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RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness. Keep At It.

  1. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift
  2. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  3. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  4. Let someone know how much you appreciate them
  5. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  6. Visit a friend who’s sick
  7. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!
  8. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  9. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  10. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
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RAK – Random Acts of Kindness Movement. Keep at it!

  1. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  2. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  3. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  4. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  5. Open the door for someone
  6. Forgive someone who has wronged you
  7. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  8. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  9. Know someone who’s feeling under the weather? Pay them a visit!
  10. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them

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RAK movement – Random acts of kindness today

  1. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  2. House chores can be tiring – offer a helping hand
  3. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity
  4. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  5. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  6. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  7. Share today’s food with your neighbour!
  8. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  9. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  10. Go out of your way to thank someone today!

RAK Movement – Random acts of kindness today

  1. Know someone who’s feeling under the weather? Pay them a visit!
  2. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  3. Open the door for someone
  4. Go the day without complaining
  5. Answer the phone in a cheerful voice – even if it is a sales person
  6. Make someone a cup of coffee
  7. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  8. Smile at a stranger
  9. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  10. Gift someone something they complimented you for

Creativity, Random Phrases and my Yesterday :)

  1. Drive Me Nuts Meaning: To greatly frustrate someone. To drive someone crazy, insane, bonkers, or bananas.
  2. No-Brainer Meaning: Anything that requires minimal brain activity to accomplish.
  3. Hands Down Meaning: Anything that’s easy or has no difficulty; something that is a certainty.
  4. Greased Lightning Meaning: Very fast or quick.
  5. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.
  6. Lickety Split Meaning: To go at a quick pace; no delaying!
  7. On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others.

RAK movement – Random acts of kindness today.

  1. Smile at 3 people today
  2. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  3. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  4. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  5. Hug your parents
  6. Visit a friend who’s sick
  7. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  8. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  9. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  10. Go the day without complaining

The way we in self-speak can help us Self-Develop into a Speaker or a Failure

 

Some BS Facts About Self-Development

Everyone Thinks Are True

 

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For example, The way we in self-speak can help us Self-Develop into a Speaker or a Failure

  • Self-Speech plays a huge role in our self-image.
  • Self-image plays a huge role in our self-confidence.
  • Self-confidence plays a huge role in our ability to succeed in the various endeavours we decide to pursue in our life.

The way we self-speak can help Self-Development into a Speaker or a Failure!While some may say that this is BS !  How can Self-Development happen with Self-Speak or Self-Speech?

There is a real story about an all-star baseball player, who once decided to visit a prison to inspire inmates to self-develop themselves.  He shared a story of his father who always encouraged him as a little boy.  His dad always encouraged him by saying, “son, if you keep on hitting the ball like that, you’ll end up in the Biggest League one day.”  Sure enough, he ended up as an all-star in the Biggest Baseball League.

A prisoner stood up and said, “hey, my dad told me said somewhat similar when I was a kid. Every time I did something my dad disliked, he looked at me and said, ‘son, if you keep on mis-behaving like this, you’ll end up in prison one day. Sure enough, I ended up in prison.”

90% of male prisoners were maltreated as dirt by own parents as little kids. They  were spoken to like they were prisoners WAY before they ended up in prisons.  Now, don’t come to conclusion that our parents determine the future for us in advance.  We have ability to respond to our circumstances, and we choose. it would help immensely and much easier if we had solid foundation.

The take-away from the story is simple: the way we SPEAK to ourselves plays a massive role in the way we PERCEIVE us. The way we perceive ourselves plays a massive role in how CONFIDENT we are. Our self-confidence determines whether we decide to take on challenges and pursue success in the face of adversity, or whether we decide to live below our highest potential. Do not allow our self to do this.

  • Encourage ourselves. Love ourselves.
  • We cannot expect things to change in our life unless we change.
  • For things to change. we must change.
  • Our self-speak plays a huge role in our self-image.
  • Our self-image plays a huge role in our self-confidence.
  • Our self-confidence plays a huge role in our ability to succeed in the various endeavours you decide to pursue in our life.

 

By Dhananjay Parkhe

 

 

Jay’s Tantra: To resolve a Dilemma

Sometimes, I have dilemma.  Mostly the decision is about People who come in my life, stay there, get benefitted, some reciptrocate, some don’t. Some cost me money, some Time, Some deep efforts and some simply gifts and for some I give all that I have.

Then come some moments, decisive when the masks are unpeeled, they fall off, the gloves come off, bad behaviour, attitude, insults start hurting and I realise the my Trust was ill-placed. I have made a huge error of judgement.

In such times, I use Jay’s Tantra. The simplest way is to consult and seek advice from the Omnipotent, Omniscient, Omnipotent  – The Om -HIMSELF.   I go to BhagvadGita and choose a random shloka. I also go to a Bible someone gifted me years ago.  I take a Verse for Bible.

I then decipher meaning as per my understanding and draw inferences.  These are not regular moments, they happen when I have a deep dilemma.  It is never a Conscience issue though as Conscientious decisions come to me quick and fast – No problem there.

Today’s Dilemma was solved by these two and I urge readers to try this if you come across such difficult moments in life.

This is what came out as Random Verse from Bible:

Proverbs 23:9

Passage: 

Do not speak to fools,

for they will scorn your prudent words.

This is what came as Random Shloka from Gita

Srimad Bhagavad Gita

Chapter 2 Sloka 70 

Got it!

Yes. I got my answer to the dilemma. That’s Jay’s Tantra.  Use it sparingly and only in dire situations with full belief and trust in the Almighty. Amen!

Creativity, My Day and Random Phrases

  1. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious. How did I miss the obvious that the Business person in a mentee will always prefer MONEY, MONEY, MONEY and if here is seductive voice enticing – he will surely and certainly fall for it. 
  2. High And Dry Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover.  No. That does not happen and it is no pretense, in my mind, I work these scenarios and still try and address issues as a Human being and forgive people as humans. 
  3. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.  I do lose some, but do keep losing – primarily to my false pride, magnanimity and the inability to find untrustworthy people. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  Time is ripe now that I actually should judge the book by its cover. 
  5. Jaws of Life Meaning: Usually this references a tool used by rescuers when they pry or cut open a car to save the occupant.  I take this as a cue to use my strong arms and use the strength to overcome the situations that are regularly arising. 
  6. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so.  Just trying to visualise the moves as -people are sharp, smart and pretend – They appear unable, when able and Appear able when the are unable.  Even the best strategists can fail to read this at first glance.  
  7. When the Rubber Hits the Road Meaning: When something is about to begin, get serious, or put to the test.  This year I have acted more decisively, more abruptly, more impulsively – especially when it came to people decisions.  Most have proved right and initial errors of judgement about them were corrected by breaking up an dblocking them. 
  8. Ugly Duckling Meaning: One who may seem plain at first in appearance or capability, but later turns out to be beautiful or great.  Some ugly ducklings pretend to be the future swans but their company makes sure, the ruboff is so strong that they remain – UGLY. 
  9. What Am I, Chopped Liver? Meaning: A rhetorical question used by a person who feels they are being given less consideration than someone else. Used to happen a few months ago but now things are much under control and survivalism is not required. 
  10. Mouth-watering Meaning: Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.  Paav Bhaji for dinner – home made… wow Yummy ! made my day. 🙂

RAK Movement- Random Acts of Kindness today

  1. Compliment someone today!
  2. Feeling brave? Give blood
  3. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  4. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  6. Make someone a cup of coffee
  7. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  8. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  9. Plant a seed
  10. Share your lunch with a friend

RAK movement. Random Acts of Kindness for the day

  1. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  2. Hug your parents
  3. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  4. Answer the phone in a cheerful voice – even if it is a sales person
  5. Recycle 3 things today
  6. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  7. Plant a seed
  8. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  9. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them
  10. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family

Random Phrases today. Creativity. Progress.

I did two Udemy courses today. One on Impromptu speaking – most wonderful experience. Another on Humourous speeches. Not great.

  1. Shot In the Dark Meaning: An attempt that has little chance for success. Waiting for the proverbial Godot. A friend offered something big, then began playing unavailable, then asked concept note. Sent it in all earnest. Let’s see. 
  2. Quick and Dirty Meaning: Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well. Hmmmm….. I have that fear about this proposal to be something I am really not. I wish to give it a try, just because opportunity comes my way. Not my type of thinking really! 
  3. Flea Market Meaning: A type of bazaar where inexpensive goods are sold or bartered.  Wonder what that means.  An article of over 3500 words is liked and then I am told to cut it short to 750 word. No. Not gonna do it! WTH are there Editors for? Why can’t they set the word limit while giving the offer to write.  And above all, it is probono work not even paid. I am seriously going to stop all FREE, probono work. ENUFFFF!!!!
  4. Par For the Course Meaning: What you would expect to happen; something normal or common. CONVERSATION on Linkedin this morning with a Cartoonist turned to Golf and we used many terms about the game but in the end I gave up. Not my cup of tea – this free advice game has to stop forthwith…. Getting Bored to death! 
  5. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished.  Going slow this week on writing articles.  Reflecting. Going slow on Speech learnings – pausing… No progress on Painting…. WTH am I doing?
  6. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious.  I sincerely hope nothing is missing. These Astrologers… they always scare me with Sade Saati of Shani Maharaj and tell me nasty things.  
  7. Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.  The morning audio course on the Impromptu speaking on Udemy was a delight. I shall repeat this and practice this.  The trainer was a Toastmaster too and wonderful to hear. 
  8. Yada Yada Meaning: A way to notify a person that what they’re saying is predictable or boring.  Hmmm… Almost said this to couple of people but restrained this morning. 
  9. Goody Two-Shoes Meaning: A smugly virtuous person.  I thin. k, I know who by now
  10. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’ Whenever I go on full speed, I come across emotional, sentimental, tangential barriers. God knows why but I carry on till either I find a Counter so that I have a number chase and something that is notable, worthy or I slip down and wait for my own Let Her Rip permission that my brain gives. 

 

RAK MOVEMENT – Random Acts of Kindness today.

  1. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  2. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  3. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  4. Bake something for your family/friends
  5. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  6. Go out of your way to thank someone today!
  7. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  8. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  9. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  10. Smile at 3 people today

RAK Movement. I chose my Random Act of Kindness. How about you?

  1. Go green – don’t waste paper
  2. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  3. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  4. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  5. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  6. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else
  7. Have lunch with a homeless person
  8. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  9. Share your lunch with a friend
  10. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call

Jay, Creativity, Random Phrases and Daily Weblog

Happy Ganesh Chaturthi to all Readers.  A very auspicious day. One of the 3.5 days of Muhurtha – when beginning a new thing is considered Good.

I started with a long walk, Ganapati Darshan and returned with many thoughts, ideas about a start and towards noon got lazy and just slept.

  1. Wake Up Call  Meaning: An occurance of sorts that brings a problem to somebody’s attention and they realize it needs fixing.  I realised that I need to create the Course outline and content for sharing with a Digital marketer friend for planning a self managed training event soon. 
  2. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.  Yes. I try to do that as I get very few in life as i am more a Giver but I have met the worst ingrates this year. 
  3. Swinging For the Fences Meaning: Giving something your all.  My resolve is to Give my all to Writing, Speaking and organising Self managed training, coaching, mentoring events going forward. 
  4. A Chip on Your Shoulder Meaning: Being angry about something that happened in the past. Yes. I do carry a few and wish that they dissolve.  नींद तो दर्द के बिस्तर पे भी आ सकती है
  5. Lovey Dovey Meaning: The affectionate stuff that people do when they are in love, such as kissing and hugging. Hmmmm…. why did this phrase turn up suddenly today?
  6. All Greek To Me Meaning: When something is incomprehensible due to complexity; unintelligble.  Fortunately, the abstract, Greek, Latin, Spanish speaking rubbish is out of my hair. It was just too much of Intellectual F@#$ing I had gone thru – rather willing/ unwillingly. No one. Just me to blame. 
  7. If You Can’t Stand the Heat, Get Out of the Kitchen Meaning: One should discontinue with a task if they are unable to cope with it due to pressure.  Yes. I am slowly moving out of all the Heat and Kitchen areas. 
  8. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.  Yes. Enrolled for two Udemy courses. Started one. Joined two new FB groups. 
  9. Raining Cats and Dogs Meaning: When it is raining heavily.  It should Bangalore weather in past few days is too hot for my taste. 
  10. Talk the Talk Meaning: Supporting what you say, not just with words, but also through action or evidence.  That’s Integrity for me and I am thinking to change the name of the blog or start a new one soon. 

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness today.

  1. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  2. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  3. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  4. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  5. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  6. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  7. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  8. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  9. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  10. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it

Highlighted ones are my choices for the day.

Time is Now – Invoke your Creativity, use Random Phrase Prompts for the day.

later tomorrow today now

  1. Elephant in the Room Meaning: Ignoring a large, obvious problem or failing to address an issue that stands out in a major way.
  2. Rain on Your Parade Meaning: To spoil someone’s fun or plans; ruining a pleasurable moment
  3. Keep On Truckin’ Meaning: To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping.
  4. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees Meaning: Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired.
  5. Top Drawer Meaning: High quality, exceptional; something that’s very valuable.
  6. Cut To The Chase Meaning: To get to the point, leaving out all of the unnecessary details.
  7. Lovey Dovey Meaning: The affectionate stuff that people do when they are in love, such as kissing and hugging.
  8. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time.
  9. Head Over Heels Meaning: Falling deeply in love with another person.
  10. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited 

Saturday- RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  2. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  3. Save water – take a shorter shower today
  4. Make someone a cup of coffee
  5. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  6. House chores can be tiring – offer a helping hand
  7. Feeling brave? Give blood
  8. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  9. Help a younger student with their work
  10. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day

Jay’s Tantra day: No dilemma today. Still turning to God for answers

Jay’s Tantra technique is to turn to Bible and Gita on a day when he is faced with a dilemma and seek support and answers from God.

Today, I have no dilemma still I turn to God for answers.

Random verse from Bible that came my way is :

1 Samuel 2:2

Passage: 

“There is no one holy like the LORD;

there is no one besides you;

there is no Rock like our God.”

And the Gita Shloka said:

 

Creativity: Random phrases for Friday and how my day went.

  1. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished.  I finished two article writing and two presentations now one more to go.  Going is tough but it gets going. 
  2. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.  Parting was so damned easy, why did I drag my feet and procrastinate?  I should have listened to my Theta brainwave and the Gut feel the very first time.  
  3. Throw In the Towel Meaning: Giving up; to surrender.  Even the worst of urban commie brainwashed bran-heads give up in surrender, the worst of the masks can be unpeeled and the already Red Inside faces can be made bloody – it is a skill, a technique,  a hard De-mentoring and exposing the pseudos – the Freeloaders who like a pest/ Leech suck your time, efforts, money and peace of mind. Good riddance! 
  4. Right Out of the Gate Meaning: Right from the beginning; to do something from the start. Someone said about hindsight and my polite response was – I have foresight and farsight. I drive with a backview mirror – I don’t need a mirror to see driving in the fore.  The hindsight is reserve of the stray horses and mares with broken or absent shoes with hurting nail which makes them kick at everything – not in sight and ignore what is in sight.  That is where the ‘Saddle point’ of negotiations arrive and the Best Jockeys – Mentors put nose rings and blinkers ON so that they can convert the strays into Race horses.  Best trainers, jockeys have a different approach to deal with them. Branding them is the first step 🙂 
  5. Jack of All Trades Master of None Meaning: Having suitable skill in multiple things, but not being an expert in any of them.  Yes.  For too long I have been that.  45 specific online courses (on Udemy)  later – i am still searching for the right niche’ to be an expert.  Otherwise, I am sure, I shall get an Honorary D.Litt. from a friendly University one day 🙂 🙂 🙂

Friday- RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  2. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  3. Support a small, local business as a customer
  4. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  5. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  6. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
  7. Go green – don’t waste paper
  8. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity
  9. Feeling brave? Give blood
  10. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them

Thursday- RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  2. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  3. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  4. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  5. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  6. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  7. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  8. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  9. Help someone carry their pushchair up/down the stairs
  10. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift

Wednesday- RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Surprise your parents with flowers
  2. Go the day without complaining
  3. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  4. Taking public transport? Offer your seat to someone else
  5. Smile at a stranger
  6. Bake something for your family/friends
  7. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  8. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  9. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  10. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend

Tuesday – RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  2. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else
  3. Surprise your parents with flowers
  4. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  5. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  6. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call
  7. Empty your wallet for charity
  8. Buy someone a coffee
  9. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  10. Open the door for someone

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness. Monday.

  1. Write a complimentary note for someone
  2. Make someone a cup of coffee
  3. Go green – don’t waste paper
  4. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  5. Smile at 3 people today
  6. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them
  7. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!
  8. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  9. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  10. Save water – take a shorter shower today

Sunday – RAK Movement Random Acts of Kindness.

  1. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  2. Buy someone a coffee
  3. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  4. Have lunch with a homeless person
  5. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  6. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  7. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  8. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  9. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  10. Go out of your way to thank someone today!

Random Phrases – Creativity – How did my day go as per these morning pointers?

  1. A Piece of Cake Meaning: A task that is simple to accomplish.  This time the terror topic – Table topic for me was better and I did finish in less than 2 minutes and people remembered one point I made. 
  2. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  The lady who gave an emotional story was so non=descript but the way she spoke – Fabulous – there were tears in my eyes. Such a moving Tale. 
  3. Needle In a Haystack Meaning: To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping. Not cancelling the ticket or taking a rash, impulsive decision helped. The organisers arranged another lecture at same day/ place and topic remains the same. 
  4. Curiosity Killed The Cat Meaning: Typically said to indicate that any further investigation into a situation may lead to harm.  Some things are best buried fast enought. 
  5. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’  Attended 7th Toastmasters club meeting and going faster. Mentor did not turn up or respond. Let’s see how fast I can go  now.  
  6. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.  Hmmmm. …. Not Again ! 🙂
  7. Ugly Duckling Meaning: One who may seem plain at first in appearance or capability, but later turns out to be beautiful or great.  I like the young speakers who speak for the first or second time and they are potential speakers with talent. 
  8. Off One’s Base Meaning: A person that is crazy or behaving in idiotic ways – Who hasn’t met them?  
  9. Keep Your Shirt On Meaning: Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset. Noted. 
  10. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.  Yeah yeah yeah ! I have been at the other end and made to look Yada yada yada ! 🙂

Saturday- RAK Movement – Random acts of Kindness. Choose one. I have!

  1. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  2. Visit a friend who’s sick
  3. Have lunch with a homeless person
  4. Purchase ethical goods
  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  6. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  7. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  8. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  9. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  10. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like

RAK Movement- Friday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  2. Empty your wallet for charity
  3. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  4. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  5. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  6. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  7. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  8. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  9. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  10. Feed a stray animal if you spot one

RAK Movement- Thursday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  2. Surprise your parents with flowers
  3. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  4. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  5. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Make someone a cup of coffee
  8. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  9. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  10. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions

RAK Movement- Wednesday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  2. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift
  3. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  4. Bake something for your family/friends
  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  6. Buy someone a coffee
  7. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  8. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  9. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  10. Support a small, local business as a customer

RAK Movement- Wednes Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Share your lunch with a friend
  2. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  3. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  4. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  5. Feeling inspired? Make a meal for your family or roommates
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  8. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  9. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  10. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family

RAK Movement- Tuesday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  2. Recycle 3 things today
  3. Share today’s food with your neighbour!
  4. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!
  5. Hug your parents
  6. Let someone know how much you appreciate them
  7. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  8. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  9. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  10. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand

RAK Movement- Monday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  2. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them
  3. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  4. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  5. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  6. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  7. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  8. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  9. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  10. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day

Random Inputs Generated – Creative Weekend and How the day passed.

  1. Every Cloud Has a Silver Lining Meaning: To be optimistic, even in difficult times. This is quite true. Things always average out for us in Life.  Some are unlucky for some time but on a macro-level law of averages applies to all. 
  2. Scot-free Meaning: Getting away freely from custody, punishment, or any type of risky situation. When you are an Evaluator of a meeting and you get away with Murder i.e. very harsh remarks about the weakest of your own team members.  
  3. Under the Weather Meaning: Not feeling well, in health or mood.  The bad biorhythms period has gone away. A week ago, it was very critical with all 3 rhythms passing thru critical level. It can cause accidents, or death. Good the phase is over. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  But some people would subtly, simply invite you to judge every one of their actions willy nilly and we find them sulking when things do not go well with them in terms of feedforward. 
  5. Tug of War Meaning: It can refer to the popular rope pulling game or it can mean a struggle for authority.  I drop Coaching / mentoring clients when this begins and some of them begin back to back coaching/ mentoring when it is clear that what I do is not Peer Coaching.  
  6. Jig Is Up Meaning: For a ruse or trick to be discovered; to be caught.  I tried an experiment today. Wrote 5 points and the person picked up only one to respond – it was about them! There was least concern or expression about other 4 of which 3 related to me. I write such people off as Self-centred, selfish and ungrateful. 
  7. Fit as a Fiddle Meaning: Being fit as a fiddle means to be in perfect health.  A little bad spell with low sugar and BP – otherwise all parameters are good and stable. 
  8. Jaws of Life Meaning: Usually this references a tool used by rescuers when they pry or cut open a car to save the occupant. I just wish no one should go thru such experience. 
  9. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time. I have begun to all the Table topics at Toastmasters as Terror / Horror Topics 🙂
  10. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers.  – No . Not happening. 

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Random Acts of Kindness


  1. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  2. Volunteer your time for a good cause
  3. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  4. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
  5. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  6. Surprise your siblings with their favourite sweets/chocolate
  7. Recycle 3 things today
  8. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  9. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  10. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  2. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  3. Bake something for your family/friends
  4. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  5. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  6. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  7. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  8. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  9. Smile at 3 people today
  10. Let someone know how much you appreciate them

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  2. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  3. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  4. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  5. Feeling brave? Give blood
  6. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  7. Smile at a stranger
  8. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  9. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  10. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  2. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  3. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  4. Oooh wait! There’s somebody behind you; hold the door open!
  5. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  6. Visit a friend who’s sick
  7. Bake for your neighbour
  8. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  9. Feeling inspired? Make a meal for your family or roommates
  10. Share today’s food with your neighbour!

Random Phrases Generated : Creativity: How well will/ did the Day Go?

  1. A Piece of Cake Meaning: A task that is simple to accomplish.
  2. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.
  3. Everything But The Kitchen Sink Meaning: Including nearly everything possible.
  4. Give a Man a Fish Meaning: It’s better to teach a person how to do something than to do that something for them.
  5. Short End of the Stick Meaning: Getting the bad end of a deal, or receiving the least desirable outcome from something.
  6. Hard Pill to Swallow Meaning: Something that’s difficult to accept.
  7. Quick On the Draw Meaning: Performing an action with the greatest of haste.
  8. Like Father Like Son Meaning: Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior.
  9. Right Off the Bat Meaning: Immediately, done in a hurry; without delay.
  10. Love Birds Meaning: A pair of people who have a shared love for each other.

Random Acts of Kindness – Choose one. I have.

  1. Save water – take a shorter shower today
  2. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  3. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  4. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  5. Taking public transport? Offer your seat to someone else
  6. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  7. Surprise your parents with flowers
  8. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  9. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  10. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them

Mentor Master Class- Free Tutorial Series 1-10 for Mentors from Jay Parkhe #3

In today’s competitive world, recruiters no longer hold on to traditional methods of recruiting through traditional one-to-one interviews. Thanks to the added competition, which has resulted in a shortage of talent, companies are fast resorting to technology, and platforms like Skype, GoToMeetings are fast replacing the old model of interviewing.

Companies are increasingly adopting employee-centric approaches to working by providing flexi-times, work-from-home initiatives, in addition to many other perks and benefits. Organizations are also getting the option to employ people they want, as compared to the ones who were available to them.

When an organization is located over multiple areas, the big challenge is to connect all the employees located in different offices spread all across the world, to the organization’s vision, identity, and rules – the big picture. That’s where coaching comes in. It is the best way to develop junior talent and provide the skills and expertise to make them experts. Having said that, mentoring provides ample space for a person to retain his individuality and his personal sensibilities.

Note that the goal of mentoring isn’t to create clones. Instead, it is to help people achieve their highest potentialwhile being in sync with the organization’s vision and objectives.

Coaching is not an innate ability; you are not born with the art of coaching. The other misunderstanding that’s often associated with coaching is that it’s related only to sports. Coaching is about pumping people’s spirits, and motivating them. Lack of motivation doesn’t come only in sports. There are times when employees too feel a need for motivation to deliver good results. Coaching helps these employees in holding their own in their team and being a productive group.

Coaching is the method of making people realize the heights they can achieve if only they kept persevering and putting proper effort. Mainly, coaching calls for a change of thinking and approach to a task. It’s about getting the person think positively about his chances of achieving his goal. It includes employee orientation towards the workplace politics, and to assist in removing the barriers to work performance.

Optimal and Optimum

There is a difference between the usages of words optimum and optimal. If a company specifies that they are interested in obtaining optimum results, they mean they want the best output from their employees. On the other hand, if they say they are looking for optimal results, that would mean that they are interested in obtaining the best work out of you in the given circumstances, or working conditions.

There are occasions when the line between optimum and optimal are blurred in coaching. Situations like these arise when an organization starts working on a new project and they need to ram up the office fast with people who are experienced in working on similar projects.

In situations like these, the job of a coach is not only to provide high levels of motivation to employees to excel in their performance, but also to ensure that the employees perform at their peak even if the requisite resources are not always available. It’s about lifting their spirit and keeping it high throughout tough times.

Mentor Master Class- Free Tutorial Series 1-10 for Mentors from Jay Parkhe #2

In today’s competitive business world, there are two basic realities that drive the workforces. First one is getting people who get results. Second is to get people who get results stay.

Today’s world of globalization, customized employee enhancement plans, competitive benefits, and demographic changes make it very tough on companies to get and then retain talent. That’s how the managers of today are not just managers. They are recruiters, planners, motivators, and trainers, all rolled into one.

To keep this already-complex chain of operation from spiraling out of control, the companies have found the best way to manage their staff is to coach them. The role of a coach in a company, in this regard, is to take a group of people with diversified proficiency, understand their strengths and improve them, and at the same time, realize the cause of their weaknesses and eradicate them.

The Role of a Coach

The role of a coach is significantly different from that of an instructor. In coaching, employees are asked to grow in their strengths and address their weaknesses so that they realize their self-growth. It keeps them motivated and happy in the workplace – both keys to retaining talent.

Leaders take their staff from where they are to where they’ve never been before. Nothing could define coaching better than this statement from Henry Kissinger.

Coaching, in the true sense, is tailor-made for people who have the potential to grow to greater heights and yet, are too content in delivering just satisfactory performance. These employees are different from slackers who don’t perform properly, either due to non-interest or inferior knowledge.

The employees we are addressing are employees who like their professional life just the way it is at the moment, and have fit in snugly to the demands of the workplace, which is not bad in itself, however, every organization needs its employees to grow. That’s the way every organization grows too, being a sum total of different talented groups. The job of a coach, therefore, is to ensure that the employees improve their job performance through a constant process of encouraging and suggesting improvements.

Creativity and looking back at the Random Phrases generated this morning.

  1. Fight Fire With Fire Meaning: To retaliate with an attack that is similar to the attack used against you.  Used judicially, without impulse and impatience – it is one of the best Tactical play – not a strategic one. 
  2. Drawing a Blank Meaning: Failing to recall a memory. Unable to remember something.  True. I have erased my mailbox and social media of one set of memories and I can truly use the expression ‘Tabula Rasa’ – Empty slate today. Even my memory enhancing tablets may not be able to help now. 
  3. Mountain Out of a Molehill Meaning: One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems. Hmmm… but frankly, barring cleaning of my Mac I did not face such issues. 
  4. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time.  Yes. a phase is over. Hopefully. 
  5. Curiosity Killed The Cat Meaning: Typically said to indicate that any further investigation into a situation may lead to harm.  Who can agree more? Me the HyperCurious, HyperCritique, HyperScaler, HyperMentor?  I have faced this and overcome this. 
  6. Top Drawer Meaning: High quality, exceptional; something that’s very valuable.  What is more important in life than LOVE?  Nay, not money. 
  7. Playing Possum Meaning: Pretending to be dead, or to be deceitful about something. No. Not my nature but people promising to do and not doing – I have seen plenty. Lack of integrity.  Even simple courtesies to let people know they can not meet or call due to….  etc. etc. 
  8. Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.  Got three more certifications from Udemy today. 
  9. It’s Not All It’s Cracked Up To Be Meaning: Failing to meet expectations; not being as good as people say.  It takes minimum two to Tango – No?  Just asking?
  10. Quick On the Draw Meaning: Performing an action with the greatest of haste.  When procrastination takes over, self medication, self harm and self-sabotage starts. Drugs, Alchohol and other addictions begin to take over the brain and one flips into an endless abyss.  It is sad but true. 

Mentor Master Class- Free Tutorial Series 1-10 for Mentors from Jay Parkhe #1

Mentoring is the act of identifying and nurturing potential areas of improvement in an individual. This could be a short-term action plan targeted towards a specific goal in mind, like career growth, higher learning, or could be a life-long process of improvement. The goals and processes are always set here by the learner. The job of the mentor here is to just facilitate, guide, and provide feedback after long stages of intensive observation. Coaching relates primarily to performance improvement, and is more often a short-term achievement in a specific skills area. The goals, process and suggestion are that of the coach. While the learner has primary ownership of the goal, the coach has primary ownership of the process. Feedback is often shared instantaneously.

Audience

This tutorial is for designed primarily for those working professionals who are assigned the responsibility to either coach or mentor the new employees or junior talents in their companies to improve their skill-sets, or help them grow in their careers. This tutorial aims at teaching trainers the difference between coaching and mentoring, and how the approaches change as per the requirement of the learner.

Prerequisites

Before proceeding with this tutorial, you are expected to have a detailed knowledge on the working process of your company, and the job responsibilities that you will handle, and the expectation your management has of you, in terms of productivity and performance.

Meher baba on Indian Independence

Shireen Davenport

Meher Baba on Independence on 4 September 1931,

“Baba remarked, “If Gandhi comes to meet me, it would be very good for him and good for all concerned.”

About the Round Table Conference, Baba explained to Chanji and Rustom:

Even Gandhi will have no influence there, in spite of his presence. He should have gone at first with other representatives who, in a wavering mood, left for Multan; but at that time, Gandhi hesitated on account of certain grievances. Then he suddenly agreed to participate in the conference, though most of their grievances were not redressed.

The point is that once Gandhi refused to join in the conference on certain grounds, he ought to have refused to the end. He should not have suddenly consented to take part in it unless and until all his grievances were redressed and removed, and he should have stayed in India. But being inconsistent, he consented to attend the conference at the eleventh hour. He has lost his prestige and now he won’t succeed there. At the Round Table Conference, differences of opinion will prevail among the parties and no one will agree, and Gandhi’s influence will not make a difference. His influence will be ineffectual.

“Why?” asked Chanji.

In reply, Baba spelled out:

Gandhi’s influence has already waned. He wants to keep every party pleased and there[in] lies his weakness. How could he keep everybody pleased when they all are opposed to one another and have conflicting views, extremely opposite to each other?

In India, the many political parties and creeds all have one common aim: to attain independence. But there is not a single party among them who can come to terms with another party about details. Even the [Indian National] Congress, the party considered strongest, is affected by the foul odor of religious differences.

Its influence on others is gradually failing. With the weakening of its influence, the influence of Gandhi is also waning. Not only are the two greatest and largest parties and communities, the Muslims and the Untouchables, out of the influence of the Congress, but they also oppose and fight tooth and nail against Gandhi and the Congress.

Even among his own followers, or those who at least agree with him on the question of independence, their objectives differ. Observe how Sarojini Naidu and Pandit Malaviya act. Gandhi preaches the use of khadi [handspun cotton cloth] to all and sundry, yet Mrs. Naidu wears silks, though she is a colleague in his fight for independence. Gandhi preaches and advocates the abolition of caste and religion, particularly in abolishing Untouchability, and his lieutenant in the Congress Party, Malaviya, does not adhere to it. Malaviya takes his cook to England with him, thinking that eating meals prepared by foreigners is irreligious. There are thousands in the Congress who do not accept this dictum of Gandhi’s at all, and that is why the party is not strong; the result of which will bode ill for the future.

Gandhi also advocates celibacy, though he himself is married and has children, and recently he arranged his son’s marriage. There are so many things like these which he recommends, but does not put into practice himself. Why preach such things which he himself can’t or won’t do?

It is this trait in his character, combined with two other great defects — vanity and inconsistency — which causes Gandhi to lose his influence gradually, and leads those who once admired him to oppose him today. Shaukat Ali was once Gandhi’s closest companion and he is now his staunchest opponent. Why? Because of that great dividing factor: the religious animosity and enmity between the Hindus and Muslims. The religious fanatics on both sides have nurtured and fostered this hatred to the extent that even in Congress there are the orthodox who color every political activity and action with their religious bigotry, and it is all authorized, approved and practiced by and with Gandhi. This leads to great antagonism which is now weakening the Congress party.

What can I say about [Gandhi’s] vanity? Too much of a thing always spoils a man. To raise one to the seventh heaven and to cry out “Mahatma Gandhi ki jai” has made him vain and brought him down.

Shaukat Ali has caustically remarked, “These things have gone to his head and made him [Gandhi] mad!”

Besides, his immediate attendants put up a great show and fuss in every activity, which shows that Gandhi has a taste for it. But it is the natural outcome of too much praise and adulation. This daily exhibition in all functions, public and private, has reached the limit. It is too prominent to conceal from a shrewd observer or a sincere soul, who never likes or desires such a show. Hence, there is the dislike of him by many who, in spite of their admiration for him at one point, have left and are leaving him in [droves].

The Perfect Master of Spirituality can do anything and everything. He can preach about things which he himself does not practice, and for his spiritual purposes he can do things according to the prevailing conditions and circumstances, because he is eternally free of all things and can undo their effects. This is something an imperfect person can never do, much less one who has no “wind” [breeze] even of spirituality [such as a political leader, like Gandhi].

The reactionary effects of all these preachings, fuss, sham, show and vanity are disastrous, causing a gradual erosion of any influence Gandhi has among his admirers and followers, however great. If Gandhi’s influence goes, the rise of youth will take place, which in its activity will resemble Russian communalism. The signs are already there, as we find them assassinating people in high places and assaulting them in broad daylight.

Although Jawaharlal [Nehru] sides with Gandhi in his objective for independence, his views, creed and activities are quite different from Gandhi’s.

On the 5th, regarding Britain, Baba said:

The British government will not grant anything more than what was settled on in the last Round Table Conference. There is a change of government and, except for [Prime Minister] MacDonald, no one has any sympathy for our cause. Gandhi, too, will not gain anything more by his presence than what has already been decided to be given. His personality and influence will have no effect at all. And if Gandhi tries to give in again to avoid a conflict, the Congress will not accept it.

Baba predicted a civil war erupting in India between Hindus and Muslims. “There will be a terrible massacre and slaughter of one another,” he stated. “It will also have its reflection on Europeans.

There will be an equally strong civil war between the Indians and foreigners, particularly the Europeans and more particularly the British.”

On the 7th, Baba said:

The common cause of nationalism and the objective of achieving independence are sacrificed for want of unity between the Hindus and the Mohammedans, and they are harming their own cause by bringing religion into the matter. No one understands religion, and all this strife and squabble is born of irreligiousness.

Gandhi, who goes to England as the chosen leader of the Congress and the spokesman for India, this time will have no influence, unfortunately, owing to various reasons of conflicting ideals and party politics. Not only will his influence fail with the British people, but his influence will fall considerably even with his own people, the Indians, to the extent of failure. And with Gandhiji’s influence gone, and “communalism” coming in, civil war will follow.

This is all very sad for poor India and for Britain, too. But sadder times are still to come before the sun of the New Era of peace and prosperity dawns on the world, for such is ordained.”

Revised Lord Meher, pp. 1237-1240, copyright AMBPPCT
photo: Meher Baba, 1931
copyright Meher Nazar Publications or MSI Collection

Thursday Mentor – Free Verse by Jay Parkhe

Greed

Free verse by jay

Because I could not lead for Greed,
it did kindly lead for me.
Pause to lead, like the Greed does.

Pay attention to the selfish,
the selfishness is the most Alchoholic stinginess of all.
Does the selfishness make you shiver?
does it?

Pay attention to the stupid,
stupidity is the most brilliant mistake of all.
Stupids are impressive. stupidity is magnificent,
stupid are vivid, however.

Why would you think egotists are large?
egotists are the most little pride of all.
Are you upset by how smaller they are?
Does it tear you apart to see the egotism so least?

Restless love

The heart without love is entombed in unending darkness and suffering.

But the heart which is restless with love is on the way to realisation of the unfading light and the unfathomable sweetness of life divine.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[From- LESSONS FOR SPIRITUAL ASPIRANTS, Complied by: BIRENDRA KUMAR]
[Copyright © Avatar Meher Baba Perpetual Public Charitable Trust Ahmednagar (M.S.) India]

Wednesday Mentor Column : Jay Parkhe – Powering Off OR Powering ON?

Are your Powering Off or Powering ON?

Summary:
Do you take your laptop on vacation? Do you take your smartphone or your ipad/ Tablet? Harris Interactive reported that one-third of vacationers take their laptops on vacation. During a Sunday meal at a restaurant recently, I observed a man sitting with his family talking on his smartphone — obviously about business. He was not happy neither was his family!

Article Body:
Harris Interactive reported that one-third of vacationers on their laptops on vacation How grateful I was for my smartphone when I came across a young student stalled on a bus stop without one , and I could immediately get help How convenient it is on vacation to use the Internet to explore the options for entertainment in the area on a rainy afternoon , and get directions to find it Easily How comforting to know that my family can reach me in an emergency or something to celebrate! – regardless of where I am in the world 

The same can be said for my colleagues . Repeatedly I have emphasized that you can control the things you can control , so you can cope with the things you can not In the complex world in which we live , especially with the level of connectivity available , it is easy to fall into the trap of feeling we are victims of other people I cringe when someone complains about having to answer their cell phone 

If you don’t want to be reached , you can power off If you-have to be reachable Because your job requires it , Then The issue IAM May be in the right job? Or ,have you just trained people that you are available here .Connectivity can be addictive My daughter , who is in counseling , reminded me that an addiction is something that reduces the quality of your life and the people around you 

My passion is helping individuals and organizations create and sustain a productive environment so everyone can do their work and enjoy their lives .When used appropriately , enable your work and enable you to play It can also undermine your priorities at work , destroy your health ,and poison your relationships when used inappropriately The issue is not about your phone or your cell phone on 24/7 

The question is whether your choice is improving or diminishing your life and the lives of the people around you .

Wednesday Column – Jay Parkhe – What is your Slogan?

In my Mentor Column on Wednesdays Jay Mentor discusses with readers the Slogans. Do you have a Slogan?  Have a look at the ones I chose for you below. Any of them make sense to you? Relevant to you? Appealing to you.

Do you think, you can expand, modify, change a wee bit and make these slogans look and work Great for you.  Slogans are not merely for shouting from the hooters or rooftops  – people like leaders who walk the talk.

Do you have it in you?  Please go ahead and create and share your creation in the comments. I shall respond ASAP.

  1. Changing tomorrow.
  2. Creative solutions.
  3. The show goes on.
  4. Hand in hand.
  5. Sheer pleasure.
  6. Better standards.
  7. Experience is key.
  8. The time is now.
  9. Mark of excellence.
  10. Success.

On spiritual path, hypocrisy is the only sin. Be honest

Spirituality is to get rid of your false self. And when your false self goes, you know what you are in Reality.

When nothing upsets you, you are at the beginning of path.

When you desire nothing, you are halfway on the path, when nothing becomes everything, you are perfected.

.On spiritual path, hypocrisy is the only sin. Be honest

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[From- LESSONS FOR SPIRITUAL ASPIRANTS, Complied by: BIRENDRA KUMAR]
[Copyright © Avatar Meher Baba Perpetual Public Charitable Trust Ahmednagar (M.S.) India]

Replugged: My article about 11 Mentoring approaches of Jay Parkhe

We are all a One Man Company. Jay is A Complete FootBall/ Cricket/ Hockey Team Rolled into one as an Accomplished Mentor

  1. Jay is a Coach. ( For Executives / StartPreneura / Businessman/Woman):

When you need to have older, wiser person around, who is better attuned to your industry and job, Jay can coach you through tough moments, think big picture on projects and ideas, and helps Mentees solve work-related problems. Coach is required when you need someone to help you think-through difficult problems. A good coach doesn’t solve problems; they help you see both the problem and your role clearly. They do this by observing, listening, asking focused questions, reflecting back, and challenging. Coaches can suggest strategies for solving problems you may not have considered, and can help you think “bigger picture” on ideas and possible solutions.

  1. Jay is a Connector – All Mentees need this.

There is an old saying, “It’s all about who you know?” Well, it’s who you know — along with who they know, and to whom they are willing to introduce you. Jay willingly opens up his network to help move an entrepreneur and his or her business forward. Whether it’s staking his own credibility on helping find a first customer who’s willing to take a risk on the unproven entity, or making that connection to a critical hire, Connector Jay is one of the most valuable mentoring assets a startup can have. People are generally inward looking. Connector Jay is outward-facing (makes you do a short exercise with your thumbs too which is his trademark style). Jay’s satisfaction comes from helping people meet each other. Jay has met a half dozen true connectors in life and without them, he would not have had as much success. Nobody knows why Jay loves connecting people, but this sharing traits comes from having bountiful amounts of energy and loving new ideas. Jay is a networker for 15 years of Social Media and has a wide and very deep network of people who all respect me and they often «get things done.» If you meet one of these people, hang on. (He may be prove to be your GodFather moment! 🙂

Jay is also an expert on Social media, Blogging and Networking and has spent 15 years in self-learning. He offers valuable tips, technology help, productivity support thru web tools he has tested over the years.

  1. Jay is a Challenger – For StartPreneurs, Business People, Social Enterprises.

Jay is not a mentor you’ll be spending New Year’s Eve with because he is there to call bullsh– on a lot of things that will sometimes make you uncomfortable. But that’s OK. If you want lots of happy talk, call your Mom. She will love everything you do. If you want to grow, you will want some challengers in your life who will tell you when they think you’re doing something wrong or if an idea just plain *****. They’re the ones who, after you call the Cheerleader about your great idea, will tell you a dozen ways why it won’t work unless you do X, Y, and Z. This criticism, if it comes from the right place, will set you on the right path. Challenger Jay is super smart and super fast–:) he often doesn’t have a lot of time so you’ll find he’ll give his dose of advice quickly and move on. Call on Jay only when you need him. He is not an ATM – Any Time Mentor! An entrepreneur’s drive needs to come from within, but many of us also need a healthy push to heighten our sense of passion and urgency and keep us moving forward. The Challenger’s role is to push an entrepreneur to put in the hard work, to sweat the details that matter, to hit key milestones and to outwork his/her competition. It’s also The Challenger’s responsibility to confront assumptions and ask the tough questions that ultimately prevent an entrepreneur from making costly errors.

  1. Jay is a Cheerleader – Executives, StarUps, Businesses.

You remember the people whom you can call after getting a big promotion and they will be as thrilled for you as your mother. And believe me, nobody will ever be as thrilled as Mom. In a cutthroat world, you need people who will genuinely be happy for you and who will be there when everyone else has left–i.e., after your company has gone bankrupt. Jay is one person like this who will sends encouraging texts or takes calls immediately if you are having a particularly bad day. Sometimes that’s all you need to get you through. You don’t need too many people like this–sometimes one is just enough, but this person is your rock.

Cheerleader Jay can give an entrepreneur the motivation and energy needed to persevere. That energy is also found in a supportive spouse, parent or in good friends, but it really helps to have someone with relevant experience and credibility say, “You can do this.”

5.Jay is an Educator – An Advisor for Business People

Jay was a Visiting B School Faculty for 15 years and and Advisor to Two New Educational Institutes and three Skills Development companies. As an Educator: Starting a business is the steepest learning curve anyone can experience. The tests of building a business are frequent — and lessons are ongoing. Educator is someone who sees in an entrepreneur a desire to learn and is willing to sit down and teach him/her when needed. From business basics to complex ideas and practices, they’ll take the time to understand knowledge gaps and help entrepreneurs avoid the costly mistakes that can be caused by being too proud to ask for help or advice. Educator is a person who takes the time to sit down and share their expertise with those who want to learn. Educators love to help others by sharing their wisdom. They want to see everyone succeed!

  1. Jay is an Ideator – StartUp, Running Businesses, C-Level Executive Coach

Jay is a Creative Thinker, Critical Thinker, Lateral Thinker and also an Elastic Thinker = The Ideator Jay asks you Are you dreaming big enough? Are you being as creative as you can be? When an entrepreneur is buried in executing day-to-day tasks and sweating the small stuff in the trenches, taking the time to pause and survey the bigger picture is critical for keeping a business moving in the right direction. The Ideator loves to play the role of thought partner which Jay calls as Accountability Partner a term he borrows from his Mentor and Coach Dr. Marshall Goldsmith as an entrepreneur thinks critically about how to build a creative and differentiated business

  1. Jay the Librarian – Executives, StartUps, Businesses,

Jay is a powerhouse of knowledge and experience. He is a walking encyclopedia on subjects he likes and has invested his time to learn more, informally. As you navigate through life, it’s helpful to be able to pull from various resources to help you get along. The Librarian has a wealth of information on your community, clubs, organizations and support systems. They know a resource for almost any need and are aware of where to go to get questions answered or to get things done.

8.Jay the Super Star and Idol to many of his Mentees – Executives, StartUps

We need to find people who we admire. People who are living parts of ourf life in a way you aspire to, or who currently have the career that you want to have. Spend time with them and get to know their routines, their resources, how they go about their days. While their way is not the only way, you can gain valuable insight into steps you might want to take to get you closer to your goals!

9.Jay can be your Teammate – Executives, StartUps, Businesses

Some days you just need an awesome listener. Someone to remind you that it’s okay; tomorrow is another day. A good teammate realizes that you aren’t always looking for a solution to your problem, or a motivational speech to spur you on. You just need someone to listen with a sympathetic ear, and then allow you to move on.

  1. Jay is a small brand – Startups and Businesses. Social enterprises.

with image, reputation and following – I support your Brand Story development by sharing my successes and failures transparently and helping you find your own answers in moments of Crisis. Jay helps entrepreneurs Dream Big – Define their Vision, Set their Mission, Goals, Objectives, Action Plans by working on a Long and Mid Term Strategy for their businesses. He then helps them to begin execution by drawing up a Project Management dummy set up with timelines, deadlines, Reviews, course correction etc.

Not all Jay’s mentees need his Entire gamut of skills. They sometimes pick and choose specific ones to save time, energy and effort or duplication.

  1. Jay is a Non-Playing Captain, Coach and Mentor

Jay takes an impassionate, detached, cold look at the business as it passes thru its crisis, turnaround, loss making phases and offers to work with the team to find solutions by brainstorming, creative thinking technique. His methods are unique, they do stand the test of time eventhough they may not have been tested in your industry.

Creativity: Generate Random Phrases and relate to the day gone by…

  1. Go For Broke Meaning: To risk it all, even if it means losing everything. To go all out. That’s crazy ain’t it? But some do. And to go by the mindfulness and other courses I am doing they say listening to heart, thinking thru heart is good. Wondering what is right?
  2. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time. Yes. it is a bit quixotic past 6 months. But past 3 are better with all the certifications and blog writing.  Things average out indeed. 
  3. Love Birds Meaning: A pair of people who have a shared love for each other Hmmm…. Will have to rack my brains to find who ? 🙂
  4. Ring Any Bells? Meaning: Recalling a memory; causing a person to remember something or someone.  Can we ’cause’ someone to remember/ recall a memory – Seriously ! I can only associate it with Traumatic or may be dramatic and laughable :0) What do you think?
  5. Curiosity Killed The Cat Meaning: Typically said to indicate that any further investigation into a situation may lead to harm.  Listening to some of the Udemy lectures I now know – Seeing and taking things on face value is incorrect. They use some jargon for it. But then Hypercurious like me – we Kill such cats! All the time 🙂 
  6. Cry Over Spilt Milk Meaning: It’s useless to worry about things that  already happened and cannot be changed. This is so true!  Which is why my Guru and Mentor brought the manufacturing term into coaching called “Feedforward” as we can only create better future and can’t correct the past ( like some pseudo-sickular historians in India who are well paid to re-write history). Sad! 
  7. Foaming At The Mouth Meaning: To be enraged and show it. The Tamil song Kolavari Di and Hindi word – Khunnas should find a way into Oxford dictionary now – Foaming at mouth is so Passe’! 
  8. If You Can’t Stand the Heat, Get Out of the Kitchen Meaning: One should discontinue with a task if they are unable to cope with it due to pressure.  I also read an advice to a girl today (purportedly by Confucius – spelt wrongly that if the man of her choice is not better than her – he is not for her or something like that – Wah! ) 
  9. Hands Down Meaning: Anything that’s easy or has no difficulty; something that is a certainty.  What’s that!?  Truly, I would like to know – I have gone thru so much bad times but things always averaged out for me. 
  10. High And Dry Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover. When you meet quixotic, unpredictables and semi-insane people in life and give your trust, empathy to them – you will be in for a shock of your life and will always find yourself in this damned situation. 

My Random Acts of Kindness suggestions


  1. Smile at 3 people today
  2. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  3. Offer to help your neighbours/friends with chores
  4. Compliment someone today!
  5. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  6. House chores can be tiring – offer a helping hand
  7. Hug your parents
  8. Surprise your parents with flowers
  9. Share today’s food with your neighbour!
  10. Feeling brave? Give blood

Jay Parkhe – Monday Column – Motto of Life

Generating some random terms is a great way to drive into your creative faculties .

Moving To The Void. Is this going to nothingness? Is this about going towards universe as your marketplace? Do you see a void that you can fill?/is there a space you can create for your businesses?/
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Cause Squinting Eyes. 😂 Funny No? Squint (also known as strabismus) is a condition that arises because of an incorrect balance of the muscles that move the eye, faulty nerve signals to the eye muscles and focusing faults (usually long sight). …

Normally, the two eyes point in the same direction.

What can cause to see with squinting eyes?

Does this trigger a memory?An incident? Was it funny? How can I use this in my speech? Will audience enjoy it?
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Decorating A Cake With Thorns. That’s a very Nasty and Cruel thought, ain’t it?  But no one dared say this to God who designed the Rose and many other flowers with protective shields of thorns around them, did we?  May be, this means we need to have a deterrent created for sugar craving Diabetics like me from eating any part of the Sweet sugary Cake?! I don’t know. Or may be it is just a thought of creating a protective shell around a very attractive product so that the deterrent ( thorns) do not allow it to be broken or stolen. What do you think?
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Living Like A Bear In Winter. – I found this phrase funny and thought provoking. The best Bear I remember is Teddy Bear who loves Honey.  The worst memory I have is of a Hairy, Toothy, Smelly Black bear in a Zoo.  It is said ( I remember from my childhood) that a Bear when he grips a man in the jungle – he does two things – 1. He encircles the man with his arms so powerfully that the ribs break and the man succumbs 2. The bear tickles like hell – so that we die laughing.  Scary stories from childhood. Don’t know how much truth they have. 

t is a common misconception that bears hibernate during the winter. While bears tend to slow down during the winter, they are not true hibernators. Black bears, Grizzly bears and Brown bears do go into a deep sleep during the winter months, known as torpor. Hibernation is when animals “sleep” through the winter.

So taking cues from the above two if we do an attribute listing for a Startpreneur – what do we find:

  1. Hold your customer so tight that the Customer Intimacy grows into Customer Lifetime Value and loyalty.

  2. Like a bear – please the customer so much, pamper them so much that they laugh, feel happy to share their satisfaction with your products/ services and they also spread the word of mouth.

  3. Make your products so Honey like – sweet, habit forming, affordable, accessible, that the customers get addicted to your brand forever. 

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    The Hopes Of The Devil. 

    This one is straight out of Google Search as I did not have another choice 🙂

    Such hopes are highly pleasing to the devil!

    (George Lawson, “A Practical Exposition of the Book of Proverbs” 1821)

    “When a wicked man dies, his hope perishes!” Proverbs 11:7

    Men derive almost the whole of their happiness from the hope of some future good

    Wicked men may indulge themselves in hopes of eternal happiness also. Such hopes are highly pleasing to the devil, who keeps his slaves quiet by means of them, until they are brought into the same hopeless condition with himself! Thus the lief of a wicked man is spent in vain wishes, and toils, and hopes — until death kills at once his body, his hope, and his happiness!

    Does the wicked man expect Heaven? How terrible will be the punishment of his presumptuous hopes, when he shall be hurled down headlong into the depths of eternal despair!

    “But the hopes of the wicked come to nothing!” Proverbs 10:28

INTERESTING day – Creativity and Random Phrases Generated for the day


  1. Put a Sock In It Meaning: Asking someone to be quiet or to shut up. Yes. I had to say it quite lovingly today as Excess in everything is bad.
  2. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance. Judging itself is bad. I heard young speakers today and the feedback could not help them – they needed Feedforward and cheerleading.
  3. Rain on Your Parade Meaning: To spoil someone’s fun or plans; ruining a pleasurable moment Yes. My feedforward may have done that to the organisers of the meet up who were pathetic narcissist speakers – giving minimal opportunity to members and aspiring speakers.
  4. Back to Square One Meaning: To go back to the beginning; back to the drawing board. Yes. I am actually happy to go back. Just posted some old painting pics today.
  5. When the Rubber Hits the Road Meaning: When something is about to begin, get serious, or put to the test. I have invested in Udemy, WordPress and Medium. I am quite serious.
  6. Down And Out Meaning: (1) A term used in a boxing. (2) Someone who has become incapacitated. When people keep saying that they are trying to find happiness I guess they are down and out and in need of narcotics which got them there in the first place.
  7. Greased Lightning Meaning: Very fast or quick. changed my mental tracks and I am no longer judging not even remotely trying.
  8. Cry Wolf Meaning: Someone that calls for help when it is not needed. Someone who is lying. Pathetic, pathogenic, habitual liars do not change. Not in my experience.
  9. An Arm and a Leg Meaning: Something that is extremely expensive. Getting back friendship is worth an arm and a leg.
  10. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so. And some play Sun Tzu rather well – Appear able when unable, appear unable when able. 🙂

Random Act of Kindness. I have chosen one. Please choose what you like.

  1. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  2. Surprise your siblings with their favourite sweets/chocolate
  3. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift
  4. Pick up somebody else’ tab next time you go for a coffee
  5. Recycle 3 things today
  6. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  7. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  8. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  9. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  10. Hug your parents

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Help a younger student with their work
  2. Buy someone a coffee
  3. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  4. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  5. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  6. Write a complimentary note for someone
  7. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  8. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  9. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!
  10. Support a small, local business as a customer


Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  2. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  3. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  4. Go out of your way to thank someone today!
  5. Surprise your parents with flowers
  6. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  7. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  8. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  9. Help someone carry their pushchair up/down the stairs
  10. Offer to babysit your siblings/cousins/nephews/nieces etc


Jay’s Creativity Tantra : Generate Random Phrases every day.

  1. Playing For Keeps Meaning: Said when things are about to get serious. I do give up at times. but I do give it a very serious try. In one recent case I gave up after 50 serious attempts to help.  When people do not wish to help themselves – who am I to help. 
  2. It’s Not All It’s Cracked Up To Be Meaning: Failing to meet expectations; not being as good as people say.  Yes that is my not wish.
  3. When the Rubber Hits the Road Meaning: When something is about to begin, get serious, or put to the test.  I am going to junk few Udemy courses I enrolled Free and have not gone to them yet. I wish to revise the ones I finished quickly but would like to re-read/ listen/ watch. 
  4. It’s Not Brain Surgery Meaning: A task that’s easy to accomplish, a thing lacking complexity.  I wish I get one today. 
  5. Like Father Like Son Meaning: Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior. My receding hairline or the growing Temple from both sides makes me resemble my father. I do wish I had my mother’s blue eyes and my father’s Dark Tan – near black color rather than the pale brown I have 🙂 .  I do have their Temper, I do have their killer instincts and I do have the hunger for knowledge and the will to chase building reputation instead of money. 
  6. No Ifs, Ands, or Buts Meaning: Finishing a task without making any excuses.  FINISHIATIVE is a term I used for many years now. It has come to stay with me.
  7. Lickety Split Meaning: To go at a quick pace; no delaying!  At my Age, is there another option?  Slowdown is not my option. Hope is not part of my strategy.
  8. Talk the Talk Meaning: Supporting what you say, not just with words, but also through action or evidence. Yes! That is Integrity for me. Do what I say. Fulfill every promise I made, fulfill every commitment before I am dead. 
  9. Not the Sharpest Tool in the Shed Meaning: Someone who isn’t witty or sharp, but rather, they are ignorant, unintelligent, or senseless.  I hope I do not have to deal with one today. 
  10. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful. I so believe in this. I love gifting more than receiving. Rarely I go for a Quid Pro Quo!. 


Random Acts of Kindness. I have chosen one. Please choose one.

  1. Hug your parents
  2. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  3. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  4. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  5. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  6. Bake something for your family/friends
  7. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call
  8. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  9. Feeling brave? Give blood
  10. Offer to help your neighbours/friends with chores


Jay’s Mantra-Random Acts of Kindness Today.

  1. Go out of your way to thank someone today!
  2. Make someone a cup of coffee
  3. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!
  4. Buy someone a coffee
  5. Go the day without complaining
  6. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  7. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  8. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call
  9. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!
  10. Know someone who’s feeling under the weather? Pay them a visit!

Master’s prayer

THE MASTER’S PRAYER—-

 

This prayer was dictated by Baba during the 21 days of His special work, 13th August – 2nd September 1953.

 

It was recited in Baba’s presence every day by one of the mandali. The Gujarati translation of the Prayer was also read out by another of the mandali.

 

O Parvardigar, the Preserver and Protector of All,

 

You are without Beginning, and without End,

 

Non-dual, beyond Comparison and none can measure You.

 

You are without colour, without expression, without form and without attributes.

 

You are unlimited and unfathomable, beyond imagination and conception; eternal and imperishable.

 

You are indivisible and none can see You, but with eyes Divine.

 

You always were, You always are, and You always will be.

 

You are everywhere, You are in everything and You are also beyond everywhere and beyond everything.

 

You are in the firmament and in the depths, You are manifest and unmanifest, on all planes and beyond all planes.

 

You are in the three worlds, and also beyond the three worlds.

 

You are imperceptible and independent.

 

You are the Creator, the Lord of Lords, the Knower of all minds and hearts. You are Omnipotent and Omnipresent.

 

You are Knowledge Infinite, Power Infinite and Bliss Infinite.

 

You are the Ocean of Knowledge, All-Knowing, Infinitely-Knowing; the Knower of the past, the present and the future, and You are Knowledge itself.

 

You are All-merciful and eternally benevolent.

 

You are the Soul of souls, the One with infinite attributes.

 

You are the Trinity of Truth, Knowledge and Bliss.

 

You are the Source of Truth, the Ocean of Love.

 

You are the Ancient One, the Highest of the High, You are Prabhu and Parameshwar.

 

You are the Beyond-God and the Beyond-Beyond-God also.

 

You are Parabrahma, Allah, Elahi, Yezdan, Ahuramazda and God the Beloved.

 

You are named Ezad – the only One worthy of worship.

 

Meher Baba