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3-2-1: On copying best practices, being underestimated, and the difficulty of change
read onJAMESCLEAR.COM | FEBRUARY 11, 2021
Happy 3-2-1 Thursday,
Let’s get right to it. Here are 3 ideas, 2 quotes, and 1 question to consider this week.
3 Ideas From Me
“If you never copy best practices, you’ll have to repeat all the mistakes yourself.
If you only copy best practices, you’ll always be one step behind the leaders.”
“A brief guide to improvement:
1) Lots of research. Explore widely and see what is possible.
2) Lots of iterations. Focus on one thing, but do it in different ways. Refine your method.
3) Lots of repetitions. Stick with your method until it stops working.
Research. Iterate. Repeat.”
“Being underestimated is a gift. You don’t have to find motivation.”
2 Quotes From Others
Author Mary H.K. Choi on the importance of not waiting:
“It doesn’t get any less scary. All that happens is that you have less life left. It helps if you do your falling early, and it really helps if you do your reaching early.”
Source: ILY Magazine
James Baldwin on the difficulty of change:
“Nothing is more desirable than to be released from an affliction, but nothing is more frightening than to be divested of a crutch.”
Source: Nobody Knows My Name
1 Question For You
Does this activity fill me with energy or drain me of energy?
|“Things are beautiful if you love them.”|
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A terrible piece of advice
In fourth grade, I received one of the worst pieces of advice I’ve ever heard.
It’s recess and we’re playing soccer. I’m on defense, trying to clear the ball, and it’s just not working. Opposing players are running right past me. With each goal scored against my team, my budding dreams of becoming a star defender are quickly fizzling.
After the game ends in a crushing defeat, a teacher who was observing my plight walks up and delivers some well-intentioned advice:
Don’t ever give up.
This bumper sticker is everywhere. Society prizes grit and perseverance. We should keep chasing our dream and refuse to hang up our cleats—real or proverbial. Damn the torpedoes.
There’s a huge stigma attached to quitting. Quitting is undignified. Quitting means you failed. If you quit, you are a quitter. “Winners never quit, and quitters never win,” as the legendary football coach Vince Lombardi purportedly put it.
But reality—as is often the case with reality—is far more nuanced.
Yes, many people quit when they should persist. You shouldn’t give up on your goal simply because things got hard or because you fell down a few times.
Yet many people persist when they should quit. Grit shouldn’t mean repeatedly doing what’s not working or clinging onto something long after it’s outlived its purpose.
Repeated failure can mean you shouldn’t do what you’re doing. Repeated resistance and procrastination can mean what you’re doing isn’t the right fit for you.
I’m a professional quitter. After serving on the Mars Exploration Rovers mission, I quit rocket science and went to law school. After practicing law for a few years, I left to join academia. Most recently, I decided to quit that as well and give up the security of tenure to double down on popular writing and speaking.
I quit things I don’t enjoy. I give up on ideas that fail to live up to expectations. I jettison projects that no longer serve me or my mission in the world.
Yet even after all this quitting I’ve done in my life, I still find it hard to give up. Sometimes, my ego gets in the way (If I stopped doing this thing that I’ve been doing for years, if I abandon the title of professor, who would I be?). Other times, I give too much weight to the time, effort, or money I invested into doing something, so it becomes harder to let go—also known as the sunk-cost fallacy (I’ve spent two years on this project, so I can’t quit now!).
But by clinging to one thing, you’re passing up the opportunity for something else. If you keep that dead-end job that sucks your soul, you won’t find the career that gives you joy and meaning. If you keep reading a terrible book because you already read the first few chapters, you won’t find that quake book that shakes you to the core. If you keep pursuing a dysfunctional relationship because, despite all the failures, you’re still convinced you can “fix” the other person, you won’t find a relationship that feeds your soul.
We stay the course in part because we narrowly focus on the short-term loss. We ask ourselves, What will I miss if I quit?
But there’s another question we should be asking: What will I gain if I let this go?
If you want to soar, you must cut loose what weighs you down.
So let’s stop regurgitating the “Don’t ever give up” mantra.
Sometimes—just sometimes—quitting might be the best thing you can do.
|WORD OF THE DAY|
|1Giving an impression of vague unworldliness.||2Having supernatural powers of clairvoyance.|
|Examples of Fey in a sentence “The meadow looked almost fey in the moonlight.” “Yul’s fey abilities allowed him to see flashes of the future.”|
Did you know…
… that today is Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk Day? Everyone spills a little milk now and then, but today, be optimistic, think positive, look on the bright side, and find something good in everything that happens.
Today’s Inspirational Quote:
“Instead of a sign that says: ‘Do not disturb’ I need one that says: ‘Already disturbed, proceed with caution.'”
— Author Unknown