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51% of younger Millennials stressed most about relationships | Ladders

What different generations worry about
Here is what each one is the most anxious about:

Younger Millennials: Relationships (51%)
Older Millennials: Relationships (49%)
Gen Xers: Relationships (42%)
Younger Baby Boomers: Money (39%)
Older Baby Boomers: Relationships (37%)
Silent Generation: Health (29%)

via 51% of younger Millennials stressed most about relationships | Ladders

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I liked this parable : Mathew 13

The Parable of the Sower (sometimes called the Parable of the Soils) is a parable of Jesusfound in the three Synoptic Gospels in Matthew 13:1-23, Mark 4:1-20, and Luke 8:4-15.

In the story, a sower sows seed and does so indiscriminately. Some seed falls on the path (wayside) with no soil, some on rocky ground with little soil, and some on soil which contained thorns. In these cases the seed is taken away or fails to produce a crop, but when it falls on good soil it grows, yielding thirty, sixty, or a hundredfold.

Jesus then (only in the presence of his disciples) explains that the seed represents the Gospel (the sower being anyone who proclaims it), and the various soils represent people’s responses to it (the first three representing rejection while the last represents acceptance.

I’m a gardener Mentor. I try and die the seeds to make Dreams grow into ambitions, translating into Vision, mission, goals, objectives, action plans, biz, marketing plans etal.

In my efforts, sometimes I come across very distressed mentees. I have to work on making the soil good as they have rocky soil of past bad experiences, thorny soil which does not allow seeds to germinate, or find soil. I spend 5, 13, 26, 52 weeks depending upon the STATE, and SITUATION.

I Sometimes come across Sand, silt or clay land or simply rocky land. Rarely I find delta land ( usualy in C Suite execs) which is fertile . Each gets a different mentor treatment.

It works. There are failures too. As the mentorees stop responding and throw seeds on footpath – it is eaten by birds and pigeons.

In one case, after sowing 150 revenue ideas and rigorously, tilling the land I found failure. I decided to move on. As the farmer/ mentoree just did not understand and allowed my gardening efforts fail.

Sad but true! It happens.

Gardener then moves on too…

Random phrases for today. So far the day is cool :)

  1. High And Dry Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover.  No. Not happening.
  2. Don’t Count Your Chickens Before They Hatch Meaning: Do not rely on something you are not sure of. I agree with this phrase wholeheartedly.
  3. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time.  Yes. My Risk Mitigation mindset.
  4. Read ‘Em and Weep Meaning: Often said by the winner in poker, as the others ‘weep’ over the loss.  Hmmmm…..  Who’s the winner?
  5. Cry Over Spilt Milk Meaning: It’s useless to worry about things that  already happened and cannot be changed.  No needle can sew the split milk.  Best to bury the past and move on.  Let Go is the best policy. 

Love and Happiness.

If you want to be certain about the object of love before giving your love, it is only a form of calculating selfishness.

Love in which there is no sense of restraint cannot be born of a conviction which is based upon things accessible to the mind

Love and happiness are the only important things in life, and they are both absent in the dry and factual knowledge which is accessible to the intellect.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Source- Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-136-137 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

What would you label a person

Who agrees, commits but rarely fulfills?
1. Has No integrity
2. Wanted to say NO BUT said yes!
3. Cheats him/herself
4. Is unable to prioritise and funnel/ filter doables and undoables?
5. Wants to fool others by agreements which are rarely fulfilled
6. Is a chest with self and will cheat others
7. Is exploitative of others
8. Has no sense of right or wrong

Perceptions are right or wrong, assumptions are partial judgements again right or wrong.
But if a person is wrong person?

Random phrases I generate every day

Hello BFFFs.

( Best friends, fans, followers and some Frenemies who also visit my blog 🙂 ) A great morning to all of you.

How do I begin my Blog writing daily and what do I post. 

I find generating random phrases every day as a good creative mind exercise.

I am a lateral thinker, I adapted Dr. Edward DeBono and his teachings early.

My Best Coach and Mentor I respect most is Dr. Marshall Goldsmith who taught me to be HUMAN FIRST.  Take final calls if the relationships are not working by forgiving each other.

The randomness of these phrases adds value and sometimes impacts my thoughts for the day.  I sometimes add few points on how the impact there was or should likely to be depending upon the time I post these on my Blog

Have a Great morning

  1. Jaws of Death

    Meaning: Being in a dangerous or very deadly situation.

    Hmmm… These days the fingers on the Keyboard do more damage than our tongues which are rarely used in the virtual era. 

  2. Down For The Count

    Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so.

    Well, at this moment I feel like the one defeated.  But there are some lights at the end of the tunnel, there are few sparks and things usually average out for me. 

  3. Right Out of the Gate

    Meaning: Right from the beginning; to do something from the start.

    Hmm… let me think about this. yesterday I shared a lesson about Mystery as the opening.

  4. On the Same Page

    Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others. This can always be a game changer in case of differences and disagreements. It works all the time.

  5. Swinging For the Fences

    Meaning: Giving something your all.

    Yes. I am giving it my all. Every effort I do for future today, I believe I am Swinging for the fences. 

Whenever I write Hmmm… EITHER I am undecided, or I am intuitive, Or I have already formed a judgement and still willing to give it a second thought, alternative options – “What else could it mean” chance.  In short, even in a fully stretched Elastic situation – this means I am still FLEXIBLE, I am Receptive to new idea, thought, solutions.

I also write another blog post picking up Random Sentences. 3 to 5 of them and look at them creatively to actually plan some of the days actions – not using the same words but twisting words, looking at their attributes and applying to problems I foresee in the day.

Sometimes, I am sitting on the horns of a dilemma. I turn to Gita and Bible and pick up a Shloka and a Verse to find solution to my problem.

As day advances, I share the best newsletter or quote I have seen on the day. I also then move on to writing a Poem, a Couplet, A haiku or some times all of them.  This is my blog posting.

Then I check the Blog page of every blogger who has liked my post or some of them who have not visited my blog or not given a like or comment on my posts and read their blogs and add like or comment.

That’s pretty much about my last 2 months’s blogging process.

Hope is not a Strategy, These Random Phrases do come true for me sometimes.

  1. Close But No Cigar
    Meaning: Coming close to a successful outcome only to fall short at the end. Will make sure, this does not happen today.
  2. No Ifs, Ands, or Buts
    Meaning: Finishing a task without making any excuses. Yess. FINISHIATIVE.
  3. Burst Your Bubble
    Meaning: To ruin someone’s happy moment. NO. Don’t want to do that. 
  4. Don’t Count Your Chickens Before They Hatch
    Meaning: Do not rely on something you are not sure of. Sane advice. So many plans put in motion, so many processes and work in progress that my elder cousin warned me not to take too much on my plate.  Sane advice. I am still far away from my 9 kilo weight reduction goal for this month.
  5. Cry Wolf
    Meaning: Someone that calls for help when it is not needed. Someone who is lying.  Yes. It happens again and again and again with me and I always fall prey. God give me a Midas touch – Nay! Give a truly healing touch I PRAY to you.
  6. Knuckle Down
    Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job. All the time. Never changed on this. Keep at it. That’s my philosophy and that’s what I preach and practice. 

What will the day be like – Random Phrases predict :)

I like to generate these random phrases and compare their attributions at the End of the day and usually they come correct.

Let’s see what’s in store for me today.

  1. Go For Broke
    Meaning: To risk it all, even if it means losing everything. To go all out.   If the message is about achieving 10000 likes in 58 days and thanking the BFFFs with deep sense of gratitude. I am all for it. 
  2. In a Pickle
    Meaning: Being in a difficult predicament; a mess; an undesirable situation.  Yes. it is true and getting out is messy. Staying in is messier.  Feels like a Camel whose owner wants to make him piss inside the tent but keep his Head out so that owner’s privacy is protected 🙂 
  3. Up In Arms
    Meaning: Angry; being roused to the point that you are ready to fight. Hmmm.. there is no fight left in me any more. I would rather honorably and peacefully walk aaway from UNCERTAINTY and SITUATIONS that bother me. 
  4. Put a Sock In It
    Meaning: Asking someone to be quiet or to shut up. No. That’s not Me. I would rather talk it over to a conclusion. 
  5. Give a Man a Fish
    Meaning: It’s better to teach a person how to do something than to do that something for them. Yes. fully agree. Handholding by the mentor can not become Mentor’s tasks – A mentor needs to find a way to Wean to Win so the Mentees WTW Win The World.  

Jay’s Tantra 7 – For a Bad, Bad, Sad, Sad Day and the day just shines Bright!

I use this small hack I call as Tantra whenever I have a Bad BAd or Sad SAD day.

Someone once gifted me a Bible, and I have a childhood ShrimadbhagwatGita.

I open a page to read a Verse or a Shloka.

Yesterday, was one such day.  I went to my daily morning walks and stopped for taking some change at the Tea Shop.  The devout guy was lighting Agarbatti/ Incense to Lord Ganpati, Goddess Saraswati and Goddess Lakshmi.  I said, Good Omen ( Yes, even a Skeptic on a bad bad sad sad day can become believer ! ).

I read the following

2 Kings 2:18Passage: When they returned to Elisha, who was staying in Jericho, he said to them, “Didn’t I tell you not to go?”

And from Gita came

dhyaayato vishayaanh pumsah sangasteshhupajaayate |
sangaath samjaayate kaamah kaamaath krodho abhijaayate ||

A Shloka – my father taught me at the Age 7.

When a person dwells longingly on sense objects, an inclination towards them is generated.
This inclination develops into desire and desire gives rise to anger.

I got my messages – Strong and Clear. By evening I had put them to use and had Peace of mind and a good night’s sleep. Everything became alright.

Wanna try – Please do. It works for me every time.

 

Random sentences – EOD (end of day) fun

I like these randomly generated sentences. See what I  fond today. They are great creativity exercise. Words in Bold are my thoughts. 🙂

  1. The shooter says goodbye to his love. 
    Well, Almost. The key word missing was trigger and I found the right trigger to do the Right things and took back my Good bye:) 
  2. She works two jobs to make ends meet; at least, that was her reason for not having time to join us.  

    The between the lines word reader, Mean Meaning Making mind of mine found something. Guess what?  Ignore, Neglect to Kill ! 🙂 Happened to you any time? Well, it does happen to me all the time . 🙂

  3. What was the person thinking when they discovered cow’s milk was fine for human consumption… and why did they do it in the first place!?

    I found this sentence very interesting.  Did you?  Provokes thoughts, No? I am called a Provocative Coach, who challenges coachees, mentees all the time with such and other questions 🙂 🙂

To end, I know many in India consider it a Bad Omen if a Cat – especially a black cat crosses the road.  This morning coming back from my walk, I noticed a Golden yellow colored cute cat, waiting to cross the road,  I stopped in my tracks, the Skeptic in me said,  “Move on, you are a skeptic, don’t have these thoughts, there is no such thing as BAD OMEN!  ”

AND,…. What happened was hilarious…..

…………………..

 

…………………… The Cute Golden Yellow color Cat

 

Simply nodded at me – as if saying – you cross first – I don’t believe in Bad Omens either 🙂

I crossed the road and saw the cat also coolly crossing the road. 🙂

Random Sentence/ Lateral thoughts

The three sentences I found at randome are: Will be interesting how they apply by the end of the day as possible solutions to the problems at hand.

I use Dr. Edward De Bono’s Random object attribution listing method of creative problem solving and the variant I use is Random sentences and Random phrases.  Both are path breakers in most instances that I have tried personally, for others or for businesses.  Try it out.

  1. Lets all be unique together until we realise we are all the same.
  2. Mary plays the piano.
  3. My Mum tries to be cool by saying that she likes all the same things that I do.

Random phrases make my day – Jack of all trades Master of none is at top today :)

Just wondering how well or badly the day pans out 🙂

  1. Jack of All Trades Master of None
    Meaning: Having suitable skill in multiple things, but not being an expert in any of them.
  2. Par For the Course
    Meaning: What you would expect to happen; something normal or common.
  3. Ring Any Bells?
    Meaning: Recalling a memory; causing a person to remember something or someone.
  4. Mouth-watering
    Meaning: Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.
  5. Swinging For the Fences
    Meaning: Giving something your all.
  6. Down For The Count
    Meaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so

The Teacher and the Woman Rhyming Couplet Ideas by jay

See the eating of the teacher,
I think he’s angry at the imaginary creature.

He finds it hard to see the tissue,
Overshadowed by the heavy gnu.

Who is that flying near the rat?
I think she’d like to eat the doormat.

She is but an intelligent woman,
Admired as she sits upon a noblewoman.

Her gentle car is just a turtle,
It needs no gas, it runs on pirtle.

She’s not alone she brings a sheep,
a pet pig, and lots of weep.

The pig likes to chase a monkey,
Especially one that’s in the flunky.

The teacher shudders at the fancy pig
He want to leave but she wants the rig.

Random Phrases of the day and how days pan out.

  1. You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Cover
    Meaning: Don’t judge someone or something only by the outward appearance. They can be fooling. How long we allow ourselves to be fooled is up to us REALLY  
  2. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted
    Meaning: 
    It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money. Hmmm…
  3. Mountain Out of a Molehill
    Meaning: One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems. Quite true. We meet complaining, whining people who avoid ownership, responsibility taking and attribute failures others rather than owning up mistakes. 
  4. Not the Sharpest Tool in the Shed
    Meaning: Someone who isn’t witty or sharp, but rather, they are ignorant, unintelligent, or senseless. Some people are so phony intellectuals who parrotise, write dictated mails by others, and when confronted just run away.

Random Acts of kindness

  1. Make a conscious effort to recycle
  2. Bake for your neighbour
  3. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  4. Someone wronged you? Forgive them
  5. Help a younger student with their work
  6. Plant a seed
  7. Surprise your parents with flowers
  8. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call!
  9. Surroundings looking messy? Tidy up the area around you
  10. Give up your seat on the tube/bus

The Bright And Funny Rock A Poem by Jay

Whose rock is that? I think I know.
Its owner is quite happy though.
Full of joy like a vivid rainbow,
I watch him laugh. I cry hello.

He gives his rock a shake,
And laughs until her belly aches.
The only other sound’s the break,
Of distant waves and birds awake.

The rock is bright, funny and deep,
But he has promises to keep,

After cake and lots of sleep.

Sweet dreams come to him cheap.

He rises from his gentle bed,
With thoughts of kittens in his head,
He eats his jam with lots of bread.
Ready for the day ahead.

With thanks to the poet, Robert Frost, for the underlying structure.

My Random phrases for the day – Action Plan? May be:)

  1. Back To the Drawing Board
    Meaning: Starting over again on a new design from a previously failed attempt. Starting over again, in a new city this time. Hope is not the Strategy. Doing is.
  2. Know the Ropes 
    Meaning: Having a familiarity or understanding of how something works. This sure is a help, An insider friend’s insights as I do not know the market, the customer yet. 
  3. Dropping Like Flies
    Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers. Hmmm… don’t know how this will work.
  4. Under Your Nose
    Meaning: Missing something that should be really obvious. I must be meticulous, scrupulous and a perfectionist this time around, taking care of all nitty gritty. 
  5. Quality Time
    Meaning: Spending time with another to strengthen the relationship. Yesss.! Meeting my 2 closest friends of 33 years after a long time is sure a motivation for the upcoming trip tomorrow.  

Sometimes, the random sentences are Soooo creative and Positive :)

  1. I love eating toasted cheese and tuna sandwiches.  And I am a vegetarian. 
  2. There were white out conditions in the town; subsequently, the roads were impassable.  Truly describing terrible Bangalore colonies roads.
  3. The book is in front of the table.  Yes but I haven’t even read the cover page. 
  4. Cats are good pets, for they are clean and are not noisy.  I like the FOLLOW ME Pugs though. Except I don’t like to take them on a Poop Walk.  My morning walks are clean 🙂

Random Phrases that guided today… Sad, mad, crazy morning

And during the hard negotiation, due to my straight talk my friend became afraid and thought I would burst like a cracker or a bomb now 🙂 🙂 That changed the morning mood somewhat.

  1. Off One’s Base
    Meaning: A person that is crazy or behaving in idiotic ways  And I could take it no more. 🙂
  2. Fight Fire With Fire
    Meaning: To retaliate with an attack that is similar to the attack used against you. This was the best course of action left:)
  3. High And Dry
    Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover. The feeling or the aftermath.
  4. Man of Few Words
    Meaning: A person who does not speak a great deal; someone who talks with as few words as possible.  I choose not to use all fingers for typing on a key board and purse my lips to achieve this. 🙂

Smart phrases – Revisited and Rephrased on a mad mad day…

It is fruitless to become lachrymose over precipitately departed lacteal fluids.

Don’t cry over spilled milk

The stylus is more potent than the dirk.

The pen is more powerful than the sword.

All articles that coruscate with resplendence are not truly auriferous.

Those who bask in reflected glory with no self illuminations masquerade as celebrities

All that glitters isn’t gold.

Male cadavers are incapable of yielding testimony.

Dead men don’t talk.

Individuals who make their abode in vitreous edifices would be advised to refrain from catapulting projectiles.  I like this the most 🙂

People who live in glasshouses shouldn’t throw stones.

Missiles of ligneous or petrous consistency have the potential of fracturing my osseous structure, but appellations will remain sempiternally innocuous.

Sticks and stones can break my bones, but names will never hurt me.

 

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These Idioms made me Mad after a Bad Bad morning today.

  1. Method to my madness
  2. An assertion that, despite one’s approach seeming random, there actually is structure to it.
  3. Beat around the bush
  4. Avoiding the main topic. Not speaking directly about the issue.
  5. Off one’s rocker
  6. Crazy, demented, out of one’s mind, in a confused or befuddled state of mind, senile.
  7. Add insult to injury
  8. To further a loss with mockery or indignity; to worsen an unfavorable situation.
  9. Be glad to see the back of
  10. Wouldn’t be caught dead
  11. Would never like to do something
  12. Your guess is as good as mine
  13. To have no idea, do not know the answer to a question
  14. Be happy when a person leaves.
  15. Caught between two stools
  16. When someone finds it difficult to choose between two alternatives.
  17. Drastic times call for drastic measures
  18. When you are extremely desperate you need to take drastic actions.
  19. Last straw
  20. The final problem in a series of problems.

And finally, to end the day, I turned to Mentor Lyrics.

MENTORS

Adultery Lyrics

I’m lookin’ for a chick that wears a ring
Cause one night stands are my thing
Your marriage means nothin’ to me
I’m totally into adultery

It’s our secret between just you and me
That we’re into committing adultery

She was feeling all alone
She called me up on the telephone
She said,Hey stud let’s go out for dinner
Cause she knows I’m one hell of a sinner

It’s our secret between just you and me
That we love to committ adultery
Adultery
That’s the life for you and me
Adultery
That’s the life for you and me

Now it’s time that we hit the sack
I’m gonna pull out and come on your back
I don’t want your old man knowin’ I was there
So he will still chow down in your pubic hair

It’s our secret between just you and me
That we love to committ adultery
Adultery,that’s the life for you and me yeah
Adultery,that’s the life for you and me slut

You and me naked together had fun
I hope you and your husband enjoy raisin’ my son
We were drunk and feelin’ fine
I just hope my son has a dick like mine

It’s our secret between just you and me
That we love to committ adultery
Adultery,that’s the life for you and me slut
Adultery,that’s the life for you and me yeah
Adultery,that’s the life for you and me
Adultery,that’s the life for you and me

 

 

12th Certification this month.WOW! I’m on a Roll !:)

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My Random sentences for the day

  1. The river stole the gods. Hmmm…. I think there is truth there. .. Will wait till day end.
  2. Don’t step on the broken glass. – True, especially when you have shown someone the mirror undiplomatically, unapologetically and unconventionally and it has been broken using your HEAD 🙂 

Random Inputs and My New Day begins

  1. Quick and Dirty Meaning: Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well.  No, it wasn’t dirty but it was a bad prank I played for a couple of days having failed last time, I think it has gone awry again and I may be on the brink of losing a good friend. That will be very sad. 
  2. No-Brainer Meaning: Anything that requires minimal brain activity to accomplish. I thought it displays my state of mind today with No brains 🙂 but fortunately it means something else.
  3. Know the Ropes Meaning: Having a familiarity or understanding of how something works. Yes. I have said sorry profusely. I am hoping it will work. 
  4. What Goes Up Must Come Down Meaning: Things that go up must eventually return to the earth due to gravity.  I am positive. 
  5. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth Meaning: When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful. Will have to wait and see how the day unfolds hereafter. 

Time to express GRATITUDE again!

Dear Friends and followers,

13th May to 27th June – 6 weeks, 45 days of regular posting on WordPress gave me GFFs:) Great friends and followers who have delighted me with 16000+ views 8000+ likes 6000 Visitors and 300+ comments.  What can I say – I can only express my humble GRATITUDE to you all for this.

Thank you !

Regards

Jay

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Taking public transport? Offer your seat to someone else
  2. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  3. Smile at 3 people today
  4. Buy more ethically sourced foods
  5. Pick up somebody else’ tab next time you go for a coffee
  6. Make amends with someone you may have wronged

Random phrases – that set the tone of my day sometimes….

  1. Up In ArmsMeaning: Angry; being roused to the point that you are ready to fight.
  2. Every Cloud Has a Silver LiningMeaning: To be optimistic, even in difficullt times.
  3. On the Same PageMeaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others.
  4. Drawing a BlankMeaning: Failing to recall a memory. Unable to remember something.
  5. Heads UpMeaning: Used as an advanced warning. To become keenly aware.
  6. Keep Your Shirt OnMeaning: Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset.
  7. Fit as a FiddleMeaning: Being fit as a fiddle means to be in perfect health.
  8. Talk the TalkMeaning: Supporting what you say, not just with words, but also through action or evidence.
  9. Down For The CountMeaning: Someone or something that looks to be defeated, or nearly so.
  10. Needle In a HaystackMeaning: To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping.

Mazes of our own making and self-created Entanglements

All life is an effort to attain freedom from self-created entanglement.

It is a desperate struggle to undo what has been done under ignorance, to throw away the accumulated burden of the past, to find rescue from the debris left by a series of temporary achievements and failures.

Life seeks to unwind the limiting sanskaras of the past and to obtain release from the mazes of its own making, so that its further creations may spring directly from the heart of eternity and bear the stamp of unhampered freedom and intrinsic richness of being which knows no limitation.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-113 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]

SABERA AWARDS in Nov 2018

My latest connection on Linkedin is  Simply Suparnaa

Dear Dhananjay,

Thank you!

Am reaching out to share that this November will see the launch of a platform acknowledging ‘Good’ through the SABERA (Social and Business Enterprise Responsible awards). http://simplysuparnaa.com/sabera/

I am further happy to share that in its maiden edition we already have a broadcast media partner that will showcase content to over 100million plus viewers beyond the the physical event.

I need your help specifically to share this with folks- both individuals and organisations you know of that are doing Good.

The entry fees is a nominal amount of Re1000+ GST for all who have a turnover under 5cr. Registration is open and is a must to the entry forms.

For enterprises there is a first of its kind category of ‘Responsible Business’ There will also be a summit before the awards, would be great to know your perspective on the content too.

Very grateful for your help in making this possible. Warm Regards, Suparnaa

simplysuparnaa.com

Sabera

 

What Random Acts of Kindness can I do today?

  1. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  2. Go green – don’t waste paper
  3. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  4. I rarely listen to others – ask someone about their day

I like this newsletter from Emotional Intelligence Institute

NGAGE Issue 134
Tuesday 19th June 2018.

by Rachel Green, Director, The Emotional Intelligence Institute
www.theEIinstitute.com
Welcome to this week’s Engage newsletter. I hope you are happy and well. This week, all our new subscribers are from Australia. It’s great to have you with us. It is finally winter in Western Australia and I am thrilled to see the drought end and the rain fall. I hope the weather is being kind to you wherever you are.

Stress shrinks your brain: How to stop it

We live in a society that is stressful. How can emotional intelligence help? Feeling stressed is an emotion. How we respond to it and how easily it is triggered in us are both signs of how emotionally intelligent we are.

There are emotionally intelligent ways to handle stress, and there are ways that are not emotionally intelligent.

What do you do to stop yourself feeling stressed, under pressure or overwhelmed? What do you do when these stressed feelings arise? How quickly can you turn them around?

Let’s look at how we can handle all our responsibilities, but still be relaxed and live an emotionally healthy life by applying emotionally intelligent ways to reduce or handle stress.

Handle Stress tip 1: Write down your priorities

Identify your priorities. Write them down. Put them somewhere where you can see them easily. And read them. And read them often. Keep reminding yourself of your priorities and attend to them first. And then, of course, the big one, do your priorities!

Handle stress tip 2: Learn to say no (politely)

In order to meet your priorities you need to be able to say “no” to other opportunities that come your way.

Do not simply agree to do activities or tasks, just because you’ve been asked. Do not simply watch an interesting TV program just because it’s on. Don’t say “yes” just because something is interesting or nice. You do not have the time to do everything that is nice. Learn to say “no, thank you” nicely and firmly; and to stick to it.

Handle stress tip 3: Look after your health

When stress and pressure increase most people stop doing what they need to do to stay healthy. This is the time you must do what you need to do to stay healthy.

  • Eat even healthier food.
  • Go to bed even earlier.
  • Exercise even more.

Look after yourself at times of stress and then you’ll cope much better with the pressure.

Handle stress tip 4: Increase your Vitamin B intake

A clinical trial conducted at Swinburne University of Technology, by Professor Con Stough and his team, showed that those who took Vitamin B supplements over a three month period had lower levels of stress at the end of the trial period than when they began the study. In comparison the group who were given a placebo had no significant difference.

Easy meditations to calm your mind.

Are you frantic? Do you feel stressed, anxious or exhausted? Having trouble sleeping? Let these MP3s guide you through four easy-to-do meditations so you feel relaxed and calm. Learn how to use meditation to manage your emotions each day. Be calm. Be at ease. Let stress fall away. Get the “Happy not hassled” MP3 recordings here: www.theeiinstitute.com/ei-institute-store/happy-not-hassled-easy-meditations-to-calm-your-emotions.html

Handle Stress tip 5: Clear out your head

During the day most of us pick up a lot of negativity and dirt in our heads. We hear anger outbursts, we generate our own frustrations, and people are negative in how they talk to us or e-mail us.

All this dirt can stick in our minds. Just as you wash your body each day, get into the habit of clearing away your mind dirt, of getting rid of any negativity, resentments or anxieties that you have picked up during the day.

How you do this, whether through meditation, prayer, yoga, tai chi, dance, tapping, painting, voice toning, singing or other cleansing energising activity, doesn’t matter. It does matter that you do it. Don’t be worn down by negative junk in your mind. It is all part of stress and you don’t need it.

Be Happy not hassled

Worried that you can’t get rid of the stress. Try meditating. I use it regularly and it helps to keep me calm. We have some very popular meditation audio-downloads that can guide you to peace on our “Happy not hassled” MP3s.

Joke Corner

Thanks to Angelee Deodhar, in India, for today’s joke.

Driving on the Freeway.

An old man was driving down the Freeway at 22 kilometres per hour. He never went above or below. An officer noticed and followed him a while and then pulled him over. Before the officer could even get to the window the man was saying “I was not speeding, the speed limit is 22 kph and that is exactly what I was doing, I was not speeding”.

The police officer said, “I didn’t pull you over for speeding, I pulled you over for going too slow”.

The man said “But the sign says 22”.

The officer told him that he was on state route 22. As the man shook his head, the officer noticed that there were three older ladies sitting inside the car. All of them were sitting with their mouths hanging open. Their faces were very white and their hair was completely messy.

The police officer leaned toward the man and said “What is wrong with them?”

The man said “Well, we just came off state route 134”.

Summary

May your stress diminish and may you be able to stay calm in the face of negativity – let it wash over you. Learn how to slow down on the freeway of life with the guided meditations on our “Happy not hassled” MP3 recordings. Your brain will thank you.

Talk next week,
Blessings
Rachel.

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Keep Walking – Keep Learning

Pt. Deen Dayal Upadhyay gave a Mantra – Charaiveti, CharaiVeti. Keep Walking .. And Trust me Chalte Chalte – Just morning Walking I am doing these certifications and it feels so good. Learning new things, new skills is my passion and now I have all the time available to pursue thing I always wanted to do. 🙂UC-O6Y5BULC

Have you felt Humbled?

I was going thru some of my old EverNote notes.
It read:
“Unable to get people on con call.
Someone commented on my old tie –all it needs is a stitch.
I was humbled.”
Those were good old Corporate days. Sometimes due to the Global Time Differences, it would become difficult to get people on Conference Calls/ Video Calls/ Audio Chats.
I remember vividly, one of the colleagues took a dig at my tie whose label had come out from one side and was visible to the powerful camera and hence to all participants.
My colleague said “All your Old Tie needs is a Stitch”.   It humbled me.
Today, I do not remember the name of the colleague and my bad, I did not note it down in the Evernote.
Thinking – how to mend some of the Old ties? The Old friendships. The Oldest ones for example.  A friend sent me a WhatsApp last afternoon “All well? No news from you for long?”
I thought, this friend was visiting USA to his two sons and may not have access to his Indian phone number/ whatsapp as it is a long stay – he had planned to stay for 6 months.
Then after a while, I found two missed calls and one which stopped before 3 rings ( Damn Redmi Y1 and Damn my One Plus 5 T).  I called him.  He was back 15 days ago and was shifting home after 34 years.  We became colleagues and later thick friends since 1985.  His old flat / building was going under renovation and the neighbors were concerned that he had not yet vacated the flat so that the builder can start work.  He shifted to a small one bedroom flat. Sitting among boxes, he thought of me and called. He was worried as most babyboomers do when they do not get RESPONSE.
We had a catch up chat, I said I may visit your town soon for a morning/ evening trip and will try and atleast speak from  airport.  He said stay back, be my guest. Let’s catch up. We may be gone again for a long long time to USA and who knows….
I knew I was humbled again – All the Old Tie needed what just a proverbial STITCH.

Did you know…

… that today, besides being Father’s Day (Happy Father’s Day!) is International Sing-Out Day? On the birthday of Barry Manilow, singer and songwriter, sing out a little song! Manilow was born on June 17, 1946, in Brooklyn, New York. Happy birthday, Barry!

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Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.”

— Plato

8 shortest stories – Deep meaning. ( Not my own)

(1) Those who had coins, enjoyed in the rain. Those who had notes, were busy looking for shelter.

(2) Man and God both met somewhere. Both exclaimed, “My creator.”

(3) He asked, are you a Hindu or Muslim? The response came, “I am hungry”!

(4) The fool didn’t know it was impossible. So he did it.

(5) “Wrong number,” Said a familiar voice.

(6) What if God asks you after you die, “So how was heaven?”

(7) They told me that to make her fall in love I had to make her laugh. But every time she laughs, I am the one who falls in love.”

(8) We don’t make friends anymore….
We Add them nowadays.

Airing it All Out – Hopes and Dreams for Our Future – Medium

Airing it All Out
And the Simplistic but Significant Value of Talking Honestly With a Friend

Photo Credit: www.guprogressive.com
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via Airing it All Out – Hopes and Dreams for Our Future – Medium

Friedrich Nietzsche On The Secret Ingredient For Happiness

The idea that happiness-maximization is the criterion one should use in deciding what to do and how to act has probably been the most popular ethical view throughout history.

In opposition, Nietzsche insists that happiness should not be your goal.

For example, in his magnum opus — Thus Spoke Zarathustra — his protagonist declares:

“Do I strive after happiness? [No,] I strive after my works!”
And in Twilight of the Idols, he explicitly states that:

“Man [should] not strive after happiness.”
At this point, any philosopher worth his salt asks: “But what exactly does Nietzsche mean when he says these things?”

via Friedrich Nietzsche On The Secret Ingredient For Happiness

The Happiness of The Motorcycle – Kris Gage – Medium

The Happiness of The Motorcycle
People think it’s about danger or speed — but it’s not

via The Happiness of The Motorcycle – Kris Gage – Medium

Selfishness, Selflessness and Personal Ego

Selfishness and selflessness are two phases of the life of the personal ego, and these two phases are continuous with each other.

Selfishness arises when all the desires are centred around the narrow individuality. Selflessness arises when this crude organisation of desires suffers disintegration and there is a general dispersing of desires with the result that they cover a much wider sphere.

Selfishness is the narrowing down of interests to a limited field; selflessness is the extension of interests over a wide field.

To put it paradoxically, selfishness is a restricted form of selflessness, and selflessness is the drawing out of selfishness into a wide sphere of activity.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA

[Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-29-30 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India)]

A chance encounter in a fertilizer dealer shop reminds me of this caption always.  I met a group of Guntotting Ex Dacoits who had spent 7 years in Open Jail as punishment and surrendered in front of Late Shri JayPrakash Narayan.

This Ex Dacoit was a Farmer and political leader now.  When introduced as the sales person who was selling his favorite brand of fertilizer – He had asked in HINDI whther “Ye Saheb swarthee hain ya parmarthee”. A Deep question about whether this person I am being introduced is Selfish or Selfless?  Even an Ex Convict chooses to know this beforehand.  Why I wondered?

What a Day! Random inputs of the Day.

  1. Shot In the Dark
    Meaning: 
    An attempt that has little chance for success. It actually worked.

    (Out of the box idea seemingly is the RIGHT solution today)

  2. A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted
    Meaning: 
    It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money.

    (Some live in false pretenses and show off, although paradigms shifted, Reset pressed.

  3. Barking Up The Wrong Tree
    Meaning: 
    To make a wrong assumption about something.

    (Mean- Meaning making machine, lesson of Dissociation on my NLP course ! What a day !)

  4. Mouth-watering
    Meaning: 
    Delicious; something that looks or tastes appetizing.

    (Some Quirky, wacky, tacky, blasphemous, hillarious, original ideas flowed and made the day – very futuristic.  Best to discuss ideas than people and things)

  5. Quick and Dirty
    Meaning: 
    Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well.

    (The sword dangles on relationships, the risks do not go away as communication is onesided as other side is speaking with pursed lips ( suppressed pain and emotions)

  6. Cup Of Joe
    Meaning: 
    A cup of joe is an American nickname for a cup of coffee.

    (Hmmm… and again! I forgot to drink my morning tea before the walk 🙂 )

  7. Keep Your Shirt On
    Meaning: 
    Keeping calm. Usually said by someone who is trying to avoid making others upset.

    (Silence, Quietude like solitude can be counterproductive among friends)

  8. It’s Not All It’s Cracked Up To Be
    Meaning: 
    Failing to meet expectations; not being as good as people say.

    (To expect is BAD – there is no Good in Expectations, lessons learnt, experience gained).

Random Phrase I picked today

  1. Close But No Cigar
    Meaning: 
    Coming close to a successful outcome only to fall short at the end. 

    This came true today.

  2. Under Your Nose
    Meaning: 
    Missing something that should be really obvious.

    This also came true today.

  3. Beating Around the Bush
    Meaning: 
    Someone who is beating around the bush is someone who avoids the main point.

    This also came true today.

  4. Keep On Truckin’
    Meaning: 
    To keep going, pressing forward; never stopping.

    It was the Wish but did not happen

Mental Turmoil: & a Random Quote from Bible – Jay’s Tantra -3

Numbers 31:15

Passage: 

“Have you allowed all the women to live?”

he asked them.

I had a mental turmoil. At such moments, I turn to Gita, Ramayan, Bible and turn a page and pick one verse or quote.  Try and mull and understand the meaning to find inner peace and God’s message to me to listen to my inner voice with HIS Voice reverberating in my mind together.

This is a personal technique – I call it Jay’s Tantra and it helps me at times to go find the meaning beyond the words, deeply thinking, introspecting, reminiscences of the past and slowly it brings me to the present – my STATE and shows me a path to overcome the mental turmoil, dilemmas, indecisive phase, awkwardness of the decisions I thought or took and their impact.

I need to hear a preacher understand the quote from the bible but the belief that it is a God’s word – leads me to what I began searching and it has helped in terrible moments in my life.  They have always helped me to bounce back with vigor, rigor, self-confidence.

Sunday – Acts of kindness.

  1. Reconnect with your grandparents or an elderly person you know – give them a call! ( I reconnected with my granddaughter after a long while – she’s fluent in English, Hindi, Marathi and taught me a few Telugu words too 🙂 . WOW !
  2. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like (Gave away a whole library) 
  3. Leave a kind message anywhere (in a library book, on a computer etc.)
  4. Wardrobe overflowing? Donate clothes to a charity ( I give it to a Blind school)
  5. Make amends with someone you may have wronged (Hmmm….. May be, I will)
  6. Know someone going through something you’ve been through? Give them advice
  7. Volunteer your time for a good cause  (PLANNING to create a video channel for the charities I support with help of a startup Video/ Filmmaker).
  8. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback (Neyt! I’d rather feedforward as we can’t go back and correct it – but we can shape up in future.)
  9. We all love surprises! Buy someone an unexpected gift – Yes. worth a thought (Wife and daughter both gifted ME a USPA T-shirt each ! ) 
  10. Plant a seed – yes overdue. Note to self. Must do. 

Why breakups hurt like hell – via Medium. I subscribe this.

Why Breakups Hurt Like Hell
How to manage the pain and move on

Lesley Alderman, LMSW
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This is what I remember from my last major breakup: the cracks in the ceiling. I spent a good 10 hours lying on the couch in my East Village apartment staring at the ceiling, following the lines etched in the fading paint, as if they would lead to more answers. I was stunned that I could feel so drained and defeated even though I had initiated the end.

Breakups can be devastating. You can feel like a desperate 3-year-old lost in a grocery store or a hollowed-out wreck. Why? Because we’re human, and humans are designed to pair with other humans. Uncoupling and rejection feel like threats to our existence. We tend to respond with some variation on the themes of despair, confusion, and rage.

“Separation distress elicits panic,” explains Sue Johnson, PhD, an internationally recognized couples therapist and author. “And people don’t know how to make sense of it.”

Making sense of a breakup, though, is vital: it helps you recover. Looking at what happened and why will reduce the sting and help you make a better choice next time.

The pain you are experiencing is understandable, when you recognize that humans are bonding creatures hardwired for relationships. We are designed to grow and learn in the presence of others. Our connections to lovers, friends, and family define us and help us survive. Healthy intimate relationships provide us with a sense of safety and serve as a buffer against the slings and arrows the world hurls our way.

One study, which looked at the power of hand-holding, showed how robust the buffering effect of a partner can be. Researchers at the University of Wisconsin, Madison observed how 16 happily married heterosexual women reacted when they were threatened with an electric shock. The women were hooked up to a brain scanner, which measured their responses to the shock threat. In one scenario, the women held their husband’s hand, in another they held the hand of an anonymous male experimenter, and in the final scenario, they held no hand at all.

When the women held their husband’s hand, the area of the brain that processes emotional and behavioral threats was less activated than when the women held the hand of the stranger or held no hand. The more favorably the women had rated the quality of their marriage, the more powerful the buffering effect of their husband’s hand. It’s no wonder, then, that losing that safeguard can elicit despair.

Being part of a couple can also change your identity. Researchers at Northwestern University examined the effect that breakups have on self-concept. The 2010 study found that becoming single makes you feel less significant. “When the relationship ends, individuals experience not only pain over the loss of the partner, but also changes in their selves,” the study’s authors wrote.

Breakups can also trigger feelings of shame. “We consider any relationship that ends a failure,” explains Katherine Woodward Thomas, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of Conscious Uncoupling (yes, the book that Gwyneth made famous). “We have this belief that love should last forever.” But in reality, most of us will have two to three relationships in our lifetimes and two to three major breakups.

When you’re the one being left, the sting is particularly sharp. Rejection triggers feelings of humiliation, isolation, and pain. Research by Naomi Eisenberger at UCLA has found that the emotional pain of rejection is coded in the same part of the brain as physical pain. Your rational mind may try to downplay the rejection — “Eh, he wasn’t worth it,” — but it registers in your brain as if you’d been punched in the gut.

The best remedy for the pain that follows a breakup is self-care and self-examination. Before you can recover and make rational sense of the breakup, you first need to attend to your shaken sense of self. Talk about the demise of the relationship with your friends, spend time with people who treat you well, write about your worries. Remind yourself that breakups can be traumatic; you need time to adjust and recover.

At the same time, resist self-destructive urges. Don’t stalk your ex online (this will increase your level of distress), pretend you’re fine (suppressing feelings leads, over the longer term, to greater emotional drama), or try to numb your pain with excessive amounts of alcohol, substances, or sex (never a good plan).

When you’re ready, ask yourself, ‘What can I learn from this relationship?’ A 2017 study looked at the romantic relationships and breakups of 160 young adults. The researchers found that when individuals understood the reasons for their breakup, they suffered less stress and reported more satisfaction in their next relationship than their less clued-in peers.

Resist the all-too-satisfying desire to totally demonize your ex as a whacked out psychopathic narcissistic wreck of a person. “Okay, maybe your ex was 97 percent of the problem,” says Woodward Thomas. “But let’s look at your three percent. That’s where the gold is.” What did you not say or do — or fail to say or do? What warning signs did you ignore? What old pattern were you replaying? Did you give your power away? Women, for instance, have a tendency to bond more quickly. Men, of course, tend to hang back, wary of committing too much, too fast. Even though those tendencies are well known, we may not see ourselves living out such patterns as they’re happening. “Until you see what you are doing, you are bound to do it again,” says Woodward Thomas.

You will start to figure out who might be a better match for you. Bear in mind, people who are emotionally responsive tend to make the best partners. If you’ve never had the pleasure of dating an emotionally responsive human, here’s what they look like: they listen; they can tolerate your emotions, even when they’re negative; they are moved by your feelings; they are not terrified of vulnerability (they may not love it, but at least they don’t belittle it).

In general, people who are available, reliable, and trustworthy also make good partners in romance and life. Research consistently shows that people who have mates with these characteristics feel secure, nurtured, and supported in their relationships.

“Breakups hurt so much because relationships are so important to us,” says Dr. Johnson. But, with some effort, it’s possible to turn the pain into self-gain. Before you get involved in your next relationship, take some time to picture what a good, enduring one looks like to you.

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via Why Breakups Hurt Like Hell – Member Feature Stories – Medium

Both Men and Women Get Bored With Monogamy—Just For Different Reasons via mel magazine.

Both Men and Women Get Bored With Monogamy—Just For Different Reasons

via Both Men and Women Get Bored With Monogamy—Just For Different Reasons

Thank you friends, you are kind.

I have blogged for 15 years. My other blog on blogger.com has 2,57,000 views todate.

This is my second year of blogging here and from 13th May, my new friends have encouraged me with their comments, likes, views which is astonishing, pleasing and a gratifying experience. Thank you all.

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I appreciate your encouragement and your feedforward always. Regards. Jay

Death will be optional – A WhatsApp forward going viral

Death will be Optional by 2045

https://www.thinkspain.com/news-spain/30425/death-will-be-optional-and-ageing-curable-by-2045-say-genetic-engineers
Death will be ‘optional’ and ageing ‘curable’ by 2045, say genetic engineers

Sat, Apr 21, 2018

news@thinkspain.com @thinkspain

DYING will be ‘optional’ within just 27 years and the ageing process will be ‘reversible’, according to two genetic engineers during the presentation of their new book in Barcelona.

José Luis Cordeiro, born in Venezuela to Spanish parents, and Cambridge (UK) mathematician David Wood, founders of the operating system ‘Symbian’, have just published The Death of Death and say immortality is a real and scientific possibility that could come much earlier than originally thought.

Humans will only die in accidents, never of natural causes or illness, by around the year 2045, say Cordeiro and Wood, who say it is ‘crucial’ that old age starts to be classified as an ‘illness’ so that publicly-funded research into its ‘cure’ can extend.

Nanotechnology is key, among other new genetic manipulation techniques, the engineers said during the presentation at Barcelona’s Equestrian Circle.

The process will involve turning ‘bad’ genes into healthy ones, eliminating dead cells from the body, repairing damaged cells, treatments with stem cells and ‘printing’ vital organs in 3D.

Cordeiro, who is based at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) in the USA, says he has ‘chosen not to die’ and that in 30 years’ time, he will be ‘younger than he is today’.

Ageing is the result of DNA ‘tails’, known as ‘telomeres’, in chromosomes – of which every cell except red blood and sex cells has 23 pairs – becoming shorter, and reversing ageing involves lengthening the telomeres.

Telomeres become damaged and shortened with the passage of time, a process that speeds up in the event of toxins entering the body – smoking, alcohol and air pollution are among elements that reduce the length of telomeres, thus accelerating ageing.

Cordeiro and Wood believe that within 10 years, illnesses such as cancer will be curable, and that major international corporations such as Google will be ‘entering the field of medicine’ because they are ‘beginning to realise that curing ageing is possible’.

Microsoft has reportedly already announced the setting up of a cryopreservation centre in which a scientist is researching the possibility of cancer being completely curable within a decade.

The engineers explain that, although ‘people generally do not know about it’, it was discovered in 1951 how cancer cells are immortal: when Henrietta Lacks died from cervical cancer, surgeons removed the tumour and kept it – and it is still ‘alive’ today.

Immortality will not necessarily mean the planet becomes overcrowded, the scientists say: there is still plenty of room for more people on Earth, and these days, people do not have anywhere near as many children as they did in past decades and centuries; plus, ‘it will be possible to live in space by then’.

“Japan and the Koreas, if they continue with their current trend of hardly having any children, will become extinct – within two centuries, there’ll be no Japanese or Korean people on the planet,” Cordeiro says.

“But thanks to these new techniques, there will indeed be Japanese and Korean people, because they’ll live forever and remain young.”

The cost of anti-ageing treatment was compared to that of the latest SmartPhones.

“At first, it’ll be expensive, but with a competitive market the price will gradually fall because it’ll be something that benefits everyone,” Cordeiro says.

“Technology, when it’s new, is poor and extremely expensive, but it eventually becomes democratic and mainstream and becomes cheaper.”

The engineers say they have already been employing their techniques for two years – illegally, but in Colombia where there are fewer regulations covering genetic manipulation.

Elisabeth Parrish, their first human patient, ‘started to see symptoms of ageing and asked what could be done to prevent it’.

Her treatment is ‘very risky and even illegal’, Wood explains, but at the moment is going well, has not had any adverse side-effects, and the level of telomeres in her blood is ’20 years younger than before’.

“I want Spain to have a place in the world of these technologies and show that we’re not mad, it’s just that people still don’t know about them,” Wood concluded.

The Death of Death will eventually be published in four languages at first – Spanish, English, Portuguese and Korean – and all proceeds from its sales will be ploughed back into the authors’ research.

Random Phrases for today.

Some of these random phrases tell us the course of actions or how the day will unfold.

Take today’s example

Dropping Like Flies

Meaning: 

To fall down ill or

to die in large numbers.

Fortunately, No one died, but because of the biorhythm changes, someone fell sick suddenly.  All well no.

Happy as a Clam

Meaning: 

The state of being happy;
feeling delighted.
My morning walk and stopovers for WhatsApp, Social media and WordPress posting are always good. It is the SMS and emails which make me morose. I believe firmly in Things Average out theory. ( Theory being one man’s opinion 🙂 ) Day is ending much better.  First someone close fell ill, then daughter feel and hurt knees  and day is yet to end and my final article publishing deadline is still looming but I am hopeful that things will average out and I shall be happy as a Clam. 

Drawing a Blank

Meaning: 

Failing to recall a memory.
Unable to remember something.
That’s rough, that’s something no one should have. It is like a brain fog in which we do not even try to find a light.  Like the Dementors in the Harry Potter novels.  It is BAD and I pray to Almighty to cure them fast. 

Talk the Talk

Meaning: 

Supporting what you say,

not just with words,

but also through action or evidence.

I am doing an online UDEMY course refresher on NLP by Kain Ramsay.  It came so cheap! Rs. 640 for nearly 120 videos and articles.  And the trainer Kain is so wonderful. He taught something today and I put it in practice. It was about how NLP practitioners abuse, misuse and manipulate sometimes.  I followed the herd and tried. It came true in actions and evidence.

Amazing Phrases – randomly chosen in the morning.

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Save water – turn the tap off when brushing your teeth!
  2. Smile at a stranger
  3. Answer the phone in a cheerful voice – even if it is a sales person
  4. Help someone carry their pushchair up/down the stairs
  5. House chores can be tiring – offer a helping hand
  6. Purchase ethical goods
  7. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  8. Bake something for your family/friends
  9. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  10. Leave someone flowers anonymously

Dilemmas – What do I do

We all are at crossroads in our life sometimes where there are two routes, options available to us and we have a dilemma to choose the right or left path and come to a decision.

I depend on Facts.  But decision making sometimes is under pressure.  Sometimes we have to make decision without full assessment/ availability of facts. Other times it becomes difficult as there is no time to Assess, Analyse, Deploy, Choose.  Sometimes the options may not be clear.

I look up to my holy books Ramayan, Geeta and at times to a gifted Bible for answers.  Close my eyes, pray to God and open a book and keep my finger randomly on a verse and read.

This morning I read

2 Samuel 7:19

Passage: 

And as if this were not enough in your sight,

Sovereign LORD,

you have also spoken about the future of the house of your servant –

and this decree,

Sovereign LORD,

is for a human being!

Then with my own word associations, perceptions, knowledge about the time, context of the verse I create a linkage – a forced association of words to my situation and find an answer. Usually, the dilemma vanishes.  The holy books become my temporary mentors and show me the path.

Random acts of Kindness we can do.

  1. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  2. Smile at 3 people today
  3. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  4. We walk past homeless people every day; can you spare them 5 minutes of your time?
  5. Send a thank you card to someone who has made a difference in your life (a friend, family member, teacher etc.)
  6. Share something interesting you’ve learnt today
  7. Feed a stray animal if you spot one
  8. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  9. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  10. Google ‘survey for charity’ and complete one. They receive money for every one you fill out!

Begin a Day with Some Random Phrases:

I usually look for a word, sentence or phrase at the beginning of the day.  It gets stuck in the brain like the Musical note or a lyric – (I hear favorite songs daily for 2 hours+ while on the walk) and usually is an important one and sometimes a reminder too. It stays in the subconscious and does its work of sending cues, triggers, prompts or harsh nudges by elbows to my ribs sometimes with its reminders.

  1. All Greek To Me
    Meaning: 
    When something is incomprehensible due to complexity; unintelligble.
  2. Goody Two-Shoes
    Meaning: 
    A smugly virtuous person.
  3. There’s No I in Team
    Meaning: 
    To not work alone, but rather, together with others in order to achieve a certain goal.
  4. Don’t Look a Gift Horse In The Mouth
    Meaning: 
    When you receive a gift from someone, do not be ungrateful.
  5. Like Father Like Son
    Meaning: 
    Resembling one’s parents in terms of appearance or behavior.

My Grateful Thank to all friends. Another milestone becomes possible

Frankly, in 15 years of blogging and in my third attempt at WordPress from last year I never watched the Views, Likes, Comments numbers.  Last month on 13th May something triggered and I began writing regularly.  What it is doing is astonishing to me and I owe my gratitude to the Viewers, my friendly commentators and Readers, Followers and those I am following for this.  Keeps me Inspired.

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Reached 10000 total views , 3014 likes and 208 comments. Incredible. My Grateful thanks. Thank you for keeping me motivated and inspired by what I read in your blogs and generate new ideas for mine.

Random Sentences, Musings, Thoughts, some Rant too:). Have a Great weekend

  1. Has it happened to you? Someone borrowed a rare book, an Autographed book in your prized possession which you loved reading several times when you had time and one day someone came and borrowed it – never to return. She borrowed the book from me few months ago which I bought on eBay and the seller had to find with deep search and told me that what I shall get is an outdated version, the pages are discolored and there will be a stamp of the authenticity that a library had discarded this book and it is out of print and there does not seem to be a possibility of it being reprinted.  I had loved this while doing my Management course and it was a great tool for me when I taught MBA students for 15 years. Then one day someone came over.  I felt she should read it. I said, please read and return and hasn’t yet returned it and the sad thing is I know she has not even read it once.  What feelings it generates in you?
  2. Last Friday in three week’s time I saw a spotted striped blue worm shake hands with a legless lizard. It has begun to rain in Bangalore and the impact of the Cyclone in Mangalore coastal area has made the climate cool.  Sometimes, on my long walks I sit in the public garden chair and get to see nature again. Now the sentence above when you read it brings up some emotions and then the rational mind thinks = Oh! but a lizard has only 2 legs and how can it possibly shake hands?  True. I made it up but isn’t it a thought to be mentally/ with your heart be able to shake that imaginary hand or see a blind person see you?  Does make me love nature, does bring out creativity and inspiration for humanity with the Right side of the brain which I call as my Heart – My true North Star.  How about you?
  3. My Mum tried to be cool by saying that she likes all the same things that I do. She was a teacher and in later life devoted herself to social work and took Deeksha in RamKrishna Mission to be a Monk. Worked till end of her life with tribal girls of North East who were sent to the school and hostel she was incharge of by parents who felt the girl child’s life in danger due to militancy.  It took me some time for me to understand the significance of her words.  She asked me to learn skills. She said skills never go away. I learned to type, playing a flute, drawing, painting, stitching, repairing, reading, writing, speaking as a Speaker, Teaching and realised the significance of her words – ALL THE SAME THINGS I DO.  The good skills I learn the Habits I form.  Profound. Makes me nostalgic. 

We are all Self-Luminous Stars! Cast Down on Earth. ..My latest Poem.

I loved to watch Stars in a Dark Night as a kid.

I still do,

not that frequently.

Now Home, TV, LAPTOP

screen bind me. 

I always thought

The Sky is 

An Empty Wall.

One day I shall

find my space there

I shall write my name 

on that wall. 

Then I shall be known

As a Self-luminous Star

And a Christian friend

Gave a Bible as Gift.

I read the page

Isaiah 14:12

Passage: 

How you have

fallen from heaven,

morning star,

son of the dawn!

You have been cast down

to the earth,

you who once

laid low the nations!

It gave birth to my first

Poetry at 15 whose Punchline was

A teaching from my First Mentor

Realise Mastery in Servitude. 

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Feeling brave? Give blood
  2. Know someone going through something you’ve been through? Give them advice
  3. Go the day without complaining
  4. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  5. Give up your seat on the tube/bus
  6. Lend a friend a book you think they’d like
  7. Visit a friend who’s sick
  8. Start the day right – make breakfast for everyone
  9. Help somebody with a chore they need done!
  10. Feeling inspired? Make a meal for your family or roommates

You may have read some of the Acts before – it is good to repeat the ones we like doing most and those which others like most.

Thank you ☺️ Pᶓȵfĩℓả 💕 for kind nomination.

I pay my gratitude to Nirant for nominating me for the Liebster Award. I appreciate the trust that you have on me. He is indeed a unique writer. Thanks a ton. Buddies, it is time you take a glance at his blogs. You will not get back unsatisfied! PS: I take on awards, not for […]

via Liebster Award | 3rd Nomination — Help Break The Silence

As I said to you

☺️ Pᶓȵfĩℓả 💕 I do not understand these awards and have never craved for them. After your reading your blog I have begun to understand.  My sincere gratitude for thinking of me to nominate.  Warm regards. jay

 

Random -Rambling -Rants :)

The Plot generator sent me a few sentences and it started getting thicker. Imagine writing something as mundane as the following statements in Bold...:)

  • She folded her handkerchief neatly.

    And I realized the semi-wet piece of white cloth which got moist just looking at the screen for nearly 100 minutes on a Video call. Eyes were most, but words coming clear and firm. The discussions were heated and the confrontation brought stunned silence. I had to change tracks and laugh out loud to lessen the impact. There was constant wiping of First the right eye and later the left eye and the pursed lips told the story of suppressed sadness and angry emotions.

  • Everyone was busy, so I went to the movie alone.

    The reason is, I tend to emote and shed a lot of tears whenever I see a very heart touching dialogue and superlative acting – and I like to be alone then.  I had struggled during my Film Censoring days when it was embarrassing and awkward and once a Lady Film Director saw me in this mode and smiles understandingly and when we passed her film – she said, “Jay, you made my day. My film and actors had to bring out this emotion and I was happy to see you shedding tears at the right scenes while maintaining your Objectivity as Censor ( and suggesting a few cuts as well 🙂 ) I am certain the audiences will like the film. It did. It was a Hit.

  • The lake is a long way from here.

    No I did not shed so many tears to fill the lake :).  These are our private moments, we shed tears at times very privately, without anyone knowing and we mask our emotions, sentiments.  Some fierce, firebrand people I have met have privately shared with me their quiet moments when they sobbed alone and shed tears profusely to calm their nerves.  IMHO,  it is good to let emotions flow sometimes rather than letting them stay suppressed with more pressure so that others do not know our inner softness. I won’t ever call it a weakness – I feel it is very natural. I tend to think it is Being Human.

  • What do you think?

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Buy someone a coffee
  2. Gift someone something they complimented you for
  3. Be proactive – sign a petition for a good cause
  4. It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know
  5. Go out of your way to thank someone today!
  6. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  7. Fight climate change – go vegetarian for today!
  8. We all need help sometimes; offer someone a helping hand
  9. Is that litter on the floor? Pick it up and bin it
  10. Make a hot beverage for a friend/family

Readers may find some of these repeated again from prior posts – but nothing wrong repeating something which we found good.

Spirit of Giving Self to others. QOTD

“The most satisfying thing in life is to have been able to give a large part of one’s self to others.”

via Today’s Quote https://ift.tt/2EUk2IL

No. I can not be your friend. I liked this article. Sharing.

Some loves last a lifetime, others as long as they were meant to.
I know that we could’ve been something incredible and perhaps the best thing to happen to either one of us. But we didn’t. Instead, a combination of life, physical distance, existential crisis, excuses, and hesitation crept in and pushed us just far enough apart for other things to come in. For other priorities. For other people.

It didn’t fall apart all in one day, but sometimes it feels like it did.

One moment, you were the only person who I could think about — the one who kept me up at night with your words and conversations, the one who took up so much space in me. The next, you were still all I could think about — but this time it was wondering if I should’ve tried harder to hold onto you. You were still keeping me up at night — all the words I never said haunting me and almost having me spill them all out to you far too late for them to matter anymore. You still took up all this space in me — and then left the gaping hole behind once we stopped talking to each other.

Life did go on, though. It has a funny way of doing that — choosing to keep moving forward even when part of your world feels like it stopped. So we both moved forward, too. I started a different path, and I honestly was happier with it than I expected.

“Sometimes when I look at you, I feel I’m gazing at a distant star.
It’s dazzling, but the light is from tens of thousands of years ago.
Maybe the star doesn’t even exist anymore. Yet sometimes that light seems more real to me than anything.”
When really good things happen, I still think to tell you. When certain things happen in my life that I know only you would really understand, it takes everything in me not to send you a message. I still wonder about your life and how things are going for you. I think about reaching out to you more times than I would admit, but I don’t.

Because for one reason or another, we didn’t fight to keep each other in our lives. We didn’t try to save whatever we had from the damage that inevitably appeared; we chose to let the ship sink. No one can point fingers and assign blame. These days, we live lives without each other, and perhaps it’s for the best. But we don’t need to see how the other is doing now that we know that we aren’t part of the picture.

For me, even after all this time, it would be too hard to hold on and try to keep you in the forefront of my life, although sometimes there is nothing I want more, and so I let go, because I am too scared of falling into pieces again. It would be still too hard to watch you move on with somebody else, even if she makes you happier than we would’ve been together. Slowly, I have developed this new instinct for avoiding the emotional rollercoaster you could start in my soul. So I control myself, I keep my feet on the ground and I eliminate any visual stimulus, no pictures, no social networks, no hidden digital stocking. This is what they call self-discipline. This is what I call self-protection.

I know that in the end, it doesn’t really matter why we lost the paradise that we once built so carefully together. All that matters is that I still want all the best things for you: to find someone who loves you better, to be successful in your passions, to live the live you always hoped you would, even if I do not want to be around to see it.

So believe me when I say that it is better for us not to be friends.

But it doesn’t make me miss you any less.

via No, we cannot be friends. – P.S. I Love You

Inadequacy. I read this and liked it instantly.

There is one quote that comes into my mind after reading this:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’

Actually, who are you not to be?

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

I don’t agree with this QOTD – Do you

So what if you are a Warren Buffet,  I have a mind of my own and I choose to differ with you, Sir.  If the following quote was true – there would be no fluctuations in the Stock prices you invest, your stock values would never come down.

Everything that we do by rote, by discipline, by habit surely does a few things. For e.g. My walks burn calories but as the walking distance reduces with my walking speed the calorie burn rate my not reduce as I walk for more time.  Consequently, the weight loss may not be the same.  I have 4 years of daily data on self which proves this point.

But then, who wants to take cudgels with the Richest and Respected man like Mr. Buffet who in his own right is a role model for me who never invests in stocks.  but sometimes, the quotes which are attributed to them and go viral on social media do not rightly capture, the moment when it was said, the context etc.

What do you think? It is difficult to change habits for us as adults and it is also difficult to continue doing every day, the same thing ain’t it?

Yo

u keep doing the same things and you get the same result over again.

—Warren Buffett

 

Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.”

— Deborah Day

Radical Self Confidence

Self-confidence is a must for all of us- no matter which stage of our life journey we are in.

It doesn’t matter what our role looks like:

  • Whether we’ve lost ourselves in career or business

  • Whether we’re feeling lonely post-breakup or just lonely in a crowd or enjoying our solitude and the feelings of Quietude.

  • Whether we’re speaking on a stage or whispering our secret to a friend for the very first time

  • Whether our business came crashing and we are on the threshold of bankruptcy suddenly.

  • Whether our Revenue sources have dried and all our efforts to bring the derailed business back – fail due to lack of interest, apathy or our mental STATE.

  • We shall need radical self-confidence.

  1. Much of this sounds like saying “Close But No Cigar”

    Meaning: 

    Coming close to a successful outcome only to fall short at the end, we see our miserable situation while negatively imagining that others have no sympathy and they are laughing at us. 

    We shall Radical Self-Confidence to overcome the situation.

  2. We will have no choice but to “Go Out On a Limb”

    Meaning: 

    Putting ourselves in a risky situation in order to help somebody, or to hazard a guess about what could be the best possible way out of this jam.

We shall Need Radical Self-Confidence to over come the situation.

Sometimes it is better to just walk away from things

and go back to them later when you’re in a better frame of mind

Sometimes it is better to just walk away from things and go back to them later when you’re in a better frame of mind.

Try some of these to find your peace back.

  1. Answer the phone in a cheerful voice – even if it is a salesperson
  2. Try being a person who Wouldn’t Harm a Fly
    Meaning: 
    Nonviolent;  someone who is mild or gentle.
  3. Try not to make a Mountain Out of a Molehill
    Meaning: 
    One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems.
  4. And be like The shooter who says goodbye to his love.

 

Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“A man’s got to have a code, a creed to live by, no matter his job.”

— John Wayne

 

I will never be this young again. Ever. Oh damn… I just got older.

It is not my birthday but it will remain as a constant reminder of reaching an age post-retirement that constantly reminds of a few resolutions, few events and, few good, bad and ugly memories. Difficult to throw away like the pebble or the thorn that entered our Sandals and kept bothering us.

I know I will never be this young again. Ever. Oh damn… I just got older! 

What makes this memory not go away? It’s hard to stay connected – reach out to an elderly person you know.  Especially, if people you are mentoring are mostly milenials and rebel at heart, famous for breaking rules, ignoring parents’advice – you think they will listen to you, comply with your rules,  NO Way!

What they expect is equitable treatment of an Adult-Adult transaction, not the Parent-Child one which they have plenty at their respective homes. So I changed tracks on my birthday.  I also realized we cannot change an adult, we can not motivate anyone! And, I say this with experience.  Adults change themselves when they wish to and become determined to. ( My wife tries to change me so hard, but do I 🙂  No) .  Same is with Motivation. We are all motivated people.  We know what motivates or demotivates us. Our conscience tells us what is right or wrong for us, doesn’t it?  It remains as a murmur inside our brains dominated by negative emotions and all the pseudoness generating hormones? Doesn’t our Conscience become victim and is taken over by our own viscious mind’s CON-Science?  It does. Trust me on that.

So was I on “On Cloud Nine” ON my birthday couple of months ago? 

Meaning: 

Having strong feelings of happiness or satisfaction.  SADLY, No! 

So I generated a Random phrase and what came out was

Ride Him, Cowboy!

Meaning: 

A cheer people yell, usually at rodeos when cowboys are clinging to the backs of untamed horses.

But what a coincidence? This was an apt phrase describing my mental state.

There was no ice cream in the freezer, nor did I have money to go to the store, and  as I forgot to go to the ATM and draw cash. This is what Old Age does to you – Forgetful when needed but never let go of bad memories of past.

So do I feel I am Down And Out

Meaning: 

A term used in a boxing.

Or Someone who has become incapacitated.

I am happy to say, I am better that this.  I live life full even now and enjoy friends, online or offline. Enjoy the joy of my creation. Sometimes send long rants to friends or other times write blog or articles.  Meet new Startups, Mentees and Give back to society . So

Life is Good. Whether we are young or old.

Random Acts of Kindness

  1. Bake something for your family/friends

  2. Help someone improve, give them constructive feedback

  3. Someone looking lost? Help them with directions

  4. Who will be making dinner for your family today? Tag, you’re it!

  5. Know someone who is not coping very well? Give them a call

 

Intolerance to difference – Good, bad, ugly?

I would not generalise, and would not attribute any of the three above. Tolerance in India has come to mean – Tolerating+Nonsense right politicians to some members of thof even the general public . So does that make the two negatives i.e. adding IN as a prefix – POSITIVE. No. I am afraid not.

But, I came across this great quote which I like as a Drawing and Painting Artist amateur and Art Critic.

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” -Vincent van Gogh

See if you can agree and appreciate the Great Artist.

My new affirmation, My new Paradigm

 New Affirmation

I am quite happy and grateful as
I understand how to identify and change my life paradigms
it gives me the power to be,

do and have
ANYTHING I truly want.

Mentoring Dreamers to Awaken their Dreams.

Give the spark that may get fanned and become High rise flames and Fire

Begin to light we must ignite the latent subconscious and fight for our Right.

I Wake up the dreamers and demand their need for rights
In the dead corner of their hippocampus lies a sleeping, latent WISH

In the dead of the night,

the mentor makes you set your sights  and

warns of the dangers of letting it remain dormant,

hibernating, not knowing, never knowing

What is inside your brain –

the latent  Potentials and Dreams
Mentor calls for your arms

to begin the Motion arising out of this E Motion.
There are goodbyes and there are no second glances
For in the middle,

We, we see the glimpse
Of the mass of wishes wanting to come alive and

take control of our FOCUS our FUTURE.
They CREATE our desire to  fight

the life’s battles ahead to make these dreams come true.

We’re living trees of our own anarchy
Mentees take hands
It’s our time to give this life its only chance
Not one step back
A Pure Heart will take a stand

Inner liberation thrills
Echoing through the hearts

the beginning of our new being

Take pride as this is the vision for us to live by or die, or die

We”re coming
Light the Spark we must ignite we fire to fight begin our night
We’re coming

 

Inspired by the Story by Chanakya.

चाणक्य नीति: जानिए किन लोगों की मदद न करें और रहें दूर
आचार्य चाणक्य ने अपनी एक नीति में 3 ऐसे लोगों के बारे में बताया है जिनकी मदद न करें और उनसे दूर रहें।

चाणक्य नीति में आचार्य कौटिल्य ने अपनी एक नीति में बताया है कि किन लोगों की मदद नहीं करनी चाहिए वरना आप खुद परेशानी में पड़ सकते हैं। आचार्य चाणक्य ने बताया कि कुछ लोग ऐसे होते हैं जिनकी मदद करने पर आप स्वयं मुश्किल में पड़ सकते हैं। समय, काल, परिस्थिति, धर्म और नीतियों को ध्यान में रखकर आचार्य चाणक्य ने कुछ लोगों को वर्ग विशेष में बांटा है। इसके अनुसार उन्होंने बुद्धि और चतुराई के उपयोग से कुछ ज्ञान की बाते बताई हैं। जानिए ये 3 लोग कौन हैं जिनकी मदद कभी नहीं करनी चाहिए

-चाणक्य ने अपने श्लोक में बताया है कि – मूर्खाशिष्योपदेशेन दुष्टास्त्रीभरणेन च।
दु:खिते सम्प्रयोगेण पंडितोऽप्यवसीदति।

1. मूर्ख व्यक्ति -आचार्य ने जिन लोगों से दूर रहने की बात कही है, उसमें पहला व्यक्ति है मूर्ख। यदि हम किसी मूर्ख व्यक्ति को जानते हैं तो उससे दूर ही रहना चाहिए। मूर्ख व्यक्ति को ज्ञान देने की कोशिश भी न करें। हम मूर्ख को ज्ञान देकर उसकी भलाई करने की सोचते हैं, लेकिन मूर्ख व्यक्ति इस बात को नहीं समझेगा। ये लोग फिजूल तर्क-वितर्क करते हैं, जिससे हमारे समय का नुकसान होगा। इसीलिए ऐसे लोगों से दूर ही रहना चाहिए।

2. बुरे चरित्र वाला व्यक्ति – यदि किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति को जानते हैं, जिसका चरित्र ठीक नहीं है तो उससे दूर रहने में ही समझदारी है। ऐसी लोगों की भलाई करने पर या इनकी मदद करने पर भी हमारा ही नुकसान होना है। ऐसे लोगों के संपर्क में रहने से समाज और घर-परिवार में श्रेष्ठ व्यक्ति को भी अपमानित होना पड़ता है। जो लोग धर्म से भटक जाते हैं, वे स्वयं तो पाप करते ही हैं और दूसरों को भी पाप के रास्ते पर ले जाते हैं। इसीलिए ऐसे लोगों से दूर ही रहना चाहिए।

3. हमेशा बिना वजह दुखी रहने वाला व्यक्ति – चाणक्य कहते हैं कि जो लोग अपने जीवन से संतुष्ट नहीं हैं और हमेशा ही दुखी रहते हैं, उनसे दूर रहना चाहिए। इन लोगों की भलाई करने पर भी हमें दुख ही मिलता है। ऐसे लोगों का जीवन चाहे कितना भी अच्छा क्यों न हो जाए ये हमेशा दुखी रहते हैं। ये लोग दूसरों के सुख से ईर्ष्या करते हैं और कोसते रहते हैं। इस प्रकार ईर्ष्या भाव रखने वाले और बिना वजह दुखी रहने वाले लोगों से भी दूर रहने में हमारी भलाई है।

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Dealing with perceptions

in my mind’s eyes

hoping against hope

my presuppositions

my cognitive bias

my hyper criticism brutally

and honestly delivered

Reacted fiercely

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Interpreted differently

Forgetting all the time

There could be another way

May be it means something else

Meanings, judgements passed

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Forgetting our Being Human!

The tendencies to err

To become ruthless

Behave unnaturally with vengeance

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

In the meaningless repetitive

Arguments to prove us Right

Leaving sanity, wisdom

Ignoring subtle visible facts

Getting self centred

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

To prove I’m always right

No remorse, no feelings and

Emotions towards others

No empathy no sympathy

Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

Being mean before we know it

Mean machines we become

And wonder

Mean machine or

Meaning making Machine –

who am I ?

Is that me?

Who have I become

A Moron, a sadist

A masochist

Or just Mean machine or Meaning making Machine – who am I ?

(Writing poetry after many years! It needs a deep provocation, a shining up a mentors huge stick! And it just flowed)

Awakening Truth in Mentees

Spiritual Mentorship: Awakening Truth in Others

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