Did you know…
… that today is Dress Up Your Pet Day? This day is an opportunity to wow the neighbors and to unleash the inner diva of your favorite pooch or kitty… Why not go the extra mile and get the little guy or gal something to match your own outfit – that way you can both dress to impress and really set some trends! Sorry, we don’t have any ideas on how to dress up goldfish. 😉
Today’s Inspirational Quote:
“Pets are humanizing. They remind us we have an obligation and responsibility to preserve and nurture and care for all life.”
— James Cromwell
Did you know…
… that today is Wikipedia’s Birthday? In 2001, Wikipedia, a free-access, free-content Internet encyclopedia, was launched by Jimmy Wales and Larry Sanger. The English language Wikipedia is now one of 313 Wikipedia editions and is the largest with 6,223,266 articles. There is a grand total of over 55 million articles in over 309 different languages! Happy birthday, Wikipedia!
Today’s Inspirational Quote:
“To know that we know what we know, and to know that we do not know what we do not know, that is true knowledge.”
— Nicolaus Copernicus
3-2-1 ThursdayNote: You are receiving this email because you subscribed to my weekly 3-2-1 newsletter. Every Thursday, I share 3 ideas from me, 2 quotes from others, and 1 question for you to ponder. Occasionally, I also send out long-form articles on habits and self-improvement.
3 ideas, 2 quotes, 1 question (January 14, 2021)
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Happy 3-2-1 Thursday,
Here are 3 ideas from me, 2 quotes from others, and 1 question for you to ponder this week.
3 IDEAS FROM ME
“In the long run, the way you treat your time is the way others treat it too.”
“A brief guide to leadership:
- Always know the answer to, “What are we optimizing for?”
- Recruit. Recruit. Recruit.
- Never ask someone to do something you aren’t willing to do yourself.
- Give away the credit. Take the blame.”
“The trajectory of your life bends in the direction of your habits.”
2 QUOTES FROM OTHERS
Brene Brown on when to value feedback:
“If you’re not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback. If you have constructive feedback you want to give me, I want it… But if you’re in the cheap seats, not putting yourself on the line, and just talking about how I can do it better, I’m in no way interested in your feedback.”
Ed Catmull, cofounder of Pixar, on how they make great movies:
“Initially, the films we put together, they’re a mess. It’s like everything else in life—the first time you do it, it’s a mess. Sometimes it’s labeled … “a failure” … but that’s not even the right word to use. It’s just like, you get the first one out, you learn from it, and the only failure is if you don’t learn from it, if you don’t progress.”
Source: Keep Your Crises Small
1 QUESTION FOR YOU
A simple question that can deliver powerful results if taken seriously:
What is the highest leverage action I can execute on right now?
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THE DIVINE HERITAGE OF MAN
“In all climes and in all places, man is constantly striving for happiness; but there are very few who have it, because there are very few who truly know the secret of happiness. Man is constantly feeling thwarted and limited, and he is ever in the clutches of unrelieved agony of suffering, because, not knowing his own true nature, he identifies himself with the body or the desires or the limited individual mind, and thereby becomes a victim to their respective limitations and sufferings.It is only by knowing himself to be different from and beyond all these that he can fully enter into the Divine Heritage of the Abiding Happiness, which is inalienable from his true being as God.The man, who through sanskaric attachments identifies himself with his body or desires or the individual mind, is caught up within the prison of his ignorance. All his efforts to break through his shackles only lead to his being in their firmer grip, just in the same way as the parrot which desperately beats his wings against the bars of its cage succeeds only in injuring its own wings, without being able to make any headway towards its freedom. It is like a person, who is stuck up in deep mud, and who, because of his very efforts to extricate himself, finds that he is more deeply stuck up in it.The individual and the unaided efforts of the aspirant are so often unsuccessful, because the very source of such efforts which is the ego, is rooted in ignorance…. This does not mean that the aspirant should not try for spiritual freedom and fulfillment. He must try his best for their realization; but he must at the same time open himself out to the abundant and indispensable help that comes to him from the Master.The Master does not give to the aspirant something which is not already within the aspirant in a latent form; he only unveils the real Self of the aspirant himself and enables him to come into his own Divine Heritage which is rightfully his.
“GLIMPSES OF THE GOD-MAN, Vol. 3, pp. 252-253, Bal Natu1982 © Avatar Meher Baba Perpetual Public Charitable Trustphoto: © Meher Nazar Publications or MSI Collection
All forward motion disappoints someone.
If you serve one audience, you’ve let another down. One focus means that something else got ignored. If you create something scarce, someone won’t get their hands on it.
The very act of creation means that it won’t be the ideal solution for everyone.
On the other hand, with certainty, we know that doing nothing disappoints an even larger group of people.
The opportunity is to find someone to delight and to embrace the fact that someone is not everyone.
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1-Sentence-Summary: Come As You Are is sex educator Dr. Emily Nagoski’s explanation of the truth about female sexuality, including the hidden science of what turns women on, why it works, how to utilize this knowledge to improve your sex life, and why sexual myths make you feel inadequate in bed.
Read in: 4 minutes
Favorite quote from the author:
Picture yourself walking through a desert, when all of a sudden, your foot bumps into something hard in the sand. You look down to discover a lamp and, although skeptical, you rub it. A genie comes out and offers, not three wishes, but a proposition.
You can have infinite money but doing so would mean your sex life would never improve beyond where its at right now.
Would you take the genie up on the offer right away? No? What’s wrong, don’t you like your sex life?!
The truth is, deep down, you know that your experience in the bedroom could be much better. But what does it take? You have a hard time talking about these things, let alone even thinking about them!
There’s no need to despair though because your sex life might not be at its best yet, but you can get there. You can discover what it takes to give and receive immense pleasure between the sheets. All it takes is an understanding of sexuality and the myths that make your sex life more difficult.
These ideas and more are just what you’ll discover in Emily Nagoski’s Come as You Are (The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life).
Here are just 3 of the many helpful lessons in the book:
- Your sexual personality is as unique as you are, and there’s nothing wrong with that or the needs it means you have.
- Stress kills sexual desire.
- If you aren’t careful about the media you consume, it could make your sex life awful.
Let’s get right into these lessons!If you want to save this summary for later, download the free PDF and read it whenever you want.
Lesson 1: You have needs as unique as your sexual personality, and that’s okay.
The author had a patient named Laurie who, after having a baby, lost all desire for sex with her husband. She did, however, enjoy pleasuring herself. The problem was that she began to feel bad for not wanting penetrative sex.
But Laurie wasn’t in the wrong for this, she just needed to understand that she, like you, has a sexual gas pedal and brakes. Whenever you get stimulation, it pushes the gas pedal, and there are many things that can push your brakes.
Even something as simple as a sound or smell can make your brain shut down your sexual desire.
Most people that struggle with sex just have overactive sexual brakes. Research back in 2008 found that women that feel anxious about how long it takes them to become aroused or who only get the urge for sex in perfect circumstances have a harder time with sex.
But everybody is unique with varying levels of brake and gas pedal sensitivities and what makes each of these go. Pay careful attention to yours and your partners if you want to improve your sex life.
One of the author’s clients, Camilla, for instance, didn’t feel any arousal when looking at her partner or when having sexual fantasies. The problem was that she simply had a weak gas pedal and needed more time and attention to get going.
Lesson 2: Stress smothers your desire for sex.
Say your partner comes to visit you while you’re at work. You’re both turned on and can’t wait to get to a private place together. But as you’re rushing for that closet you know is always empty, you turn the corner and find your boss staring you down.
Not so turned on anymore, are you?
That’s because stress makes sex unattractive. And the bad news is, you can’t just wish your stress response away. Animals, for instance, when they play dead while being hunted, will have spasms even after the predator is gone.
And humans are the same way, but with the stresses of family or work. We have what’s known as a stress response cycle, and we can’t just turn it off at will. This is why it’s a bad idea to try to push through and still have sex when you’re stressed.
Instead, calm down first through exercise, sleep, sharing affection, crying, or relaxing.
Unfortunately, those who’ve been through sexual trauma have it a little more difficult. Their past experiences make them perceive any sexual experience as a threat. This can make the path to healing take longer, but mindfulness and therapy will help.
Lesson 3: Your sex life will be worse if you don’t pay careful attention to what media you consume.
It’s hard not to peek at the smutty fashion magazines as you’re in the checkout line at the grocery store, right? And even if you’re a millennial like me who rarely goes to the store because of delivery services, you still get exposure to the dangerous world of pop culture messages that harm your sex life.
At its core, the only thing that these media companies communicate to average people is that they’re incompetent in the bedroom. Take women’s bodies, for example. It’s easy to see how unrealistic and lying portrayals of women make them feel self-conscious and inadequate.
Looks aside, the media also is toxic to women for making them feel like they have to agree and go along with all kinds of sexual activities. From games to positions and more, every side of sexuality gets misconstrued in the media.
And what’s worse is that women are prudes if they don’t do these things and sluts if they do. There’s no winning, and it’s horrific!
But you can beat this, and it starts with carefully selecting the media you consume. Ditch those awful magazines and focus on your own beauty.
Scientists have studied how the appreciation of your own body affects your sex life. The results showed that improved self-image enhances all aspects of sex, from arousal to orgasm and more. It even can reduce pain during intercourse!
So be gentle with yourself, love your body, and courageously conquer any feelings of low self-esteem.
Come As You Are Review
The thing I hate about sex is that nobody ever talks about it, which means that most people have really terrible sex lives. But what’s nice is that Come As You Are will help you fix that, as long as you can get past the social stigma enough to buy a copy and read it yourself! If you want to improve your relationships and learn to love yourself better, whether you’re a woman or a man, this book is for you!
Who would I recommend the Come As You Are summary to?
The 22-year-old newly married man that wants to know how to satisfy his wife, the 37-year-old mother who thinks that her sex life is hopeless because she has kids, and anyone that wants to understand the science of sexuality so they can have more frequent and better sex.
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“Fourscore and seven years ago our fathers brought forth on this continent, a new nation, conceived in Liberty, and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created equal.”
– Abraham Lincoln, The Gettysburg Address
Par For the Course
Meaning: What you would expect to happen; something normal or common.
A single raindrop down your neck is enough to make you shiver.
The actions of today form the foundations of tomorrow.
The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today. (H. Jackson Brown, Jr.)
Little pleasures, great joys.
Born for success.
Unleash the power.
Obsession for details.
Become your best.
Fit for a queen.
Work hard. Play harder.