up as mentors are tracked online for the number of hours spent assisting startups. Nasscom’s Deep Tech membership has all started an analogous programme with legal professionals, accountants and entrepreneurs appearing as mentors, and they need to visit the startups twice a week.

So how does one select the foremost mentor? Somdutta Singh has an ‘paintings’ —Aspiration-Responsiveness-Transition — for it. “The startup’s aspiration should healthy the mentor’s. Responsiveness is helping them connect with the appropriate individuals. Transition is to help startups develop. A mentor may still do all these,” she says.Verma says a startup should have a clear purpose and define specific results for the relationship. Ishan Singh, too, advises startups to spell out the expectations they have got from the mentor and to do wide research before signing one on. Mentors should be sincere ample if assist they can’t support, Singh says. “I even have declined somewhat a few startups as a result of I don’t consider i am the right grownup to help them,” he says.

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When I became a SME Reporter


Thank you Jet airways Global Linkers platform for SMEs who gave me an opportunity to be a SME reporter for a day and cover the Indo-Dutch Startup link inauguration event.

https://jetairways.globallinker.com/#/bizforum/article/15986

Indo-Dutch Startup Initiative – Bengaluru: SME Reporter Series

TRADE FAIRS AND EVENTS

Dhananjaya Parkhe

14 minutes ago — 4 min read

Summary: As part of our SME Reporter series, Dhananjaya Parkhe reports on the Indo-Dutch #StartUpLink event held on the 25th of May in Bengaluru. Read on for an insider’s view on an event that could shape the startup ecosystem in both countries.

 

I was told by a Dutch colleague in Netherlands about the Dutch Prime Minister’s visit to India about 45 days ago. The Indo-Dutch #StartUpLink is developed for Indian and Dutch startups that are exploring each other’s markets and offers access to key information, relevant networks, pilot opportunities and navigators for the respective startup ecosystems. The event was held on 25th May in Bengaluru at the Taj West End hotel.

 

Prior to the event, I interacted with the Dutch Foreign Ministry from Netherlands and with the Dutch Embassy in Delhi and Bengaluru about participation. Their reception was heartwarming.  When I mentioned that I mentor startups, I was asked to send three profiles of startups in Bengaluru which I have been supporting. They chose Nayonika Eyecare Charitable Trust among the three. Eye Care was an issue that the delegation wanted to focus on.  They currently have an association with Shankara Netralaya we were told. We shared that this is a humanitarian area and non-compete collaborative era and we also have good relations on reciprocal basis with Shankara Netralaya. We were told to submit our presentation for preview to the incoming delegates and the Ministry.

 

At the event, the first session had a CNBC host as the anchor who had run a startup programme for 17 years on their channel. There were nearly 150 participants. The Mayor of Bengaluru and Minister of Trade Development next came on stage and shared their ideas, thoughts about StartupLink which is associated with the Startup India initiative.

 

It was followed by a dinner attended by about 700 invitees and unfortunately the PM could not attend as he had to rush back due to an emergency. Bilateral contracts worth Euro 6.9 billion were signed during this event and the parties concerned were invited on stage and honoured.

 

We could not locate our Dutch counterparts in the confusion created by the PM’s absence.  However, the silver lining was we could personally meet and discuss, exchange cards with the Dutch Trade Minister, Minister of Foreign affairs and the Minister for Healthcare.

 

We also met the Mayor of Bengaluru about our new project ‘Netra Abhiyan’ with the government of Karnataka and Namma Bengaluru Foundation to work in 502 identified slum areas for a blindness prevention drive.

 

While I had mixed feelings about the overall programme, the personal touch by the ministers in inviting us to write to them directly so that they could introduce us to the concerned people directly was the highlight and I felt that they are genuinely interested in the cause of promoting startups and humanitarian initiatives.

To learn more about the event, network by clicking on the ‘Invite’ button on my eBiz Card.

Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views, official policy or position of GlobalLinker.

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1st Meetup of Mentor MasterClass


We had our first meeting of the Meetup Jay Parkhe’s Mentor Master Class yesterday at Just Practicals’ Sierra Cartel Business Centre.

To begin with we had 3A’s ( All new members who joined had their names beginning from A – Is this a good Omen?  Looks like we are off to a AAA rated starte.

Great introductions as all three are in 29-32 age range, One of them on the way to be a Startpreneur and other two in the Ideation mode.   It was a great exchange of ideas, examples of successes and failures Jay’s mentoring Approaches and way forward.

 

Radical Self Confidence


Self-confidence is a must for all of us- no matter which stage of our life journey we are in.

It doesn’t matter what our role looks like:

  • Whether we’ve lost ourselves in career or business

  • Whether we’re feeling lonely post-breakup or just lonely in a crowd or enjoying our solitude and the feelings of Quietude.

  • Whether we’re speaking on a stage or whispering our secret to a friend for the very first time

  • Whether our business came crashing and we are on the threshold of bankruptcy suddenly.

  • Whether our Revenue sources have dried and all our efforts to bring the derailed business back – fail due to lack of interest, apathy or our mental STATE.

  • We shall need radical self-confidence.

  1. Much of this sounds like saying “Close But No Cigar”

    Meaning: 

    Coming close to a successful outcome only to fall short at the end, we see our miserable situation while negatively imagining that others have no sympathy and they are laughing at us. 

    We shall Radical Self-Confidence to overcome the situation.

  2. We will have no choice but to “Go Out On a Limb”

    Meaning: 

    Putting ourselves in a risky situation in order to help somebody, or to hazard a guess about what could be the best possible way out of this jam.

We shall Need Radical Self-Confidence to over come the situation.

Influence and Impact


  1. We become what we expose ourselves to.
  2. We become who we hang out with,
  3. who we listen to,
  4. the shows we watch,
  5. the books we read, etc.

 

We have to be sensible about what we expose ourselves to and about how much time we spend in the company of those influences.

And we must seek out more alone time for ourselves, in quietude and close to nature. If we don’t do this, we’ll lose ourselves. We’ll become other people and lose our peace.

Sometimes it is better to just walk away from things


and go back to them later when you’re in a better frame of mind

Sometimes it is better to just walk away from things and go back to them later when you’re in a better frame of mind.

Try some of these to find your peace back.

  1. Answer the phone in a cheerful voice – even if it is a salesperson
  2. Try being a person who Wouldn’t Harm a Fly
    Meaning: 
    Nonviolent;  someone who is mild or gentle.
  3. Try not to make a Mountain Out of a Molehill
    Meaning: 
    One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems.
  4. And be like The shooter who says goodbye to his love.

 

Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“A man’s got to have a code, a creed to live by, no matter his job.”

— John Wayne

 

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  2. Offer to help your neighbours/friends with chores
  3. Visit a friend who’s sick
  4. Feeling brave? Give blood
  5. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)

I will never be this young again. Ever. Oh damn… I just got older.


It is not my birthday but it will remain as a constant reminder of reaching an age post-retirement that constantly reminds of a few resolutions, few events and, few good, bad and ugly memories. Difficult to throw away like the pebble or the thorn that entered our Sandals and kept bothering us.

I know I will never be this young again. Ever. Oh damn… I just got older! 

What makes this memory not go away? It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know.  Especially, if people you are mentoring are mostly milenials and rebel at heart, famous for breaking rules, ignoring parents’advice – you think they will listen to you, comply with your rules,  NO Way!

What they expect is equitable treatment of an Adult-Adult transaction, not the Parent-Child one which they have plenty at their respective homes. So I changed tracks on my birthday.  I also realized we cannot change an adult, we can not motivate anyone! And, I say this with experience.  Adults change themselves when they wish to and become determined to. ( My wife tries to change me so hard, but do I 🙂  No) .  Same is with Motivation. We are all motivated people.  We know what motivates or demotivates us. Our conscience tells us what is right or wrong for us, doesn’t it?  It remains as a murmur inside our brains dominated by negative emotions and all the pseudoness generating hormones? Doesn’t our Conscience become victim and is taken over by our own viscious mind’s CON-Science?  It does. Trust me on that.

So was I on “On Cloud Nine” ON my birthday couple of months ago? 

Meaning: 

Having strong feelings of happiness or satisfaction.  SADLY, No! 

So I generated a Random phrase and what came out was

Ride Him, Cowboy!

Meaning: 

A cheer people yell, usually at rodeos when cowboys are clinging to the backs of untamed horses.

But what a coincidence? This was an apt phrase describing my mental state.

There was no ice cream in the freezer, nor did I have money to go to the store, and  as I forgot to go to the ATM and draw cash. This is what Old Age does to you – Forgetful when needed but never let go of bad memories of past.

So do I feel I am Down And Out

Meaning: 

A term used in a boxing.

Or Someone who has become incapacitated.

I am happy to say, I am better that this.  I live life full even now and enjoy friends, online or offline. Enjoy the joy of my creation. Sometimes send long rants to friends or other times write blog or articles.  Meet new Startups, Mentees and Give back to society . So

Life is Good. Whether we are young or old.

Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Bake something for your family/friends

  2. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback

  3. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions

  4. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!

  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call

 

Random acts of kindness


  1. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  2. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  3. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  4. Write a complimentary note for someone
  5. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  6. Smile at a stranger

I was very proud of my nickname throughout my life – What’s in a Name?


I was very proud of

my nickname

throughout my life,

but today-

I couldn’t be any different

to what my nickname was.

She told me she won’t use

my nickname again

It so happened,

I said Let me help you with

your baggage and bagasse’

and let’s throw this

into the Sky

with all our might.

But he was too short

to see over the fence.

A song such as this

could make or ruin

a person’s day

if one lets it get to us.

She did her best to help him.

and checked to make sure

that I was still alive and

The mysterious diary

recorded the voice.

but today-

I couldn’t be any different

to what my nickname was.

When I was little

I had a car door slammed shut

on my hand.

I still remember it

quite vividly.

but today-

I couldn’t be any different

to what my nickname was.

The shooter said goodbye to his love.

My Nick Name – WAS – JAYA 🙂

AND Now I know what’s in a Name anyway?

 

 

Milton Fried man Prize for Ladies in White! WOW!


 CONGRATULATIONS ! 

The Cato Institute has presented Cuba’s Ladies in White (Damas de Blanco) with the 2018 Milton Friedman Prize for Advancing Liberty, a $250,000 biennial award presented to a group or individual who has made a significant contribution to advance human freedom. The Ladies in White have a simple message: The political prisoners of Cuba are our sons, brothers, and our husbands. They must not be forgotten.“All who labor in the name of freedom take great inspiration from — and feel a tremendous debt to — courageous people who risk everything to stand up to oppression. The Ladies in White are a stirring example,” said Peter Goettler, president and CEO of the Cato Institute.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Ladies in White (Damas de Blanco) have a simple message: The political prisoners of Cuba are our sons, our brothers, and our husbands. They must not be forgotten.

Every Sunday, the Ladies in White gather, or attempt to gather, for Mass at Saint Rita de Casia Church in Havana, followed by a procession down Fifth Avenue. They wear white to symbolize the peaceful nature of their protest, and each wears a photograph of a loved one who is in prison. For this the authorities have constantly harassed them and organized mob violence against them.

The movement began on March 18, 2003, when journalist Héctor Maseda Gutiérrez was arrested in his home in Havana and sentenced to 20 years in prison for criticizing the regime of Fidel Castro. His case drew worldwide attention, with Amnesty International calling him a prisoner of conscience and demanding his release. Around 75 others were arrested at the same time, in an incident that has been called the Black Spring. All have since left prison, though not unconditionally, with the majority having had to leave Cuba. Since that time, sporadic arrests of journalists, lawyers, and other intellectuals have continued in Cuba, belying the myth that with normalized relations, Cuba’s human rights record would improve. If anything, it has deteriorated.

Two weeks after Maseda was arrested, his wife Laura Pollán Toledo brought together a group of wives, mothers, sisters, and daughters of the imprisoned to pray for their loved ones. They have continued to gather each Sunday, and the movement has since spread to other churches throughout Cuba. Although they are not a political party and do not have an overtly political program, they seek freedom of expression for all and the release of prisoners of conscience in Cuba. In recognition of their courage, the Ladies in White were the 2005 recipients of the Sakharov Prize for Freedom of Thought, awarded by the European Parliament. The Cuban government prohibited them from attending the award ceremony in Strasbourg, France.

In 2015 Berta Soler, one of the leaders of the group, told the U.S. Senate, “Our aspirations are legitimate…. Our demands are quite concrete: freedom for political prisoners, recognition of civil society, the elimination of all criminal dispositions that penalize freedom of expression and association and the right of the Cuban people to choose their future through free, multiparty elections. We believe these demands are just and valid. Even more importantly, for us they represent the most concrete exercise of politics, a step in the direction of democratic coexistence. Cuba will change when the laws that enable and protect the criminal behavior of the forces of repression and corrupt elements that sustain the regime change.”

As the first step, the Ladies in White demand the release of all political prisoners. The outlook for many of the prisoners is grim; prison conditions are deplorable, visits are rare, and even their mail is intercepted by the authorities. And the Ladies themselves have faced increasing police harassment and arrest in recent years, as the Cuban government tries to hide-but not correct-its habit of quashing dissent. Laura Pollán died in 2011 under gravely suspicious circumstances. But the movement she founded continues: The Ladies in White will meet, pray, and bear witness every Sunday until Cuba’s political prisoners are freed.

Intolerance to difference – Good, bad, ugly?


I would not generalise, and would not attribute any of the three above. Tolerance in India has come to mean – Tolerating+Nonsense right politicians to some members of thof even the general public . So does that make the two negatives i.e. adding IN as a prefix – POSITIVE. No. I am afraid not.

But, I came across this great quote which I like as a Drawing and Painting Artist amateur and Art Critic.

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” -Vincent van Gogh

See if you can agree and appreciate the Great Artist.

Awakening latent Dreams!


According to Freud, every dream represents a wish fulfillment. Dreams are representative of the imaginary fulfillment of a wish or impulse in early childhood before such wishes have been repressed.

Sometimes you meet someone and your gut makes you judgemental immediately, without knowing anything about people.To Freud, dreams were all about wish fulfillment.

The manifest content of the dream masked the true wishes and desires of the dreamer, which were revealed in the latent content.

In the ‘falling’ dream example, Freud might have said that the act of falling represented giving into a sexual urge.

like someone is “Not the Sharpest Tool in the Shed”

Meaning: 

Someone who isn’t witty or sharp, but rather,

they are ignorant, unintelligent, or senseless.

It is a daunting task to go deeper and find the latent dreams of such people. They are dreamers too, and they have a subconscious. Sometimes it gives them messages, signals but they are so subtle, soft and noiseless that people tend to forget them let alone take notice of them.

Freud believed that the content of dreams is related to wish fulfillment and suggested that dreams have two types of contentmanifest content and latent content. The manifest content is the actual literal subject matter of the dream while the latent content is the underlying meaning of these symbols

Whatever a Mentor can do to Awaken the Dreamer’s Dreams it remains that

Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees

Meaning: 

Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired.

 

My new affirmation, My new Paradigm


 New Affirmation

I am quite happy and grateful as
I understand how to identify and change my life paradigms
it gives me the power to be,

do and have
ANYTHING I truly want.

The Ultimate Dream


Where do we want to b?.

What is our desired place we see?

What is the Ultimate Place we wish to be?

A Dreamer knows Inside OUT and Outside IN!

We do tend to forget the dream and live life

Going with the flow,

mostly aimlessly.

Dreams give us Purpose, Goals, Ambitions, and Aims – albeit sub-consciously.

Mentors are awakener and constantly hammer, chisel, sculpt the mouldable Mentees/  into their Actionable Plans, often as Accountability Partners with joint responsibility.

Isn’t it your idea too that you can have a thriving business built on helping people and improving the world the ultimate dream?

It’s possible.

In case you didn’t know – the Personal Development/ Life Coaching/ Mentoring Industry is not just about feeling good.

According to Wikipedia and Psychology Today, this is a more than $11 Billion dollar industry – and growing.

It is Growing at a rapid pace and will continue to always help more lives with their positive impact – the question we should be asking ourself isn’t, ‘Can I be successful at this?’ …

it’s ‘How big of a mark do I want to make?’, and

‘What am I willing to do to make it happen?”

There is no limit to the amount of income or the satisfaction you can gain from teaching people how to unleash their unlimited potential and awaken their latent dreams.

I’ve been studying why people do what they do for nearly half a century.  .

Mentoring Dreamers to Awaken their Dreams.


Give the spark that may get fanned and become High rise flames and Fire

Begin to light we must ignite the latent subconscious and fight for our Right.

I Wake up the dreamers and demand their need for rights
In the dead corner of their hippocampus lies a sleeping, latent WISH

In the dead of the night,

the mentor makes you set your sights  and

warns of the dangers of letting it remain dormant,

hibernating, not knowing, never knowing

What is inside your brain –

the latent  Potentials and Dreams
Mentor calls for your arms

to begin the Motion arising out of this E Motion.
There are goodbyes and there are no second glances
For in the middle,

We, we see the glimpse
Of the mass of wishes wanting to come alive and

take control of our FOCUS our FUTURE.
They CREATE our desire to  fight

the life’s battles ahead to make these dreams come true.

We’re living trees of our own anarchy
Mentees take hands
It’s our time to give this life its only chance
Not one step back
A Pure Heart will take a stand

Inner liberation thrills
Echoing through the hearts

the beginning of our new being

Take pride as this is the vision for us to live by or die, or die

We”re coming
Light the Spark we must ignite we fire to fight begin our night
We’re coming

 

Inspired by the Story by Chanakya.

चाणक्य नीति: जानिए किन लोगों की मदद न करें और रहें दूर
आचार्य चाणक्य ने अपनी एक नीति में 3 ऐसे लोगों के बारे में बताया है जिनकी मदद न करें और उनसे दूर रहें।

चाणक्य नीति में आचार्य कौटिल्य ने अपनी एक नीति में बताया है कि किन लोगों की मदद नहीं करनी चाहिए वरना आप खुद परेशानी में पड़ सकते हैं। आचार्य चाणक्य ने बताया कि कुछ लोग ऐसे होते हैं जिनकी मदद करने पर आप स्वयं मुश्किल में पड़ सकते हैं। समय, काल, परिस्थिति, धर्म और नीतियों को ध्यान में रखकर आचार्य चाणक्य ने कुछ लोगों को वर्ग विशेष में बांटा है। इसके अनुसार उन्होंने बुद्धि और चतुराई के उपयोग से कुछ ज्ञान की बाते बताई हैं। जानिए ये 3 लोग कौन हैं जिनकी मदद कभी नहीं करनी चाहिए

-चाणक्य ने अपने श्लोक में बताया है कि – मूर्खाशिष्योपदेशेन दुष्टास्त्रीभरणेन च।
दु:खिते सम्प्रयोगेण पंडितोऽप्यवसीदति।

1. मूर्ख व्यक्ति -आचार्य ने जिन लोगों से दूर रहने की बात कही है, उसमें पहला व्यक्ति है मूर्ख। यदि हम किसी मूर्ख व्यक्ति को जानते हैं तो उससे दूर ही रहना चाहिए। मूर्ख व्यक्ति को ज्ञान देने की कोशिश भी न करें। हम मूर्ख को ज्ञान देकर उसकी भलाई करने की सोचते हैं, लेकिन मूर्ख व्यक्ति इस बात को नहीं समझेगा। ये लोग फिजूल तर्क-वितर्क करते हैं, जिससे हमारे समय का नुकसान होगा। इसीलिए ऐसे लोगों से दूर ही रहना चाहिए।

2. बुरे चरित्र वाला व्यक्ति – यदि किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति को जानते हैं, जिसका चरित्र ठीक नहीं है तो उससे दूर रहने में ही समझदारी है। ऐसी लोगों की भलाई करने पर या इनकी मदद करने पर भी हमारा ही नुकसान होना है। ऐसे लोगों के संपर्क में रहने से समाज और घर-परिवार में श्रेष्ठ व्यक्ति को भी अपमानित होना पड़ता है। जो लोग धर्म से भटक जाते हैं, वे स्वयं तो पाप करते ही हैं और दूसरों को भी पाप के रास्ते पर ले जाते हैं। इसीलिए ऐसे लोगों से दूर ही रहना चाहिए।

3. हमेशा बिना वजह दुखी रहने वाला व्यक्ति – चाणक्य कहते हैं कि जो लोग अपने जीवन से संतुष्ट नहीं हैं और हमेशा ही दुखी रहते हैं, उनसे दूर रहना चाहिए। इन लोगों की भलाई करने पर भी हमें दुख ही मिलता है। ऐसे लोगों का जीवन चाहे कितना भी अच्छा क्यों न हो जाए ये हमेशा दुखी रहते हैं। ये लोग दूसरों के सुख से ईर्ष्या करते हैं और कोसते रहते हैं। इस प्रकार ईर्ष्या भाव रखने वाले और बिना वजह दुखी रहने वाले लोगों से भी दूर रहने में हमारी भलाई है।

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?


Dealing with perceptions

in my mind’s eyes

hoping against hope

my presuppositions

my cognitive bias

my hyper criticism brutally

and honestly delivered

Reacted fiercely

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Interpreted differently

Forgetting all the time

There could be another way

May be it means something else

Meanings, judgements passed

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Forgetting our Being Human!

The tendencies to err

To become ruthless

Behave unnaturally with vengeance

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

In the meaningless repetitive

Arguments to prove us Right

Leaving sanity, wisdom

Ignoring subtle visible facts

Getting self centred

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

To prove I’m always right

No remorse, no feelings and

Emotions towards others

No empathy no sympathy

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Being mean before we know it

Mean machines we become

And wonder

Mean machine or

Meaning making Machine –

who am I ?

Is that me?

Who have I become

A Moron, a sadist

A masochist

Or just Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

(Writing poetry after many years! It needs a deep provocation, a shining up a mentors huge stick! And it just flowed)

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Conversational Narcissist :)


I was once labelled as MR. TALKIES. And I just took over a Meet up club called TalkWiz which I renamed as TALKWIZArds Club.

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conversational narcissist is the one that keeps taking the ball from the game of catch and not ever passing it back.