Posted on

Jay’s Tantra: To resolve a Dilemma

Sometimes, I have dilemma.  Mostly the decision is about People who come in my life, stay there, get benefitted, some reciptrocate, some don’t. Some cost me money, some Time, Some deep efforts and some simply gifts and for some I give all that I have.

Then come some moments, decisive when the masks are unpeeled, they fall off, the gloves come off, bad behaviour, attitude, insults start hurting and I realise the my Trust was ill-placed. I have made a huge error of judgement.

In such times, I use Jay’s Tantra. The simplest way is to consult and seek advice from the Omnipotent, Omniscient, Omnipotent  – The Om -HIMSELF.   I go to BhagvadGita and choose a random shloka. I also go to a Bible someone gifted me years ago.  I take a Verse for Bible.

I then decipher meaning as per my understanding and draw inferences.  These are not regular moments, they happen when I have a deep dilemma.  It is never a Conscience issue though as Conscientious decisions come to me quick and fast – No problem there.

Today’s Dilemma was solved by these two and I urge readers to try this if you come across such difficult moments in life.

This is what came out as Random Verse from Bible:

Proverbs 23:9

Passage: 

Do not speak to fools,

for they will scorn your prudent words.

This is what came as Random Shloka from Gita

Srimad Bhagavad Gita

Chapter 2 Sloka 70 

Got it!

Yes. I got my answer to the dilemma. That’s Jay’s Tantra.  Use it sparingly and only in dire situations with full belief and trust in the Almighty. Amen!

Advertisements
Posted on

Strange Bio-Rhythms, Random Phrases, creativity and Daily WebLog :)

I believe in Bio-Rhythms. Have done so for over 30 years – ever since I read the book about the research on Bio-rhythms and wanted to buy the Japanese – CASIO watch which showed 3 biorhythms – Physical, Emotional and Intellectual.  They also sold Cards in those days where you can calculate your critical days and avoid major financial decisions, Driving, Flying a plane etc. etc. etc.

It was interesting when I found the Apps on Android and iPhones.  I downloaded and saw a fourth one added – i.e. Intution !   I said, it is getting interesting.  As per initial book if I were to calculate I should have been Dead when I was 58+ i.e. 23 X 28 X 33 days = 58 years, …. days.  I did not believe it. The book also talked about how they scientifically studied the Date of birth and time of birth of the Rail, Plane, Sea, Cycle, Bicycle, Car, Bus and Electrical accidents and deaths.  It appeared scientific and eventhough a Skeptic I said let us give it a try and it has remained with me as a Daily watch every morning before my morning walks – to watch in the phone.

Today was not supposed to be great.  The biorhythm explanation said do and see what Random Phrases turned up this morning.

  1. Hard Pill to Swallow Meaning: Something that’s difficult to accept.  Wife was travelling and I had to cut short my morning walk by 2/3rd to be back home for opening door for the housemaid. 
  2. Yada Yada Meaning: A way to notify a person that what they’re saying is predictable or boring.  I recall having done this a few days ago and quite harshly using all the bitterness and venom in my brain flowing thru my fingers and typing.
  3. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees Meaning: Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired. True enough, nothing worth challenging the statement but which tree to plant is a question came to my mind as I am seriously thinking of joining some Kisan Morcha of a political party and fight for their rights. 
  4. On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others.  Not happening with me for few months. I am too much of a challenger this year and have broken off with many due to differences, attitudinal issues or having met simple INGRATES and suckers and some who were a disgrace to the word MENTOR.  
  5. No-Brainer Meaning: Anything that requires minimal brain activity to accomplish.  Yeah, Yeah, Yeah,  I recently heard a speech and to a longwinded un=stupid question ( questions are never stupid – answers are) the speaker could not properly respond.  I thought of C A P – Common sense, Alert response, Presence of mind  – if this was used by the old man = A DTM ( toast masters lingo)  he would have been better off.  
  6. Read ‘Em and Weep Meaning: Often said by the winner in poker, as the others ‘weep’ over the loss.   No. Not happening. I am playing for negotiation, accent, agreement these days perforce. 
  7. Jumping the Gun Meaning: Something that occurs too early before preparations are ready. Starting too soon.  May be, I should have waited for the 500 words contest write up submission till the last date but I just sent it.  I also sent an article 3 months before the magazine is due to be published on the occasion of an International conference in which the organisers wish to invite me.  
  8. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers.  We had this with our relatives family when every one fell sick couple of weeks ago. Mumbai weather made me sick too.
  9. Goody Two-Shoes Meaning: A smugly virtuous person.  I met one recently, was introduced by a friend, highly recommended but the guy was so snooty, SOB and highhanded – he did not even offer to shake hands.  I said F. Off!  
  10. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited for. Not seen this yet, but the Astrologer friend’s remark about a foreign proposal that it will be below dignity if we accept was intriguing.  Need to probe him further.

So overall still an interesting day.

Posted on

Wednesday Mentor – Jay Parkhe- Creativity with Random Idioms Generated

Some very interesting Generated Idioms for the day:

  1. Every Fight Is An Awful Sight.
  2. Glue Doesn’t Stick To Everything.
  3. To Be In Need Is Bitter-sweet
  4. Chasing Birds.
  5. Once The Sun Turns Green.

Couple of incidents in the week and the day made me laugh out loud.

On a serious note, Every Mentor and mentee face these situations. The Startpreneurs preparing for bigger competitions ahead need to take inspiration from such random thoughts and using lateral thinking – attribute listing  as problem solving triggers to new and innovative ideas

 

Posted on

Random Inputs Generated – Creative Weekend and How the day passed.

  1. Every Cloud Has a Silver Lining Meaning: To be optimistic, even in difficult times. This is quite true. Things always average out for us in Life.  Some are unlucky for some time but on a macro-level law of averages applies to all. 
  2. Scot-free Meaning: Getting away freely from custody, punishment, or any type of risky situation. When you are an Evaluator of a meeting and you get away with Murder i.e. very harsh remarks about the weakest of your own team members.  
  3. Under the Weather Meaning: Not feeling well, in health or mood.  The bad biorhythms period has gone away. A week ago, it was very critical with all 3 rhythms passing thru critical level. It can cause accidents, or death. Good the phase is over. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  But some people would subtly, simply invite you to judge every one of their actions willy nilly and we find them sulking when things do not go well with them in terms of feedforward. 
  5. Tug of War Meaning: It can refer to the popular rope pulling game or it can mean a struggle for authority.  I drop Coaching / mentoring clients when this begins and some of them begin back to back coaching/ mentoring when it is clear that what I do is not Peer Coaching.  
  6. Jig Is Up Meaning: For a ruse or trick to be discovered; to be caught.  I tried an experiment today. Wrote 5 points and the person picked up only one to respond – it was about them! There was least concern or expression about other 4 of which 3 related to me. I write such people off as Self-centred, selfish and ungrateful. 
  7. Fit as a Fiddle Meaning: Being fit as a fiddle means to be in perfect health.  A little bad spell with low sugar and BP – otherwise all parameters are good and stable. 
  8. Jaws of Life Meaning: Usually this references a tool used by rescuers when they pry or cut open a car to save the occupant. I just wish no one should go thru such experience. 
  9. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time. I have begun to all the Table topics at Toastmasters as Terror / Horror Topics 🙂
  10. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers.  – No . Not happening. 
Posted on

RAK Movement- Monday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  2. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them
  3. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  4. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  5. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  6. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  7. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  8. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  9. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  10. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
Posted on

RAK Movement. I chose my Random Act of Kindness. How about you?

  1. Go green – don’t waste paper
  2. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  3. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  4. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  5. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  6. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else
  7. Have lunch with a homeless person
  8. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  9. Share your lunch with a friend
  10. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call
Posted on

RAK Movement- Tuesday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  2. Recycle 3 things today
  3. Share today’s food with your neighbour!
  4. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!
  5. Hug your parents
  6. Let someone know how much you appreciate them
  7. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  8. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  9. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  10. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
Posted on

My RAK Movement (Random Act of Kindness). How about you?

  1. Plant a seed
  2. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  3. Purchase ethical goods
  4. Smile at a stranger
  5. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  6. Volunteer your time for a good cause
  7. Go the day without complaining
  8. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  9. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  10. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
Posted on

RAK Movement- Wednes Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Share your lunch with a friend
  2. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  3. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  4. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  5. Feeling inspired? Make a meal for your family or roommates
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  8. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  9. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  10. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
Posted on

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness – some choices

  1. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity
  2. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  3. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  4. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  5. Support a small, local business as a customer
  6. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  7. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  8. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  9. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  10. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
Posted on

RAK Movement- Wednesday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  2. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift
  3. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  4. Bake something for your family/friends
  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  6. Buy someone a coffee
  7. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  8. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  9. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  10. Support a small, local business as a customer
Posted on

RAK MOVEMENT – Random Acts of Kindness today.

  1. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  2. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  3. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  4. Bake something for your family/friends
  5. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  6. Go out of your way to thank someone today!
  7. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  8. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  9. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  10. Smile at 3 people today
Posted on

RAK Movement- Thursday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  2. Surprise your parents with flowers
  3. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  4. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  5. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Make someone a cup of coffee
  8. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  9. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  10. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
Posted on

RAK Movement- Random Acts of Kindness today

  1. Compliment someone today!
  2. Feeling brave? Give blood
  3. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  4. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  6. Make someone a cup of coffee
  7. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  8. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  9. Plant a seed
  10. Share your lunch with a friend
Posted on

RAK Movement- Friday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  2. Empty your wallet for charity
  3. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  4. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  5. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  6. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  7. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  8. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  9. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  10. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
Posted on

Random Phrases today. Creativity. Progress.

I did two Udemy courses today. One on Impromptu speaking – most wonderful experience. Another on Humourous speeches. Not great.

  1. Shot In the Dark Meaning: An attempt that has little chance for success. Waiting for the proverbial Godot. A friend offered something big, then began playing unavailable, then asked concept note. Sent it in all earnest. Let’s see. 
  2. Quick and Dirty Meaning: Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well. Hmmmm….. I have that fear about this proposal to be something I am really not. I wish to give it a try, just because opportunity comes my way. Not my type of thinking really! 
  3. Flea Market Meaning: A type of bazaar where inexpensive goods are sold or bartered.  Wonder what that means.  An article of over 3500 words is liked and then I am told to cut it short to 750 word. No. Not gonna do it! WTH are there Editors for? Why can’t they set the word limit while giving the offer to write.  And above all, it is probono work not even paid. I am seriously going to stop all FREE, probono work. ENUFFFF!!!!
  4. Par For the Course Meaning: What you would expect to happen; something normal or common. CONVERSATION on Linkedin this morning with a Cartoonist turned to Golf and we used many terms about the game but in the end I gave up. Not my cup of tea – this free advice game has to stop forthwith…. Getting Bored to death! 
  5. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished.  Going slow this week on writing articles.  Reflecting. Going slow on Speech learnings – pausing… No progress on Painting…. WTH am I doing?
  6. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious.  I sincerely hope nothing is missing. These Astrologers… they always scare me with Sade Saati of Shani Maharaj and tell me nasty things.  
  7. Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.  The morning audio course on the Impromptu speaking on Udemy was a delight. I shall repeat this and practice this.  The trainer was a Toastmaster too and wonderful to hear. 
  8. Yada Yada Meaning: A way to notify a person that what they’re saying is predictable or boring.  Hmmm… Almost said this to couple of people but restrained this morning. 
  9. Goody Two-Shoes Meaning: A smugly virtuous person.  I thin. k, I know who by now
  10. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’ Whenever I go on full speed, I come across emotional, sentimental, tangential barriers. God knows why but I carry on till either I find a Counter so that I have a number chase and something that is notable, worthy or I slip down and wait for my own Let Her Rip permission that my brain gives. 

 

Posted on

Creativity: Random phrases for Friday and how my day went.

  1. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished.  I finished two article writing and two presentations now one more to go.  Going is tough but it gets going. 
  2. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.  Parting was so damned easy, why did I drag my feet and procrastinate?  I should have listened to my Theta brainwave and the Gut feel the very first time.  
  3. Throw In the Towel Meaning: Giving up; to surrender.  Even the worst of urban commie brainwashed bran-heads give up in surrender, the worst of the masks can be unpeeled and the already Red Inside faces can be made bloody – it is a skill, a technique,  a hard De-mentoring and exposing the pseudos – the Freeloaders who like a pest/ Leech suck your time, efforts, money and peace of mind. Good riddance! 
  4. Right Out of the Gate Meaning: Right from the beginning; to do something from the start. Someone said about hindsight and my polite response was – I have foresight and farsight. I drive with a backview mirror – I don’t need a mirror to see driving in the fore.  The hindsight is reserve of the stray horses and mares with broken or absent shoes with hurting nail which makes them kick at everything – not in sight and ignore what is in sight.  That is where the ‘Saddle point’ of negotiations arrive and the Best Jockeys – Mentors put nose rings and blinkers ON so that they can convert the strays into Race horses.  Best trainers, jockeys have a different approach to deal with them. Branding them is the first step 🙂 
  5. Jack of All Trades Master of None Meaning: Having suitable skill in multiple things, but not being an expert in any of them.  Yes.  For too long I have been that.  45 specific online courses (on Udemy)  later – i am still searching for the right niche’ to be an expert.  Otherwise, I am sure, I shall get an Honorary D.Litt. from a friendly University one day 🙂 🙂 🙂
Posted on

Creativity, My Day and Random Phrases

  1. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious. How did I miss the obvious that the Business person in a mentee will always prefer MONEY, MONEY, MONEY and if here is seductive voice enticing – he will surely and certainly fall for it. 
  2. High And Dry Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover.  No. That does not happen and it is no pretense, in my mind, I work these scenarios and still try and address issues as a Human being and forgive people as humans. 
  3. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.  I do lose some, but do keep losing – primarily to my false pride, magnanimity and the inability to find untrustworthy people. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  Time is ripe now that I actually should judge the book by its cover. 
  5. Jaws of Life Meaning: Usually this references a tool used by rescuers when they pry or cut open a car to save the occupant.  I take this as a cue to use my strong arms and use the strength to overcome the situations that are regularly arising. 
  6. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so.  Just trying to visualise the moves as -people are sharp, smart and pretend – They appear unable, when able and Appear able when the are unable.  Even the best strategists can fail to read this at first glance.  
  7. When the Rubber Hits the Road Meaning: When something is about to begin, get serious, or put to the test.  This year I have acted more decisively, more abruptly, more impulsively – especially when it came to people decisions.  Most have proved right and initial errors of judgement about them were corrected by breaking up an dblocking them. 
  8. Ugly Duckling Meaning: One who may seem plain at first in appearance or capability, but later turns out to be beautiful or great.  Some ugly ducklings pretend to be the future swans but their company makes sure, the ruboff is so strong that they remain – UGLY. 
  9. What Am I, Chopped Liver? Meaning: A rhetorical question used by a person who feels they are being given less consideration than someone else. Used to happen a few months ago but now things are much under control and survivalism is not required. 
  10. Mouth-watering Meaning: Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.  Paav Bhaji for dinner – home made… wow Yummy ! made my day. 🙂
Posted on

Time is Now – Invoke your Creativity, use Random Phrase Prompts for the day.

later tomorrow today now

  1. Elephant in the Room Meaning: Ignoring a large, obvious problem or failing to address an issue that stands out in a major way.
  2. Rain on Your Parade Meaning: To spoil someone’s fun or plans; ruining a pleasurable moment
  3. Keep On Truckin’ Meaning: To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping.
  4. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees Meaning: Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired.
  5. Top Drawer Meaning: High quality, exceptional; something that’s very valuable.
  6. Cut To The Chase Meaning: To get to the point, leaving out all of the unnecessary details.
  7. Lovey Dovey Meaning: The affectionate stuff that people do when they are in love, such as kissing and hugging.
  8. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time.
  9. Head Over Heels Meaning: Falling deeply in love with another person.
  10. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited 
Posted on

Jay, Creativity, Random Phrases and Daily Weblog

Happy Ganesh Chaturthi to all Readers.  A very auspicious day. One of the 3.5 days of Muhurtha – when beginning a new thing is considered Good.

I started with a long walk, Ganapati Darshan and returned with many thoughts, ideas about a start and towards noon got lazy and just slept.

  1. Wake Up Call  Meaning: An occurance of sorts that brings a problem to somebody’s attention and they realize it needs fixing.  I realised that I need to create the Course outline and content for sharing with a Digital marketer friend for planning a self managed training event soon. 
  2. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.  Yes. I try to do that as I get very few in life as i am more a Giver but I have met the worst ingrates this year. 
  3. Swinging For the Fences Meaning: Giving something your all.  My resolve is to Give my all to Writing, Speaking and organising Self managed training, coaching, mentoring events going forward. 
  4. A Chip on Your Shoulder Meaning: Being angry about something that happened in the past. Yes. I do carry a few and wish that they dissolve.  नींद तो दर्द के बिस्तर पे भी आ सकती है
  5. Lovey Dovey Meaning: The affectionate stuff that people do when they are in love, such as kissing and hugging. Hmmmm…. why did this phrase turn up suddenly today?
  6. All Greek To Me Meaning: When something is incomprehensible due to complexity; unintelligble.  Fortunately, the abstract, Greek, Latin, Spanish speaking rubbish is out of my hair. It was just too much of Intellectual F@#$ing I had gone thru – rather willing/ unwillingly. No one. Just me to blame. 
  7. If You Can’t Stand the Heat, Get Out of the Kitchen Meaning: One should discontinue with a task if they are unable to cope with it due to pressure.  Yes. I am slowly moving out of all the Heat and Kitchen areas. 
  8. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.  Yes. Enrolled for two Udemy courses. Started one. Joined two new FB groups. 
  9. Raining Cats and Dogs Meaning: When it is raining heavily.  It should Bangalore weather in past few days is too hot for my taste. 
  10. Talk the Talk Meaning: Supporting what you say, not just with words, but also through action or evidence.  That’s Integrity for me and I am thinking to change the name of the blog or start a new one soon. 
Posted on

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness today.

  1. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  2. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  3. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  4. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  5. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  6. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  7. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  8. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  9. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  10. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it

Highlighted ones are my choices for the day.