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4 Secret Selling Techniques You Must Implement

 

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To reach our business goals we need right resources and/or the insights to help our business reach the success it’s capable of.  Following four insights will help us generate the business we’ve always dreamed of.

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1.  Experiment with New Advertising Methods

 

A sharp decline in the effectiveness of our advertising campaign is usually the the first sign that we might need to explore new marketing strategies We shell out and ( as critics say – BURN) hard earned cash to advertise, and pubic turns its nose up! Procrastinating till our profits are plunging to start hunting for new marketing strategies is futile.

What could possibly be these foolproof selling techniques? Yeah, no more customers walking out with empty hands… no more profits disappearing into thin air! Share below,  are 4 secrets that will help you put money in your pocket, and enhance your current customer list and augment, hyperscale your business.

 

1. Make It Easy


While the old adage – variety is the spice of life is true;  giving customers too many choices can lead them into indecision or procrastination. We know, very well;  when customers procrastinate … we lose sale!

Imagine a customer walks into shop / the point of purchase, your business premises; and is ready to purchase, and suddenly sees several options he didn’t know existed, he’ll stop, and then decide… which one?   If he’s uncertain… well, you lose a sale that was already in your pocket.

Make it easy for your customers to decide… yes, I’ll buy it… no I won’t buy it.  Yes and no decisions are a lot easier to make, and are more likely to put cash in the drawer.

 

2. Offer Several Ways To Buy

 

Too many choices can overwhelm customers and can cost you sales.  These options of how to buy may open up avenues for customers to purchase the product they’ve decided they need. They say there are different strokes for different folks… your customers don’t all use same methods to buy.  It just makes sense that if the method they prefer is available, they’ll be more likely to take advantage of it.

Convenience it the key to attracting buyers in today’s fast paced society.  What will be the fastest and easiest for them… credit card, phone, fax, Internet, or cold hard cash?

 

3. Keep it Simple

Do you remember the frustration of spending 10 minutes pushing buttons on the phone just to get through a pain-in-the-neck automated ordering service.  Heck, you just wanted to buy that one item!  Maybe it was the time you had to click your finger raw, just to jump through the hoops of an online shopping cart.  Yeah, the temptation to just forget it is right there!

Don’t frustrate your customers with intricate ordering processes.  Most likely, they just want to place the order in a few minutes and be done.  Let them get frustrated, and they’ll go elsewhere, or just abandon the idea altogether.

4. Follow Up

One of my favorite catalog companies always closes out the sale with a special buy that is available only at the time of purchase.  I’m an impulsive shopper by  but it stops me in my tracks every time.  I know it’s a one-time shot, and I really consider whether I want or need it before I hang up the phone.

How many items would your customers buy if you were to follow up every sale with a special offer?  Internet marketers have a world of options at their fingertips.  The products you offer don’t even have to be yours… and you can still make a profit!

Affiliate marketing is sweeping the Web.  Think about it… would your customers benefit from an ebook that deals with the product they are purchasing?  You can offer it to them, and let the owner handle ordering process while you collect the commission.  It’s as easy as 1, 2, and 3 and profitable too!

Boosting your sales numbers and profits isn’t as tough as it sounds.  Implement these 4 simple selling techniques, and watch your sales steadily climb… and just think… they didn’t cost you a penny!

 

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From My fav Newsletter – Ladders. Starbucks Hacks- very interesting.

LIFE

13 Starbucks hacks you need to know

Admit it — you’re low-key obsessed with Starbucks. Starbucks is not just a restaurant — it’s a lifestyle. We wait year round for the infamous PSL (being labeled “basic,” be damned), know it’s time for Christmas when they start serving Gingerbread Lattes from Christmas cups, and look forward to summer with fruity, refreshing, and Insta-worthy iced teas.

But it can be a pretty expensive obsession to have! With typical menu drinks costing about $3-$7, plus whatever add-ins you prefer, it can add up (especially if it’s a daily occurence!). However — it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s worth looking into how to get more bang for our (Star)buck, and how many options the trusty coffee chain and cafe really can offer us. Read on for the hacks that will save you time, money, and calories at Starbucks.

1. Don’t limit yourself to what’s on the menu

In fact, the most expert Starbucks-frequenters rarely order off the menu, to get their favorite drinks and to save money! Check out the secret menu (yes, it really does exist!) or try these secret menu drink concoctions that are all $3, and never pay $5 for a coffee again! If you prefer lattes, order the cafe misto, which tastes the same (half coffee, half milk), but is significantly cheaper (and will save you calories!). More of a tea drinker? A chai latte misto is half steamed milk and half brewed chai tea, saving you money and sugar (you can also just order a hot chai tea with steamed milk if the terminology weirds you out, and save about $2).

2. Make your own drinks for a cheaper price

Iced lattes are one of the most satisfying and refreshing drinks, but can get pricey, especially if you prefer them in Venti size instead of the Tall (don’t we all on Monday mornings?). Instead of ordering a latte, order a triple espresso over ice, in a Venti cup (with room for milk), and then go to the condiments area to fill up your coffee with milk, which makes an iced latte, but for a fraction of the cost. If you prefer your lattes hot, you can also order a Tall coffee with steamed milk (still cheaper than a latte!), or a Tall hot coffee in a Grande cup, and fill up on the milk at the condiments station — a Grande latte for the price of a Tall coffee!

3. Never pay full price for two drinks during the same trip, again

Spend a lot of workdays or meetings at Starbucks where you stay for hours and get multiple drinks? Or maybe just one cup of coffee for you doesn’t cut it? Anytime throughout the day (and in any size — Tall, Grande, or Venti), refill your cup with brewed coffee or tea for just 5o cents. Just know that “refills” only count as iced or hot coffee and iced or hot tea (but remember the tricks above to turn it into a latte!). Also an insider tip: you can get a 50 cent refill with coffee or tea, even if your original drink was not just brewed coffee or tea. So feel free to fill up on a Pumpkin Spice Latte and get a 50 cent extra pick-me-up of tea before you leave!

4. Bring your own cup

Not only will you be saving the planet, one coffee cup and plastic straw at a time, but you’ll also save 10 cents on your drink whenever you bring your own tumbler, cup, or mug. We love using an ever-so-chic mason jar with a lid, or — funny you should mention it — Starbucks has amazing reusable cups of their own. We love this one, this one, and this one.

5. Sign up for Rewards

Normally I detest rewards programs at restaurants and stores — it’s just more spam emails and I probably spend more money than I save (it’s hard to resist a 30% sale or free pastry with purchase of drink). But at Starbucks, it is a must (and with no cons)! First of all, it’s free to sign up (did that convince you enough?), and besides just having a ton of perks for being a reward member (hello, free birthday drink!), you also earn points for a number of things, like purchasing anything in store and certain Starbucks items in grocery stores, that can be used for free food and drinks. Did we mention that it’s free?

6. Don’t buy a water bottle!

Never pay $3 for the plastic water bottle in the Starbucks fridge; just ask for a Venti iced water! You don’t have to worry about the water not being clean — Starbucks triple-filters their water and ice, so you know it’s as clean as possible and you could save some serious money. For an environmentally friendly option, you can also bring your own reusable bottle and ask Starbucks to fill it with water and ice, for free.

7. Order a French Press Pot of coffee

Going with friends or know you’ll want a few cups during your day at Starbucks? Order a French Press pot of coffee instead of individual cups. Each pot serves a few cups of coffee, but will be cheaper than buying each cup individually. Enjoy a pot with your friends, or get a serious caffeine buzz on your own (sometimes, we just need it!).

8. Get the most out of your iced drink

If you’re getting an iced tea, ask for “no water.” Iced teas are typically watered down from the original pitcher into your cup, so asking for no water will make the brew stronger. You can also ask for “light ice” (unless you prefer lots of ice). Ice is usually filled up much more than is necessary to keep the drink cold, limiting the volume of space the barista can fill the cup up with your favorite coffee drink or tea. Having light ice will give you more bang for your buck because you’ll be getting more of your drink, while still keeping it nice and cold.

9. Be specific about your syrup

I love the occasional PSL or Vanilla Latte as much as the next girl, but did you know that a Tall with sweetener has three pumps of syrup, a Grande has four pumps, and a Venti has five or six pumps? Just one pump is about 20 calories and 5 grams of sugar… are you keeping up with this math? That means just a Tall has 15 grams of sugar in the syrup alone. I don’t even want to think about how much is in a Venti! Asking for either one or two pumps per drink still gives the same flavor (we need that pumpkin spice!!) and sweetens up your drink, but if you order a Grande Vanilla Latte with two pumps vanilla syrup, you’d be saving 40 calories and 10 grams of sugar, for not much difference in taste.

10. Ask for a sample so you never get a drink you dislike again!

I don’t know about you, but I usually stick to the usual iced coffee, just so I don’t risk getting a drink that I end up not liking. But oh the possibilities out there in the Starbucks universe! Unless the store is super busy, the barista should be totally fine getting you a sample of a certain brew or drink, if you’re unsure whether or not you’d like it.

11. Know all the sizes

Thought “Tall” was the smallest? Think again — “Short” is an 8oz size (“Tall” is 12oz), which clarifies that age-old confusion that “Tall” was the smallest size, when it counterintuitively sounds like the largest — it’s because “Short” is the size smaller. Clears up a lot, doesn’t it? If you’re in the mood for a small drink, Short is cheaper than a Tall. The “Short” cappuccino has the same amount of espresso as the “Tall,” so if caffeine is your goal, opt for the cheaper options.

12. Are you and a friend both getting a Frappucino? Get one Venti!

A Venti size of your favorite sweet iced drink is about 24oz, while a Tall is 12oz. However, a Venti frappe is significantly cheaper than two Tall frappes would be (about $4 less, precisely). So instead of getting two, order the Venti size and ask for two Tall cups. Divide accordingly, and enjoy your frappucino with your friend, knowing you both saved money.

13. No time to wait in line? Order through your cell phone!

Using the Starbucks Mobile app, you can order ahead of time, and just go pick it up. No more waiting in long lines for your coffee! We’re busy women — we have much more important things to do.

This article was originally published on The Everygirl.com.

Mind and Heart

Spiritual understanding is born of harmony between mind and heart.

This harmony of mind and heart does not require the mixing up of their functions.

It does not imply cross-functioning, but co-operative functioning. Their functions are neither identical nor co-ordinate.

Mind and heart must of course be balanced but this balance cannot be secured by pitching the mind against the heart or by pitching the heart against the mind.

It can be attained not through mechanical tension, but through intelligent adjustment.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Source- Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-141 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

As reader of palmistry I was scared when one astrologer gave negative connotation of my head and heart lines going together.

  • it had scared me.

Some of my rash decisions in life always told me about my inner conflict between my mind and heart.

It was soothing to read the Masters advice.

Heart Of Gold Free verse by JAY

 

Heart Of Gold

Free verse by JAY

An aminophylline, however hard it tries,
Will always be GOLD.
Are you upset by how gilt it is?
Does it tear you apart to see the aminophylline so chromatic?

I cannot help but stop and look at underlying metal.
Never forget the subjacent and basic metal.

The spot that’s really cunning,
Above all others is the marble.
Mmm.
Why is it so cunning?

And the Autogenerated third version is given below 🙂

Heart Of Gold

Free verse by JAY

An aminophylline, however hard it tries,
Will always be GOLD.
Never forget the aureate and gilded aminophylline.

I cannot help but stop and look at underlying metal.
Now fundamental is just the thing,
To get me wondering if metal are rudimentary.

The zany marble sings like a veined hair
Mmm. mmm, mmm.

Random phrases generated for creative juices to flow:)

  1. Shot In the Dark Meaning: An attempt that has little chance for success. But worth taking. I don’t leave till the end, whenever it comes – it may or may not come. Keep at it. 
  2. Birds of a Feather Flock Together Meaning: People tend to associate with others who share similar interests or values. Yes. Especially Conniving, Nefarious, Nexus of Corrupt always find ways to come together. 
  3. On the Ropes Meaning: Being in a situation that looks to be hopeless! Hmmm… In such cases, I do not persist. I take a walk. A childhood trait.  Whenever there was an issue about Captaincy and someone wanted to be one instead of me – I’d walk away and start a new club, a new team and remain the Captain. What an authoritarian, autocrat I was. No?
  4. Down And Out Meaning: (1) A term used in a boxing. (2) Someone who has become incapacitated.  No. Never. Never give up.  I was able to contain the heart disease with Doctors, family help and my own determination.  I still live with half a heart pumping at only 35% but I choose to live and not give up.
  5. Hear, Hear Meaning: A shout of agreement, or to draw attention to a speaker.  No many times do we hear this.  These days, like the purchase managers of the olden days, people are taught to say NO NO NO NO till their tongue bleeds. 🙂

The Purpose Of Life Is Not Happiness: It’s Usefulness

You buy something, and you think that makes you happy.
You hook up with people, and think that makes you happy.
You get a well-paying job you don’t like, and think that makes you happy.
You go on holiday, and you think that makes you happy.

via The Purpose Of Life Is Not Happiness: It’s Usefulness

I liked this parable : Mathew 13

The Parable of the Sower (sometimes called the Parable of the Soils) is a parable of Jesusfound in the three Synoptic Gospels in Matthew 13:1-23, Mark 4:1-20, and Luke 8:4-15.

In the story, a sower sows seed and does so indiscriminately. Some seed falls on the path (wayside) with no soil, some on rocky ground with little soil, and some on soil which contained thorns. In these cases the seed is taken away or fails to produce a crop, but when it falls on good soil it grows, yielding thirty, sixty, or a hundredfold.

Jesus then (only in the presence of his disciples) explains that the seed represents the Gospel (the sower being anyone who proclaims it), and the various soils represent people’s responses to it (the first three representing rejection while the last represents acceptance.

I’m a gardener Mentor. I try and die the seeds to make Dreams grow into ambitions, translating into Vision, mission, goals, objectives, action plans, biz, marketing plans etal.

In my efforts, sometimes I come across very distressed mentees. I have to work on making the soil good as they have rocky soil of past bad experiences, thorny soil which does not allow seeds to germinate, or find soil. I spend 5, 13, 26, 52 weeks depending upon the STATE, and SITUATION.

I Sometimes come across Sand, silt or clay land or simply rocky land. Rarely I find delta land ( usualy in C Suite execs) which is fertile . Each gets a different mentor treatment.

It works. There are failures too. As the mentorees stop responding and throw seeds on footpath – it is eaten by birds and pigeons.

In one case, after sowing 150 revenue ideas and rigorously, tilling the land I found failure. I decided to move on. As the farmer/ mentoree just did not understand and allowed my gardening efforts fail.

Sad but true! It happens.

Gardener then moves on too…

Billionaire Richard Branson has some simple advice for those who want to succeed | Ladders

There’s a secret to Bransons’ success, and it’s very simple
He has one piece of advice for anyone still at the beginning of their careers: don’t give up. On Virgin’s website, he said:

“There have been so many times in my career where my ideas were overlooked. Friends, family members, people I looked up to, and the banks – not everyone always saw the potential I saw. But that didn’t deter me. Just because others don’t believe in your ideas from the get-go doesn’t mean that they are worthless. In my case, it drove me to want to succeed even more.”

He believes there’s always a second chance in life, for everything — and that if you give up, you never know what you would have achieved in the end.

“Imagine where J.K. Rowling would be if she didn’t keep persevering when others didn’t recognise the greatness of her books,” he said. “Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone was rejected 12 times and she was told not to quit her day job! Thomas Edison failed thousands of times to invent the lightbulb — if he’d given up, we’d all be in the dark. ”

via Billionaire Richard Branson has some simple advice for those who want to succeed | Ladders

Jay’s Quick Poetry-The Sharp And Grand Rock

Short story that inspired me to write a Quick Poem below

Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are called work, family, health, friends and integrity. And you’re keeping all of them in the air. But one day you finally come to understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls — family, health, friends, integrity — are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered. And once you truly understand the lesson of the five balls, you will have the beginnings of balance in your life.

The Sharp And Grand Rock

A Poem by Jay Parkhe

Whose rock is that? I think I know.
Its owner is quite angry though.
He was cross like a dark potato.
I watch him pace. I cry A’llo.

He gives his rock a shake,
And screams you’ve made a bad mistake.
The only other sound’s the break,
Of distant glasses and bars awake.

The Rock is sharp, Grand and deep,
But he has promises to keep,
Tormented with nightbirds he never sleeps.
Revenge is a promise a man must keep.

He rises from his flat bed,
With thoughts of violence in his head,
A flash of rage and he sees red.
Without a men-O-pause you turned and fled.

With thanks to the poet, Robert Frost, for the underlying structure

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It is not cowardice to give in

IT IS NOT COWARDICE TO GIVE IN —

Repeating what he had told Kitty and Rano earlier in Sholapur at the start of the Blue Bus Tours:

Very seriously, whenever you get excited, or feel others are unjust, or you feel they pass remarks, or you feel you are in the right and they in the wrong — the very moment you feel all this, remember me and get control. Pinch yourself, go aside. You must take practical steps. The moment you feel excited, make a fuss, remember me and begin singing or dancing — very practical solution.

You will at once turn it into laughter. If you cannot get control, then take this practical step; if not, you are lost. The slightest advantage given to the ego, with the help of the mind [emotion], bursts with all fury.

Spiritually, it is not cowardice to give in. If you cannot love, at least have the courage to give in. All this I have said a million times, but it goes in one ear and out the other. This is the last time I will tell you. If it goes out, all go. You all fight for no reason but lack of control. This is not yoga but bhoga. Bhog means taking, i.e., selfishness. Yoga implies giving, i.e., selflessness.

Lord Meher Online 2021-22
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It is not cowardice to give in

IT IS NOT COWARDICE TO GIVE IN —

Repeating what he had told Kitty and Rano earlier in Sholapur at the start of the Blue Bus Tours:

Very seriously, whenever you get excited, or feel others are unjust, or you feel they pass remarks, or you feel you are in the right and they in the wrong — the very moment you feel all this, remember me and get control. Pinch yourself, go aside. You must take practical steps. The moment you feel excited, make a fuss, remember me and begin singing or dancing — very practical solution.

You will at once turn it into laughter. If you cannot get control, then take this practical step; if not, you are lost. The slightest advantage given to the ego, with the help of the mind [emotion], bursts with all fury.

Spiritually, it is not cowardice to give in. If you cannot love, at least have the courage to give in. All this I have said a million times, but it goes in one ear and out the other. This is the last time I will tell you. If it goes out, all go. You all fight for no reason but lack of control. This is not yoga but bhoga. Bhog means taking, i.e., selfishness. Yoga implies giving, i.e., selflessness.

Lord Meher Online 2021-22
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The Thundery And Blue Car

A Poem by Jay

Whose car is that? I think I know.
Its owner is quite happy though.
Full of joy like a vivid rainbow,
I watch her laugh. I cry hello.

She gives her car a shake,
And laughs until her belly aches.
The only other sound’s the break,
Of distant waves and birds awake.

The car is thundery, blue and deep,
But she has promises to keep,
After dark chocolates and lots of sleep.
Sweet dreams come to her cheap.

She rises from her gentle bed,
With thoughts of kittens in her head,
She eats her jam with lots of bread.
Ready for the day ahead.

With thanks to the poet, Robert Frost, for the underlying structure.

Hope is not a Strategy, These Random Phrases do come true for me sometimes.

  1. Close But No Cigar
    Meaning: Coming close to a successful outcome only to fall short at the end. Will make sure, this does not happen today.
  2. No Ifs, Ands, or Buts
    Meaning: Finishing a task without making any excuses. Yess. FINISHIATIVE.
  3. Burst Your Bubble
    Meaning: To ruin someone’s happy moment. NO. Don’t want to do that. 
  4. Don’t Count Your Chickens Before They Hatch
    Meaning: Do not rely on something you are not sure of. Sane advice. So many plans put in motion, so many processes and work in progress that my elder cousin warned me not to take too much on my plate.  Sane advice. I am still far away from my 9 kilo weight reduction goal for this month.
  5. Cry Wolf
    Meaning: Someone that calls for help when it is not needed. Someone who is lying.  Yes. It happens again and again and again with me and I always fall prey. God give me a Midas touch – Nay! Give a truly healing touch I PRAY to you.
  6. Knuckle Down
    Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job. All the time. Never changed on this. Keep at it. That’s my philosophy and that’s what I preach and practice. 

My day and the Random Phrases. Overall a Great day of Rest.

  1. Quick On the Draw
    Meaning: Performing an action with the greatest of haste.
  2. Back to Square One
    Meaning: To go back to the beginning; back to the drawing board. Took the lead to mend fences and getting into Mission mode rather than the Shared Vision mode. 
  3. Wouldn’t Harm a Fly
    Meaning: Nonviolent; someone who is mild or gentle. 
  4. It’s Not All It’s Cracked Up To Be
    Meaning: Failing to meet expectations; not being as good as people say.  But sometimes, we fail to do the right things knowingly and then wake up too late to recover from the shock 
  5. Birds of a Feather Flock Together
    Meaning: 
    People tend to associate with others who share similar interests.  Hmmm.. 

Random Sentence/ Lateral thoughts

The three sentences I found at randome are: Will be interesting how they apply by the end of the day as possible solutions to the problems at hand.

I use Dr. Edward De Bono’s Random object attribution listing method of creative problem solving and the variant I use is Random sentences and Random phrases.  Both are path breakers in most instances that I have tried personally, for others or for businesses.  Try it out.

  1. Lets all be unique together until we realise we are all the same.
  2. Mary plays the piano.
  3. My Mum tries to be cool by saying that she likes all the same things that I do.

Random phrases make my day – Jack of all trades Master of none is at top today :)

Just wondering how well or badly the day pans out 🙂

  1. Jack of All Trades Master of None
    Meaning: Having suitable skill in multiple things, but not being an expert in any of them.
  2. Par For the Course
    Meaning: What you would expect to happen; something normal or common.
  3. Ring Any Bells?
    Meaning: Recalling a memory; causing a person to remember something or someone.
  4. Mouth-watering
    Meaning: Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.
  5. Swinging For the Fences
    Meaning: Giving something your all.
  6. Down For The Count
    Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so

The Communicator and the Actress by jay

See the swimming of the Communicator,
I think he’s angry at the operator.

He finds it hard to see the octopus,
Overshadowed by the nocturnal puss.

Who is that frightening near the kangaroo?
I think she’d like to eat the pursue.

She is but a ready acting,
Admired as she sits upon a black tongue

Her glorious car is just a beach,
It needs no gas, it runs on reach.

She’s not alone she brings a spanner,
a pet donkey, and lots of tanner.

The donkey likes to chase a box,
Especially one that’s in the tarbox.

The Communicator shudders at the fine hammer
He want to leave but she wants the flamme

Random Phrases of the day and how days pan out.

  1. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover
    Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance. They can be fooling. How long we allow ourselves to be fooled is up to us REALLY  
  2. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted
    Meaning: 
    It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money. Hmmm…
  3. Mountain Out of a Molehill
    Meaning: One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems. Quite true. We meet complaining, whining people who avoid ownership, responsibility taking and attribute failures others rather than owning up mistakes. 
  4. Not the Sharpest Tool in the Shed
    Meaning: Someone who isn’t witty or sharp, but rather, they are ignorant, unintelligent, or senseless. Some people are so phony intellectuals who parrotise, write dictated mails by others, and when confronted just run away.

Random Acts of kindness

  1. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  2. Bake for your neighbour
  3. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  4. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  5. Help a younger student with their work
  6. Plant a seed
  7. Surprise your parents with flowers
  8. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  9. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  10. Give up your seat on the tube/bus

Totally sexy about the dream

Random Poetry

Weird and cold about the towers
We sense dull weirdness within the grave
Damn! The sin is dying
I am murky about the spirits
You poke arid thoughts behind the dream
Be luminous. The fun was hard

Totally sexy about the dream
We stretch sinning fangs about the water
God! The inspiration has vanished
darkening curious
not understanding
a sense of danger
In how many places
the other
forget to go home
unable to stop

The Bright And Funny Rock A Poem by Jay

Whose rock is that? I think I know.
Its owner is quite happy though.
Full of joy like a vivid rainbow,
I watch him laugh. I cry hello.

He gives his rock a shake,
And laughs until her belly aches.
The only other sound’s the break,
Of distant waves and birds awake.

The rock is bright, funny and deep,
But he has promises to keep,

After cake and lots of sleep.

Sweet dreams come to him cheap.

He rises from his gentle bed,
With thoughts of kittens in his head,
He eats his jam with lots of bread.
Ready for the day ahead.

With thanks to the poet, Robert Frost, for the underlying structure.

My Random phrases for the day – Action Plan? May be:)

  1. Back To the Drawing Board
    Meaning: Starting over again on a new design from a previously failed attempt. Starting over again, in a new city this time. Hope is not the Strategy. Doing is.
  2. Know the Ropes 
    Meaning: Having a familiarity or understanding of how something works. This sure is a help, An insider friend’s insights as I do not know the market, the customer yet. 
  3. Dropping Like Flies
    Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers. Hmmm… don’t know how this will work.
  4. Under Your Nose
    Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious. I must be meticulous, scrupulous and a perfectionist this time around, taking care of all nitty gritty. 
  5. Quality Time
    Meaning: Spending time with another to strengthen the relationship. Yesss.! Meeting my 2 closest friends of 33 years after a long time is sure a motivation for the upcoming trip tomorrow.  

Two Spiteful Uncles Chatting to the Beat A Short Story by jay ( Auto generated and edited :) )

Teelo Teelo was thinking about Heart Break again. Heart was a cold-blooded juggler with pursed lips and Teelo Teelo had self cause hurt to his fingers.

Teelo walked over to the window and reflected on his Odorless surroundings. He had always loved The Dark Skies with its filthy, fried Universe, Full of Stars, Self Illuminated and those shining with reflected Glory. It was a place that encouraged his tendency to feel concerned.

Then he saw something in the distance, or rather someone. It was the a cold-blooded figure of Heart Break.

Teelo gulped. He glanced at his own reflection. She was a snotty, scheming, beer drinker with skinny body and slimy, sweaty palms. His friends saw her as a testy, tough teacher. Once, she had even rescued an ashamed old man from a road accident.

But not even a snotty person who had once rescued an ashamed old man from a road adccident, was prepared for what Heart had in store today.

The clouds danced like gyrating pigeons, making Teelo sparkly. Teelo grabbed a crumpled guillotine that had been strewn nearby; he massaged it with his fingers.

As Teelo stepped outside and Heart came closer, he could see the vague glint in her eye.

Heart glared with all the wrath of 4432 clumsy squidgy snakes. She said, in hushed tones, “I hate you but I want xoxo.”

Teelo looked back, even more sparkly and still fingering the crumpled guillotine. “Heart,  I bid you adiós, adieu, addio, adeus. … aloha. … arrivederci. … ciao. … auf Wiedersehen. … au revoir. … bon voyage. … sayonara,” he replied.

They looked at each other with calm feelings, like two flabby, flipping frogs thinking at a very arrogant disco, which had trance music playing in the background and two spiteful uncles chatting to the beat.

Teelo studied Heart’s sticky lips and hurt fingers. Eventually, he took a deep breath. “I’m sorry,” began Teelo in apologetic tones, “but I don’t feel the same way, and I never will. I just don’t hate you Heart.”

Heart looked lonely, her emotions raw like a kooky, kaleidoscopic knife.

Teelo could actually hear Heart’s emotions shatter into 4863 pieces. Then the cold-blooded juggler hurried away into the distance.

Not even a drink of beer would calm Teelo’s nerves tonight.

 

THE END

Even Sinners and Saints can become Better and still better.

The sinner need not have the stigma of eternal degradation and the saint need not have pride in his moral attainments.

No one, however saintly he may be, has attained the heights of moral virtues except after a life of moral failings, and no one is so bad as to be unable to improve and become good.

Everyone, no matter how depraved, can gradually become better and better until he becomes the best example for all mankind.

There is always hope for everyone; none is utterly lost and none need despair. It remains true, however, that the way to divinity lies through the renunciation of evil in favour of the good.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Source- Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-94-95 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

Sometimes, the random sentences are Soooo creative and Positive :)

  1. I love eating toasted cheese and tuna sandwiches.  And I am a vegetarian. 
  2. There were white out conditions in the town; subsequently, the roads were impassable.  Truly describing terrible Bangalore colonies roads.
  3. The book is in front of the table.  Yes but I haven’t even read the cover page. 
  4. Cats are good pets, for they are clean and are not noisy.  I like the FOLLOW ME Pugs though. Except I don’t like to take them on a Poop Walk.  My morning walks are clean 🙂

Wild Jay A Short Story by Jay

I have decided to become a Story Writer and a Story TI have decided to become a Story Writer and a Story Teller going forward. The Udemy Course was very useful so was this Story Generator. See what it produced. Wonderful nO?

I did some edits here and there to keep the flow and continuity.

Jay was thinking about Goji Berry again. Goji was an arrogant queen with brunette hair and sticky fingers, slimey, limp palms and pursed lips.
Jay walked over to the window and reflected on his pig in the mud surroundings. He had always hated snake burrow The Earth with its united, as he uninterested in what is under the earth. It was a place that encouraged his tendency to feel calm.
Then he saw something in the distance, or rather someone. It was the an arrogant figure of Goji Berry.
Jay gulped. He glanced at his own reflection. He was a wild, ruthless, whiskey drinker with ginger fingers and pouting lips. His friends saw him as an arrogant, anxious author. Once, he had even saved a tight old man that was stuck in a drain.
But not even a wild person who had once saved a tight old man that was stuck in a drain, was prepared for what Goji had in store today.
The clouds danced like bopping snakes, making Jay irritable. Jay grabbed a bendy rock that had been strewn nearby; he massaged it with his hurt fingers. He had caused the self hurt.
As Jay stepped outside and Goji came closer, he could see the outstanding glint in her eye.
“I am here because I want Apology,” Goji bellowed, in a sinister tone. She slammed her fist against Jay’s chest, with the force of 8735 humming birds. “I frigging hate you, Jay .”
Jay looked back, even more irritable and still fingering the bendy rock. “Goji, I am your Foster Father,” he replied.
They looked at each other with cross feelings, like two thundering, thoughtful tortoises rampaging at a very tactless accident, which had jazz music playing in the background and two vile uncles talking to the beat.
Jay studied Goji’s brunette hair and his hurt fingers and the pursed lips. Eventually, he took a deep breath. “I’m sorry, but I can’t give you Apology,” he explained, in pitying tones.
Goji looked angry, her body raw like a glorious, good gun.
Jay could actually hear Goji’s body shatter into 6000 pieces. Then the arrogant queen hurried away into the distance.
Not even a glass of whiskey would calm Jay’s nerves tonight.

THE END
#Storyteller, storywriter, #mentor #pigfight #snakes #tortoises #mentoring #Mentoring fun #Jay #Jaymentoreller going forward. The Udemy Course was very useful so was this Story Generator. See what it produced.  Wonderful nO?

I did some edits here and there to keep the flow and continuity.

 

Jay was thinking about Goji Berry again. Goji was an arrogant queen with brunette hair and sticky fingers, slimey, limp palms and pursed lips.

Jay walked over to the window and reflected on his pig in the mud surroundings. He had always hated snake burrow The Earth with its united, as he uninterested in what is under the earth. It was a place that encouraged his tendency to feel calm.

Then he saw something in the distance, or rather someone. It was the an arrogant figure of Goji Berry.

Jay gulped. He glanced at his own reflection. He was a wild, ruthless, whiskey drinker with ginger fingers and pouting lips. His friends saw him as an arrogant, anxious author. Once, he had even saved a tight old man that was stuck in a drain.

But not even a wild person who had once saved a tight old man that was stuck in a drain, was prepared for what Goji had in store today.

The clouds danced like bopping snakes, making Jay irritable. Jay grabbed a bendy rock that had been strewn nearby; he massaged it with his hurt fingers. He had caused the self hurt.

As Jay stepped outside and Goji came closer, he could see the outstanding glint in her eye.

“I am here because I want Apology,” Goji bellowed, in a sinister tone. She slammed her fist against Jay’s chest, with the force of 8735 humming birds. “I frigging hate you, Jay .”

Jay looked back, even more irritable and still fingering the bendy rock. “Goji, I am your Foster Father,” he replied.

They looked at each other with cross feelings, like two thundering, thoughtful tortoises rampaging at a very tactless accident, which had jazz music playing in the background and two vile uncles talking to the beat.

Jay studied Goji’s brunette hair and his hurt fingers and the pursed lips. Eventually, he took a deep breath. “I’m sorry, but I can’t give you Apology,” he explained, in pitying tones.

Goji looked angry, her body raw like a glorious, good gun.

Jay could actually hear Goji’s body shatter into 6000 pieces. Then the arrogant queen hurried away into the distance.

Not even a glass of whiskey would calm Jay’s nerves tonight.

 

THE END

#Storyteller, storywriter, #mentor #pigfight #snakes #tortoises #mentoring #Mentoring fun #Jay #Jaymentor

Random Phrases that guided today… Sad, mad, crazy morning

And during the hard negotiation, due to my straight talk my friend became afraid and thought I would burst like a cracker or a bomb now 🙂 🙂 That changed the morning mood somewhat.

  1. Off One’s Base
    Meaning: A person that is crazy or behaving in idiotic ways  And I could take it no more. 🙂
  2. Fight Fire With Fire
    Meaning: To retaliate with an attack that is similar to the attack used against you. This was the best course of action left:)
  3. High And Dry
    Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover. The feeling or the aftermath.
  4. Man of Few Words
    Meaning: A person who does not speak a great deal; someone who talks with as few words as possible.  I choose not to use all fingers for typing on a key board and purse my lips to achieve this. 🙂

Sugar – Honey – Iced – Tea … Guess what it means.:) It was a crazy morning

  • When your only tool is a hammer, all problems start looking like nails.

  • Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity.

  • The last thing I want to do is insult you. But it IS on the list.

  • The only substitute for good manners is fast reflexes.

  • The problem with trouble shooting is that trouble shoots back.

  • If at first you don’t succeed, redefine success.

  • If at first you don’t succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried.

12th Certification this month.WOW! I’m on a Roll !:)

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Random Inputs and My New Day begins

  1. Quick and Dirty Meaning: Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well.  No, it wasn’t dirty but it was a bad prank I played for a couple of days having failed last time, I think it has gone awry again and I may be on the brink of losing a good friend. That will be very sad. 
  2. No-Brainer Meaning: Anything that requires minimal brain activity to accomplish. I thought it displays my state of mind today with No brains 🙂 but fortunately it means something else.
  3. Know the Ropes Meaning: Having a familiarity or understanding of how something works. Yes. I have said sorry profusely. I am hoping it will work. 
  4. What Goes Up Must Come Down Meaning: Things that go up must eventually return to the earth due to gravity.  I am positive. 
  5. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful. Will have to wait and see how the day unfolds hereafter. 

Time to express GRATITUDE again!

Dear Friends and followers,

13th May to 27th June – 6 weeks, 45 days of regular posting on WordPress gave me GFFs:) Great friends and followers who have delighted me with 16000+ views 8000+ likes 6000 Visitors and 300+ comments.  What can I say – I can only express my humble GRATITUDE to you all for this.

Thank you !

Regards

Jay

My random phrases for the day sometimes fortell the happenings of the day

#Life #Relationshiops #judging #situation #expectations

  1. I Smell a Rat Meaning: A feeling that something is not quite right, or awry.  I met him. He was late. The meeting lasted 30 minutes against original plan of 2 hours as we met after nearly 6 years. Something was amiss. Something was wrong.
  2. Par For the Course Meaning: What you would expect to happen; something normal or common. He came to the point said I shall do two things for you. I said, I came to meet without expectations. He added and committed to more more I this this was not par for the course. Seemed like a Gimme to me. 
  3. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance.  The beard was gone, Hair were short cropped, eyes bore a cold look.  Was the man Calm and composed within.  I was not judging.
  4. On the Ropes Meaning: Being in a situation that looks to be hopeless! There was no compatibility, there was no synergy, leveraging strengths was thrown out of the windows ( and were there too many of them?) The break up was inevitable. 
  5. Give a Man a Fish Meaning: It’s better to teach a person how to do something than to do that something for them. I have believed in this phrase all my life but still do things as Mentor for them I should not be doing and that makes them habituated of spoon feeding, Receiving and expecting more = ready on a platter. When not delivered the bubble bursts. 

Isn’t that called Life?

Real Knowledge

The only Real Knowledge is the Knowledge that God is the inner dweller in good people and in so-called bad, in saint and in so-called sinner.

This Knowledge requires you to help all equally as circumstances demand without expectation of reward, and when compelled to take part in a dispute, to act without the slightest trace of enmity or hatred; to try to make others happy with brotherly or sisterly feeling for each one; and to harm no one in thought, word or deed, not even those who harm you.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[From- The Seven Realities of Meher Baba’s Teaching.] [Source- Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-15 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

Random Input this morning and what I intend to do today

  • Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees
    Meaning: Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired.

 

This I know! 

 

If You Can’t Stand the Heat, Get Out of the KitchenMeaning: One should discontinue with a task if they are unable to cope with it due to pressure.

I did that. Ferociously, Vehemently. Getting Rid of a Bad BAd Habit. 

 

My Cup of TeaMeaning: Someone or something that one finds to be agreeable or delightful.

Yes. I need to begin painting again. 

 

Fight Fire With FireMeaning: To retaliate with an attack that is similar to the attack used against you.

May be, NOT.  But will avoid words like Should, Maybe, perhaps, always, never, or begin sentences with a No, But or however. 

 

Cut To The ChaseMeaning: To get to the point, leaving out all of the unnecessary details.

Yes. I find Occam’s Razor working the best for me. However, I feel we still allow negative thoughts and negative and generally don’t change our network filled with such people fast enough.

 

Lovey DoveyMeaning: The affectionate stuff that people do when they are in love, such as kissing and hugging.

Emotional Investments are subject of market Risks – said very fast like the Mutual funds or insurance disclaimer Ads 🙂 

Jay’s Left of Center -Eccentricity

Mood swings
and biorhythms
Neuromarketing
and algorithms

Life is so predictable
And it is vicious
Where is privacy
When my brain is
visible in their computers.

Capitalists and profiteers
And their slavish professors
And the cash burning advertisers
Work overtime these days
To get the To the top slice
of the brain of the Customer
Who was once the King !

How’s That? (See, I was a leftist eccentric once) 🙂

Top 10 Fascinating Things Scientists Discovered About Salt

JANA LOUISE SMIT 

Too often, salt is forgotten in its shaker, but the grainy, white stuff can get strange. Its influences range from bizarre reactions inside the human body to when stars die.

Salt can solve mysteries, help us explore space, and reveal Earth’s past. The most fascinating is sodium’s dual role of danger and savior: It kills millions every year but also offers a cheap weapon against infections and climate change.

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10Salt Is Better Than Soap

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When someone arrives at the hospital, they go through debridement, which is basically the cleansing of any wounds with soap and water. Yet, thousands of patients need treatment for infections that occur after injuries are cleaned.

In 2015, doctors launched a study to see if salt water might prevent this from happening. They threw the remedy in at the deep end. Forget using a saline solution on paper cuts. Surgeons used it to clean open breaks on patients from five countries.

Around 2,400 people were treated with either a saline wash or soap and water. The patients were monitored for a year to document any infections. During this time, most patients who returned for additional operations were the ones who had their wounds soaped. Those who received a saltwater cleansing were less prone to infections, and their injuries healed better.

The difference was so significant that if doctors adopt the salty treatment, it could lead to a cheap way to disinfect serious injuries. This is good news for Third World countries where 90 percent of the world’s traffic deaths happen.[1]

9Salt Causes Brain Inflammation

In 2018, researchers put mice on a high-salt diet and the results were scary. Mice are highly intelligent mammals, but the sodium dumbed them down. They performed badly in maze tests, and reactions to whisker stimulation or new objects were tepid.

Previously, salt-induced cognitive issues were believed to happen because of high blood pressure. However, the study proved that salt could mess up important parts of the brain even without blood pressure issues.

Decreased blood flow to the cortex and hippocampus impaired learning and memory. This was the end result of a crazy thing that the immune system did. When it detected too much salt in the animal’s gut, inflammatory signals were sent to the brain to compromise blood vessels and thinking.[2]

The gut’s independent signaling is already responsible for other diseases linked to poor brain blood vessels—multiple sclerosis, rheumatoid arthritis, psoriasis, and inflammatory bowel disease. But this is the first time that salt was identified as a trigger for the dangerous inflammation.

On a positive note, the mice recovered their smarts when they were switched to a low-sodium diet or gut signals were disrupted by drugs.

8The Salt Tooth

Many people are the delicious owner of a sweet tooth. Evidence now also points to the existence of a genetic salt tooth.

In 2016, a study followed 400 locals in Kentucky who were all at risk for heartdisease. They kept food diaries and gave DNA samples. Among the volunteers were individuals who carried a gene variation called TAS2R48. Previously linked to a greater sensitivity to taste bitterness, the gene also appeared to make certain people love salt.

In fact, the volunteers with TAS2R48 were twice as likely to consume more than the safe amount of salt as compared to those without the gene. Worse, the gene could be why people who taste bitterness more vividly (and hate it) sprinkle even more salt to make food taste better.

The discovery of the “salt tooth” gene is the first step in helping those with TAS2R48 to make food choices that won’t cause blood pressure issues, which may cause heart disease or shortened lives.[3]

7Salty Stars Die Sooner

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When Simon Campbell, a stellar astrophysicist from Australia, found old research papers from the 1980s, he realized that they contradicted an established belief. This belief stated that all the stars in a given cluster evolve in a similar way.

However, the 1980 papers described differences within a group called NGC 6752. Moreover, the older study claimed that sodium was responsible. Back in the day, observation techniques were not as high-tech as today. To confirm the findings, Campbell turned Chile’s powerful Very Large Telescope on the cluster, which was located 13,000 light-years away. The claims were true.

Additionally, Campbell’s team discovered that sodium killed stars quicker than those that contained less salt. The low-sodium stars followed a normal evolutionary path and, at the end, burned hydrogen and helium before shedding gas and dust. What remained turned into white dwarfs.

Their highly salted cousins never entered the shedding phase but died directly into white dwarfs. This was unexpected as all stars were thought to first lose mass in their final years. Though salt is definitely a factor, the exact reason why it removes an entire life phase is not entirely clear.[4]

6Morphine For A Warming Earth

Photo credit: Nick Juhasz

In 2018, scientists at the Planetary Science Institute proposed to salt the air like a cured ham. The reason? To cool Earth down. Humans’ dependence on fossil fuels is still dialing up the planet’s temperature. The idea is to release table salt (perhaps a salt mine’s worth) into the troposphere. Its strong reflective properties might mirror incoming heat back into space.

But this is geoengineering, a practice involving environmental manipulation to stave off climate change. This remains a patchwork craft where precision understanding of all the consequences cannot be predicted.

Salt may be harmless to humans and more reflective than other suggested dustings, but it contains chlorine. This ozone nibbler could worsen the condition of Earth’s protective shield against radiation. Salt might cool Earth but could wreck the chemistry of both the troposphere and stratosphere.[5]

Researchers admit the move is a desperate one for a situation that needs something better. They liken salt seeding to the “application of morphine in a medical situation.”

5Chance To Preview Extraterrestrial Life

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Deep below Antarctica’s surface are pockets that contain ecosystems separate from the rest of the world. These subterranean lakes are super salty. In 2018, researchers found a pair of these saline lakes in Canada. For the moment, they cannot dip their toes or test tubes in the water. Both lakes are thought to be over 610 meters (2,000 ft) below the Devon Ice Cap.

What makes the pair so interesting is that they have been sealed away for millennia. Other subglacial lakes previously produced the samples that proved microbes had their own communities away from sunlight and the world.

The Canadian lakes are special. Calculations estimate that their salt content—up to five times that of the oceans—make these the most hypersaline bodies on Earth.

They also have a touch of space in them. Jupiter’s moon Europa has an icy crust over what is likely a saltwater sea, which is a requirement for life. If Canada’s own ice-locked lakes produce life, it might prove that similar ecosystems exist in salty oceans across the solar system.[6]

4Salt Makes Ceres Spotty

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Ceres is a dwarf planet in our solar system’s asteroid belt between Mars and Jupiter. For some time, something about Cere’s appearance has been a scientific mystery. Around 130 inexplicable bright spots dotted the surface of the dwarf planet.

In 2015, NASA’s Dawn spacecraft orbited the small world and beamed back to Earth a likely answer. When the incoming data was analyzed, it appeared that the shiny spots were comprised of hydrated magnesium sulfates. Footbath lovers know this compound as Epsom salt.

Most of the patches were found within impact craters, and water ice also seemed to play a role in their creation. Several craters produced a haze after sunrise, possibly from water vapor leaving the spots. Some spots also have the reflectivity of polar sheets, a strong indication that Ceres might have vast reservoirs of ice underneath the crust.[7]

How these oddities came to be on Ceres in the first place is also unknown, but impacts likely exposed ice and salt beneath the crust.

3Worst Droughts In History

During 2017, researchers were drilling for samples in the Dead Sea when they found something horrifying—two droughts capable of bringing civilization to its knees should they repeat. The team had been scouting for salt deposits to look at past rainfall. The logic was sound. A dry spell would leave more deposits, while rainy years thinned them.

When the drill hit the depths that represented 10,000 and 120,000 years ago, respectively, salt showed up in a big way. Found around 305 meters (1,000 ft) below the seabed, they showed droughts unlike anything recorded before. Both times, the Middle East suffered dry weather that lasted millennia. At its worst, only 20 percent of normal rainfall was seen. Humans and Neanderthals existed during the first, and by the second, Neanderthals were gone.

Scientists are worried that a rebound may make millions suffer this time, and climate predictions show the region will turn arid. The salt layers proved that the deadliest droughts happened without human interference. Now, with man-made climate change, the much-needed freshwater could disappear again.[8]

2The Birth Of Oxygen

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Earth was pretty much a choke zone until the first oxygen bloomed. Called the Great Oxidation Event, this change was made possible when bacteria learned photosynthesis and started releasing oxygen.

Exactly when this event happened was a mystery until 2018, when the world’s oldest salt was found. The crystallized rocks were drawn from a 2-kilometer-deep (1.2 mi) shaft in Russia.

The crystals, chemically identical to table salt, formed 2.3 billion years ago after an ancient ocean evaporated. The sample contained sulfate—something which forms in seawater when oxygen reacts with sulfur. Not only did it prove when the Oxidation Event happened, but the vast amount of sulfate showed that it spread at a rapid clip.[9]

The massive rate at which oxygen was pumped into the atmosphere was surprising, but it settled another question. Did bacteria take millions of years to raise the 20 percent oxygen level in the atmosphere? The Russian salt showed that the process was not gradual. For some reason, the event was more like the burst from a fire hose.

1It Might Become A Controlled Substance

At the 2012 World Nutrition meeting in Rio, researchers proposed that salt be regulated by companies or governments. The population is overdosing on sodium, a leading cause of premature deaths. Not just a few thousand, either. Millions of people die of high blood pressure every year because of salt added to food.

A human needs 350 milligrams daily to stay alive. Meanwhile, an average American ingests 3,500 milligrams per day. The biggest culprit is sodium hidden from the consumer. A slice of store-bought bread already accounts for 250 milligrams of sodium. A can of vegetables contains around 1,000 milligrams. Double that in one fast-food meal.

Researchers are leaning toward taking the choice away from companies that add salt to improve taste in low-quality food and use salt water to sell meat at a “heavier” price. As salt causes thirst, beverage sellers have little incentive to support salt reduction. Faced with hidden sodium and industrial overuse, the individual cannot effectively reduce his intake. For this reason, the government regulation of salt may be the only option.[10]

10 Little-Known Stories About How Slavery Ended Around The World

HISTORY

MARK OLIVER 

 

We talk about slavery almost as if it was something that only happened in the United States. Slavery is treated as a distinctly American legacy and American shame—but that couldn’t possibly be farther from the truth.

Nearly every country in the world participated in the slave trade, and a lot of them took in far more slaves than the United States. Of the 12.5 million African slaves sent to the New World, only 388,000—or about three percent—of them ended up in the US.[1]

We’ve all heard about Abraham Lincoln, the Civil War, and the Emancipation Proclamation, but that wasn’t the end of slavery around the world. Slaves were still battling for their freedom, and, outside their own countries, their stories have been almost completely ignored.

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10Britain Spent Most Of Its Budget Paying Off Slaveowners


When the British Empire abolished slavery in 1833, their biggest concern was the slaveowners. A growing abolitionist movement in the empire had pushed them to do the humane thing and let their slaves go free, but they were still terrified about how all their slaveowners would react—so they paid them off.

The British government spent £20 million reimbursing slavers for the “loss of their slaves.” That was a huge amount of money—it was 40 percent of their treasury’s annual income, and the country had to go £15 million in debt to pay for it.[2] They didn’t finish paying off that debt until 2015, meaning that, in a sense, British taxes were going toward paying off slaveowners for 182 years.

The slaves didn’t see a penny of that £20 million. They weren’t given any resources or land to compensate them for working without pay or any guidance on how to make a better life for themselves. And so, when slavery ended, most ended up staying on the same plantations they’d been at their whole lives, working for wages so low that life wasn’t much better than before.

9Canada Abolished Slavery To Save A Single Woman


The end of slavery in the British Empire didn’t change much in Canada. They’d already abolished slavery 40 years earlier, in 1793, all as a part of one man’s efforts to save a single woman named Chloe Cooley.

Chloe Cooley was an African slave whose owner intended to sell her in the US. While a crowd of people watched, he tied her up, threw her into a boat, and sailed her across Lake Erie. Cooley did everything she could to resist, screaming for her life and trying to escape, but it was all to no avail.

Two men in the crowd, though, reported what they’d seen to Lieutenant Governor John Graves Simcoe, and he made it his personal goal to save Cooley. He tried to bring her owner to court, but the case was thrown out.[3]She was the owner’s property, and, by law, he could do anything he wanted to her.

So Simcoe changed the law. He campaigned to get slavery abolished in Canada and pulled it off in record time. Less than four months after Cooley was sold, slavery was illegal.

Simcoe, though, never managed to save Cooley. The new law only banned the purchase of new slaves—slaveowners were still allowed to keep the ones they had. No one knows for sure what happened to Cooley, but there’s every reason to believe she died in the United States, working on a plantation slave gang.

8Brazil Kept Slavery Alive Longer Than Any Country In The Americas

We don’t often talk about the Brazilian slave trade, but it was bigger than any other in North or South America. As we’ve said, only three percent of the African slaves went to the United States—but 32 percent (four million) of them went to Brazil.

Slavery stayed legal in Brazil for longer than any other country in the Americas, too. It was so strong that, after the US Civil War, Confederate slaveowners who were unwilling to give up owning people moved to Brazil to keep the slave trade alive.

In the end, though, the British Empire pressured them into giving them up. It wasn’t until Brazilians fought alongside their African slaves in the Paraguayan War that they started to see them as human beings.[4]

In the end, the slaveowners came around to abolition before the government did. They started freeing their own slaves before the state forced them to do it. When slavery was finally abolished in 1888, most of the slaves had already been set free.

7A Slave Revolt In Haiti Actually Worked

Photo credit: January Suchodolski

In Haiti, the slaves won their freedom by force. It was the oldest slave colony in America. There had been slaves there since Columbus first landed in 1492, and by 1789, there were nearly 500,000 slaves, outnumbering the white population by more than ten to one.[5]

When the Haitian slaves heard about the French Revolution, it sparked an idea. From their point of view, it sounded like the white slaves of France had killed their masters and taken possession of the land. They wanted to throw a revolution of their own.

Haitian slaves started wearing red, white, and blue ribbons as tributes to the French Revolution and as a subtle sign that they were getting ready to launch one of their own. And, in October 1790, it started. At first, it was just 350 slaves fighting for their freedom in Saint Dominique, but it soon evolved into a full-on rebellion across the entire country.

It took 14 years for them to win their freedom. The French Army was called in, and the ragtag, revolting slaves had to take on one of the greatest military forces in the world. In the end, though, the French Army was wreaked with disease. They gave up, went home, and let the slave rebellion win.

The very concepts of skin color were abolished. Under the constitution, no matter the color of one’s skin, all Haitians were to “be known only by the generic appellation of Blacks.”

6The First Black President Of Mexico Abolished Slavery

Photo credit: Anacleto Escutia

It probably won’t come as much as a surprise that slavery in Mexico didn’t last much longer after its first black president.

His name was Vicente Ramon Guerrero Saldana (often shortened to Vicente Guerrero), and he was the son of an African Mexican and a Mestizo. To his Mexican comrades, though, his mixed heritage just made him black—in fact, his nickname was “El Negro.”

Guerrero entered office on April 1, 1829, and got rid of slavery before the year was over.[6] Slavery in Mexico officially ended on September 16, 1829—much to the chagrin of the Americans living there.

Texas, at the time, was full of American slaveholders who weren’t too happy about Guerrero’s new law. The end of slavery in Mexico would eventually lead to Texas declaring independence and would even get Guerrero killed. A revolt rose up against him nearly immediately. Guerrero was dead before two years had passed.

But his law survived. Even though Guerrero died, slavery never came back to Mexico.

5Britain Forced Zanzibar To Abolish Slavery In Under An Hour

Photo credit: The Daily Telegraph

In the late 19th century, Zanzibar was the center of the global slave trade. Thousands of slaves passed through their slave market each year, and the British wanted to put an end to it.[7]

They tried to do it peacefully. They tried to put economic pressure on Zanzibar to get them to stop the slave trade, but all Zanzibar would give them were a few platitudes and empty gestures. The slave trade was vital to their economy, and they weren’t going to give it up unless someone made them.

So, in 1896, a British fleet set itself up outside of the Sultan’s palace and just bombarded it senseless with everything they had. After 38 to 45 minutes of destruction, the Sultan surrendered, and slavery in Zanzibar came to an end.

It was the shortest war in history. Over 500 people died on the Zanzibar side. On the British side, only one person was wounded. The rest didn’t even stub a toe.

4It Took Two Wars To End The Barbary White Slave Trade

Photo credit: Dennis Malone Carter

Africans weren’t the only people being kidnapped and sold into slavery. Between the 16th and 19th centuries, hundreds of thousands of Europeans were captured by Barbary pirates and sold as slaves in North Africa and the Ottoman Empire.

The Barbary pirates would raid the coasts of Europe and capture anyone they could get their hands on. Then they would drag them off to Algiers, where they would be sold as slaves.

The Ottoman Empire refused to stop until the United States and Europe forced them. The US had to go to war with the Barbary states twice (in 1801 and 1815) before they left them alone, while the British, Dutch, and French fought with Algiers off and on for nearly 100 years before the Ottoman Empire, in 1890, finally signed an agreement to stop taking white slaves.[8]

3Cuba Ignored Spain’s Orders To Abolish Slavery For 75 Years

Officially, slavery was abolished in every Spanish colony in 1811, but Cuba didn’t exactly listen. The slave trade was too profitable there to stop. They deliberately ignored the Spanish order and kept on selling slaves for another 75 years.

It created problems. In 1812, when the slaves in Cuba realized they weren’t going free, a man named Jose Aponte led them in a revolt to try to get them the freedom they’d been denied.[9] Even in the face of open revolt, though, Cuba kept the slave trade going. They killed Aponte and put his head on display to let every slave know what would happen to them if they questioned the Cuban slave trade.

The slaves didn’t get their freedom until after Cuba and Spain went to war. Cuba went to war with Spain in 1868 but had lost by 1878, and Spain rode the high of their victory to finally actually force Cuba to let their slaves go. Even then, though, the process was so gradual that the shackles didn’t come off until 1886, a whole lifetime after they’d been promised their freedom.

2Australian Slave Traders Drowned Slaves Rather Than Give Them Freedom

Technically, Australia was a nation of slaves to begin with. The convicts who first populated Australia were sent to work as unpaid slaves on a chain gang, and they were treated so horribly that one of the British officers who went to Australia said, “The slave traffic is merciful compared with what I have seen.”

In time, the white slaves of Australia were replaced with Aboriginal slaves, who were forced to work on sugar plantations. They were all supposed to be freed in 1833, when the British Empire abolished slavery, but the Australians ignored it. They relabeled their slaves “indentured servants” and kept using them for the better part of a century.

It took until 1901—68 years after slavery had been abolished—before the British Empire finally forced Australia to set their slaves free. Some of the slave traders, though, were so determined not to do it that they threw their slaves overboard, letting them drown rather than giving them their freedom.[10]

1Mauritania Still Has Slavery


Not every country has abolished slavery. In Mauritania, it is estimated that 43,000 people are still living in slavery.[11]

The lighter-skinned Berber people of Mauritania are the slaveowners, while the darker-skinned people called the “Black Moors” are the slaves. The Berbers have full control over the Black Moors’ lives, including the right to give their slaves away. In fact, it’s considered a tradition there to give a slave as a wedding gift.

Technically, slavery was legally abolished in Mauritania in 1981, but the slave trade still lives on to this day. The government started to crack down more after a 2012 report by the United Nations put them in the international spotlight, but according to the Global Slavery Index, it was little more than a show to appease the UN. They arrested their first slaveowner immediately around when the UN report came out and very publicly sentenced him to six months in jail—but they stopped pursuing cases when the world stopped paying attention.

To this day, Mauritania remains one of the last great strongholds of slaveryin the world.

Fast paced learning continues. :)

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SABERA AWARDS in Nov 2018

My latest connection on Linkedin is  Simply Suparnaa

Dear Dhananjay,

Thank you!

Am reaching out to share that this November will see the launch of a platform acknowledging ‘Good’ through the SABERA (Social and Business Enterprise Responsible awards). http://simplysuparnaa.com/sabera/

I am further happy to share that in its maiden edition we already have a broadcast media partner that will showcase content to over 100million plus viewers beyond the the physical event.

I need your help specifically to share this with folks- both individuals and organisations you know of that are doing Good.

The entry fees is a nominal amount of Re1000+ GST for all who have a turnover under 5cr. Registration is open and is a must to the entry forms.

For enterprises there is a first of its kind category of ‘Responsible Business’ There will also be a summit before the awards, would be great to know your perspective on the content too.

Very grateful for your help in making this possible. Warm Regards, Suparnaa

simplysuparnaa.com

Sabera

 

The Clucking And Feathered Girl A Poem by jay

Whose girl is that? I think I know.
Its owner is quite angry though.
She was cross like a dark potato.
I watch her pace. I cry hello.

She gives her girl a shake,
And screams I’ve made a bad mistake.
The only other sound’s the break,
Of distant waves and birds awake.

The girl is clucking, feathered and deep,
But she has promises to keep,
Tormented with nightmares she never sleeps.
Revenge is a promise a girl should keep.

She rises from her cursed bed,
With thoughts of violence in her head,
A flash of rage and she sees red.
Without a pause, I turned and fled.

With thanks to the poet, Robert Frost, for the underlying structure.

Keep Walking – Keep Learning

Pt. Deen Dayal Upadhyay gave a Mantra – Charaiveti, CharaiVeti. Keep Walking .. And Trust me Chalte Chalte – Just morning Walking I am doing these certifications and it feels so good. Learning new things, new skills is my passion and now I have all the time available to pursue thing I always wanted to do. 🙂UC-O6Y5BULC

Have you felt Humbled?

I was going thru some of my old EverNote notes.
It read:
“Unable to get people on con call.
Someone commented on my old tie –all it needs is a stitch.
I was humbled.”
Those were good old Corporate days. Sometimes due to the Global Time Differences, it would become difficult to get people on Conference Calls/ Video Calls/ Audio Chats.
I remember vividly, one of the colleagues took a dig at my tie whose label had come out from one side and was visible to the powerful camera and hence to all participants.
My colleague said “All your Old Tie needs is a Stitch”.   It humbled me.
Today, I do not remember the name of the colleague and my bad, I did not note it down in the Evernote.
Thinking – how to mend some of the Old ties? The Old friendships. The Oldest ones for example.  A friend sent me a WhatsApp last afternoon “All well? No news from you for long?”
I thought, this friend was visiting USA to his two sons and may not have access to his Indian phone number/ whatsapp as it is a long stay – he had planned to stay for 6 months.
Then after a while, I found two missed calls and one which stopped before 3 rings ( Damn Redmi Y1 and Damn my One Plus 5 T).  I called him.  He was back 15 days ago and was shifting home after 34 years.  We became colleagues and later thick friends since 1985.  His old flat / building was going under renovation and the neighbors were concerned that he had not yet vacated the flat so that the builder can start work.  He shifted to a small one bedroom flat. Sitting among boxes, he thought of me and called. He was worried as most babyboomers do when they do not get RESPONSE.
We had a catch up chat, I said I may visit your town soon for a morning/ evening trip and will try and atleast speak from  airport.  He said stay back, be my guest. Let’s catch up. We may be gone again for a long long time to USA and who knows….
I knew I was humbled again – All the Old Tie needed what just a proverbial STITCH.

8 shortest stories – Deep meaning. ( Not my own)

(1) Those who had coins, enjoyed in the rain. Those who had notes, were busy looking for shelter.

(2) Man and God both met somewhere. Both exclaimed, “My creator.”

(3) He asked, are you a Hindu or Muslim? The response came, “I am hungry”!

(4) The fool didn’t know it was impossible. So he did it.

(5) “Wrong number,” Said a familiar voice.

(6) What if God asks you after you die, “So how was heaven?”

(7) They told me that to make her fall in love I had to make her laugh. But every time she laughs, I am the one who falls in love.”

(8) We don’t make friends anymore….
We Add them nowadays.

Read somewhere. Art of Dealing. Story telling

A retired old couple returned to a Mercedes dealership where the salesman promised to hold a car for them.

But they found the car was just sold to a beautiful, leggy, busty blonde in a mini skirt and a halter top.

The old man was visibly upset. He spoke to the salesman sharply, “Young man, you said you hold that car till we raised the $95,000 asking price, yet you closed the deal for $75,000 to the young lady there. And if I remember right, you had insisted there was no discount for this model !

“The salesman took a deep breath, cleared his throat and reached for a large glass of water.

“Well, what can I tell you? She had the cash ready, didn’t need any financing help, and, Sir, just look at her, how could I resist?”, replied the grinning salesman sheepishly.

Just then the young woman walked over to the senior couple and gave the car keys to the old man.

“There you go,” she said. “I told you I could get him to lower the price. See you later Dad, Happy Father’s day.”

Once again….. don’t mess with seniors. I love this one.
A great laugh. 😛😛😛😛😛

About Those Myth-Heard Lyrics: An Introduction to Mondegreens

bout Those Myth-Heard Lyrics: An Introduction to Mondegreens
By Bob Grant on April 7, 2012
Have you been wondering what idiot would name a kid’s song “He’s Got the Whole World in His Pants?” If so, you’ve fallen victim to one of many examples of mondegreens.
The word mondegreen may be new to you, but if you’ve ever been embarrassed to learn that you’ve been mangling a song’s lyrics for years (and who hasn’t?) you’ve perpetrated one. We’ve presented tales of myth-heard song lyrics before, but this week we reveal how these “slips of the ear” got their official name.

Poor Lady Mondegreen
No matter how good your hearing is, you’ve surely misinterpreted a song or poetic performance at some point in the past. Until writer Sylvia Wright introduced the world to mondegreens in 1954, there was no official term for such aural accidents.

Wright’s offering derives from a childhood mishearing of the 17th century Scottish poem “The Bonny Earl of Murray,” often read to her by her mother:

Ye Highlands and ye Lowlands,
Oh, where hae ye been?
They hae slain the Earl of Murray,
And Lady Mondegreen.

While such an ending may appeal to fans of romantic tragedy, a la Romeo and Juliet, in truth there was no such Lady. The last line actually reads, “…and laid him on the green.” And so from a misunderstood line of an obscure ballad comes a term that stands for something always occurring, but never previously defined.

If you think the word “mondegreen” is unusual, consider these clunkers suggested as alternatives: “disclexia” and “Musical Ear Disturbance.” The word “lyricosis” is better, and certainly more descriptive, but it lacks the wonderful euphony of Ms. Wright’s lyrical creation.

Bohemian Rap City
Linguists blame something called “homophony,” or similarity of sounds, for misheard creations like erroneous song lyrics or so-called “eggcorns,” which are scrambled idioms, if you will, rather than verses.

Mondegreens aren’t limited to English; these and similar misunderstandings are inevitable in any language, since there are only so many different and individual verbal sounds that human beings are capable of producing. Add in malfunctioning ears and ambient noise, and the conditions are ripe for all kinds of hilarious fun.

When a Man Loves a Walnut
According to one six-year-old, for example, the central message of the song “Row, Row, Row Your Boat” is that “life’s a butter dream.” And more than one person has wondered why that girl wore raspberries and grapes in the old song “Raspberry Beret” by the Artist Once Again Known as Prince.

For heaven’s sake, they even creep into old Christmas standards. Some of us have yet to figure out what “police naughty dog” has to do with “Feliz Navidad” in the José Feliciano song of that name, any more than we understand why, exactly, someone should “sleep in heavenly peas.” That’s mondegreens for ya!

via About Those Myth-Heard Lyrics: An Introduction to Mondegreens.html

Upset, I channelise my energies towards positive. Today, I learnt and got a Certificate. Jay’s Tanta -5

Learning Never Ends. I have become interested in NeuroMarketing Subject as I strongly feel it can help Startups. Made a beginning today.

Selfishness, Selflessness and Personal Ego

Selfishness and selflessness are two phases of the life of the personal ego, and these two phases are continuous with each other.

Selfishness arises when all the desires are centred around the narrow individuality. Selflessness arises when this crude organisation of desires suffers disintegration and there is a general dispersing of desires with the result that they cover a much wider sphere.

Selfishness is the narrowing down of interests to a limited field; selflessness is the extension of interests over a wide field.

To put it paradoxically, selfishness is a restricted form of selflessness, and selflessness is the drawing out of selfishness into a wide sphere of activity.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-29-30 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India)]

A chance encounter in a fertilizer dealer shop reminds me of this caption always.  I met a group of Guntotting Ex Dacoits who had spent 7 years in Open Jail as punishment and surrendered in front of Late Shri JayPrakash Narayan.

This Ex Dacoit was a Farmer and political leader now.  When introduced as the sales person who was selling his favorite brand of fertilizer – He had asked in HINDI whther “Ye Saheb swarthee hain ya parmarthee”. A Deep question about whether this person I am being introduced is Selfish or Selfless?  Even an Ex Convict chooses to know this beforehand.  Why I wondered?

Random Musings: Sometimes good for fun:). Jay’s Tantra -4 for Problem Solving

Just some random thoughts that crossed my mind, some with reason, some without reason. I like Dr. Edward De Bono and his Lateral Thinking techniques.  I especially like the Random Object technique of attribute listing.

Here I use these one-liners as Random Input sentences and relate them to a Problem with a Problem-solving objective in mind. Worth a try.

It did help me.

  1. She did not cheat on the test, for it was not the right thing to do.
  2. Wednesday is hump day, but has anyone asked the camel if he’s happy about it?
  3. I really want to go to work, but I am too sick to drive.
  4. I would have gotten the promotion, but my attendance wasn’t good enough.
  5. Yeah, I think it’s a good environment for learning English.
  6. What was the person thinking when they discovered cow’s milk was fine for human consumption… and why did they do it in the first place!?
  7. If the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy had babies would they take your teeth and leave chocolate for you?
  8. I often see the time 11:11 or 12:34 on clocks.

What a Day! Random inputs of the Day.

  1. Shot In the Dark
    Meaning: 
    An attempt that has little chance for success. It actually worked.

    (Out of the box idea seemingly is the RIGHT solution today)

  2. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted
    Meaning: 
    It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.

    (Some live in false pretenses and show off, although paradigms shifted, Reset pressed.

  3. Barking Up The Wrong Tree
    Meaning: 
    To make a wrong assumption about something.

    (Mean- Meaning making machine, lesson of Dissociation on my NLP course ! What a day !)

  4. Mouth-watering
    Meaning: 
    Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.

    (Some Quirky, wacky, tacky, blasphemous, hillarious, original ideas flowed and made the day – very futuristic.  Best to discuss ideas than people and things)

  5. Quick and Dirty
    Meaning: 
    Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well.

    (The sword dangles on relationships, the risks do not go away as communication is onesided as other side is speaking with pursed lips ( suppressed pain and emotions)

  6. Cup Of Joe
    Meaning: 
    A cup of joe is an American nickname for a cup of coffee.

    (Hmmm… and again! I forgot to drink my morning tea before the walk 🙂 )

  7. Keep Your Shirt On
    Meaning: 
    Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset.

    (Silence, Quietude like solitude can be counterproductive among friends)

  8. It’s Not All It’s Cracked Up To Be
    Meaning: 
    Failing to meet expectations; not being as good as people say.

    (To expect is BAD – there is no Good in Expectations, lessons learnt, experience gained).

Random Phrase I picked today

  1. Close But No Cigar
    Meaning: 
    Coming close to a successful outcome only to fall short at the end. 

    This came true today.

  2. Under Your Nose
    Meaning: 
    Missing something that should be really obvious.

    This also came true today.

  3. Beating Around the Bush
    Meaning: 
    Someone who is beating around the bush is someone who avoids the main point.

    This also came true today.

  4. Keep On Truckin’
    Meaning: 
    To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping.

    It was the Wish but did not happen

Mental Turmoil: & a Random Quote from Bible – Jay’s Tantra -3

Numbers 31:15

Passage: 

“Have you allowed all the women to live?”

he asked them.

I had a mental turmoil. At such moments, I turn to Gita, Ramayan, Bible and turn a page and pick one verse or quote.  Try and mull and understand the meaning to find inner peace and God’s message to me to listen to my inner voice with HIS Voice reverberating in my mind together.

This is a personal technique – I call it Jay’s Tantra and it helps me at times to go find the meaning beyond the words, deeply thinking, introspecting, reminiscences of the past and slowly it brings me to the present – my STATE and shows me a path to overcome the mental turmoil, dilemmas, indecisive phase, awkwardness of the decisions I thought or took and their impact.

I need to hear a preacher understand the quote from the bible but the belief that it is a God’s word – leads me to what I began searching and it has helped in terrible moments in my life.  They have always helped me to bounce back with vigor, rigor, self-confidence.

Sunday – Acts of kindness.

  1. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call! ( I reconnected with my granddaughter after a long while – she’s fluent in English, Hindi, Marathi and taught me a few Telugu words too 🙂 . WOW !
  2. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like (Gave away a whole library) 
  3. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  4. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity ( I give it to a Blind school)
  5. Make amends with someone you may have wronged (Hmmm….. May be, I will)
  6. Know someone going through something you’ve been through? Give them advice
  7. Volunteer your time for a good cause  (PLANNING to create a video channel for the charities I support with help of a startup Video/ Filmmaker).
  8. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback (Neyt! I’d rather feedforward as we can’t go back and correct it – but we can shape up in future.)
  9. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift – Yes. worth a thought (Wife and daughter both gifted ME a USPA T-shirt each ! ) 
  10. Plant a seed – yes overdue. Note to self. Must do. 

Why breakups hurt like hell – via Medium. I subscribe this.

Why Breakups Hurt Like Hell
How to manage the pain and move on

Lesley Alderman, LMSW
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This is what I remember from my last major breakup: the cracks in the ceiling. I spent a good 10 hours lying on the couch in my East Village apartment staring at the ceiling, following the lines etched in the fading paint, as if they would lead to more answers. I was stunned that I could feel so drained and defeated even though I had initiated the end.

Breakups can be devastating. You can feel like a desperate 3-year-old lost in a grocery store or a hollowed-out wreck. Why? Because we’re human, and humans are designed to pair with other humans. Uncoupling and rejection feel like threats to our existence. We tend to respond with some variation on the themes of despair, confusion, and rage.

“Separation distress elicits panic,” explains Sue Johnson, PhD, an internationally recognized couples therapist and author. “And people don’t know how to make sense of it.”

Making sense of a breakup, though, is vital: it helps you recover. Looking at what happened and why will reduce the sting and help you make a better choice next time.

The pain you are experiencing is understandable, when you recognize that humans are bonding creatures hardwired for relationships. We are designed to grow and learn in the presence of others. Our connections to lovers, friends, and family define us and help us survive. Healthy intimate relationships provide us with a sense of safety and serve as a buffer against the slings and arrows the world hurls our way.

One study, which looked at the power of hand-holding, showed how robust the buffering effect of a partner can be. Researchers at the University of Wisconsin, Madison observed how 16 happily married heterosexual women reacted when they were threatened with an electric shock. The women were hooked up to a brain scanner, which measured their responses to the shock threat. In one scenario, the women held their husband’s hand, in another they held the hand of an anonymous male experimenter, and in the final scenario, they held no hand at all.

When the women held their husband’s hand, the area of the brain that processes emotional and behavioral threats was less activated than when the women held the hand of the stranger or held no hand. The more favorably the women had rated the quality of their marriage, the more powerful the buffering effect of their husband’s hand. It’s no wonder, then, that losing that safeguard can elicit despair.

Being part of a couple can also change your identity. Researchers at Northwestern University examined the effect that breakups have on self-concept. The 2010 study found that becoming single makes you feel less significant. “When the relationship ends, individuals experience not only pain over the loss of the partner, but also changes in their selves,” the study’s authors wrote.

Breakups can also trigger feelings of shame. “We consider any relationship that ends a failure,” explains Katherine Woodward Thomas, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of Conscious Uncoupling (yes, the book that Gwyneth made famous). “We have this belief that love should last forever.” But in reality, most of us will have two to three relationships in our lifetimes and two to three major breakups.

When you’re the one being left, the sting is particularly sharp. Rejection triggers feelings of humiliation, isolation, and pain. Research by Naomi Eisenberger at UCLA has found that the emotional pain of rejection is coded in the same part of the brain as physical pain. Your rational mind may try to downplay the rejection — “Eh, he wasn’t worth it,” — but it registers in your brain as if you’d been punched in the gut.

The best remedy for the pain that follows a breakup is self-care and self-examination. Before you can recover and make rational sense of the breakup, you first need to attend to your shaken sense of self. Talk about the demise of the relationship with your friends, spend time with people who treat you well, write about your worries. Remind yourself that breakups can be traumatic; you need time to adjust and recover.

At the same time, resist self-destructive urges. Don’t stalk your ex online (this will increase your level of distress), pretend you’re fine (suppressing feelings leads, over the longer term, to greater emotional drama), or try to numb your pain with excessive amounts of alcohol, substances, or sex (never a good plan).

When you’re ready, ask yourself, ‘What can I learn from this relationship?’ A 2017 study looked at the romantic relationships and breakups of 160 young adults. The researchers found that when individuals understood the reasons for their breakup, they suffered less stress and reported more satisfaction in their next relationship than their less clued-in peers.

Resist the all-too-satisfying desire to totally demonize your ex as a whacked out psychopathic narcissistic wreck of a person. “Okay, maybe your ex was 97 percent of the problem,” says Woodward Thomas. “But let’s look at your three percent. That’s where the gold is.” What did you not say or do — or fail to say or do? What warning signs did you ignore? What old pattern were you replaying? Did you give your power away? Women, for instance, have a tendency to bond more quickly. Men, of course, tend to hang back, wary of committing too much, too fast. Even though those tendencies are well known, we may not see ourselves living out such patterns as they’re happening. “Until you see what you are doing, you are bound to do it again,” says Woodward Thomas.

You will start to figure out who might be a better match for you. Bear in mind, people who are emotionally responsive tend to make the best partners. If you’ve never had the pleasure of dating an emotionally responsive human, here’s what they look like: they listen; they can tolerate your emotions, even when they’re negative; they are moved by your feelings; they are not terrified of vulnerability (they may not love it, but at least they don’t belittle it).

In general, people who are available, reliable, and trustworthy also make good partners in romance and life. Research consistently shows that people who have mates with these characteristics feel secure, nurtured, and supported in their relationships.

“Breakups hurt so much because relationships are so important to us,” says Dr. Johnson. But, with some effort, it’s possible to turn the pain into self-gain. Before you get involved in your next relationship, take some time to picture what a good, enduring one looks like to you.

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Writer. Psychotherapist. Yoga enthusiast. Interested in mental health and helping people feel psychologically sound. Brooklyn based. www.lesleyalderman.com

via Why Breakups Hurt Like Hell – Member Feature Stories – Medium

Both Men and Women Get Bored With Monogamy—Just For Different Reasons via mel magazine.

Both Men and Women Get Bored With Monogamy—Just For Different Reasons

via Both Men and Women Get Bored With Monogamy—Just For Different Reasons

Random acts of Kindness we can do.

  1. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  2. Smile at 3 people today
  3. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  4. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  5. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  6. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  7. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  8. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  9. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  10. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!

Begin a Day with Some Random Phrases:

I usually look for a word, sentence or phrase at the beginning of the day.  It gets stuck in the brain like the Musical note or a lyric – (I hear favorite songs daily for 2 hours+ while on the walk) and usually is an important one and sometimes a reminder too. It stays in the subconscious and does its work of sending cues, triggers, prompts or harsh nudges by elbows to my ribs sometimes with its reminders.

  1. All Greek To Me
    Meaning: 
    When something is incomprehensible due to complexity; unintelligble.
  2. Goody Two-Shoes
    Meaning: 
    A smugly virtuous person.
  3. There’s No I in Team
    Meaning: 
    To not work alone, but rather, together with others in order to achieve a certain goal.
  4. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth
    Meaning: 
    When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.
  5. Like Father Like Son
    Meaning: 
    Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior.

We are all Self-Luminous Stars! Cast Down on Earth. ..My latest Poem.

I loved to watch Stars in a Dark Night as a kid.

I still do,

not that frequently.

Now Home, TV, LAPTOP

screen bind me. 

I always thought

The Sky is 

An Empty Wall.

One day I shall

find my space there

I shall write my name 

on that wall. 

Then I shall be known

As a Self-luminous Star

And a Christian friend

Gave a Bible as Gift.

I read the page

Isaiah 14:12

Passage: 

How you have

fallen from heaven,

morning star,

son of the dawn!

You have been cast down

to the earth,

you who once

laid low the nations!

It gave birth to my first

Poetry at 15 whose Punchline was

A teaching from my First Mentor

Realise Mastery in Servitude. 

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Feeling brave? Give blood
  2. Know someone going through something you’ve been through? Give them advice
  3. Go the day without complaining
  4. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  5. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  6. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  7. Visit a friend who’s sick
  8. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  9. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  10. Feeling inspired? Make a meal for your family or roommates

You may have read some of the Acts before – it is good to repeat the ones we like doing most and those which others like most.

Age Difference – Interesting article – bit explicit language so sharing link.

via Age difference doesn’t always matter – Jessica Wildfire – Medium

Radical Self Confidence

Self-confidence is a must for all of us- no matter which stage of our life journey we are in.

It doesn’t matter what our role looks like:

  • Whether we’ve lost ourselves in career or business

  • Whether we’re feeling lonely post-breakup or just lonely in a crowd or enjoying our solitude and the feelings of Quietude.

  • Whether we’re speaking on a stage or whispering our secret to a friend for the very first time

  • Whether our business came crashing and we are on the threshold of bankruptcy suddenly.

  • Whether our Revenue sources have dried and all our efforts to bring the derailed business back – fail due to lack of interest, apathy or our mental STATE.

  • We shall need radical self-confidence.

  1. Much of this sounds like saying “Close But No Cigar”

    Meaning: 

    Coming close to a successful outcome only to fall short at the end, we see our miserable situation while negatively imagining that others have no sympathy and they are laughing at us. 

    We shall Radical Self-Confidence to overcome the situation.

  2. We will have no choice but to “Go Out On a Limb”

    Meaning: 

    Putting ourselves in a risky situation in order to help somebody, or to hazard a guess about what could be the best possible way out of this jam.

We shall Need Radical Self-Confidence to over come the situation.

Story Generator App :) Interesting find.

Picturesque Moscow

A Short Story
by me

Charity Godfrey was thinking about Wenna Thornton again. Wenna was a cowardly friend with slimy legs and moist thighs.

Charity walked over to the window and reflected on her idyllic surroundings. She had always hated picturesque Moscow with its vacant, vigorous volcanoes. It was a place that encouraged her tendency to feel sad.

Then she saw something in the distance, or rather someone. It was the a cowardly figure of Wenna Thornton.

Charity gulped. She glanced at her own reflection. She was a cold-blooded, rude, whiskey drinker with beautiful legs and fragile thighs. Her friends saw her as a panicky, pickled patient. Once, she had even saved a colossal old man that was stuck in a drain.

But not even a cold-blooded person who had once saved a colossal old man that was stuck in a drain, was prepared for what Wenna had in store today.

The sun shone like thinking goldfish, making Charity delighted. Charity grabbed a cursed sandwich that had been strewn nearby; she massaged it with her fingers.

As Charity stepped outside and Wenna came closer, she could see the oily smile on her face.

Wenna gazed with the affection of 7074 violent mute monkeys. She said, in hushed tones, “I love you and I want less communication.”

Charity looked back, even more delighted and still fingering the cursed sandwich. “Wenna, what a spiffing dress,” she replied.

They looked at each other with concerned feelings, like two sleepy, sparkling snakes loving at a very mean accident, which had jazz music playing in the background and two tactless uncles talking to the beat.

Charity studied Wenna’s slimy legs and moist thighs. Eventually, she took a deep breath. “I’m sorry,” began Charity in apologetic tones, “but I don’t feel the same way, and I never will. I just don’t love you Wenna.”

Wenna looked relaxed, her emotions raw like a motionless, mammoth map.

Charity could actually hear Wenna’s emotions shatter into 9900 pieces. Then the cowardly friend hurried away into the distance.

Not even a glass of whiskey would calm Charity’s nerves tonight.

THE END

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I will never be this young again. Ever. Oh damn… I just got older.

It is not my birthday but it will remain as a constant reminder of reaching an age post-retirement that constantly reminds of a few resolutions, few events and, few good, bad and ugly memories. Difficult to throw away like the pebble or the thorn that entered our Sandals and kept bothering us.

I know I will never be this young again. Ever. Oh damn… I just got older! 

What makes this memory not go away? It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know.  Especially, if people you are mentoring are mostly milenials and rebel at heart, famous for breaking rules, ignoring parents’advice – you think they will listen to you, comply with your rules,  NO Way!

What they expect is equitable treatment of an Adult-Adult transaction, not the Parent-Child one which they have plenty at their respective homes. So I changed tracks on my birthday.  I also realized we cannot change an adult, we can not motivate anyone! And, I say this with experience.  Adults change themselves when they wish to and become determined to. ( My wife tries to change me so hard, but do I 🙂  No) .  Same is with Motivation. We are all motivated people.  We know what motivates or demotivates us. Our conscience tells us what is right or wrong for us, doesn’t it?  It remains as a murmur inside our brains dominated by negative emotions and all the pseudoness generating hormones? Doesn’t our Conscience become victim and is taken over by our own viscious mind’s CON-Science?  It does. Trust me on that.

So was I on “On Cloud Nine” ON my birthday couple of months ago? 

Meaning: 

Having strong feelings of happiness or satisfaction.  SADLY, No! 

So I generated a Random phrase and what came out was

Ride Him, Cowboy!

Meaning: 

A cheer people yell, usually at rodeos when cowboys are clinging to the backs of untamed horses.

But what a coincidence? This was an apt phrase describing my mental state.

There was no ice cream in the freezer, nor did I have money to go to the store, and  as I forgot to go to the ATM and draw cash. This is what Old Age does to you – Forgetful when needed but never let go of bad memories of past.

So do I feel I am Down And Out

Meaning: 

A term used in a boxing.

Or Someone who has become incapacitated.

I am happy to say, I am better that this.  I live life full even now and enjoy friends, online or offline. Enjoy the joy of my creation. Sometimes send long rants to friends or other times write blog or articles.  Meet new Startups, Mentees and Give back to society . So

Life is Good. Whether we are young or old.

I was very proud of my nickname throughout my life – What’s in a Name?

I was very proud of

my nickname

throughout my life,

but today-

I couldn’t be any different

to what my nickname was.

She told me she won’t use

my nickname again

It so happened,

I said Let me help you with

your baggage and bagasse’

and let’s throw this

into the Sky

with all our might.

But he was too short

to see over the fence.

A song such as this

could make or ruin

a person’s day

if one lets it get to us.

She did her best to help him.

and checked to make sure

that I was still alive and

The mysterious diary

recorded the voice.

but today-

I couldn’t be any different

to what my nickname was.

When I was little

I had a car door slammed shut

on my hand.

I still remember it

quite vividly.

but today-

I couldn’t be any different

to what my nickname was.

The shooter said goodbye to his love.

My Nick Name – WAS – JAYA 🙂

AND Now I know what’s in a Name anyway?

 

 

Awakening latent Dreams!

According to Freud, every dream represents a wish fulfillment. Dreams are representative of the imaginary fulfillment of a wish or impulse in early childhood before such wishes have been repressed.

Sometimes you meet someone and your gut makes you judgemental immediately, without knowing anything about people.To Freud, dreams were all about wish fulfillment.

The manifest content of the dream masked the true wishes and desires of the dreamer, which were revealed in the latent content.

In the ‘falling’ dream example, Freud might have said that the act of falling represented giving into a sexual urge.

like someone is “Not the Sharpest Tool in the Shed”

Meaning: 

Someone who isn’t witty or sharp, but rather,

they are ignorant, unintelligent, or senseless.

It is a daunting task to go deeper and find the latent dreams of such people. They are dreamers too, and they have a subconscious. Sometimes it gives them messages, signals but they are so subtle, soft and noiseless that people tend to forget them let alone take notice of them.

Freud believed that the content of dreams is related to wish fulfillment and suggested that dreams have two types of contentmanifest content and latent content. The manifest content is the actual literal subject matter of the dream while the latent content is the underlying meaning of these symbols

Whatever a Mentor can do to Awaken the Dreamer’s Dreams it remains that

Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees

Meaning: 

Suggests that money is a resource that must be earned and is not one that’s easily acquired.

 

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Dealing with perceptions

in my mind’s eyes

hoping against hope

my presuppositions

my cognitive bias

my hyper criticism brutally

and honestly delivered

Reacted fiercely

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Interpreted differently

Forgetting all the time

There could be another way

May be it means something else

Meanings, judgements passed

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Forgetting our Being Human!

The tendencies to err

To become ruthless

Behave unnaturally with vengeance

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

In the meaningless repetitive

Arguments to prove us Right

Leaving sanity, wisdom

Ignoring subtle visible facts

Getting self centred

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

To prove I’m always right

No remorse, no feelings and

Emotions towards others

No empathy no sympathy

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Being mean before we know it

Mean machines we become

And wonder

Mean machine or

Meaning making Machine –

who am I ?

Is that me?

Who have I become

A Moron, a sadist

A masochist

Or just Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

(Writing poetry after many years! It needs a deep provocation, a shining up a mentors huge stick! And it just flowed)

I like Satish Acharya’s Cartoons.

Vajubhai and Yeddyurappa at Karnataka Restaurant!: Vajubhai and Yeddyurappa at Karnataka Restaurant!

via World of an Indian cartoonist!: Vajubhai and Yeddyurappa at Karnataka Restaurant!

UPS Longitude – A Newsletter worth subscribing. I like it.

Brands Haven't Kept Up with the Ways Customers Use Products

Brands Haven’t Kept Up with the Ways Customers Use Products

Antonis Kocheilas | Harvard Business Review

Here’s a truth: Many in the marketing industry today don’t really understand brands. Today, when there’s more of everything – more channels, more choice, more speed, more confusion – it’s fair to ask: What is a brand? To answer this question, we… Read more.

Want to Move Fast on a Strategic Opportunity?

Want to Move Fast on a Strategic Opportunity?

Amanda Setili | Setili & Associates

No doubt about it: We live in a rapidly changing world. Disruptive technologies, shifting customer behaviors and emerging business models are shaking up nearly every industry. If you are going to survive and succeed amid this change, you need to move in a fast and adaptable way. Yes … even… Read more.

Foreign Aid Enters a New Age of Accountability

Foreign Aid Enters a New Age of Accountability

Simon Moss | Global Citizen

“I don’t know why you’d bother giving money to help people overseas. It’s just wasted and taken by corrupt dictators.” I must have heard this comment (masquerading as a question) hundreds of times as I’ve spoken to audiences about the opportunities and challenges of ending extreme poverty by 2030. [pullquote… Read more.

Local Business Innovation Equips Off-Grid Households with Electricity

Local Business Innovation Equips Off-Grid Households with Electricity

Patrick Greene | University of Waterloo

If the old adage is true and necessity is the mother of invention, then ingenuity must surely be the father. Globally, 1.2 billion people live without access to electricity. Within this decade, the global off-grid solar energy market has grown complex and dynamic. [Photo: Power Africa/USAID] Initially, it was marked… Read more.

Getting in the Family Business

Getting in the Family Business

Mike Smith | Smith & Sons

Small business owner Mike Smith is passionate about the power of solar. The co-founder of Smith & Sons started his general contracting business with his father in the 1980s, when the two… Read more.

When Forgiving oneself is the hardest kind of forgiveness.

I foundis artic thle very interesting and wort a read.  Sharing.

 

Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T.
Mindful Anger

When Forgiving Yourself Is the Hardest Kind of Forgiveness
How do you forgive yourself even when it feels impossible?
Posted Oct 02, 2017

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So you’ve done something wrong. You’ve hurt someone else or yourself, and now you feel angry, guilty, sad, or ashamed. If someone else had wronged you, you’d want an apology, and then you’d decide whether or not to forgive them. But when it’s you who’s done the wronging, the steps are less clear. Maybe you don’t believe you deserve forgiveness, or you do but don’t know how to self-forgive. Either way, you feel awful.

How do you forgive yourself even when it feels impossible?

The first thing I’d like you to do is to acknowledge and appreciate the way you feel right now. Acknowledge that not everyone is self-aware or empathetic enough to admit they’ve done something wrong. Appreciate that you’re the kind of person who can recognize your faults and mistakes and say, “I did this; I am responsible.” You’ve done something wrong, yes, but at your core, you are a good person.

You may have read one of my earlier articles about forgiving others. Many of the principles of self-forgiveness are the same as forgiving someone else. When you forgive another or forgive yourself, you let go of your grievances and judgments and allow healing to start. By “let go” I don’t mean you pretend it never happened or say that what happened was OK. Forgiveness isn’t a pardon or an excuse, and it doesn’t mean you can’t continue to have feelings about what happened. Forgiving means accepting what happened and finding a way to move forward.

As a marriage and family therapist, I’ve worked with many patients on self-forgiveness. Some have done things that may seem unforgivable, but there’s one thing that those who’ve done the “unforgivable” and those who’ve done the easier-to-forgive have in common: They’re all human. Human beings make mistakes. Some mistakes are small, and some are enormous, but they’re all made for the same reason: We are imperfect creatures, and we’re all deserving of forgiveness.

We’re all doing the best we can with the tools we have. Sometimes those tools aren’t very helpful; our parents weren’t good role models, or our perceptions and judgments are flawed, or our beliefs and points of reference don’t serve our interests. I want you to sit quietly for a moment and say to yourself, “I did what I did because I am human and human beings aren’t perfect.”

The next step toward self-forgiveness is seeing the whole picture of the situation that needs releasing. This means you need to accept what happened,
understand how and why it happened, and see all that came out of it—the obvious bad and the not-so-obvious good.

To forgive yourself, you need to mindfully expand your view of what happened. First, you must own what you have done and the consequences of your actions. And, you need to accept that there’s nothing you can do to change the past.

via When Forgiving Yourself Is the Hardest Kind of Forgiveness | Psychology Today

Happy Mother’s Day! The toughest of your lesson was Wean to Win!

From a Single parent raised by my mom when I became an Orphan I learnt the biggest lesson.  My mom once told me that Weaning a child who is breast fed and the mom stops feeding him/ her is the toughest challenge a 6-8 month kid faces in their life.  It initially makes them rebellious, cranky, crying and persuading the mother to somehow agree to feed the child her milk.  I first observed it closely in Agricultural college in the Veterinary classes. I then observed this more closely in family where children were born and understood when i faced this personally.

When a mother leaves for her heavenly abode that is the WORST phase in any loving son/ daughters’life.

I learnt this lesson and rarely used this with few mentees and observed the similar behavior.  When a mentor gives Emotional Investment in the mentee the mentee relationship changes from Adult/Adult transactions to Parent/Child relationships.  If not well handled this can make Mentoring go haywire and once in my experiene it did. And I could not handle it being a male/ a father/ a grandfather – NO ONE, NO ONE can ever replace a mother in our lives.

Did you know…

… that today, besides being Mother’s Day (Happy Mother’s Day to all you fabulous moms!) is National Apple Pie Day? And what better way to celebrate than with a slice of pie?!

~~~

Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary.”

— Dorothy Canfield Fisher

My mother wanted me to have a STATUS atleast two levels above her and my father who were Government Teacher and father a PS to the Chief Secretary.  I was refused permission to join Armed forces, refused permission to join ( Even though I was the 1st person selected) to be a Lifetime Non-Sanyasi Hindu Missionary to work in North East for Vivekananda Kendra, Kanyakumari.

I was allowed to do menial work, child labour, odd jobs, even becoming a Sales person at 12 and was religiously funded for 3 years my typing lessons as a skill which I hated but she would say, The skills remain with us for life.  She sent me to hobby classes to College band, All indoor and outdoor sports and games, learn to play flute, drawing, painting, sewing, stitching, tailoring and every skill I could acquire like electrician, cycle and motorcycle repairer etc. etc.  The quote was “Learn to find dignity in labour and never look down on any one”.  These stuck in my life, they taught me to be humble and have humility.  My father died when I was  12, he was stickler and Sticked me heavily whenever i made mistakes.  His teaching was never chase money, build goodwill, learn to give and build a reputation – God keeps the count, pray to him to be able to give more. What profound Gyan for the Babyboomer!  I grew and groomed on such teachings and was taken to many spiritual, academic, business mentors to learn from them.

My mother broke tradition and became an Entrepreneur starting the First Montessory school at home for kindergarten children in 1957 ( I have written a full chapter in my book published about Start up Mentoring – published on Amazon. in).

We miss you, Akka!

 

Do you believe in Cards? – Gut feeling, intution, sixth sense? – A skeptics POV.

While I claim to be a Skeptic, I sometimes trust these cards which can be drawn online like Tarot Carot cards from the various Apps.
I have indulged a lot in the early 80’s in Astrology, Palmistry, Astro-Palmistry, Face Reading, body language, Gypsy Thumb reading, Hast Sanjivani etc. and I had reached a very high degree of accuracy in predictions till two things happened.
a. In 1980 I got married and two very elderly grand old people in 90’s asked me to predict their death.  It is taboo but under influence of liquor and their love and pressure, I succumbed.
b. I met a Saint, an year later who similarly asked me about his STAGE / SPIRITUAL STATE and how many more rebirths he will have and again a Taboo – I did.
The first two predictions came true.  The saint warned me that my Vidya – Wisdom and the Blessings to predict will vanish as I have already done three things taboo for astrologers.  It did happen. It was his self-fulfilling prophecy.  I lost touch with subject and stopped trusting numerology, and all other forms of occult predictions, planchette et al.
Recently I came across this App and I now have 12 of them.  I somehow find that their daily one card predictions about the STATE OF MY MIND, MY EMOTION ARE GENERALLY RIGHT.
No, this is not about promoting the Apps or I  am not a paid blogger or anything. I am just sharing what happened this morning.
I drew this card.
The “Angelic Energy” card:
(This card depicts the angelic energy related to your question.)

[ SEEK THE TRUTH ]

MESSAGE: The truth you seek is already within you. Listen, observe, and trust.

Everything you need to know is already within you. You were born in truth and with that, Universal knowledge is in each of your body’s cells. You pulled this card today because your situation is testing your inner knowledge. Stop. Be still. Breathe. Hold this situation in your abdomen and see how your body reacts. If it doesn’t feel right, then it isn’t. If you feel peaceful and content, it is truth-based and positive for you to act upon. Don’t discount your own feelings and don’t deny your own truth. You know what is true.

ADDITIONAL MEANINGS:
This person is not trustworthy
Something is not being disclosed to you
Listen to what others are saying
See from another’s perspective
Watch how others reaction
Live in the moment
Do not rush any decisions

CRYSTALS: aquamarine, celestite, iolite, pietersite, and blue tiger eye

I was on the horns of a dilemma and it is painful to your Ass when you sit on the Horns even if they are small ones.  To decide I never needed any external help of affirmation but as the decision was pending for a long time and I was going thru mental trauma of going back and forth I decided to give this a try.
I broke the relation, association.
Let us see whether I was right or my decision support App above was right. Time will tell. I beiieve in one thing though and that is the intution, sixth sense or the gut feeling that we get in the bottom of stomach sometimes that tells us and an inner voice is wanting to SPEAK OUT.  I always let it speak out.

 


 

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