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Mentor Master Class- Free Tutorial Series 1-10 for Mentors from Jay Parkhe #1

Mentoring is the act of identifying and nurturing potential areas of improvement in an individual. This could be a short-term action plan targeted towards a specific goal in mind, like career growth, higher learning, or could be a life-long process of improvement. The goals and processes are always set here by the learner. The job of the mentor here is to just facilitate, guide, and provide feedback after long stages of intensive observation. Coaching relates primarily to performance improvement, and is more often a short-term achievement in a specific skills area. The goals, process and suggestion are that of the coach. While the learner has primary ownership of the goal, the coach has primary ownership of the process. Feedback is often shared instantaneously.

Audience

This tutorial is for designed primarily for those working professionals who are assigned the responsibility to either coach or mentor the new employees or junior talents in their companies to improve their skill-sets, or help them grow in their careers. This tutorial aims at teaching trainers the difference between coaching and mentoring, and how the approaches change as per the requirement of the learner.

Prerequisites

Before proceeding with this tutorial, you are expected to have a detailed knowledge on the working process of your company, and the job responsibilities that you will handle, and the expectation your management has of you, in terms of productivity and performance.

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RAK Movement- Wednes Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Share your lunch with a friend
  2. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  3. Neighbour’s lawn looking messy? Offer to mow it
  4. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  5. Feeling inspired? Make a meal for your family or roommates
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback
  8. We rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day
  9. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  10. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family
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Random Phrases today. Creativity. Progress.

I did two Udemy courses today. One on Impromptu speaking – most wonderful experience. Another on Humourous speeches. Not great.

  1. Shot In the Dark Meaning: An attempt that has little chance for success. Waiting for the proverbial Godot. A friend offered something big, then began playing unavailable, then asked concept note. Sent it in all earnest. Let’s see. 
  2. Quick and Dirty Meaning: Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well. Hmmmm….. I have that fear about this proposal to be something I am really not. I wish to give it a try, just because opportunity comes my way. Not my type of thinking really! 
  3. Flea Market Meaning: A type of bazaar where inexpensive goods are sold or bartered.  Wonder what that means.  An article of over 3500 words is liked and then I am told to cut it short to 750 word. No. Not gonna do it! WTH are there Editors for? Why can’t they set the word limit while giving the offer to write.  And above all, it is probono work not even paid. I am seriously going to stop all FREE, probono work. ENUFFFF!!!!
  4. Par For the Course Meaning: What you would expect to happen; something normal or common. CONVERSATION on Linkedin this morning with a Cartoonist turned to Golf and we used many terms about the game but in the end I gave up. Not my cup of tea – this free advice game has to stop forthwith…. Getting Bored to death! 
  5. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished.  Going slow this week on writing articles.  Reflecting. Going slow on Speech learnings – pausing… No progress on Painting…. WTH am I doing?
  6. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious.  I sincerely hope nothing is missing. These Astrologers… they always scare me with Sade Saati of Shani Maharaj and tell me nasty things.  
  7. Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.  The morning audio course on the Impromptu speaking on Udemy was a delight. I shall repeat this and practice this.  The trainer was a Toastmaster too and wonderful to hear. 
  8. Yada Yada Meaning: A way to notify a person that what they’re saying is predictable or boring.  Hmmm… Almost said this to couple of people but restrained this morning. 
  9. Goody Two-Shoes Meaning: A smugly virtuous person.  I thin. k, I know who by now
  10. Let Her Rip Meaning: Permission to start, or it could mean ‘go faster!’ Whenever I go on full speed, I come across emotional, sentimental, tangential barriers. God knows why but I carry on till either I find a Counter so that I have a number chase and something that is notable, worthy or I slip down and wait for my own Let Her Rip permission that my brain gives. 

 

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Mentor Master Class- Free Tutorial Series 1-10 for Mentors from Jay Parkhe #2

In today’s competitive business world, there are two basic realities that drive the workforces. First one is getting people who get results. Second is to get people who get results stay.

Today’s world of globalization, customized employee enhancement plans, competitive benefits, and demographic changes make it very tough on companies to get and then retain talent. That’s how the managers of today are not just managers. They are recruiters, planners, motivators, and trainers, all rolled into one.

To keep this already-complex chain of operation from spiraling out of control, the companies have found the best way to manage their staff is to coach them. The role of a coach in a company, in this regard, is to take a group of people with diversified proficiency, understand their strengths and improve them, and at the same time, realize the cause of their weaknesses and eradicate them.

The Role of a Coach

The role of a coach is significantly different from that of an instructor. In coaching, employees are asked to grow in their strengths and address their weaknesses so that they realize their self-growth. It keeps them motivated and happy in the workplace – both keys to retaining talent.

Leaders take their staff from where they are to where they’ve never been before. Nothing could define coaching better than this statement from Henry Kissinger.

Coaching, in the true sense, is tailor-made for people who have the potential to grow to greater heights and yet, are too content in delivering just satisfactory performance. These employees are different from slackers who don’t perform properly, either due to non-interest or inferior knowledge.

The employees we are addressing are employees who like their professional life just the way it is at the moment, and have fit in snugly to the demands of the workplace, which is not bad in itself, however, every organization needs its employees to grow. That’s the way every organization grows too, being a sum total of different talented groups. The job of a coach, therefore, is to ensure that the employees improve their job performance through a constant process of encouraging and suggesting improvements.

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RAK Movement- Wednesday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  2. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift
  3. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  4. Bake something for your family/friends
  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  6. Buy someone a coffee
  7. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  8. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  9. Put your phone down and have a conversation with a friend
  10. Support a small, local business as a customer
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Our Rude Onion Love

By Z-Jay’s Band A Love Song For Edie – Funny Song 🙂

This one’s for you Lord Pondicherry!

My love for you is like the most rude onion,
Your face reminds me of intelligent spiders,
Together, we are like muffins and pepper.

Oh darling Edie,
My rude onion,
My intelligent carrot,
The perfect companion to my muffins soul.

Roses are red,
Oceans are blue,
I like sand beneath her feet,
But not as much as I love acting with you!

Oh darling Edie,
Your hairs are like funny petals on a autumn day,
You’re like the most brave politician to ever walk The High Street.

Your intelligent spider face,
Your pepper soul,
Your funny hairs,
Your brave politician being…

How could I look at another when our rude onion love is so strong?

I love you Lord Pondicherry!

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Mentor Master Class- Free Tutorial Series 1-10 for Mentors from Jay Parkhe #3

In today’s competitive world, recruiters no longer hold on to traditional methods of recruiting through traditional one-to-one interviews. Thanks to the added competition, which has resulted in a shortage of talent, companies are fast resorting to technology, and platforms like Skype, GoToMeetings are fast replacing the old model of interviewing.

Companies are increasingly adopting employee-centric approaches to working by providing flexi-times, work-from-home initiatives, in addition to many other perks and benefits. Organizations are also getting the option to employ people they want, as compared to the ones who were available to them.

When an organization is located over multiple areas, the big challenge is to connect all the employees located in different offices spread all across the world, to the organization’s vision, identity, and rules – the big picture. That’s where coaching comes in. It is the best way to develop junior talent and provide the skills and expertise to make them experts. Having said that, mentoring provides ample space for a person to retain his individuality and his personal sensibilities.

Note that the goal of mentoring isn’t to create clones. Instead, it is to help people achieve their highest potentialwhile being in sync with the organization’s vision and objectives.

Coaching is not an innate ability; you are not born with the art of coaching. The other misunderstanding that’s often associated with coaching is that it’s related only to sports. Coaching is about pumping people’s spirits, and motivating them. Lack of motivation doesn’t come only in sports. There are times when employees too feel a need for motivation to deliver good results. Coaching helps these employees in holding their own in their team and being a productive group.

Coaching is the method of making people realize the heights they can achieve if only they kept persevering and putting proper effort. Mainly, coaching calls for a change of thinking and approach to a task. It’s about getting the person think positively about his chances of achieving his goal. It includes employee orientation towards the workplace politics, and to assist in removing the barriers to work performance.

Optimal and Optimum

There is a difference between the usages of words optimum and optimal. If a company specifies that they are interested in obtaining optimum results, they mean they want the best output from their employees. On the other hand, if they say they are looking for optimal results, that would mean that they are interested in obtaining the best work out of you in the given circumstances, or working conditions.

There are occasions when the line between optimum and optimal are blurred in coaching. Situations like these arise when an organization starts working on a new project and they need to ram up the office fast with people who are experienced in working on similar projects.

In situations like these, the job of a coach is not only to provide high levels of motivation to employees to excel in their performance, but also to ensure that the employees perform at their peak even if the requisite resources are not always available. It’s about lifting their spirit and keeping it high throughout tough times.

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RAK Movement- Thursday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  2. Surprise your parents with flowers
  3. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  4. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  5. Say good morning/afternoon/evening to a stranger
  6. Help a younger student with their work
  7. Make someone a cup of coffee
  8. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  9. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  10. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions
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Creativity, My Day and Random Phrases

  1. Under Your Nose Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious. How did I miss the obvious that the Business person in a mentee will always prefer MONEY, MONEY, MONEY and if here is seductive voice enticing – he will surely and certainly fall for it. 
  2. High And Dry Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover.  No. That does not happen and it is no pretense, in my mind, I work these scenarios and still try and address issues as a Human being and forgive people as humans. 
  3. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.  I do lose some, but do keep losing – primarily to my false pride, magnanimity and the inability to find untrustworthy people. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  Time is ripe now that I actually should judge the book by its cover. 
  5. Jaws of Life Meaning: Usually this references a tool used by rescuers when they pry or cut open a car to save the occupant.  I take this as a cue to use my strong arms and use the strength to overcome the situations that are regularly arising. 
  6. Down For The Count Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so.  Just trying to visualise the moves as -people are sharp, smart and pretend – They appear unable, when able and Appear able when the are unable.  Even the best strategists can fail to read this at first glance.  
  7. When the Rubber Hits the Road Meaning: When something is about to begin, get serious, or put to the test.  This year I have acted more decisively, more abruptly, more impulsively – especially when it came to people decisions.  Most have proved right and initial errors of judgement about them were corrected by breaking up an dblocking them. 
  8. Ugly Duckling Meaning: One who may seem plain at first in appearance or capability, but later turns out to be beautiful or great.  Some ugly ducklings pretend to be the future swans but their company makes sure, the ruboff is so strong that they remain – UGLY. 
  9. What Am I, Chopped Liver? Meaning: A rhetorical question used by a person who feels they are being given less consideration than someone else. Used to happen a few months ago but now things are much under control and survivalism is not required. 
  10. Mouth-watering Meaning: Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.  Paav Bhaji for dinner – home made… wow Yummy ! made my day. 🙂
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RAK Movement- Friday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Treat a friend – buy them lunch!
  2. Empty your wallet for charity
  3. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  4. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  5. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  6. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  7. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  8. Remember that family member you haven’t seen for a while? See how they are doing
  9. Help someone struggling with heavy bags
  10. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
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Doing Ethics with Our Brains by John Hooker – We can rationalise anything !

“We are told that we live in a post-truth age. When the facts get in the way, we turn to ‘alternative facts’ that serve our purposes. Rather than listen to another point of view, we focus only on arguments and talking points that support our ideology. Not everyone is like this, of course, but it seems to capture the tenor of the times. Worst of all, it exacerbates the polarization that so many worry about, because we can’t find common ground.
The root problem, in my view, is a gradual abandonment of rationality. We can’t reach consensus because we no longer acknowledge a rational basis for resolving disputes.

Ethics was an early casualty of this retreat from reason.”

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About John Hooker | John Hooker is a T. Jerome Holleran Professor of Business Ethics and Social Responsibility, and Professor of Operations Research, at Carnegie Mellon University. He has also held visiting posts at several universities, most recently the London School of Economics and the State University of Campinas, Brazil. He brings his extensive background in philosophy and logic to the rigorous analysis of ethical dilemmas, and his background in management science to making sure the dilemmas are realistic. In addition to his blog, Ethical Decisions, he has published over 170 research articles, eight books, and five edited volumes on ethics, philosophy, operations research, and cross-cultural issues, including Business Ethics as Rational Choice and Working across Cultures. He is the founding editor-in-chief of the world’s only academic journal dedicated to teaching business ethics, and he developed the ethics program in the Tepper School of Business at Carnegie Mellon University.

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Jay’s Tantra: To resolve a Dilemma

Sometimes, I have dilemma.  Mostly the decision is about People who come in my life, stay there, get benefitted, some reciptrocate, some don’t. Some cost me money, some Time, Some deep efforts and some simply gifts and for some I give all that I have.

Then come some moments, decisive when the masks are unpeeled, they fall off, the gloves come off, bad behaviour, attitude, insults start hurting and I realise the my Trust was ill-placed. I have made a huge error of judgement.

In such times, I use Jay’s Tantra. The simplest way is to consult and seek advice from the Omnipotent, Omniscient, Omnipotent  – The Om -HIMSELF.   I go to BhagvadGita and choose a random shloka. I also go to a Bible someone gifted me years ago.  I take a Verse for Bible.

I then decipher meaning as per my understanding and draw inferences.  These are not regular moments, they happen when I have a deep dilemma.  It is never a Conscience issue though as Conscientious decisions come to me quick and fast – No problem there.

Today’s Dilemma was solved by these two and I urge readers to try this if you come across such difficult moments in life.

This is what came out as Random Verse from Bible:

Proverbs 23:9

Passage: 

Do not speak to fools,

for they will scorn your prudent words.

This is what came as Random Shloka from Gita

Srimad Bhagavad Gita

Chapter 2 Sloka 70 

Got it!

Yes. I got my answer to the dilemma. That’s Jay’s Tantra.  Use it sparingly and only in dire situations with full belief and trust in the Almighty. Amen!

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4 Rules For Startrepreneurs – Practical Tips For Starting Right

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Itís a great time to be startpreneurs in the last decade, technology has leveled the playing field and propelled an entrepreneurial revolution. As an startpreneur, you now have more access to information that enables you to make more intelligent choices more quickly. You have an advantage over big businesses in that youíre lighter, more flexible, and faster on your feet. You can target new markets more quickly, and you can turn on a dime.
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It ís a great time to be an entrepreneur in the last decade, technology has leveled the playing field and propelled an entrepreneurial revolution. As an entrepreneur, you now have more access to information that enables you to make more intelligent choices more quickly. You have an advantage over big businesses in that youíre lighter, more flexible, and faster on your feet. You can target new markets more quickly, and you can turn on a dime.

But being a successful entrepreneur requires that you look at the big picture and follow a plan through from beginning to end. Rieva Lesonsky, editor-in-chief of Entrepreneur Magazine gives some practical guidelines that can help you when beginning your own enterprise:

1.Don’t Quit Your Day Job.
Consider starting your business part-time, especially if it’s online, while youíre working and have a steady income. It usually takes six months to a year to get a business going and you donít want your ability to make your house payment to hinge upon your company being an overnight success. Start with what you can manage, financially and time-wise, and scale up as your business grows.

2.Find Your Niche.
The days of general stores are over. Particularly online, consumers are looking for stores that specialize. You have to find a needósomething a specific group of people want, but canít get at the big chain storesóand fill it. Advises Lesonsky, ìYou canít compete with the big guys, so you have to find where the big guys arenít and go into your niches.î

3.Have an Online Presence.
Even if youíre not planning to start an online retail business, consider that the internet can still play a valuable role in your company. Having an online presence eliminates the limitations of physical location and broadens your customer base by, literally, millions. Itís also a great tool for promoting yourself and letting people, even in your own area, know that youíre there, and what youíre doing.

4.Refuse to Quit.
Successful entrepreneurship requires creativity, energy, and a drive to keep going when you fail. Few people realize that before Bill Gates created the extremely successful Microsoft 3.0, he created a Microsoft 1.0 and 2.0, both of which floppedóbut he kept at it. And that determination and refusal to give up is what will separate successful entrepreneurs from unsuccessful ones. Arm yourself with optimism to get beyond the #No1 or the trouble. There’s nothing wrong in failure just don’t repeat the same mistake!

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Wednesday Column – Jay Parkhe – What is your Slogan?

In my Mentor Column on Wednesdays Jay Mentor discusses with readers the Slogans. Do you have a Slogan?  Have a look at the ones I chose for you below. Any of them make sense to you? Relevant to you? Appealing to you.

Do you think, you can expand, modify, change a wee bit and make these slogans look and work Great for you.  Slogans are not merely for shouting from the hooters or rooftops  – people like leaders who walk the talk.

Do you have it in you?  Please go ahead and create and share your creation in the comments. I shall respond ASAP.

  1. Changing tomorrow.
  2. Creative solutions.
  3. The show goes on.
  4. Hand in hand.
  5. Sheer pleasure.
  6. Better standards.
  7. Experience is key.
  8. The time is now.
  9. Mark of excellence.
  10. Success.
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Saturday- RAK Movement – Random acts of Kindness. Choose one. I have!

  1. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  2. Visit a friend who’s sick
  3. Have lunch with a homeless person
  4. Purchase ethical goods
  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  6. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  7. Make amends with someone you may have wronged
  8. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave a room!
  9. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  10. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
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Replugged: My article about 11 Mentoring approaches of Jay Parkhe

We are all a One Man Company. Jay is A Complete FootBall/ Cricket/ Hockey Team Rolled into one as an Accomplished Mentor

  1. Jay is a Coach. ( For Executives / StartPreneura / Businessman/Woman):

When you need to have older, wiser person around, who is better attuned to your industry and job, Jay can coach you through tough moments, think big picture on projects and ideas, and helps Mentees solve work-related problems. Coach is required when you need someone to help you think-through difficult problems. A good coach doesn’t solve problems; they help you see both the problem and your role clearly. They do this by observing, listening, asking focused questions, reflecting back, and challenging. Coaches can suggest strategies for solving problems you may not have considered, and can help you think “bigger picture” on ideas and possible solutions.

  1. Jay is a Connector – All Mentees need this.

There is an old saying, “It’s all about who you know?” Well, it’s who you know — along with who they know, and to whom they are willing to introduce you. Jay willingly opens up his network to help move an entrepreneur and his or her business forward. Whether it’s staking his own credibility on helping find a first customer who’s willing to take a risk on the unproven entity, or making that connection to a critical hire, Connector Jay is one of the most valuable mentoring assets a startup can have. People are generally inward looking. Connector Jay is outward-facing (makes you do a short exercise with your thumbs too which is his trademark style). Jay’s satisfaction comes from helping people meet each other. Jay has met a half dozen true connectors in life and without them, he would not have had as much success. Nobody knows why Jay loves connecting people, but this sharing traits comes from having bountiful amounts of energy and loving new ideas. Jay is a networker for 15 years of Social Media and has a wide and very deep network of people who all respect me and they often «get things done.» If you meet one of these people, hang on. (He may be prove to be your GodFather moment! 🙂

Jay is also an expert on Social media, Blogging and Networking and has spent 15 years in self-learning. He offers valuable tips, technology help, productivity support thru web tools he has tested over the years.

  1. Jay is a Challenger – For StartPreneurs, Business People, Social Enterprises.

Jay is not a mentor you’ll be spending New Year’s Eve with because he is there to call bullsh– on a lot of things that will sometimes make you uncomfortable. But that’s OK. If you want lots of happy talk, call your Mom. She will love everything you do. If you want to grow, you will want some challengers in your life who will tell you when they think you’re doing something wrong or if an idea just plain *****. They’re the ones who, after you call the Cheerleader about your great idea, will tell you a dozen ways why it won’t work unless you do X, Y, and Z. This criticism, if it comes from the right place, will set you on the right path. Challenger Jay is super smart and super fast–:) he often doesn’t have a lot of time so you’ll find he’ll give his dose of advice quickly and move on. Call on Jay only when you need him. He is not an ATM – Any Time Mentor! An entrepreneur’s drive needs to come from within, but many of us also need a healthy push to heighten our sense of passion and urgency and keep us moving forward. The Challenger’s role is to push an entrepreneur to put in the hard work, to sweat the details that matter, to hit key milestones and to outwork his/her competition. It’s also The Challenger’s responsibility to confront assumptions and ask the tough questions that ultimately prevent an entrepreneur from making costly errors.

  1. Jay is a Cheerleader – Executives, StarUps, Businesses.

You remember the people whom you can call after getting a big promotion and they will be as thrilled for you as your mother. And believe me, nobody will ever be as thrilled as Mom. In a cutthroat world, you need people who will genuinely be happy for you and who will be there when everyone else has left–i.e., after your company has gone bankrupt. Jay is one person like this who will sends encouraging texts or takes calls immediately if you are having a particularly bad day. Sometimes that’s all you need to get you through. You don’t need too many people like this–sometimes one is just enough, but this person is your rock.

Cheerleader Jay can give an entrepreneur the motivation and energy needed to persevere. That energy is also found in a supportive spouse, parent or in good friends, but it really helps to have someone with relevant experience and credibility say, “You can do this.”

5.Jay is an Educator – An Advisor for Business People

Jay was a Visiting B School Faculty for 15 years and and Advisor to Two New Educational Institutes and three Skills Development companies. As an Educator: Starting a business is the steepest learning curve anyone can experience. The tests of building a business are frequent — and lessons are ongoing. Educator is someone who sees in an entrepreneur a desire to learn and is willing to sit down and teach him/her when needed. From business basics to complex ideas and practices, they’ll take the time to understand knowledge gaps and help entrepreneurs avoid the costly mistakes that can be caused by being too proud to ask for help or advice. Educator is a person who takes the time to sit down and share their expertise with those who want to learn. Educators love to help others by sharing their wisdom. They want to see everyone succeed!

  1. Jay is an Ideator – StartUp, Running Businesses, C-Level Executive Coach

Jay is a Creative Thinker, Critical Thinker, Lateral Thinker and also an Elastic Thinker = The Ideator Jay asks you Are you dreaming big enough? Are you being as creative as you can be? When an entrepreneur is buried in executing day-to-day tasks and sweating the small stuff in the trenches, taking the time to pause and survey the bigger picture is critical for keeping a business moving in the right direction. The Ideator loves to play the role of thought partner which Jay calls as Accountability Partner a term he borrows from his Mentor and Coach Dr. Marshall Goldsmith as an entrepreneur thinks critically about how to build a creative and differentiated business

  1. Jay the Librarian – Executives, StartUps, Businesses,

Jay is a powerhouse of knowledge and experience. He is a walking encyclopedia on subjects he likes and has invested his time to learn more, informally. As you navigate through life, it’s helpful to be able to pull from various resources to help you get along. The Librarian has a wealth of information on your community, clubs, organizations and support systems. They know a resource for almost any need and are aware of where to go to get questions answered or to get things done.

8.Jay the Super Star and Idol to many of his Mentees – Executives, StartUps

We need to find people who we admire. People who are living parts of ourf life in a way you aspire to, or who currently have the career that you want to have. Spend time with them and get to know their routines, their resources, how they go about their days. While their way is not the only way, you can gain valuable insight into steps you might want to take to get you closer to your goals!

9.Jay can be your Teammate – Executives, StartUps, Businesses

Some days you just need an awesome listener. Someone to remind you that it’s okay; tomorrow is another day. A good teammate realizes that you aren’t always looking for a solution to your problem, or a motivational speech to spur you on. You just need someone to listen with a sympathetic ear, and then allow you to move on.

  1. Jay is a small brand – Startups and Businesses. Social enterprises.

with image, reputation and following – I support your Brand Story development by sharing my successes and failures transparently and helping you find your own answers in moments of Crisis. Jay helps entrepreneurs Dream Big – Define their Vision, Set their Mission, Goals, Objectives, Action Plans by working on a Long and Mid Term Strategy for their businesses. He then helps them to begin execution by drawing up a Project Management dummy set up with timelines, deadlines, Reviews, course correction etc.

Not all Jay’s mentees need his Entire gamut of skills. They sometimes pick and choose specific ones to save time, energy and effort or duplication.

  1. Jay is a Non-Playing Captain, Coach and Mentor

Jay takes an impassionate, detached, cold look at the business as it passes thru its crisis, turnaround, loss making phases and offers to work with the team to find solutions by brainstorming, creative thinking technique. His methods are unique, they do stand the test of time eventhough they may not have been tested in your industry.

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Creativity: Random phrases for Friday and how my day went.

  1. Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished.  I finished two article writing and two presentations now one more to go.  Going is tough but it gets going. 
  2. Easy As Pie Meaning: Something that is easy.  Parting was so damned easy, why did I drag my feet and procrastinate?  I should have listened to my Theta brainwave and the Gut feel the very first time.  
  3. Throw In the Towel Meaning: Giving up; to surrender.  Even the worst of urban commie brainwashed bran-heads give up in surrender, the worst of the masks can be unpeeled and the already Red Inside faces can be made bloody – it is a skill, a technique,  a hard De-mentoring and exposing the pseudos – the Freeloaders who like a pest/ Leech suck your time, efforts, money and peace of mind. Good riddance! 
  4. Right Out of the Gate Meaning: Right from the beginning; to do something from the start. Someone said about hindsight and my polite response was – I have foresight and farsight. I drive with a backview mirror – I don’t need a mirror to see driving in the fore.  The hindsight is reserve of the stray horses and mares with broken or absent shoes with hurting nail which makes them kick at everything – not in sight and ignore what is in sight.  That is where the ‘Saddle point’ of negotiations arrive and the Best Jockeys – Mentors put nose rings and blinkers ON so that they can convert the strays into Race horses.  Best trainers, jockeys have a different approach to deal with them. Branding them is the first step 🙂 
  5. Jack of All Trades Master of None Meaning: Having suitable skill in multiple things, but not being an expert in any of them.  Yes.  For too long I have been that.  45 specific online courses (on Udemy)  later – i am still searching for the right niche’ to be an expert.  Otherwise, I am sure, I shall get an Honorary D.Litt. from a friendly University one day 🙂 🙂 🙂
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Wednesday Column – Jay Parkhe’s creative Mentoring – Random Slogan Generation.

In my Mentor Column on Wednesdays Jay Mentor discusses with readers the Slogans. Do you have a Slogan? Have a look at the ones I chose for you below. Any of them make sense to you? Relevant to you? Appealing to you.

Do you think, you can expand, modify, change a wee bit and make these slogans look and work Great for you. Slogans are not merely for shouting from the hooters or rooftops – people like leaders who walk the talk.

Do you have it in you? Please go ahead and create and share your creation in the comments. I shall respond ASAP.

  1. It’s in your hands.
  2. Little miracles.
  3. Experience is key.
  4. Pushing the limits.
  5. The time is now.
  6. More than just a taste.
  7. Never stop dreaming.
  8. Be more.
  9. Redefining impossible.
  10. Shh, it’s a secret.
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Wednesday Mentor – Jay Parkhe- Creativity with Random Idioms Generated

Some very interesting Generated Idioms for the day:

  1. Every Fight Is An Awful Sight.
  2. Glue Doesn’t Stick To Everything.
  3. To Be In Need Is Bitter-sweet
  4. Chasing Birds.
  5. Once The Sun Turns Green.

Couple of incidents in the week and the day made me laugh out loud.

On a serious note, Every Mentor and mentee face these situations. The Startpreneurs preparing for bigger competitions ahead need to take inspiration from such random thoughts and using lateral thinking – attribute listing  as problem solving triggers to new and innovative ideas

 

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Jay’s Tantra day: No dilemma today. Still turning to God for answers

Jay’s Tantra technique is to turn to Bible and Gita on a day when he is faced with a dilemma and seek support and answers from God.

Today, I have no dilemma still I turn to God for answers.

Random verse from Bible that came my way is :

1 Samuel 2:2

Passage: 

“There is no one holy like the LORD;

there is no one besides you;

there is no Rock like our God.”

And the Gita Shloka said:

 

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Thursday Mentor – Free Verse by Jay Parkhe

Greed

Free verse by jay

Because I could not lead for Greed,
it did kindly lead for me.
Pause to lead, like the Greed does.

Pay attention to the selfish,
the selfishness is the most Alchoholic stinginess of all.
Does the selfishness make you shiver?
does it?

Pay attention to the stupid,
stupidity is the most brilliant mistake of all.
Stupids are impressive. stupidity is magnificent,
stupid are vivid, however.

Why would you think egotists are large?
egotists are the most little pride of all.
Are you upset by how smaller they are?
Does it tear you apart to see the egotism so least?

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Wise Coach – Naive Coach

I was reading this commercial from Tony Robbins’ Newsletter “

When someone asks you for help, how do you respond?

The naive coach tends to “over-commit.”

They feel this heartfelt pressure to help the person, so the say, “Yes! Let me share my solutions with you. I’m committed to your change. Let’s make it happen!”

Why is this naive? Because if you rush in too much as a coach, you might scare the client away!

Or worse yet, you are seen as a “nagging” friend giving them unwanted advice. Ever experience that?

The wise coach knows better. They say, “Great. I’d love to help you.”

Then the wise coach thinks to themselves, “Let’s figure out what kind of client this is.”

You see, there are four different client types. The four types have different goals. They work at different speeds.

And they have completely different expectations for their coach.

When the naive coach “rushes in” to help, they miss out on the client’s type.

They miss what’s really going on.

The wise coach first understands the client’s type, and proceeds accordingly.

Which coach do you think is more effective?

If you ever find yourself giving advice to someone who doesn’t seem to benefit… I have something for you.

Today we will be sharing one of our top strategies for bringing faster, more profound change to coaching clients.

It will also work on anyone in your life who needs your help.”

I come into the later category of coaches – the Naive Coach! I tend to commit fast, stay committed for long and rarely have I failed.

I believe that Flirting Mentor is an Oxymoron just as a term like Naive Coach is, IMHO.   A TRUE coach or mentor is neither naive nor a Flirt ! Serious coaches are Committed people and whether they commit early or later is a matter of their mind’s processes and early or late decision making capabilities/ habits – nothing else!

 

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Strange Bio-Rhythms, Random Phrases, creativity and Daily WebLog :)

I believe in Bio-Rhythms. Have done so for over 30 years – ever since I read the book about the research on Bio-rhythms and wanted to buy the Japanese – CASIO watch which showed 3 biorhythms – Physical, Emotional and Intellectual.  They also sold Cards in those days where you can calculate your critical days and avoid major financial decisions, Driving, Flying a plane etc. etc. etc.

It was interesting when I found the Apps on Android and iPhones.  I downloaded and saw a fourth one added – i.e. Intution !   I said, it is getting interesting.  As per initial book if I were to calculate I should have been Dead when I was 58+ i.e. 23 X 28 X 33 days = 58 years, …. days.  I did not believe it. The book also talked about how they scientifically studied the Date of birth and time of birth of the Rail, Plane, Sea, Cycle, Bicycle, Car, Bus and Electrical accidents and deaths.  It appeared scientific and eventhough a Skeptic I said let us give it a try and it has remained with me as a Daily watch every morning before my morning walks – to watch in the phone.

Today was not supposed to be great.  The biorhythm explanation said do and see what Random Phrases turned up this morning.

  1. Hard Pill to Swallow Meaning: Something that’s difficult to accept.  Wife was travelling and I had to cut short my morning walk by 2/3rd to be back home for opening door for the housemaid. 
  2. Yada Yada Meaning: A way to notify a person that what they’re saying is predictable or boring.  I recall having done this a few days ago and quite harshly using all the bitterness and venom in my brain flowing thru my fingers and typing.
  3. Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees Meaning: Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired. True enough, nothing worth challenging the statement but which tree to plant is a question came to my mind as I am seriously thinking of joining some Kisan Morcha of a political party and fight for their rights. 
  4. On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others.  Not happening with me for few months. I am too much of a challenger this year and have broken off with many due to differences, attitudinal issues or having met simple INGRATES and suckers and some who were a disgrace to the word MENTOR.  
  5. No-Brainer Meaning: Anything that requires minimal brain activity to accomplish.  Yeah, Yeah, Yeah,  I recently heard a speech and to a longwinded un=stupid question ( questions are never stupid – answers are) the speaker could not properly respond.  I thought of C A P – Common sense, Alert response, Presence of mind  – if this was used by the old man = A DTM ( toast masters lingo)  he would have been better off.  
  6. Read ‘Em and Weep Meaning: Often said by the winner in poker, as the others ‘weep’ over the loss.   No. Not happening. I am playing for negotiation, accent, agreement these days perforce. 
  7. Jumping the Gun Meaning: Something that occurs too early before preparations are ready. Starting too soon.  May be, I should have waited for the 500 words contest write up submission till the last date but I just sent it.  I also sent an article 3 months before the magazine is due to be published on the occasion of an International conference in which the organisers wish to invite me.  
  8. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers.  We had this with our relatives family when every one fell sick couple of weeks ago. Mumbai weather made me sick too.
  9. Goody Two-Shoes Meaning: A smugly virtuous person.  I met one recently, was introduced by a friend, highly recommended but the guy was so snooty, SOB and highhanded – he did not even offer to shake hands.  I said F. Off!  
  10. Fish Out Of Water Meaning: Someone being in a situation that they are unfamiliar or unsuited for. Not seen this yet, but the Astrologer friend’s remark about a foreign proposal that it will be below dignity if we accept was intriguing.  Need to probe him further.

So overall still an interesting day.

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Thursday Mentor – Free Verse by Jay Parkhe

Greed 2.0

Free verse by jay

Because I could not lead with Greed,
it did kindly lead for me.
Greed, Greed, every where,
Yet not a Rupee to lead.

I cannot help but stop and look at the Alchoholic’s selfishness.
Does the selfishness make you shiver?
does it?

Pay attention to the stupid,
stupidity is the most brilliant fault of all.
Stupidity is glorious. stupidity are bright,
stupids are smart as a whip, however.

Pay attention to the egotists,
egotists are the most zany vanity of all.
Do egotists make you shiver?
do they?

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Random Inputs Generated – Creative Weekend and How the day passed.

  1. Every Cloud Has a Silver Lining Meaning: To be optimistic, even in difficult times. This is quite true. Things always average out for us in Life.  Some are unlucky for some time but on a macro-level law of averages applies to all. 
  2. Scot-free Meaning: Getting away freely from custody, punishment, or any type of risky situation. When you are an Evaluator of a meeting and you get away with Murder i.e. very harsh remarks about the weakest of your own team members.  
  3. Under the Weather Meaning: Not feeling well, in health or mood.  The bad biorhythms period has gone away. A week ago, it was very critical with all 3 rhythms passing thru critical level. It can cause accidents, or death. Good the phase is over. 
  4. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  But some people would subtly, simply invite you to judge every one of their actions willy nilly and we find them sulking when things do not go well with them in terms of feedforward. 
  5. Tug of War Meaning: It can refer to the popular rope pulling game or it can mean a struggle for authority.  I drop Coaching / mentoring clients when this begins and some of them begin back to back coaching/ mentoring when it is clear that what I do is not Peer Coaching.  
  6. Jig Is Up Meaning: For a ruse or trick to be discovered; to be caught.  I tried an experiment today. Wrote 5 points and the person picked up only one to respond – it was about them! There was least concern or expression about other 4 of which 3 related to me. I write such people off as Self-centred, selfish and ungrateful. 
  7. Fit as a Fiddle Meaning: Being fit as a fiddle means to be in perfect health.  A little bad spell with low sugar and BP – otherwise all parameters are good and stable. 
  8. Jaws of Life Meaning: Usually this references a tool used by rescuers when they pry or cut open a car to save the occupant. I just wish no one should go thru such experience. 
  9. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time. I have begun to all the Table topics at Toastmasters as Terror / Horror Topics 🙂
  10. Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers.  – No . Not happening. 
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Wednesday Mentor Column : Jay Parkhe – Powering Off OR Powering ON?

Are your Powering Off or Powering ON?

Summary:
Do you take your laptop on vacation? Do you take your smartphone or your ipad/ Tablet? Harris Interactive reported that one-third of vacationers take their laptops on vacation. During a Sunday meal at a restaurant recently, I observed a man sitting with his family talking on his smartphone — obviously about business. He was not happy neither was his family!

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Harris Interactive reported that one-third of vacationers on their laptops on vacation How grateful I was for my smartphone when I came across a young student stalled on a bus stop without one , and I could immediately get help How convenient it is on vacation to use the Internet to explore the options for entertainment in the area on a rainy afternoon , and get directions to find it Easily How comforting to know that my family can reach me in an emergency or something to celebrate! – regardless of where I am in the world 

The same can be said for my colleagues . Repeatedly I have emphasized that you can control the things you can control , so you can cope with the things you can not In the complex world in which we live , especially with the level of connectivity available , it is easy to fall into the trap of feeling we are victims of other people I cringe when someone complains about having to answer their cell phone 

If you don’t want to be reached , you can power off If you-have to be reachable Because your job requires it , Then The issue IAM May be in the right job? Or ,have you just trained people that you are available here .Connectivity can be addictive My daughter , who is in counseling , reminded me that an addiction is something that reduces the quality of your life and the people around you 

My passion is helping individuals and organizations create and sustain a productive environment so everyone can do their work and enjoy their lives .When used appropriately , enable your work and enable you to play It can also undermine your priorities at work , destroy your health ,and poison your relationships when used inappropriately The issue is not about your phone or your cell phone on 24/7 

The question is whether your choice is improving or diminishing your life and the lives of the people around you .

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RAK Movement- Monday Random Acts of Kindness – Jay Parkhe

  1. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call
  2. Be eco-friendly – unplug electronics when you’re finished using them
  3. Apologise to someone you may have hurt
  4. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  5. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  6. Save your family some time and buy their groceries
  7. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  8. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  9. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  10. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
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Jay, Creativity, Random Phrases and Daily Weblog

Happy Ganesh Chaturthi to all Readers.  A very auspicious day. One of the 3.5 days of Muhurtha – when beginning a new thing is considered Good.

I started with a long walk, Ganapati Darshan and returned with many thoughts, ideas about a start and towards noon got lazy and just slept.

  1. Wake Up Call  Meaning: An occurance of sorts that brings a problem to somebody’s attention and they realize it needs fixing.  I realised that I need to create the Course outline and content for sharing with a Digital marketer friend for planning a self managed training event soon. 
  2. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.  Yes. I try to do that as I get very few in life as i am more a Giver but I have met the worst ingrates this year. 
  3. Swinging For the Fences Meaning: Giving something your all.  My resolve is to Give my all to Writing, Speaking and organising Self managed training, coaching, mentoring events going forward. 
  4. A Chip on Your Shoulder Meaning: Being angry about something that happened in the past. Yes. I do carry a few and wish that they dissolve.  नींद तो दर्द के बिस्तर पे भी आ सकती है
  5. Lovey Dovey Meaning: The affectionate stuff that people do when they are in love, such as kissing and hugging. Hmmmm…. why did this phrase turn up suddenly today?
  6. All Greek To Me Meaning: When something is incomprehensible due to complexity; unintelligble.  Fortunately, the abstract, Greek, Latin, Spanish speaking rubbish is out of my hair. It was just too much of Intellectual F@#$ing I had gone thru – rather willing/ unwillingly. No one. Just me to blame. 
  7. If You Can’t Stand the Heat, Get Out of the Kitchen Meaning: One should discontinue with a task if they are unable to cope with it due to pressure.  Yes. I am slowly moving out of all the Heat and Kitchen areas. 
  8. Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job.  Yes. Enrolled for two Udemy courses. Started one. Joined two new FB groups. 
  9. Raining Cats and Dogs Meaning: When it is raining heavily.  It should Bangalore weather in past few days is too hot for my taste. 
  10. Talk the Talk Meaning: Supporting what you say, not just with words, but also through action or evidence.  That’s Integrity for me and I am thinking to change the name of the blog or start a new one soon. 
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The way we in self-speak can help us Self-Develop into a Speaker or a Failure

 

Some BS Facts About Self-Development

Everyone Thinks Are True

 

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For example, The way we in self-speak can help us Self-Develop into a Speaker or a Failure

  • Self-Speech plays a huge role in our self-image.
  • Self-image plays a huge role in our self-confidence.
  • Self-confidence plays a huge role in our ability to succeed in the various endeavours we decide to pursue in our life.

The way we self-speak can help Self-Development into a Speaker or a Failure!While some may say that this is BS !  How can Self-Development happen with Self-Speak or Self-Speech?

There is a real story about an all-star baseball player, who once decided to visit a prison to inspire inmates to self-develop themselves.  He shared a story of his father who always encouraged him as a little boy.  His dad always encouraged him by saying, “son, if you keep on hitting the ball like that, you’ll end up in the Biggest League one day.”  Sure enough, he ended up as an all-star in the Biggest Baseball League.

A prisoner stood up and said, “hey, my dad told me said somewhat similar when I was a kid. Every time I did something my dad disliked, he looked at me and said, ‘son, if you keep on mis-behaving like this, you’ll end up in prison one day. Sure enough, I ended up in prison.”

90% of male prisoners were maltreated as dirt by own parents as little kids. They  were spoken to like they were prisoners WAY before they ended up in prisons.  Now, don’t come to conclusion that our parents determine the future for us in advance.  We have ability to respond to our circumstances, and we choose. it would help immensely and much easier if we had solid foundation.

The take-away from the story is simple: the way we SPEAK to ourselves plays a massive role in the way we PERCEIVE us. The way we perceive ourselves plays a massive role in how CONFIDENT we are. Our self-confidence determines whether we decide to take on challenges and pursue success in the face of adversity, or whether we decide to live below our highest potential. Do not allow our self to do this.

  • Encourage ourselves. Love ourselves.
  • We cannot expect things to change in our life unless we change.
  • For things to change. we must change.
  • Our self-speak plays a huge role in our self-image.
  • Our self-image plays a huge role in our self-confidence.
  • Our self-confidence plays a huge role in our ability to succeed in the various endeavours you decide to pursue in our life.

 

By Dhananjay Parkhe

 

 

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RAK Movement – Random Acts of Kindness today.

  1. Pay for someone’s bus ticket
  2. Make someone’s day – tell a friend why you appreciate them
  3. See someone struggling with lots of bags? Offer to help them
  4. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  5. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  6. Help someone academically – lend them your study notes
  7. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  8. Tell a friend about ARK/World Kindness Day
  9. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  10. Old laptop or mobile lying around? Donate it

Highlighted ones are my choices for the day.