My speeches at Toastmasters: Persuasion: Would be father-in-law. Humorous speech

You PIERCE My Soul.
I am Half Agony,
Half Hope
I have Loved NONE
but You!
I was in Love and
she was non-committal
would-be far-in-law very furious
I had tried every persuasive Trick in my repertoire and
Lost my Sweeart!
Mom wasn’t a Help
A School Head-Mistress
and a widow
she was a tough lady.
When would-be-far-in-law
tried to make a Pass –
she gave him a Punch in face
and broke his front teeth and Jaw!
I was heartbroken!

Fellow Toastmasters and Guests.
It was Aristotle, who broke down essential elements of persuasion into three parts:

(1) logos or logic
(2) ethos or ethic, and
(3) pathos or emotion.
Logos refers to logic, words, and reasons in your argument. “our narrative must fit toger like links in a chain or pieces of a jigsaw puzzle to form a coherent statement or argument.

Think, plan talk,
we organize points in a sequence from general
to particular, from start to conclusion,
with each point building on each previous point to form a persuasive argument.”

second aspect of persuasion—ethos—
refers to your character, ethics, and our believability when we speak. Increase credibility with our audience before and after our speech increases likelihood that listeners will accept our arguments and take action on our recommendations.

Pathos is emotional content of our presentation and most important.
When we move people at an emotional level
n we can motivate m to change ir thoughts and take a particular action..
My Mom said she’ll FIX it.
She’ll ARRANGE a marriage for me.
We sat on a Plane for first time.
My Pilot was Rajiv Gandhi.
Excited, we reached by Cab from Bhopal to Indore to see a Prospective Bride.

I was a Field Officer in a Fertilizer company.
Would be far in law was a bank manager.
He probed about my job and concluded
” It’s a Thankless job, you do! ”

I did not want to manipulate,
I told him Truth.
I left a bank job because of I felt that was thankless!
Needless to say, I remained 7 star Sales Person won all honors in company but..
I did not get married n with that Girl
who agreed with her far.
I did not want to manipulate,
Let me give you another example: Have you Ever Resigned from a Job?

I have..
I resigned 6 times.
No one leaves a good company.
We all leave bad bosses.
As a Recruiter, Boss and Leader I recruited. Thousands of people in 25 years…
I was both, good and bad boss .
and accepted. hundreds of resignations, .
Before I sent people to HR for Exit interviews I would ask m
Have you finally, decided to quit after a logical, rational thought?
If answer was a firm yes, I would let people GO with a heavy heart but I would respect ir decision and told m so
If answer was non-definite I would ask m if y wanted help or decision support from me?
I would tell m if you still reach a decision to quit after my counsel. –
I will respect decision.
Many people stayed back.
I persuaded. well.
last example, I was a salesman at 12.
I had medical reps much elder to me as my friends.
Mr. Rao was 40, Bald and energetic. (Don’t look at TMOD! OR GE please ! )
He represented Warner Hindustan and always gifted us sample bottles of Waterbury’s compound.
He tried hard to convince Top doctor in city
who was my uncle and never prescribed Waterbury’s compound.
He tried all tricks in his book which were ethical, logical and emotional – all. persuasive types.
One day, he found my uncle ready to sit in car,ready to go home and he asked him.
Doctor, I . tried every trick I learned in past 20 years with you for past 3 years but why. have I not succeded to convince you.
May. I now surrender before you and ask you -= How to convince a Top Doctor like you.
My Uncle laughed his 7 story Laugh. His ego satisfied, inflated. He drove away. Did not say a word.
But he prescribed Waterbury’s compound reafter to one and sundry.
Now that’s power of persuasion.
Ladies and Gentlemen, Never lose heart and manipulate ors – Persuade. It takes longer but we succeed.
To end, let me give you a Quote –
How quick comes reason to approve what we care about?
Let us Persuade, Convince,
Understand ors first before ors understand us,
and Win Victories and friends for life.
Over to you, ToastMaster.


Cross-Cultures and Communication: My Toastmasters experience

My friend from Thailand Online Toastmasters posted this on Facebook “Anusorn Swasdee to Thailand Online Toastmasters Club

Minute of Thailand Online Toastmasters Club meeting #21 on Saturday 21st September 2019, 22:00-23:07 ICT (Bangkok Time).

22:00:06 President, DTM Anusorn, opened the meeting.

22:00:38 Toastmaster of the night, DTM Anusorn explained about the meeting and gave the theme, “Nature.”

22:02:26 AD VPE Samarn gave the word of the day, “sacrify.”

22:06:33 Table Topics master, DTM Anusorn, started impromptu session.

22:24:05 Prepared speeches session started.

22:25:45 1st speaker, DTM Suphot, delivered a speech, about how people sacrify nature.

22:34:36 2nd speaker, TM Jay delivered a speech, Reflection on 2nd path, Presentation Mastery.

22:50:08 General Evaluator, Secretary Trirat, started the evaluation session.

22:51:18 1st personal evaluator and time keeper, DTM Pim, gave the observation.

22:55:32 2nd personal evaluator, AD VPE Samarn, gave the observation.

23:00:05 General Evaluator, Secretary Trirat, gave the observation.

23:03:07 Our guest, TM Jay, gave feedbacks.

23:07:48 President, DTM Anusorn, closed the meeting.

Today, we have 6 members and a guest.

Members: District 84 PQD DTM Pim, AD VPE DL5 CL Samarn Siasakul, Secretary IP3 EH1 Trirat Petchsingh, VPPR TM Sita Khawsuwan, District 97 Network Ambassador DTM Suphot Hutayana, President DTM Anusorn Swasdee

Guest: TM Dhananjay Parkhe from Bangalore, India.

Our agenda:

Our local time for everyone:

Our place of meeting (online):” .

I was delighted to see the mention of my nick name 🙂

More than that the idea of learning Cross-cultures which attracts me to Online clubs and how well they receive you when you visit them as guests is a memorable experience indeed.

Years Ago, on Ecademy social network, I made friends with Dr.Paul Melessen who was ex-Superintendent of Amsterdam Police and become a Cross Cultural Trainer.  It was marvellous, learning experience I had making friends with him.

Last year as I joined Toastmasters – I knew my weakness was AUDIENCE AWARENESS and if I had to be a successful Global Speaker – this is a critical ingredient of creating influence, impact and ease of communication.

While talking at different Toastmasters Online platforms as Table topic speaker, Prepared Speech speaker or a role player as Toastmaster of the day or General evaluator, Speech evaluator, ISC Contest Judge/ Tie breaker judge the difference and my lack of understanding of Audiences became a stark reality.   Great mentors, friendly, hospitable toastmasters helped me along the way as rushed thru few clubs and became a member of two clubs.

Giving a Pathways speech for practice, impromptu and speak for 10-12 minutes /. getting evaluated by a worthy DTM from Thailand and his wonderful feedback ” You don’t have to thank in a Toastmaster pathways speech,  as you lost precious 30 seconds twice which you could have used to share your wonderful message even better.  DTM Tirat Thank you. I shall always remember this while giving Pathways speeches.

We learn with each interaction.  We OBSERVE A LOT just by watching others closely.  I am learning and the Cross cultural learning experience is my take from visits to Toastmast clubs worldwide.

ToastMastery and Social Obligation

Thanks to my Mentors, Mentees, Evaluators and Fellow Toastmasters. The 1st peak in Pathways. Completion of 2 Paths . and Pathways Mentor Certificate in less than 1 year ! ( I am late by 6 months as per my target date but Better Late than Never. Feels great to restart the Toastmasters journey. I truly believe that the Social Obligation of a Toastmaster’s Toastmastery ( Mastery in Servitude) can be realised by serving the Youth of our country.
I truly believe that the 4 th and 5th Leg of AIM Mentoring i.e. Leadership and Speaking Skills have a great opportunity for all Toastmasters in India to visit the AIM Tinkering Labs ( over 1000 AND counting) in the country and begin Youth Leadership program with Niti Aayog. Who is better equipped than a Toastmaster to impart Communication and Leadership . skills to our youth. Amen!

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From my respected Mentor – Dr. Marshall Goldsmith

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