Rain falls wait and see
Harmonies and sweet goodbyes
Night falls across fields
Judge your day by the seeds you plant for tomorrow, not by the harvest you received from the seeds of yesterday.
Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant. (Robert Louis Stevenson)
It takes courage to speak up when needed, but it also takes courage to listen.
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. (Winston Churchill)
The last cab ride
Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. One time I arrived in the middle of the night for a pick up at a building that was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window.
Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away. But I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself. So I walked to the door and knocked.
“Just a minute,” answered a frail, elderly voice.
I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80’s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie. By her side was a small nylon suitcase.
The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.
“Would you carry my bag out to the car?” she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness.
“It’s nothing,” I told her. “I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated.”
“Oh, you’re such a good boy,” she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, “Could you drive through downtown?”
“It’s not the shortest way,” I answered quickly.
“Oh, I don’t mind,” she said. “I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice.”
I looked in the rear view mirror. Her eyes were glistening.
“I don’t have any family left,” she continued. “The doctor says I don’t have very long.”
I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. “What route would you like me to take?” I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.
As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, “I’m tired. Let’s go now.”
We drove in silence to the address she had given me.
It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her. I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.
“How much do I owe you?” she asked, reaching into her purse.
“Nothing,” I said.
“You have to make a living,” she answered.
“There are other passengers.”
Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
“You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,” she said. “Thank you.”
I squeezed her hand, then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.
I didn’t pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly, lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away? On a quick review, I don’t think that I have done anything more important in my life. We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware—beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.
A true story by Kent Nerburn
Did you know…
… that today is Assembly Line Day? On this day in 1913, Henry Ford installed the first moving assembly line for the mass production of an entire automobile. His innovation reduced the time it took to build a car from more than 12 hours to two hours and 30 minutes!
Today’s Inspirational Quote:
“Give yourself permission to immediately walk away from anything that gives you bad vibes. There is no need to explain or make sense of it. Just trust what you feel.”
— Author Unknown
Did you know…
… that today is Godzilla Gets a Star Day? Godzilla received a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame today in 2004. Overall, it was a good week for Godzilla. Besides being given a star, Hollywood’s honorary mayor proclaimed November 29 “Godzilla Day.” He appeared on a float in the Hollywood Christmas Parade and walked the red carpet at his final Japanese film’s premiere. Congratulations to a long overdue acknowledgement of your achievements, Mr. Godzilla! 😉
Today’s Inspirational Quote:
“The people who help me find my courage are not the ones who swoop in to save the day. They’re the ones who sit with me in the fear puddle and hold my hand while my knees shake. Here’s to the hand-holders.”
— Nanea Hoffman
Who Will You Look For? If you look out at the world right now, what you’ll see at first glance is a pretty terrible picture of desperation. Steep market declines. Fear. Panic. Unemployment. People in hospitals. Leaders who have fallen down on the job at every level of government, who actually feel no shame, saying things like, “I don’t take responsibility at all.” But if you choose to be a bit more deliberate about how you look, you might see something else—a pretty amazing picture of dedication. You’ll see front-line responders working such long shifts that their faces are creased with indentations from their masks and shields. You’ll see doctors staying away from their own families, exposing themselves to the virus as they treat countless patients, just trying to make a difference. You’ll see members of the armed forces, stationed all over the world, helping people of all nationalities. You’ll see people putting out supply depots in their front yards. You’ll see ordinary folks checking on neighbors, supporting local businesses from afar, staying home to help flatten the curve. There is a lot to be scared and disappointed about right now. There is a lot to be angry about—particularly at leaders who have betrayed our trust and neglected their duties. But there is also a lot to be encouraged about. The good thing about crises is that they are opportunities for heroes. They show the worst… and the best that is in us. So how will you choose to see the world today? Who will you look for and to? Which handle—to borrow Epictetus’ phrase—will you choose to grab as your grapple with the reality of what is happening? Because one handle will make you despair, the other will give you hope. One inspires you to be better, the other only makes you angry. “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news,” Mr Rogers famously said, “my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’” The Stoics remind us that we can only choose what we focus on. We can choose what we see. And most important, we can choose whose example we are going to follow in—what picture we are going to help paint. If you’re looking to dive deeper into your study of Stoicism, join Daily Stoic Life—our global community of Stoic thinkers and practitioners dedicated to becoming the best versions of themselves. Check it out here. P.S. This was originally sent on December 1, 2020. Sign up today for the Daily Stoic’s email and get our popular free 7-day course on Stoicism.Who Will You Look For?
I am actually GOD !
True. I prefer to be “incommunicado” and that simply means – I am invisible, I speak with none, making people wonder whether I listened ? Why do they call me On Mute? Doesn’t this define God? Omnipresent, Omniscient,Invisible (to naked eye – even electronic eye) but we pray, Loudly, publicly – forever wanting him to listen to us.
REM was one of the most respected indy rock bands. You’d think that a group that somehow managed to thread the needle between whatever authentic means to them and huge popular success could walk away from traditional measures of who’s up and who’s not…
In a long-ago Rolling Stone article, lead singer Michael Stipe said that he had never heard a song from Mariah Carey and in fact had just learned how to say her name. There’s a difference between focusing on your lane and denigrating the others in your field.
In the same article, bandmate Michael Mills expresses disappointment that even though they recorded at Prince’s studio in Minneapolis, he never stopped by to say hello or even invite them to the party on Friday.
Turtles all the way down, turtles all the way up.
High school persists.
It’s possible to use the status hierarchy as a sort of fuel, a way to motivate yourself to push a little harder. But it is also possible, and far more resilient, to use connection and possibility as fuel as well.
The best lesson of high school might be that everyone has a noise in their heads, everyone feels uncomfortable and everyone would appreciate a little kindness and respect.
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1-Sentence-Summary: Leadership And Self Deception is the ultimate guide to becoming self-aware by learning to see your faults more accurately, understanding other’s strengths and needs in a more generous light, and responding positively to the instinct within you to help other people as much as possible.
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2020 has been awful. To top it all off it just had to be an election year in the US! I hate elections and politics. They bring out the worst in people. But they also reveal some of the darkest problems with society.
One of the biggest that I noticed this past election was the issue America has with self-awareness. People on both sides of the political fence fail to recognize those on the other side as regular human beings with emotions and needs.
Then, people justify their hatred and awfulness by deceiving themselves into thinking that everybody else is just an object without feelings. What’s worse, this problem isn’t just limited to politics. We can see it in the workplace, in families, and all throughout society.
Interestingly, there’s a book that can teach us how to solve this problem and it’s been around for over 20 years! It’s called Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box and will show you why you’re wrong about others and how to become your best self by improving the way you see them and yourself.
Here are the 3 of the most helpful lessons this book taught me:
- You see your needs as more important and other’s needs as less, which makes you forget that they are people too.
- You try to justify your view of the world by inflating your virtues and overemphasizing other’s weaknesses.
- If you want to beat self-deception you must always act on that instinct you have to help others in need.
Are you excited to reach your full potential by uncovering and destroying an aspect of your thinking that’s holding you back? Let’s go!If you want to save this summary for later, download the free PDF and read it whenever you want.
Lesson 1: Self-deception makes you think that the needs of other people aren’t very important, which makes you treat them like objects.
Imagine you’re sitting on a bus with an empty seat next to you. Are you carefully watching others around you, hoping that nobody takes the seat?
This is a form of self-deception in which you value your own comfort above that of others. And you do it all the time without realizing it.
Everybody wants and even deserves respect. Our entire society, including laws and constitutions, builds on this fact. But when it comes to everyday interactions with others, this principle is easy to forget.
When you’re caught up in deception you can’t see clearly. You’re “in the box” as the authors put it. You see others as mere objects instead of the living breathing beings they are. Which often means they don’t get the respect they deserve from you.
This is self-deception at its core. It’s the idea that you don’t see others as they really are but instead how you think they are. And most often what you think of them is based on false assumptions that your needs are more important.
In other words, you frequently deceive yourself into thinking that others don’t even really have needs at all. This is a severe limitation of your worldview. Not only does it limit the care that others get from you, but it also hinders your progression.
Lesson 2: You deceive yourself by focusing too much on other’s weaknesses while at the same time only thinking about your own virtues.
Once you fall into the vicious cycle of self-deception it can be hard to get out. Part of the reason for this is because you tend to think of it as being harmless to others. But it does hurt people, and it keeps you from reaching your full potential.
When you overlook other’s desires and virtues and overemphasize your own you prevent yourself from meeting their needs. That makes them suffer and makes you selfish.
Think about what would happen if you were talking with your spouse about where to go on vacation. If you were self-deceived, you’d think that what you want is more important than what your spouse wants.
You’d then consider your actions as justifiable and reasonable, and theirs as being unrealistic and flawed. This makes you blame your spouse, fail to meet their needs, and hurts your relationship.
But the reality is, your thinking patterns are just as flawed, if not more so. And your spouse’s desires are just as valid as yours.
It’s not easy to beat this because you actively look for reasons to justify your reasoning to protect your desires. Which, in addition to your ego, also get inflated in the process.
So how do you stop it? You’ll find out next!
Lesson 3: Commit to always act on the instinct to help other people if you want to annihilate self-deception and reach your full potential.
Self-deception means betraying yourself, so if you can stop that, then you can get out of the box. But you can’t just change your behavior, especially by trying to cope or avoid others.
Instead, you must focus on changing your mind. Remember that self-deception doesn’t come from what you do but rather what you think and feel about others. So that’s what you have to target to beat it.
To change your mindset, always ask yourself if you’re actually better than the people you’re around. Do this everywhere you go, from your car to the office and beyond. Commit to always give in to the instinct you have to be nice to others.
When you succeed and get out of the box, the benefits will start pouring in immediately. If you’re a leader, you’ll create an atmosphere of responsibility where people focus more on getting work done instead of blaming others.
Life in your family and in all other areas will also get easier as interacting with people becomes painless. You’ll feel happier and more positive after talking with others. You’ll soon forget about the energy-drain that harboring bad feelings toward others brings.
As you follow these steps you’ll quickly reach your full potential and soon be inspiring others to follow your lead.
Leadership And Self Deception Review
I almost feel like Leadership And Self-Deception should be called just “Self-Deception” because it’s got so much useful stuff on the topic for everyone. It would be even better if it was just called “Self-Awareness” because I feel like that’s what it really teaches! Either way, this book is a classic and a must-read for anyone that wants to become their best self!
Who would I recommend the Leadership And Self Deception summary to?
The 62-year-old that wonders why people don’t like him, the 35-year-old who wants to improve their relationship with others at work, and anyone who wants to unlock their full potential by becoming more aware of how they treat others.
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