2 QUOTES FROM OTHERS
Morten Hansen offers an alternative way to do exceptional work:
“Instead of asking how many tasks you can tackle given your working hours, ask how many you can ditch given what you must do to excel.”
Source: Great at Work
The painter Antoni Tapieson the connectedness of things:
“Take a look at the simplest of objects. Let’s take, for example, an old chair. It seems like nothing.
But think of the universe comprised within it: the sweaty hands cutting the wood that used to be a robust tree, full of energy, in the middle of a luxuriant forest by some high mountains. The loving work that built it, the joyful anticipation of the one who bought it, the tired bodies it has helped, the pains and the joys it must have endured, whether in fancy halls or in a humble dining room in your neighborhood.
Everything, everything shares life and has its importance! Even the most worn down of chair carries inside the initial force of the sap climbing from the earth, out there in the forest, and will still be useful the day when, broken into kindling, it burns in some fireplace.”
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– same experience
– same resources
– same problems
… what advice would you give them?
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1-Sentence-Summary: She Comes First is sex therapist Dr. Ian Kerner’s guide to improving sex by emphasizing the female orgasm, explaining why changing your mindset about sex and focusing on the stimulation of the right places in the right ways can be more enjoyable than intercourse for both men and women.
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Do you remember your sex ed class? How inadequate, awful, and awkward it was? It’s funny that we have to take classes like this and most people still end up discovering sexual facts only after they’re well into adulthood.
When it comes down to it, even though you might not have told anybody, the experiences you’ve had to figure out your own body and how it connects with another weren’t easy. That means that your sex life is probably still abysmal at best.
A large part of the problem is that you’re falling into a lot of myths around sex that hold you back from having great sex. Take the idea that you have to have intercourse every time. This is not only false, but realizing the alternatives is the key to a level of pleasure that you and your partner could only dream of before.
But no matter how ignorant you are of sexual matters, you can learn the bedroom skills that will boost your love life in wonderful ways. It begins with learning about female sexual anatomy and how to utilize that knowledge to maximize pleasure.
This is just what you’ll learn in Dr. Ian Kerner’s book She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.
Let’s see how much we can discover in just 3 lessons:
- Penetrative sex isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, there are better ways to reach climax.
- If you want to have great sex, you’ve got to gain a better understanding of what the clitoris is, where to find it, and how to stimulate it for maximum pleasure.
- In addition to foreplay, there are two other stages of the sexual experience that will take your sex life to a whole new level.
Are you ready to have a better time when you’re in between the sheets with your lover? Let’s get right into these lessons and find out how!If you want to save this summary for later, download the free PDF and read it whenever you want.
Lesson 1: Not all ways to reach sexual climax are equal.
Fair warning, what we’re about to get into is not safe for work. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t read it at home!
You also want to go into this recognizing that everybody is different when it comes to sex. The most important thing is to communicate with your partner to find out what they enjoy and don’t. And always respect your partner’s desires.
Most people think that success between the sheets depends on size and thrusting. But the truth is that women can orgasm in different ways, and not all are created equal. The key to the best orgasms for women is understanding the clitoris.
Research reveals that the clitoris is far more sensitive the vaginal wall.
Some argue that the G-spot is in the vagina and that’s where the best orgasms happen. But the G-spot is actually part of the clitoris, and the reason it sets of pleasure signals is because it gets stimulated during intercourse.
The truth is, unless you want a baby, you don’t even have to include penetration to have great sex!
And if you still doubt the power of the clitoris, consider this. There are people without a vagina that still have external genitals and they can still have orgasms.
Lesson 2: Get to know the clitoris, it’s location, and how to stimulate it if you want to have the best sex of your life.
If you’re starting to catch on you might now wonder how to stimulate the clitoris correctly. The key is cunnilingus, which is oral sex on a woman. But to get it right, you first have to understand the anatomy of the area.
Some people refer to the clitoris as the happy maker, orgasm switch, or love button. That might make it seem easy to simply push it to give a woman an orgasm, but it’s more complex than that.
The entire clitoris actually goes from the top of the pubic bone all the way to the anus, and has a head, shaft, and base, among other parts. Some of it’s areas you can’t even see! Everything together makes up 8,000 nerve endings, which is more than anywhere else on the female body.
You need to know about the ten highly sensitive spots of the clitoris if you want to get sexual stimulation on a woman right:
- Pubic mound
- Front commissure
- Labia minora
- Vaginal entrance
You can stimulate each of these parts during sex for maximum pleasure, but you’ve got to set the stage and plan on the right acts, which is what you’ll learn next.
Lesson 3: Don’t just think of sex in terms of foreplay and intercourse, it’s about foreplay, coreplay, and moreplay.
It might be easy to just think of sex in terms of preparing, getting it done, and then falling asleep. But this is what average people do and they don’t have great sex. If you really want to reach a new level of pleasure, you should go for multiple orgasms.
This is where the three acts of sex become important. They are:
During foreplay, you want to focus on building sexual tension by doing things that build anticipation for the climax. Avoid contact with genitals for the first 15 minutes to help you accomplish this.
When you get this right, it prepares a woman’s body for sex. It releases chemicals, her skin gets more sensitive, and her breasts swell.
Coreplay comes next, and this is time to perform cunnilingus, which the author goes into more detail about in the book. This is the stage where everything swells as you stimulate the clitoris. It eventually comes to a climax in an orgasm.
The final step is the key to greater sex, and involves helping a woman have another orgasm. During moreplay, her body returns to the state it was in during foreplay. In other words, it’s ready to build up to another climax and just needs the right stimulation for that to happen.
She Comes First Review
Even though I felt a little awkward about this one at first, I’m super glad I read She Comes First. The thing about sex is that nobody talks about it, which means that relationships suffer from sex illiteracy and many never find out that they can have great sex or how it’s done. If we were all a little more open about these things and read more books like this one, I think everybody would be happier.
Who would I recommend the She Comes First summary to?
The 37-year-old man who wants to improve his wife’s experience in the bedroom, the 23-year-old woman who thinks she knows everything about having great sex, and anyone that would like to become a better lover.
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Today’s Inspirational Quote:
“If at first you don’t succeed, try doing it the way mom told you to in the beginning.”
— Author Unknown
Don’t wait for life to come knocking on your door, open the door yourself and step through.
If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door. (Milton Berle)
If shadows are all you see in front of you turn around to face the light.
Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow. (Helen Keller)
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Chestnut brand canoes dominated the Canadian wilderness for years. One reason is that they were shaped with a tumblehome. If you leaned the boat over, the boat leaned back, providing stability. The more you leaned, the harder the boat worked to stay upright.
This is the resilience that leads to stability, not brittleness. It is the hallmark of a system that is aware of the forces on it and responds with just enough to keep things steady over time.
Tumblehome provides support, but it also requires ongoing effort, care and focus to keep a system functioning. The tumblehome doesn’t take care of itself.
Every existing system persists because it has a sort of tumblehome. And if you want to understand a system, it helps to see where the tumblehome lies.