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RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness. Keep At It.

  1. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift
  2. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  3. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  4. Let someone know how much you appreciate them
  5. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  6. Visit a friend who’s sick
  7. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!
  8. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  9. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  10. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
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RAK – Random Acts of Kindness Movement. Keep at it!

  1. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  2. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  3. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  4. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  5. Open the door for someone
  6. Forgive someone who has wronged you
  7. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  8. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  9. Know someone who’s feeling under the weather? Pay them a visit!
  10. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them

Creativity, Day’s Progress, Random Phrases and Observing my thoughts

I have often said that Just by Watching you can Observe a Lot 🙂  and having an investigator, fraud detectors training helps.

  1. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’  The Three Focus areas are clear to me now. 1. Toast Masters – TOCK ( like in Tick-Tock of the clock) journey 2. Continue to write on wordpress, globallinkers and medium regularly and may be, publish some ebooks on Amazon for posterity. 3.  Keep learning i.e. Finish the first 100 courses on Udemy of which I have completed 55 already and then enroll for more. Learning should never end. 
  2. Poke Fun At Meaning: Making fun of something or someone; ridicule.  Abond person who shared others’ SECRET emails can not be trusted – he can do the same to you. I met such a man recently and ridiculed him.  Broke all bonds as breaking a Pro-bono mentor bond is the easiest as the other person who is un-mentorable hasn’t paid me a penny.  I feel happy to GRO – Get Rid Off them from my life. 
  3. Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.  Last week or so been sleeping in the noon and gaining weight for no reason but still feeling a delight inside. I don’t know why. 
  4. Jig Is Up Meaning: For a ruse or trick to be discovered; to be caught.  I retraced a step rather stuck to my principles and values and stayed off from the Thugs masquerading as Mentees and were leeches on my time, efforts and money.  Feels great in exposure, sad in my bad judgement of people and giving full Trust in first meeting.  I guess I can not learn to correct myself ever.  I still have trust in Humanity and Humans. What can I do when I meet animals in the garb of men and women?
  5. Ride Him, Cowboy! Meaning: A cheer people yell, usually at rodeos when cowboys are clinging to the backs of untamed horses.  I am leaving Mentoring – i.e. ProBono mentoring. I have heard several audios and videos now to change my belief system that Coaching is paid while mentoring is free. This year has taught me this lesson. 
  6. Top Drawer Meaning: High quality, exceptional; something that’s very valuable.  I still wish to do the Tony Robbins Coaching course once I have funds. It is too costly given the falling Rupee prices these days. 
  7. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.  I loved and passed the two recent Udemy courses and I found them the best so far that I practiced and practiced and practiced. 
  8. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious.  Trying to become a myopic now and not see beyond my nose as life get difficult and difficult.  A politician who was so upbeat last week to offer me a national position ws so morose and down today that I could not believe my ears. But I did a course that says that people lie the most on phone, SMS, WhatsApp and least on emails.  One of my mentees famously said to me about “plausible deniability” and changed his email servers for entire company emails every 6 months. That was paranoid. 
  9. Right Out of the Gate Meaning: Right from the beginning; to do something from the start.  The latest courses Pathways and Body language are very appealing – the behavioural economics, Brain, Hypnotism, NLP and neuromarketing are next focus  of learning
  10. Par For the Course Meaning: What you would expect to happen; something normal or common.  The astrologers say till 2020 the Saturn 2.5 years are worst indicated. A friendly actuary predicted death in 1000 days and I am on a countdown as per him. I am not out to prove him right or wrong.  I think I shall be par for the course. 

Creativity, Random Phrases and my Yesterday :)

  1. Drive Me Nuts Meaning: To greatly frustrate someone. To drive someone crazy, insane, bonkers, or bananas.
  2. No-Brainer Meaning: Anything that requires minimal brain activity to accomplish.
  3. Hands Down Meaning: Anything that’s easy or has no difficulty; something that is a certainty.
  4. Greased Lightning Meaning: Very fast or quick.
  5. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.
  6. Lickety Split Meaning: To go at a quick pace; no delaying!
  7. On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others.

Jay’s Tantra: To resolve a Dilemma

Sometimes, I have dilemma.  Mostly the decision is about People who come in my life, stay there, get benefitted, some reciptrocate, some don’t. Some cost me money, some Time, Some deep efforts and some simply gifts and for some I give all that I have.

Then come some moments, decisive when the masks are unpeeled, they fall off, the gloves come off, bad behaviour, attitude, insults start hurting and I realise the my Trust was ill-placed. I have made a huge error of judgement.

In such times, I use Jay’s Tantra. The simplest way is to consult and seek advice from the Omnipotent, Omniscient, Omnipotent  – The Om -HIMSELF.   I go to BhagvadGita and choose a random shloka. I also go to a Bible someone gifted me years ago.  I take a Verse for Bible.

I then decipher meaning as per my understanding and draw inferences.  These are not regular moments, they happen when I have a deep dilemma.  It is never a Conscience issue though as Conscientious decisions come to me quick and fast – No problem there.

Today’s Dilemma was solved by these two and I urge readers to try this if you come across such difficult moments in life.

This is what came out as Random Verse from Bible:

Proverbs 23:9

Passage: 

Do not speak to fools,

for they will scorn your prudent words.

This is what came as Random Shloka from Gita

Srimad Bhagavad Gita

Chapter 2 Sloka 70 

Got it!

Yes. I got my answer to the dilemma. That’s Jay’s Tantra.  Use it sparingly and only in dire situations with full belief and trust in the Almighty. Amen!

Creativity, My Day and Random Phrases

  1. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious. How did I miss the obvious that the Business person in a mentee will always prefer MONEY, MONEY, MONEY and if here is seductive voice enticing – he will surely and certainly fall for it. 
  2. High And Dry Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover.  No. That does not happen and it is no pretense, in my mind, I work these scenarios and still try and address issues as a Human being and forgive people as humans. 
  3. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.  I do lose some, but do keep losing – primarily to my false pride, magnanimity and the inability to find untrustworthy people. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  Time is ripe now that I actually should judge the book by its cover. 
  5. Jaws of Life Meaning: Usually this references a tool used by rescuers when they pry or cut open a car to save the occupant.  I take this as a cue to use my strong arms and use the strength to overcome the situations that are regularly arising. 
  6. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so.  Just trying to visualise the moves as -people are sharp, smart and pretend – They appear unable, when able and Appear able when the are unable.  Even the best strategists can fail to read this at first glance.  
  7. When the Rubber Hits the Road Meaning: When something is about to begin, get serious, or put to the test.  This year I have acted more decisively, more abruptly, more impulsively – especially when it came to people decisions.  Most have proved right and initial errors of judgement about them were corrected by breaking up an dblocking them. 
  8. Ugly Duckling Meaning: One who may seem plain at first in appearance or capability, but later turns out to be beautiful or great.  Some ugly ducklings pretend to be the future swans but their company makes sure, the ruboff is so strong that they remain – UGLY. 
  9. What Am I, Chopped Liver? Meaning: A rhetorical question used by a person who feels they are being given less consideration than someone else. Used to happen a few months ago but now things are much under control and survivalism is not required. 
  10. Mouth-watering Meaning: Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.  Paav Bhaji for dinner – home made… wow Yummy ! made my day. 🙂

Random Phrases today. Creativity. Progress.

I did two Udemy courses today. One on Impromptu speaking – most wonderful experience. Another on Humourous speeches. Not great.

  1. Shot In the Dark Meaning: An attempt that has little chance for success. Waiting for the proverbial Godot. A friend offered something big, then began playing unavailable, then asked concept note. Sent it in all earnest. Let’s see. 
  2. Quick and Dirty Meaning: Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well. Hmmmm….. I have that fear about this proposal to be something I am really not. I wish to give it a try, just because opportunity comes my way. Not my type of thinking really! 
  3. Flea Market Meaning: A type of bazaar where inexpensive goods are sold or bartered.  Wonder what that means.  An article of over 3500 words is liked and then I am told to cut it short to 750 word. No. Not gonna do it! WTH are there Editors for? Why can’t they set the word limit while giving the offer to write.  And above all, it is probono work not even paid. I am seriously going to stop all FREE, probono work. ENUFFFF!!!!
  4. Par For the Course Meaning: What you would expect to happen; something normal or common. CONVERSATION on Linkedin this morning with a Cartoonist turned to Golf and we used many terms about the game but in the end I gave up. Not my cup of tea – this free advice game has to stop forthwith…. Getting Bored to death! 
  5. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished.  Going slow this week on writing articles.  Reflecting. Going slow on Speech learnings – pausing… No progress on Painting…. WTH am I doing?
  6. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious.  I sincerely hope nothing is missing. These Astrologers… they always scare me with Sade Saati of Shani Maharaj and tell me nasty things.  
  7. Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.  The morning audio course on the Impromptu speaking on Udemy was a delight. I shall repeat this and practice this.  The trainer was a Toastmaster too and wonderful to hear. 
  8. Yada Yada Meaning: A way to notify a person that what they’re saying is predictable or boring.  Hmmm… Almost said this to couple of people but restrained this morning. 
  9. Goody Two-Shoes Meaning: A smugly virtuous person.  I thin. k, I know who by now
  10. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’ Whenever I go on full speed, I come across emotional, sentimental, tangential barriers. God knows why but I carry on till either I find a Counter so that I have a number chase and something that is notable, worthy or I slip down and wait for my own Let Her Rip permission that my brain gives. 

 

RAK MOVEMENT – Random Acts of Kindness today.

  1. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  2. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  3. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  4. Bake something for your family/friends
  5. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  6. Go out of your way to thank someone today!
  7. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  8. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  9. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  10. Smile at 3 people today

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness – some choices

  1. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity
  2. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  3. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  4. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  5. Support a small, local business as a customer
  6. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  7. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  8. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  9. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  10. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes

My RAK Movement (Random Act of Kindness). How about you?

  1. Plant a seed
  2. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  3. Purchase ethical goods
  4. Smile at a stranger
  5. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  6. Volunteer your time for a good cause
  7. Go the day without complaining
  8. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  9. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  10. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today

RAK Movement. I chose my Random Act of Kindness. How about you?

  1. Go green – don’t waste paper
  2. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  3. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  4. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  5. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  6. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else
  7. Have lunch with a homeless person
  8. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  9. Share your lunch with a friend
  10. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call

Jay, Creativity, Random Phrases and Daily Weblog

Happy Ganesh Chaturthi to all Readers.  A very auspicious day. One of the 3.5 days of Muhurtha – when beginning a new thing is considered Good.

I started with a long walk, Ganapati Darshan and returned with many thoughts, ideas about a start and towards noon got lazy and just slept.

  1. Wake Up Call  Meaning: An occurance of sorts that brings a problem to somebody’s attention and they realize it needs fixing.  I realised that I need to create the Course outline and content for sharing with a Digital marketer friend for planning a self managed training event soon. 
  2. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.  Yes. I try to do that as I get very few in life as i am more a Giver but I have met the worst ingrates this year. 
  3. Swinging For the Fences Meaning: Giving something your all.  My resolve is to Give my all to Writing, Speaking and organising Self managed training, coaching, mentoring events going forward. 
  4. A Chip on Your Shoulder Meaning: Being angry about something that happened in the past. Yes. I do carry a few and wish that they dissolve.  नींद तो दर्द के बिस्तर पे भी आ सकती है
  5. Lovey Dovey Meaning: The affectionate stuff that people do when they are in love, such as kissing and hugging. Hmmmm…. why did this phrase turn up suddenly today?
  6. All Greek To Me Meaning: When something is incomprehensible due to complexity; unintelligble.  Fortunately, the abstract, Greek, Latin, Spanish speaking rubbish is out of my hair. It was just too much of Intellectual F@#$ing I had gone thru – rather willing/ unwillingly. No one. Just me to blame. 
  7. If You Can’t Stand the Heat, Get Out of the Kitchen Meaning: One should discontinue with a task if they are unable to cope with it due to pressure.  Yes. I am slowly moving out of all the Heat and Kitchen areas. 
  8. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.  Yes. Enrolled for two Udemy courses. Started one. Joined two new FB groups. 
  9. Raining Cats and Dogs Meaning: When it is raining heavily.  It should Bangalore weather in past few days is too hot for my taste. 
  10. Talk the Talk Meaning: Supporting what you say, not just with words, but also through action or evidence.  That’s Integrity for me and I am thinking to change the name of the blog or start a new one soon. 

RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness today.

  1. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  2. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  3. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  4. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  5. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  6. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  7. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  8. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  9. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  10. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it

Highlighted ones are my choices for the day.

Strange Bio-Rhythms, Random Phrases, creativity and Daily WebLog :)

I believe in Bio-Rhythms. Have done so for over 30 years – ever since I read the book about the research on Bio-rhythms and wanted to buy the Japanese – CASIO watch which showed 3 biorhythms – Physical, Emotional and Intellectual.  They also sold Cards in those days where you can calculate your critical days and avoid major financial decisions, Driving, Flying a plane etc. etc. etc.

It was interesting when I found the Apps on Android and iPhones.  I downloaded and saw a fourth one added – i.e. Intution !   I said, it is getting interesting.  As per initial book if I were to calculate I should have been Dead when I was 58+ i.e. 23 X 28 X 33 days = 58 years, …. days.  I did not believe it. The book also talked about how they scientifically studied the Date of birth and time of birth of the Rail, Plane, Sea, Cycle, Bicycle, Car, Bus and Electrical accidents and deaths.  It appeared scientific and eventhough a Skeptic I said let us give it a try and it has remained with me as a Daily watch every morning before my morning walks – to watch in the phone.

Today was not supposed to be great.  The biorhythm explanation said do and see what Random Phrases turned up this morning.

  1. Hard Pill to Swallow Meaning: Something that’s difficult to accept.  Wife was travelling and I had to cut short my morning walk by 2/3rd to be back home for opening door for the housemaid. 
  2. Yada Yada Meaning: A way to notify a person that what they’re saying is predictable or boring.  I recall having done this a few days ago and quite harshly using all the bitterness and venom in my brain flowing thru my fingers and typing.
  3. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees Meaning: Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired. True enough, nothing worth challenging the statement but which tree to plant is a question came to my mind as I am seriously thinking of joining some Kisan Morcha of a political party and fight for their rights. 
  4. On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others.  Not happening with me for few months. I am too much of a challenger this year and have broken off with many due to differences, attitudinal issues or having met simple INGRATES and suckers and some who were a disgrace to the word MENTOR.  
  5. No-Brainer Meaning: Anything that requires minimal brain activity to accomplish.  Yeah, Yeah, Yeah,  I recently heard a speech and to a longwinded un=stupid question ( questions are never stupid – answers are) the speaker could not properly respond.  I thought of C A P – Common sense, Alert response, Presence of mind  – if this was used by the old man = A DTM ( toast masters lingo)  he would have been better off.  
  6. Read ‘Em and Weep Meaning: Often said by the winner in poker, as the others ‘weep’ over the loss.   No. Not happening. I am playing for negotiation, accent, agreement these days perforce. 
  7. Jumping the Gun Meaning: Something that occurs too early before preparations are ready. Starting too soon.  May be, I should have waited for the 500 words contest write up submission till the last date but I just sent it.  I also sent an article 3 months before the magazine is due to be published on the occasion of an International conference in which the organisers wish to invite me.  
  8. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers.  We had this with our relatives family when every one fell sick couple of weeks ago. Mumbai weather made me sick too.
  9. Goody Two-Shoes Meaning: A smugly virtuous person.  I met one recently, was introduced by a friend, highly recommended but the guy was so snooty, SOB and highhanded – he did not even offer to shake hands.  I said F. Off!  
  10. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited for. Not seen this yet, but the Astrologer friend’s remark about a foreign proposal that it will be below dignity if we accept was intriguing.  Need to probe him further.

So overall still an interesting day.

Time is Now – Invoke your Creativity, use Random Phrase Prompts for the day.

later tomorrow today now

  1. Elephant in the Room Meaning: Ignoring a large, obvious problem or failing to address an issue that stands out in a major way.
  2. Rain on Your Parade Meaning: To spoil someone’s fun or plans; ruining a pleasurable moment
  3. Keep On Truckin’ Meaning: To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping.
  4. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees Meaning: Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired.
  5. Top Drawer Meaning: High quality, exceptional; something that’s very valuable.
  6. Cut To The Chase Meaning: To get to the point, leaving out all of the unnecessary details.
  7. Lovey Dovey Meaning: The affectionate stuff that people do when they are in love, such as kissing and hugging.
  8. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time.
  9. Head Over Heels Meaning: Falling deeply in love with another person.
  10. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited 

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Creativity: Random phrases for Friday and how my day went.

  1. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished.  I finished two article writing and two presentations now one more to go.  Going is tough but it gets going. 
  2. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.  Parting was so damned easy, why did I drag my feet and procrastinate?  I should have listened to my Theta brainwave and the Gut feel the very first time.  
  3. Throw In the Towel Meaning: Giving up; to surrender.  Even the worst of urban commie brainwashed bran-heads give up in surrender, the worst of the masks can be unpeeled and the already Red Inside faces can be made bloody – it is a skill, a technique,  a hard De-mentoring and exposing the pseudos – the Freeloaders who like a pest/ Leech suck your time, efforts, money and peace of mind. Good riddance! 
  4. Right Out of the Gate Meaning: Right from the beginning; to do something from the start. Someone said about hindsight and my polite response was – I have foresight and farsight. I drive with a backview mirror – I don’t need a mirror to see driving in the fore.  The hindsight is reserve of the stray horses and mares with broken or absent shoes with hurting nail which makes them kick at everything – not in sight and ignore what is in sight.  That is where the ‘Saddle point’ of negotiations arrive and the Best Jockeys – Mentors put nose rings and blinkers ON so that they can convert the strays into Race horses.  Best trainers, jockeys have a different approach to deal with them. Branding them is the first step 🙂 
  5. Jack of All Trades Master of None Meaning: Having suitable skill in multiple things, but not being an expert in any of them.  Yes.  For too long I have been that.  45 specific online courses (on Udemy)  later – i am still searching for the right niche’ to be an expert.  Otherwise, I am sure, I shall get an Honorary D.Litt. from a friendly University one day 🙂 🙂 🙂

Random Phrases – Creativity – How did my day go as per these morning pointers?

  1. A Piece of Cake Meaning: A task that is simple to accomplish.  This time the terror topic – Table topic for me was better and I did finish in less than 2 minutes and people remembered one point I made. 
  2. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  The lady who gave an emotional story was so non=descript but the way she spoke – Fabulous – there were tears in my eyes. Such a moving Tale. 
  3. Needle In a Haystack Meaning: To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping. Not cancelling the ticket or taking a rash, impulsive decision helped. The organisers arranged another lecture at same day/ place and topic remains the same. 
  4. Curiosity Killed The Cat Meaning: Typically said to indicate that any further investigation into a situation may lead to harm.  Some things are best buried fast enought. 
  5. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’  Attended 7th Toastmasters club meeting and going faster. Mentor did not turn up or respond. Let’s see how fast I can go  now.  
  6. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.  Hmmmm. …. Not Again ! 🙂
  7. Ugly Duckling Meaning: One who may seem plain at first in appearance or capability, but later turns out to be beautiful or great.  I like the young speakers who speak for the first or second time and they are potential speakers with talent. 
  8. Off One’s Base Meaning: A person that is crazy or behaving in idiotic ways – Who hasn’t met them?  
  9. Keep Your Shirt On Meaning: Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset. Noted. 
  10. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.  Yeah yeah yeah ! I have been at the other end and made to look Yada yada yada ! 🙂

RAK Movement- Friday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  2. Empty your wallet for charity
  3. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  4. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  5. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  6. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  7. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  8. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  9. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  10. Feed a stray animal if you spot one

RAK Movement- Thursday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  2. Surprise your parents with flowers
  3. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  4. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  5. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Make someone a cup of coffee
  8. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  9. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  10. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions

RAK Movement- Wednesday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  2. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift
  3. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  4. Bake something for your family/friends
  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  6. Buy someone a coffee
  7. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  8. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  9. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  10. Support a small, local business as a customer

RAK Movement- Wednes Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Share your lunch with a friend
  2. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  3. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  4. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  5. Feeling inspired? Make a meal for your family or roommates
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  8. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  9. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  10. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family

RAK Movement- Tuesday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  2. Recycle 3 things today
  3. Share today’s food with your neighbour!
  4. Good servicing requires a lot of effort; tip them!
  5. Hug your parents
  6. Let someone know how much you appreciate them
  7. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  8. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  9. Be someone’s shoulder to cry on
  10. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand

This morning : Random Phrase for today

Ugly Duckling

Meaning: 

One who may seem plain at first in appearance or capability, but later turns out to be beautiful or great.

English is a FUNNY language – Said Shri Amitabh Bachchan in a film dialogue. i fully Agree.

I was writing to a Mentee of mine who is struggling and in the endline mentioned – Hope you face your Waterloo soon !   I had of course, heard someone say it. I knew it was about Napoleon Bonaparte but I did not know the meaning.

I sent the mail and checked the dictionary and said WTH – let me find my right word.  And Lo and Behold ! I found it.  I wanted to say – let this incident / function today prove to be your Watershed moment and all your struggles should come to fruition!

So, you can see, English is such a funny language.  I was sending a short resume on whatsapp to a membership incharge of Toastmasters and I said, i was an Orator, Debator and extempore speaker and I wish to relearn speaking skills as redundancy has set in.  And What?

After a while I saw a message with smileys and thumbs ups ! and I said, what happened?  he liked my resume?  And I read and re-read again.

It read I was and Orator, SENATOR ( capitals mine) and I said WTH 1  This is T9 and Grammarly dictionary apps promoting me! WOW!

On both occasions I laughed inwardly at my own self and my follies and said Oh – perhaps the morning Random Phrase is coming true for me.

Amen !

RAK Movement- Monday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  2. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them
  3. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  4. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  5. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  6. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  7. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  8. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  9. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  10. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day

Random Inputs Generated – Creative Weekend and How the day passed.

  1. Every Cloud Has a Silver Lining Meaning: To be optimistic, even in difficult times. This is quite true. Things always average out for us in Life.  Some are unlucky for some time but on a macro-level law of averages applies to all. 
  2. Scot-free Meaning: Getting away freely from custody, punishment, or any type of risky situation. When you are an Evaluator of a meeting and you get away with Murder i.e. very harsh remarks about the weakest of your own team members.  
  3. Under the Weather Meaning: Not feeling well, in health or mood.  The bad biorhythms period has gone away. A week ago, it was very critical with all 3 rhythms passing thru critical level. It can cause accidents, or death. Good the phase is over. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  But some people would subtly, simply invite you to judge every one of their actions willy nilly and we find them sulking when things do not go well with them in terms of feedforward. 
  5. Tug of War Meaning: It can refer to the popular rope pulling game or it can mean a struggle for authority.  I drop Coaching / mentoring clients when this begins and some of them begin back to back coaching/ mentoring when it is clear that what I do is not Peer Coaching.  
  6. Jig Is Up Meaning: For a ruse or trick to be discovered; to be caught.  I tried an experiment today. Wrote 5 points and the person picked up only one to respond – it was about them! There was least concern or expression about other 4 of which 3 related to me. I write such people off as Self-centred, selfish and ungrateful. 
  7. Fit as a Fiddle Meaning: Being fit as a fiddle means to be in perfect health.  A little bad spell with low sugar and BP – otherwise all parameters are good and stable. 
  8. Jaws of Life Meaning: Usually this references a tool used by rescuers when they pry or cut open a car to save the occupant. I just wish no one should go thru such experience. 
  9. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time. I have begun to all the Table topics at Toastmasters as Terror / Horror Topics 🙂
  10. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers.  – No . Not happening. 

Wise Coach – Naive Coach

I was reading this commercial from Tony Robbins’ Newsletter ”

When someone asks you for help, how do you respond?

The naive coach tends to “over-commit.”

They feel this heartfelt pressure to help the person, so the say, “Yes! Let me share my solutions with you. I’m committed to your change. Let’s make it happen!”

Why is this naive? Because if you rush in too much as a coach, you might scare the client away!

Or worse yet, you are seen as a “nagging” friend giving them unwanted advice. Ever experience that?

The wise coach knows better. They say, “Great. I’d love to help you.”

Then the wise coach thinks to themselves, “Let’s figure out what kind of client this is.”

You see, there are four different client types. The four types have different goals. They work at different speeds.

And they have completely different expectations for their coach.

When the naive coach “rushes in” to help, they miss out on the client’s type.

They miss what’s really going on.

The wise coach first understands the client’s type, and proceeds accordingly.

Which coach do you think is more effective?

If you ever find yourself giving advice to someone who doesn’t seem to benefit… I have something for you.

Today we will be sharing one of our top strategies for bringing faster, more profound change to coaching clients.

It will also work on anyone in your life who needs your help.”

I come into the later category of coaches – the Naive Coach! I tend to commit fast, stay committed for long and rarely have I failed.

I believe that Flirting Mentor is an Oxymoron just as a term like Naive Coach is, IMHO.   A TRUE coach or mentor is neither naive nor a Flirt ! Serious coaches are Committed people and whether they commit early or later is a matter of their mind’s processes and early or late decision making capabilities/ habits – nothing else!

 

Thursday Mentor – Free Verse by Jay Parkhe

Greed 2.0

Free verse by jay

Because I could not lead with Greed,
it did kindly lead for me.
Greed, Greed, every where,
Yet not a Rupee to lead.

I cannot help but stop and look at the Alchoholic’s selfishness.
Does the selfishness make you shiver?
does it?

Pay attention to the stupid,
stupidity is the most brilliant fault of all.
Stupidity is glorious. stupidity are bright,
stupids are smart as a whip, however.

Pay attention to the egotists,
egotists are the most zany vanity of all.
Do egotists make you shiver?
do they?

Wednesday Mentor – Jay Parkhe- Creativity with Random Idioms Generated

Some very interesting Generated Idioms for the day:

  1. Every Fight Is An Awful Sight.
  2. Glue Doesn’t Stick To Everything.
  3. To Be In Need Is Bitter-sweet
  4. Chasing Birds.
  5. Once The Sun Turns Green.

Couple of incidents in the week and the day made me laugh out loud.

On a serious note, Every Mentor and mentee face these situations. The Startpreneurs preparing for bigger competitions ahead need to take inspiration from such random thoughts and using lateral thinking – attribute listing  as problem solving triggers to new and innovative ideas

 

Random Phrases today with Creativity boosters for the day.

Great Sunday.  5th meeting of Toastmasters in 3rd Club of Bangalore. Young, vibrant crowd mixed with some bearded oldies and middle aged Techies.

  1. Love Birds Meaning: A pair of people who have a shared love for each other. No. did not happen. Day of course, began different. 
  2. Jaws of Death Meaning: Being in a dangerous or very deadly situation.  No. Not really. Saw a Premier movie for a while but did not experience it 🙂 
  3. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished. Yes. Today’s short walk left the Udemy course study unfinished for the day .
  4. No Ifs, Ands, or Buts Meaning: Finishing a task without making any excuses. Experienced this later in the day with two Excuse Masters cleverly negotiating with each other. 
  5. Right Off the Bat Meaning: Immediately, done in a hurry; without delay. Yes. without any inhibition responded emails and gave guidance to even a mail marked FYI 🙂 🙂 . Lessons repeated in Communications. 
  6. Break The Ice Meaning: Breaking down a social stiffness.  Great speeches by two youngsters and one International Humorist champs at Toastmasters. The breaking the ice speech was literally great. 
  7. A Chip on Your Shoulder Meaning: Being angry about something that happened in the past. Yes. I still carry one anger chip on my shoulder. 
  8. Shot In the Dark Meaning: An attempt that has little chance for success.  no like hope taking shot in the dark is not part of my strategy. 
  9. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’  If the brainfog is gone and wiser sense prevails – you don’t need any permission. 
  10. Wake Up Call Meaning: An occurance of sorts that brings a problem to somebody’s attention and they realize it needs fixing.  Hmmm… will wait and watch though. 
  11. Keep Your Shirt On Meaning: Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset.  Yes. even while in an angry tone, try not to rant. 🙂

Random Phrases Generated : Creativity: How well will/ did the Day Go?

  1. A Piece of Cake Meaning: A task that is simple to accomplish.
  2. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.
  3. Everything But The Kitchen Sink Meaning: Including nearly everything possible.
  4. Give a Man a Fish Meaning: It’s better to teach a person how to do something than to do that something for them.
  5. Short End of the Stick Meaning: Getting the bad end of a deal, or receiving the least desirable outcome from something.
  6. Hard Pill to Swallow Meaning: Something that’s difficult to accept.
  7. Quick On the Draw Meaning: Performing an action with the greatest of haste.
  8. Like Father Like Son Meaning: Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior.
  9. Right Off the Bat Meaning: Immediately, done in a hurry; without delay.
  10. Love Birds Meaning: A pair of people who have a shared love for each other.

Random Acts of Kindness – Choose one. I have.

  1. Save water – take a shorter shower today
  2. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  3. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  4. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  5. Taking public transport? Offer your seat to someone else
  6. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  7. Surprise your parents with flowers
  8. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  9. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  10. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them

Mentor Master Class- Free Tutorial Series 1-10 for Mentors from Jay Parkhe #3

In today’s competitive world, recruiters no longer hold on to traditional methods of recruiting through traditional one-to-one interviews. Thanks to the added competition, which has resulted in a shortage of talent, companies are fast resorting to technology, and platforms like Skype, GoToMeetings are fast replacing the old model of interviewing.

Companies are increasingly adopting employee-centric approaches to working by providing flexi-times, work-from-home initiatives, in addition to many other perks and benefits. Organizations are also getting the option to employ people they want, as compared to the ones who were available to them.

When an organization is located over multiple areas, the big challenge is to connect all the employees located in different offices spread all across the world, to the organization’s vision, identity, and rules – the big picture. That’s where coaching comes in. It is the best way to develop junior talent and provide the skills and expertise to make them experts. Having said that, mentoring provides ample space for a person to retain his individuality and his personal sensibilities.

Note that the goal of mentoring isn’t to create clones. Instead, it is to help people achieve their highest potentialwhile being in sync with the organization’s vision and objectives.

Coaching is not an innate ability; you are not born with the art of coaching. The other misunderstanding that’s often associated with coaching is that it’s related only to sports. Coaching is about pumping people’s spirits, and motivating them. Lack of motivation doesn’t come only in sports. There are times when employees too feel a need for motivation to deliver good results. Coaching helps these employees in holding their own in their team and being a productive group.

Coaching is the method of making people realize the heights they can achieve if only they kept persevering and putting proper effort. Mainly, coaching calls for a change of thinking and approach to a task. It’s about getting the person think positively about his chances of achieving his goal. It includes employee orientation towards the workplace politics, and to assist in removing the barriers to work performance.

Optimal and Optimum

There is a difference between the usages of words optimum and optimal. If a company specifies that they are interested in obtaining optimum results, they mean they want the best output from their employees. On the other hand, if they say they are looking for optimal results, that would mean that they are interested in obtaining the best work out of you in the given circumstances, or working conditions.

There are occasions when the line between optimum and optimal are blurred in coaching. Situations like these arise when an organization starts working on a new project and they need to ram up the office fast with people who are experienced in working on similar projects.

In situations like these, the job of a coach is not only to provide high levels of motivation to employees to excel in their performance, but also to ensure that the employees perform at their peak even if the requisite resources are not always available. It’s about lifting their spirit and keeping it high throughout tough times.

Mentor Master Class- Free Tutorial Series 1-10 for Mentors from Jay Parkhe #4. how coaching helps

Abstract: Let us take an example to understand how coaching benefits employees .M was recently promoted to the post of a Team Manager , something he does not have a lot of experience on . At their first meeting , S asked a couple of questions to M to know more about him , just to get acquainted .  In the subsequent meetings , Stanley and Morgan discussed what ‘s strengths and weaknesses were , and what the improvements in skill-sets were that Morgan had to bring back to his job . Over the next few months ,M and S regularly update their progress . They also discuss game play , tactics ,  and team building .

Let us take an example to understand how coaching benefits employees. M was recently promoted to the post of a Team Manager, something he doesn’t have a lot of experience on. He has been given the task to manage one of the teams in the company, so he sought help from a company coach to help him in understanding the requirements for the job, and to cultivate the right approach for the job. M enrolled for a two day per week course, and was assigned a coach named Stanley, who would be coaching him for the next few months.

S started by asking M to carry a workbook with him, in which M will keep a record of the discussions and guiding points that Stanley will provide to him during the learning. At their first meeting, S asked a couple of questions to M to know more about him, just to get acquainted. Then they discussed how they are going to work together, and with other people, in realizing the goals that have been set.

In the subsequent meetings, S and M discussed what M’s strengths and weaknesses were, and what the improvements in skill-sets were that M had to bring in him to excel at his job. Over the next few months, M and S met regularly to understand and analyze their progress.

They also spent time on discussing game play, tactics, and team building. Stanley constantly referred to his old coaching logs and M’s own workbook as evidences of improvement and encouraged Morgan to keep pushing his boundaries. Mock grills and role-plays were organized to check M’s improvement in team-managing under diverse and difficult scenarios.

At the end of the coaching, M commented on how useful he found the coaching process and how it made him realize the potential inside him that he had no idea he possessed. He is now a successful team-manager and a part-time coach himself to the new employees who join the company.

 

Creativity and looking back at the Random Phrases generated this morning.

  1. Fight Fire With Fire Meaning: To retaliate with an attack that is similar to the attack used against you.  Used judicially, without impulse and impatience – it is one of the best Tactical play – not a strategic one. 
  2. Drawing a Blank Meaning: Failing to recall a memory. Unable to remember something.  True. I have erased my mailbox and social media of one set of memories and I can truly use the expression ‘Tabula Rasa’ – Empty slate today. Even my memory enhancing tablets may not be able to help now. 
  3. Mountain Out of a Molehill Meaning: One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems. Hmmm… but frankly, barring cleaning of my Mac I did not face such issues. 
  4. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time.  Yes. a phase is over. Hopefully. 
  5. Curiosity Killed The Cat Meaning: Typically said to indicate that any further investigation into a situation may lead to harm.  Who can agree more? Me the HyperCurious, HyperCritique, HyperScaler, HyperMentor?  I have faced this and overcome this. 
  6. Top Drawer Meaning: High quality, exceptional; something that’s very valuable.  What is more important in life than LOVE?  Nay, not money. 
  7. Playing Possum Meaning: Pretending to be dead, or to be deceitful about something. No. Not my nature but people promising to do and not doing – I have seen plenty. Lack of integrity.  Even simple courtesies to let people know they can not meet or call due to….  etc. etc. 
  8. Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.  Got three more certifications from Udemy today. 
  9. It’s Not All It’s Cracked Up To Be Meaning: Failing to meet expectations; not being as good as people say.  It takes minimum two to Tango – No?  Just asking?
  10. Quick On the Draw Meaning: Performing an action with the greatest of haste.  When procrastination takes over, self medication, self harm and self-sabotage starts. Drugs, Alchohol and other addictions begin to take over the brain and one flips into an endless abyss.  It is sad but true. 

Mentor Master Class- Free Tutorial Series 1-10 for Mentors from Jay Parkhe #1

Mentoring is the act of identifying and nurturing potential areas of improvement in an individual. This could be a short-term action plan targeted towards a specific goal in mind, like career growth, higher learning, or could be a life-long process of improvement. The goals and processes are always set here by the learner. The job of the mentor here is to just facilitate, guide, and provide feedback after long stages of intensive observation. Coaching relates primarily to performance improvement, and is more often a short-term achievement in a specific skills area. The goals, process and suggestion are that of the coach. While the learner has primary ownership of the goal, the coach has primary ownership of the process. Feedback is often shared instantaneously.

Audience

This tutorial is for designed primarily for those working professionals who are assigned the responsibility to either coach or mentor the new employees or junior talents in their companies to improve their skill-sets, or help them grow in their careers. This tutorial aims at teaching trainers the difference between coaching and mentoring, and how the approaches change as per the requirement of the learner.

Prerequisites

Before proceeding with this tutorial, you are expected to have a detailed knowledge on the working process of your company, and the job responsibilities that you will handle, and the expectation your management has of you, in terms of productivity and performance.

Wednesday Mentor Column : Jay Parkhe – Powering Off OR Powering ON?

Are your Powering Off or Powering ON?

Summary:
Do you take your laptop on vacation? Do you take your smartphone or your ipad/ Tablet? Harris Interactive reported that one-third of vacationers take their laptops on vacation. During a Sunday meal at a restaurant recently, I observed a man sitting with his family talking on his smartphone — obviously about business. He was not happy neither was his family!

Article Body:
Harris Interactive reported that one-third of vacationers on their laptops on vacation How grateful I was for my smartphone when I came across a young student stalled on a bus stop without one , and I could immediately get help How convenient it is on vacation to use the Internet to explore the options for entertainment in the area on a rainy afternoon , and get directions to find it Easily How comforting to know that my family can reach me in an emergency or something to celebrate! – regardless of where I am in the world 

The same can be said for my colleagues . Repeatedly I have emphasized that you can control the things you can control , so you can cope with the things you can not In the complex world in which we live , especially with the level of connectivity available , it is easy to fall into the trap of feeling we are victims of other people I cringe when someone complains about having to answer their cell phone 

If you don’t want to be reached , you can power off If you-have to be reachable Because your job requires it , Then The issue IAM May be in the right job? Or ,have you just trained people that you are available here .Connectivity can be addictive My daughter , who is in counseling , reminded me that an addiction is something that reduces the quality of your life and the people around you 

My passion is helping individuals and organizations create and sustain a productive environment so everyone can do their work and enjoy their lives .When used appropriately , enable your work and enable you to play It can also undermine your priorities at work , destroy your health ,and poison your relationships when used inappropriately The issue is not about your phone or your cell phone on 24/7 

The question is whether your choice is improving or diminishing your life and the lives of the people around you .

Wednesday Column – Jay Parkhe – What is your Slogan?

In my Mentor Column on Wednesdays Jay Mentor discusses with readers the Slogans. Do you have a Slogan?  Have a look at the ones I chose for you below. Any of them make sense to you? Relevant to you? Appealing to you.

Do you think, you can expand, modify, change a wee bit and make these slogans look and work Great for you.  Slogans are not merely for shouting from the hooters or rooftops  – people like leaders who walk the talk.

Do you have it in you?  Please go ahead and create and share your creation in the comments. I shall respond ASAP.

  1. Changing tomorrow.
  2. Creative solutions.
  3. The show goes on.
  4. Hand in hand.
  5. Sheer pleasure.
  6. Better standards.
  7. Experience is key.
  8. The time is now.
  9. Mark of excellence.
  10. Success.

Tuesday Column – Jay Parkhe – Character Goals

Chosen randomly Jay Mentor presents you with some choices

you may take as your character goals

  1. Better yourselves.
  2. Make a sacrifice for the greater good.
  3. Forgive somebody.
  4. Break an addiction.
  5. Find out your true identity.
  6. Gain the approval of somebody.
  7. Find peace within.

Each mentee/mentoree I meet has a different and unique need that helps them define their goals.

I shall share these regularly. Take your pick.

If you require Mentor support – write to me or call me.

Creativity: Generate Random Phrases and relate to the day gone by…

  1. Go For Broke Meaning: To risk it all, even if it means losing everything. To go all out. That’s crazy ain’t it? But some do. And to go by the mindfulness and other courses I am doing they say listening to heart, thinking thru heart is good. Wondering what is right?
  2. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time. Yes. it is a bit quixotic past 6 months. But past 3 are better with all the certifications and blog writing.  Things average out indeed. 
  3. Love Birds Meaning: A pair of people who have a shared love for each other Hmmm…. Will have to rack my brains to find who ? 🙂
  4. Ring Any Bells? Meaning: Recalling a memory; causing a person to remember something or someone.  Can we ’cause’ someone to remember/ recall a memory – Seriously ! I can only associate it with Traumatic or may be dramatic and laughable :0) What do you think?
  5. Curiosity Killed The Cat Meaning: Typically said to indicate that any further investigation into a situation may lead to harm.  Listening to some of the Udemy lectures I now know – Seeing and taking things on face value is incorrect. They use some jargon for it. But then Hypercurious like me – we Kill such cats! All the time 🙂 
  6. Cry Over Spilt Milk Meaning: It’s useless to worry about things that  already happened and cannot be changed. This is so true!  Which is why my Guru and Mentor brought the manufacturing term into coaching called “Feedforward” as we can only create better future and can’t correct the past ( like some pseudo-sickular historians in India who are well paid to re-write history). Sad! 
  7. Foaming At The Mouth Meaning: To be enraged and show it. The Tamil song Kolavari Di and Hindi word – Khunnas should find a way into Oxford dictionary now – Foaming at mouth is so Passe’! 
  8. If You Can’t Stand the Heat, Get Out of the Kitchen Meaning: One should discontinue with a task if they are unable to cope with it due to pressure.  I also read an advice to a girl today (purportedly by Confucius – spelt wrongly that if the man of her choice is not better than her – he is not for her or something like that – Wah! ) 
  9. Hands Down Meaning: Anything that’s easy or has no difficulty; something that is a certainty.  What’s that!?  Truly, I would like to know – I have gone thru so much bad times but things always averaged out for me. 
  10. High And Dry Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover. When you meet quixotic, unpredictables and semi-insane people in life and give your trust, empathy to them – you will be in for a shock of your life and will always find yourself in this damned situation. 

My Random Acts of Kindness suggestions


  1. Smile at 3 people today
  2. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  3. Offer to help your neighbours/friends with chores
  4. Compliment someone today!
  5. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  6. House chores can be tiring – offer a helping hand
  7. Hug your parents
  8. Surprise your parents with flowers
  9. Share today’s food with your neighbour!
  10. Feeling brave? Give blood

INTERESTING day – Creativity and Random Phrases Generated for the day


  1. Put a Sock In It Meaning: Asking someone to be quiet or to shut up. Yes. I had to say it quite lovingly today as Excess in everything is bad.
  2. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance. Judging itself is bad. I heard young speakers today and the feedback could not help them – they needed Feedforward and cheerleading.
  3. Rain on Your Parade Meaning: To spoil someone’s fun or plans; ruining a pleasurable moment Yes. My feedforward may have done that to the organisers of the meet up who were pathetic narcissist speakers – giving minimal opportunity to members and aspiring speakers.
  4. Back to Square One Meaning: To go back to the beginning; back to the drawing board. Yes. I am actually happy to go back. Just posted some old painting pics today.
  5. When the Rubber Hits the Road Meaning: When something is about to begin, get serious, or put to the test. I have invested in Udemy, WordPress and Medium. I am quite serious.
  6. Down And Out Meaning: (1) A term used in a boxing. (2) Someone who has become incapacitated. When people keep saying that they are trying to find happiness I guess they are down and out and in need of narcotics which got them there in the first place.
  7. Greased Lightning Meaning: Very fast or quick. changed my mental tracks and I am no longer judging not even remotely trying.
  8. Cry Wolf Meaning: Someone that calls for help when it is not needed. Someone who is lying. Pathetic, pathogenic, habitual liars do not change. Not in my experience.
  9. An Arm and a Leg Meaning: Something that is extremely expensive. Getting back friendship is worth an arm and a leg.
  10. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so. And some play Sun Tzu rather well – Appear able when unable, appear unable when able. 🙂

Random Act of Kindness. I have chosen one. Please choose what you like.

  1. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  2. Surprise your siblings with their favourite sweets/chocolate
  3. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift
  4. Pick up somebody else’ tab next time you go for a coffee
  5. Recycle 3 things today
  6. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  7. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  8. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  9. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  10. Hug your parents

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Help a younger student with their work
  2. Buy someone a coffee
  3. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  4. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  5. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  6. Write a complimentary note for someone
  7. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  8. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  9. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!
  10. Support a small, local business as a customer


Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  2. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  3. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  4. Go out of your way to thank someone today!
  5. Surprise your parents with flowers
  6. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  7. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  8. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  9. Help someone carry their pushchair up/down the stairs
  10. Offer to babysit your siblings/cousins/nephews/nieces etc


Jay’s Creativity Tantra : Generate Random Phrases every day.

  1. Playing For Keeps Meaning: Said when things are about to get serious. I do give up at times. but I do give it a very serious try. In one recent case I gave up after 50 serious attempts to help.  When people do not wish to help themselves – who am I to help. 
  2. It’s Not All It’s Cracked Up To Be Meaning: Failing to meet expectations; not being as good as people say.  Yes that is my not wish.
  3. When the Rubber Hits the Road Meaning: When something is about to begin, get serious, or put to the test.  I am going to junk few Udemy courses I enrolled Free and have not gone to them yet. I wish to revise the ones I finished quickly but would like to re-read/ listen/ watch. 
  4. It’s Not Brain Surgery Meaning: A task that’s easy to accomplish, a thing lacking complexity.  I wish I get one today. 
  5. Like Father Like Son Meaning: Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior. My receding hairline or the growing Temple from both sides makes me resemble my father. I do wish I had my mother’s blue eyes and my father’s Dark Tan – near black color rather than the pale brown I have 🙂 .  I do have their Temper, I do have their killer instincts and I do have the hunger for knowledge and the will to chase building reputation instead of money. 
  6. No Ifs, Ands, or Buts Meaning: Finishing a task without making any excuses.  FINISHIATIVE is a term I used for many years now. It has come to stay with me.
  7. Lickety Split Meaning: To go at a quick pace; no delaying!  At my Age, is there another option?  Slowdown is not my option. Hope is not part of my strategy.
  8. Talk the Talk Meaning: Supporting what you say, not just with words, but also through action or evidence. Yes! That is Integrity for me. Do what I say. Fulfill every promise I made, fulfill every commitment before I am dead. 
  9. Not the Sharpest Tool in the Shed Meaning: Someone who isn’t witty or sharp, but rather, they are ignorant, unintelligent, or senseless.  I hope I do not have to deal with one today. 
  10. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful. I so believe in this. I love gifting more than receiving. Rarely I go for a Quid Pro Quo!. 


Random Acts of Kindness. I have chosen one. Please choose one.

  1. Hug your parents
  2. Send flowers to a friend or a family member!
  3. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  4. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  5. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  6. Bake something for your family/friends
  7. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call
  8. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  9. Feeling brave? Give blood
  10. Offer to help your neighbours/friends with chores


Great Idioms Generated today: Predicting the day and being creative with Randomness –

I am doing a new Learning course about Master 5 key elements of Story Writing/ Telling.

The Key elements are

  1. Character
  2. Objective
  3. Conflict
  4. Action
  5. Stakes

To Ramp this all up – it is essential to churn some new ideas and I am using the Random Phrases/ Idiom Generation methods.  This is close to what I learnt at Dr. Edward de Bono’s Serious creativity and Lateral thinking books and trainings. They are great.

A Good Plan’s All You Need.  This is true. I need to plan again. Have tried several things, done several things. My core is into Strategy and Planning but have done many things impulsively.  Good Random inputs.

A Bandage For Your Sorrow.   Is there a Bandage for Sorrows? I have proved to be with a touch of Magic and the remaining half of my heart ( after cardiac issues) of Gold, Pure and Untouched.  But what I really need is a Hand that heals those unseen, only felt wounds and sorrows people undergo. It is a gift I keep demanding the God and wait for his Kindness to shower.

The Hopes Of The Devil.  I shall park these for the moments.
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A Whistle In The Wind.
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Just A Bump On My Head.  

If any of our readers have any thoughts, suggestions – they are welcome.

Creativity and Fun with Random Sentences generated.

  1. Lets all be unique together until we realise we are all the same. 
  2. If I don’t like something, I’ll stay away from it.
  3. Writing a list of random sentences is harder than I initially thought it would be.
  4. A song can make or ruin a person’s day if they let it get to them.
  5. Is it free?

Random Acts of Kindness. Choose one for today. I have .

  1. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  2. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  3. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  4. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  5. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  6. Offer to babysit your siblings/cousins/nephews/nieces etc
  7. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  8. Buy someone a coffee
  9. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  10. Go the day without complaining

Random Acts of Kindness.

  1. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  2. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  3. Make someone a cup of coffee
  4. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  5. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Write a complimentary note for someone
  8. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
  9. Plant a seed
  10. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!

Random Acts of Kindness

Author Anne Herbert coined the phrase “Random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty,” basing it on the all-too-commonly used “random acts of violence and senseless acts of cruelty.” The idea has caught on, but there are times when you shouldn’t be practicing acts of kindness. So, before we look at why you should practice them, let’s be mindful of two reasons why you shouldn’t do so:

  • Self-aggrandisement and publicity.That’s right! No selfies when you give that homeless guy food!
  • Getting in the way of emergency services (although your intentions are good). In situations where emergency services are already active, ask how you can help instead of just diving in head-first.

Lastly, let’s not forget that charity begins at home. Unexpectedly helping a friend or family member also counts. The person you help needn’t be a stranger. Now that we’ve got beyond the caveats, let’s look at some reasons why you should practice random acts of kindness.

You genuinely get to help, even if it’s only in a small way

This one’s a real no-brainer. You aren’t being kind if you aren’t helping. By helping someone else, even if it’s only holding a door open, smiling at someone or offering to carry shopping bags, you have genuinely helped. The person you’ve been kind to feels more valued, and who knows? There could be a knock-on effect.

Make others feel good

There are a lot of sad, lonely or depressed people out there. Even if the person you help wasn’t feeling down, you’ll make them feel good. If you’re truly a kind person, this will be one of your prime reasons for practicing random acts of kindness.

Feel good yourself

Although this shouldn’t be the reason why you are kind to others, it will be an inevitable consequence. Psychologists point out that as social creatures, helping others satisfies a very deep need within our psyche. It’s instinctive and inevitable. Your self-esteem will improve because you’ll feel like a “good person.” You may even find yourself smiling to yourself when you think about some act of kindness you’ve carried out or are planning.

Build stronger relationships

When you practice kindness as a habit, and do things you don’t have to do to help people you know, you’ll build stronger relationships. If you are ever in a disagreement or do something silly that isn’t helpful at all, you’re far more likely to be forgiven.

Change someone’s life for the better

You never know when something kind that you do will change someone’s life for the better. I recently read a story about a drug addict who lived on the streets and was always treated like filth. One day, he received a small act of kindness from someone, and it made him realize that he still had worth as a human being. He went on to quit drugs, and later became a motivational speaker. Even a small act of kindness can have very powerful, even life-changing, effects.

Give, and you never know, you may receive when you need it most

I’m not sure if we should believe in instant karma, but one thing is certain: when you help others, they become more willing to help you. Since we all go through difficulties at some point in life, that help can prove to be more important to you than you would ever believe.

Others will pass it forward

Kindness is catching. Has someone ever made your day, and you spend the rest of it spreading the sunshine? That’s what I’m talking about!

You’ll become less judgmental

This is a tough one, but when we start seeing people as human beings and not as “labels” like “worthless drug addict,” a “homeless wastrel” or “sourpuss,” we feel a lot better. Everyone has their own problems, and whether they are to blame for them or not, it’s not our place to judge them. Make a point of helping someone you don’t really like. It’s good practice.

Life will have more meaning to you

If you’re forever planning acts of kindness, or grabbing opportunities to help those in need, you’ll be eager to see what each new day will bring.

Make the world a better place

Imagine if everybody in the world was kind to others. What a wonderful place the world would be! You can’t force others to be kind, but you can do your best, and the kindness contagion will spread. Whether you can help in large ways or small, do what you can to build the momentum.

Random acts of Kindness. Please choose one. I did.

  1. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!
  2. Compliment someone today!
  3. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  4. House chores can be tiring – offer a helping hand
  5. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  6. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
  7. Visit a friend who’s sick
  8. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  9. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  10. Read a good book recently? Pass it on to someone else

Random Idioms generated: Boost Creativity

No Good Comes From A Favor.

Yes. very true. All that we offer Pro-Bono or free has no value for people who are so Pricey!

Float Like A Brick.

Hmmm…. Not with anger on mind though – Make dream castles – that’s alright.

That’s Swimming Against The Tides.

Which is cool if you are an expert swimmer!

A Light In The Night Is A Night Without Fright.

Nostalgia of my childhood. But later i learnt to walk in the dark, living in the village huts for 3 years – I came closer to the nature.

Glue Doesn’t Stick To Everything.

WOW! That’s a cool Idiom worth using.  A Mentor can prove to be a Tabula Rasa for the Mentee with sparks of Brilliance and Reverse mentoring/ NLP practice 🙂

Random Phrases Generated today for Creative thoughts..

  1. Keep Your Eyes Peeled Meaning: To be watchful; paying careful attention to something.  While doing couple of courses online today, difficult to pay careful attention while walking.  Beta activity while Alpha and Theta learning brains were needed. 
  2. No-Brainer Meaning: Anything that requires minimal brain activity to accomplish. Doing categorisation as per the SEO course I am learning. Too many subjects I am writing on.
  3. Cup Of Joe Meaning: A cup of joe is an American nickname for a cup of coffee.  Coffee smells good at 4.15pm 🙂
  4. Heads Up Meaning: Used as an advanced warning. To become keenly aware.   Friendship day and some of the messages I read today and the answers I did not get today 🙂
  5. A Dime a Dozen Meaning: Something that is extremely common. Making progress on the Blog writing – I have few followers and I am happy to have them. 
  6. Jaws of Death Meaning: Being in a dangerous or very deadly situation. It is bad past. Best forgotten. 
  7. Right Out of the Gate Meaning: Right from the beginning; to do something from the start. I am cutting of many unnecessary things = made a list this morning and will implement strictly from today itself. Too many negative people, negative influences, unwanted connections, time wasters  best shown the Gate. 
  8. Lickety Split Meaning: To go at a quick pace; no delaying!  Yes the G R O = Get rid off process. 
  9. Jack of All Trades Master of None Meaning: Having suitable skill in multiple things, but not being an expert in any of them. Yes… I get named as one all the time. 

     

Fun Idioms Generated for the day: Creativity Exercises by the JayMentor

  • Sometimes, the help that comes is so slow in coming it can be termed as
  • That’s Helping A Snail Cross The Road.
    ———————
  • Just as a college is meaningless without students or teachers
  • A Library Is Meaningless Without Readers.
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  • Sometimes the Empathy / Sympathy expressed is so Verbose that I feel
  • When Comfort Turns To Discomfort.
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  • Making A Meal Out Of Nothing.  Any suggestions?
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  • There’s No Plan For Madness.  Not in my dictionary.  What about you? 🙂 

Creativity: Random Inputs generated this morning for today

Quick and Dirty

Meaning:

Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well.  The quick trip this year did not expect any result even after a month and I was little depressed.  But the Brainwave and Udemy courses I am doing are really balancing.

There’s No I in Team

Meaning:

To not work alone, but rather, together with others in order to achieve a certain goal.  The recent attempts to work as a team member without putting skin in the game has not worked.  Partner trouble of the past always comes back however much I try to let it go.

Burst Your Bubble

Meaning:

To ruin someone’s happy moment.  No I did not and will not do that.

Break The Ice

Meaning:

Breaking down a social stiffness. Hmmm… I think I shall shrink all other social activities and whatever is going on and just focus on 2 or 3 major big ticket items only.  I need finishiative myself.

Right Off the Bat

Meaning:

Immediately, done in a hurry; without delay. But it did not yield any results. May be the introduction was not done well or my offerings were wrong or may be I was not seen as the choice or I failed to sell my services well.

I Smell a Rat

Meaning:

A feeling that something is not quite right, or awry.  That sinking feeling ! Ahh !  but I am learning lessons on Self hypnosis and they are good. They work.

It’s Not Brain Surgery

Meaning:

A task that’s easy to accomplish, a thing lacking complexity.  No. I do not have any simple task in my task list. I must just junk it and fill it up with small simple tasks and steps I can do and applaud myself , pat my own back.

 

Creativity: Random Phrases this morning

  1. Read ‘Em and Weep Meaning: Often said by the winner in poker, as the others ‘weep’ over the loss.  True.
  2. Know the Ropes Meaning: Having a familiarity or understanding of how something works. Some people are very good at it. In mentoring Process understanding of how things work for Mentees is very important.
  3. Give a Man a Fish Meaning: It’s better to teach a person how to do something than to do that something for them. I do this mistake very often and end up being the loser. I need to change this. 
  4. Playing Possum Meaning: Pretending to be dead, or to be deceitful about something. Difficult to peel some masks.
  5. Birds of a Feather Flock Together Meaning: People tend to associate with others who share similar interests or values. True
  6. Put a Sock In It Meaning: Asking someone to be quiet or to shut up.  Best to do when things are not working out. 
  7. Goody Two-Shoes Meaning: A smugly virtuous person. Hmmm… Do I know some?
  8. In the Red Meaning: Losing money. Being in debt.  Never. Live life debt free always. 
  9. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so.  Don’t know who, yet. 
  10. Go Out On a Limb Meaning: Putting yourself in a risky situation in order to help someone; or to hazard a guess.  Not to my knowledge. Unknowingly – don’t know. 

Random acts of kindness

  1. Remember that friend you haven’t seen for ages? Give them a call
  2. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
  3. It can get lonely when you are old, pay your grandparents a visit
  4. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  5. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  6. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  7. Buy someone a coffee
  8. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  9. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  10. Bake for your neighbour

Creativity: Random phrases for the day

  1. There’s No I in Team Meaning: To not work alone, but rather, together with others in order to achieve a certain goal.  Technology and Virtual Assistants are also our partners – if Human intelligence does not work – Use Techint. 
  2. In the Red Meaning: Losing money. Being in debt. But still, people do not leave attitudes and bad behaviour.  
  3. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.  Quite true. Has happened to me. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  True. This is why Trusting at first glance or first few meetings, calls is also not prudent to judge character.  Bad character takes time to surface/ re-surface. 
  5. Beating Around the Bush Meaning: Someone who is beating around the bush is someone who avoids the main point.  Deflection, deception, changing topic, avoidance, quietude, break in communications are some of the new methods I have seen being adopted. 
  6. Down To The Wire Meaning: A tense situation where the outcome is decided only in the last few seconds.  Yes. I faced this yesterday. I knew it was a trap, smelled it at the last minute and accordingly responded. 
  7. Son of a Gun Meaning: A person, usually one who is behaving badly.  Yes, at times it is good to be the Bully and stop badly behaving people in their tracks rudely, without any semblence of being apologetic or being ashamed. 
  8. Fight Fire With Fire Meaning: To retaliate with an attack that is similar to the attack used against you.  Usually, I do not have retaliation or vengeance on my mind, It is a wastage of time, money and efforts. 
  9. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job. I need to do this to my failed weight reduction plan and my Udemy certification plans. 
  10. My Cup of Tea Meaning: Someone or something that one finds to be agreeable or delightful.  What’s that?  I still have to figure out. 

Random Acts of Kindness – Take your pick. I did.

  1. Pay for someone else’s meal today
  2. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  3. Offer to babysit your siblings/cousins/nephews/nieces etc
  4. Bake for your neighbour
  5. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  6. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  7. Purchase ethical goods
  8. Support a small, local business as a customer
  9. Open the door for someone

Creativity: Random Phrases for today

  1. Ride Him, Cowboy! Meaning: A cheer people yell, usually at rodeos when cowboys are clinging to the backs of untamed horses.  We had this moment today! My wife finally got to Exhibit her years of work in a State Level Art Gallery. Whether she makes a sale or not – her wish is fulfilled. God is great. 
  2. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’ How lucky some mentorees get! I was chasing them for an award submission and the second extension is for 60 full days ! Some people are so lucky. Reminder Mentors are Bad 🙁 
  3. Playing Possum Meaning: Pretending to be dead, or to be deceitful about something. Hmmm… Let’s see how the day unfolds. 
  4. Jig Is Up Meaning: For a ruse or trick to be discovered; to be caught. Yes. Had to scold and snub. 
  5. Don’t Count Your Chickens Before They Hatch Meaning: Do not rely on something you are not sure of. Yes. Not sure of what this means today! 🙂 
  6. Under the Weather Meaning: Not feeling well, in health or mood.  Sad day three therapists refused to entertain after giving dates and the fourth was so pricey 1 I decided let my purse not go under the weather 🙂 
  7. Lickety Split Meaning: To go at a quick pace; no delaying! Yes. A proposal submitted. hopefully a meeting and finalisation soon. 
  8. Eat My Hat Meaning: Having confidence in a specific outcome; being almost sure about something.  Yes. Completing total of 58 Udemy courses I am sure about. Not sure, if I will become an instructor. 
  9. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.  It happens to me all the time. I am a non-choosy Giver. 
  10. Long In The Tooth Meaning: Old in age. Mainly used when referring to people or horses. Hmmm.  … I acquire another New Label.  See am Social not Anti Social.  I get a label 🙂 WOW. 

Adieu – Free Verse by Jay – Dhananjay Parkhe

In a Mentor’s life, Mentees come for:
1. A Reason
2. A Season,
3. Or for life and accept him/ her as Life Coach.
After a longish Five and half month I bid adieu to a worthy mentoree finally today.

Adieu
Free verse by Jay
(On Cloud Nine:Meaning: Having strong feelings of happiness or satisfaction. )
Congratulations, however hard you try,
I Will always Praise.
Do congratulations make you shiver?
do they?

The communion that’s really anathema,
Above all others are the serenades.
Do serenades make you shiver?
do they?

All that is little is not hello,
hello, by all account is big.
Down, down, down into the darkness of the hello,
Gently it goes – the liberal, the high, mighty fellow.

Adieu is faces of death music.
faces of death music is Adieu.
“a strolling guitarist serenades the diners”.
“a strolling guitarist serenades the diners”,
“a strolling guitarist serenades the diners”.
Adieu

Creativity: Random phrases generated for the day.

  1. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so. – No I would like to see WIN WIN for all I deal with.
  2. Back To the Drawing Board Meaning: Starting over again on a new design from a previously failed attempt. Yes. I did not get to my target of weight loss as 31st July deadline ended. Need to go back again to drawing board. SEt new date, do something different. Something more. something less. Growth has occured. Now time to shrink.
  3. Cry Wolf Meaning: Someone that calls for help when it is not needed. Someone who is lying. Hmmm. No comment
  4. A Dime a Dozen Meaning: Something that is extremely common. Yes Random, mundane people who I try to make them do extra so they turn Extraordinary.
  5. Cut To The Chase Meaning: To get to the point, leaving out all of the unnecessary details. I like this. Always hit the nail on the head.
  6. Keep On Truckin’ Meaning: To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping. Yes that’s who I am. A Trucker 1
  7. Right Off the Bat Meaning: Immediately, done in a hurry; without delay. Call it impulse, or whatever, I call it quick finishiative.
  8. Wouldn’t Harm a Fly Meaning: Nonviolent; someone who is mild or gentle. Hmmms…
  9. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited for. I follow WEan to WIN strategy in my coaching/ mentoring and couldn’t care more
  10. Playing Possum Meaning: Pretending to be dead, or to be deceitful about something. I hate pretenders, hypocrites, pseudos and make it known from the rooftop!.

Creativity: Random Phrase generator for the day and how I foresee the day to progress…

  1. Birds of a Feather Flock Together Meaning: People tend to associate with others who share similar interests or values. Have to find more and more likeminded people going forward that people poles apart.

  • Rain on Your Parade Meaning: To spoil someone’s fun or plans; ruining a pleasurable moment. No. Not happening. Won’t do that.

  • Hit Below The Belt Meaning: A boxing term. Also often used to refer to inappropriate words, or comments that are too personal. NEVER.

  • Poke Fun At Meaning: Making fun of something or someone; ridicule. Not happening, I am in a learning mode. Learnt a bit of self=hypnosis on Udemy and will try and find internal peace. have a Heavy head though 🙂

  • Quality Time Meaning: Spending time with another to strengthen the relationship. Yes meeitng coming up. started a new startup too.

  • Fool’s Gold Meaning: Iron pyrities is a worthless mineral that resembles gold. May write another poem today on this topic.

  • Tug of War Meaning: It can refer to the popular rope pulling game or it can mean a struggle for authority. Have no tug of war situation except one tough pricing negotiation coming up tomorrow..

  • Curiosity Killed The Cat Meaning: Typically said to indicate that any further investigation into a situation may lead to harm. I think enroling in 58 couses on Udemy is ENOUGH !

  • Throw In the Towel Meaning: Giving up; to surrender. No. Never. Not happening.

  • Eat My HatMeaning: Having confidence in a specific outcome; being almost sure about something. Yess. Will begin teaching SCM Logistics course again and take up paid coaching/ mentoring assignments for Branding/ Hyperscaling of startups.

Random Daily Acts of Kindness. Keep doing them, keep repeating what we like.

  1. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it
  2. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  3. Have lunch with a homeless person
  4. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  5. Offer to help your neighbours/friends with chores
  6. Visit a friend who’s sick
  7. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!
  8. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  9. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  10. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!

Creativity: Random Phrases generated for the day, predict the day ahead.

  1. Wake Up Call Meaning: An occurance of sorts that brings a problem to somebody’s attention and they realize it needs fixing.  Just wondering, how many wake up calls one needs? One per day?  For those day dreaming? Multiple times a day:) 
  2. Like Father Like Son Meaning: Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior. Hmmm…. Appearance is OK. Behavior – may be not! 🙂
  3. In the Red Meaning: Losing money. Being in debt.  But the people in Red so get habituated of high living and dependence on others money – they seldom come down from their high horses. 
  4. A Chip on Your Shoulder Meaning: Being angry about something that happened in the past. Yes. It happens to me all the time. Difficult to let go of the past. 
  5. Mouth-watering Meaning: Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.
  6. Foaming At The Mouth Meaning: To be enraged and show it.  Ha Ha ha – I do it without foaming at the mouth – I type! 
  7. Cry Wolf Meaning: Someone that calls for help when it is not needed. Someone who is lying.  Hmmm… many recent cases of false alarms responded – leading to waste of time and going into a spin unnecessarily. 
  8. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.  Nothing is? Is there anything easy at all?
  9. Tough It Out Meaning: To remain resillient even in hard times; enduring. Tough minded optimision, grit, determination and a firm commitment – yes, that’s what it is for me. 

Creativity: Random Phrase generated this morning and how day is ending…

  1. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees Meaning: Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired. I sometimes wonder how deep the negotiations go into cutting into teacher’s courses. I found it absurd when the negotiator of an educational institute was so unreasonable – he was happy if I said I will teach ProBono 🙂 I said NO! 
  2. Give a Man a Fish Meaning: It’s better to teach a person how to do something than to do that something for them.  I TOTALLY agree after this year’s lessons I learnt. Doing things for free, offering free advice has no Value. People like PRICE these days and are mostly unwilling to pay or negotiate hard for a ProBono bargain. The attitudes are so horrific. 
  3. What Am I, Chopped Liver? Meaning: A rhetorical question used by a person who feels they are being given less consideration than someone else. Playing Victim, playing damsel in distress like ( even guys do this 🙂  ) is characteristic of some Millennials I have dealt with in the recent past. 
  4. On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others. Rare to find agreements and I like to push forward with even a few agreements. 
  5. Poke Fun At Meaning: Making fun of something or someone; ridicule.  Is this second nature in marathi families ?  We love to poke fun, pun, pull legs so much that when we do this to others who come close  – it demagnetises and repulses them. 
  6. Off One’s Base Meaning: A person that is crazy or behaving in idiotic ways.  Body language, facial gestures, awkward neck and eye movements all depict disinterest – why don’t people be cogent enough to say it on the face. 
  7. When the Rubber Hits the Road Meaning: When something is about to begin, get serious, or put to the test. The real tests hopefully start for a new Revenue making stint next month onwards. 
  8. Yada Yada Meaning: A way to notify a person that what they’re saying is predictable or boring.  Wonderful expression. I like it. 🙂
  9. Keep Your Shirt On Meaning: Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset. What I have come across this year mostly are those who offer their shirts when they are REALLY naked. 
  10. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so.  Hmmm… That’s not me ! Never.  🙂

These are the 10 habits of unlikeable people | Ladders. I CONFESS. I have them too.

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No one is perfect. But that’s a very lame excuse! No? I read this article and said. Oh, Gosh! I have the same habits which surface at wrong times.  Interesting article for deeper personal introspection and improvement.  LIked and shared.

 

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10 habits of unlikeable people

Too many people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likeable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few — the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It’s easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, being likeable is under your control, and it’s a matter of emotional intelligence (EQ).

In a study conducted at UCLA, subjects rated over 500 descriptions of people based on their perceived significance to likeability. The top-rated descriptors had nothing to do with being gregarious, intelligent, or attractive (innate characteristics). Instead, the top descriptors were sincerity, transparency, and capable of understanding (another person).

These adjectives, and others like them, describe people who are skilled in the social side of emotional intelligence. TalentSmartresearch data from more than a million people shows that people who possess these skills aren’t just highly likeable; they outperform those who don’t by a large margin.


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Likeability is so critical to your success at work that it can completely alter your performance. A University of Massachusetts study found that managers were willing to accept an auditor’s argument with no supporting evidence if he or she was likeable, and Jack Zenger found that just 1 in 2,000 unlikeable leaders were considered effective by their colleagues.

Being likeable is as much about avoiding behaviors that decrease your likeability as it is about magnifying those that increase it. To help you with this, I did some digging to uncover the key behaviors that hold people back when it comes to likeability. Make certain these behaviors don’t catch you by surprise.

Name-dropping

It’s great to know important and interesting people, but using every conversation as an opportunity to name-drop is pretentious and silly. Just like humble-bragging, people see right through it. Instead of making you look interesting, it makes people feel as though you’re insecure and overly concerned with having them like you. It also cheapens what you have to offer. When you connect everything you know with whoyou know (instead of what you know or what you think), conversations lose their color.

People are averse to those who are desperate for attention. Simply being friendly and considerate is all you need to win people over. When you speak in a friendly, confident, and concise manner, people are much more attentive and persuadable than if you try to show them that you’re important. People catch on to your attitude quickly and are more attracted to the right attitude than who you know.

Emotional hijackings

My company provides 360° feedback assessments, and we come across far too many instances of people throwing things, screaming, making people cry, and other telltale signs of an emotional hijacking. An emotional hijacking demonstrates low emotional intelligence. As soon as you show that level of instability, people will question whether or not you’re trustworthy and capable of keeping it together when it counts.

Exploding at anyone, regardless of how much they might “deserve it,” turns a huge amount of negative attention your way. You’ll be labeled as unstable, unapproachable, and intimidating. Controlling your emotions keeps you in the driver’s seat. When you’re able to control your emotions around someone who wrongs you, they end up looking bad instead of you.

Humble-bragging

We all know those people who like to brag about themselves behind the mask of self-deprecation. For example, the gal who makes fun of herself for being a nerd when she really wants to draw attention to the fact that she’s smart or the guy who makes fun of himself for having a strict diet when he really wants you to know how healthy and fit he is. While many people think that self-deprecation masks their bragging, everyone sees right through it. This makes the bragging all the more frustrating, because it isn’t just bragging; it’s also an attempt to deceive.

Whipping out your phone

Nothing turns someone off to you like a mid-conversation text message or even a quick glance at your phone. When you commit to a conversation, focus all of your energy on the conversation. You’ll find that conversations are more enjoyable and effective when you immerse yourself in them.

Having a closed mind

If you want to be likeable, you must be open-minded, which makes you approachable and interesting to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is unwilling to listen. Having an open mind is crucial in the workplace, where approachability means access to new ideas and help. To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes. This doesn’t require that you believe what they believe or condone their behavior; it simply means that you quit passing judgment long enough to truly understand what makes them tick.

Not asking enough questions

The biggest mistake people make in conversation is being so focused on what they’re going to say next or how what the other person is saying is going to affect them that they fail to hear what’s being said. The words come through loud and clear, but the meaning is lost. A simple way to avoid this is to ask a lot of questions. People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that not only are you listening but that you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking questions.

Being too serious

People gravitate toward those who are passionate. That said, it’s easy for passionate people to come across as too serious or uninterested, because they tend to get absorbed in their work. Likeable people balance their passion for their work with their ability to have fun. At work they are serious, yet friendly. They still get things done because they are socially effective in short amounts of time and they capitalize on valuable social moments. They focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers, remembering what people said to them yesterday or last week, which shows people that they are just as important to them as their work is.

Gossiping

People make themselves look terrible when they get carried away with gossiping. Wallowing in talk of other people’s misdeeds or misfortunes may end up hurting their feelings if the gossip ever finds its way to them, but gossiping is guaranteed to make you look negative and spiteful every time.

Sharing too much, too early

While getting to know people requires a healthy amount of sharing, sharing too much about yourself right off the bat comes across wrong. Be careful to avoid sharing personal problems and confessions too quickly. Likeable people let the other person guide them as to when it’s the right time for them to open up. Over-sharing comes across as self-obsessed and insensitive to the balance of the conversation. Think of it this way: if you’re getting into the nitty gritty of your life without learning about the other person first, you’re sending the message that you see them as nothing more than a sounding board for your problems.

Sharing too much on social media

Studies have shown that people who over-share on social media do so because they crave acceptance, but the Pew Research Center has revealed that this over-sharing works against them by making people dislike them. Sharing on social media can be an important mode of expression, but it needs to be done thoughtfully and with some self-control. Letting everyone know what you ate for breakfast, lunch, and dinner along with how many times you walked your dog today will do much more harm than good when it comes to likeability.

Bringing it all together

When you build your awareness of how your actions are received by other people, you pave the way to becoming more likeable.

 

 

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