Did you know…

… that today, besides being Thanksgiving in the U.S. (Happy Thanksgiving!), is First Fab Four Recording Session Day? On this day in 1962, the Fab Four had their very first recording session under name The Beatles. Trivia fans: Paul is not McCartney’s first name; it’s James. And John Lennon changed his middle name from Winston to Ono after marrying Yoko Ono in 1969.


Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.”

— Eckhart Tolle

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1-Sentence-Summary: Becoming The Boss shows leaders of all kinds, whether new or experienced, how to identify the pitfalls that stand in the way of influencing others for the better and overcome them.

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Becoming The Boss Summary

I’ve summarized over 200 books so far. That’s a lot of ideas and I’ve noticed a few common threads in them. One of the biggest is how fast our world is changing and how hard we have to work to keep up. Leaders are no exception to this rule. 

What worked well for the greats of the past like Bill Gates and Steve Jobs doesn’t always apply today. Technology is changing the way we communicate and learn so fast that it’s a wonder any of us can keep up, let alone those at the top!

What you need to succeed as a leader is to remain malleable enough to change and improve according to the modern world. And that’s just what you’ll learn how to do in Lindsey Pollak’s Becoming the Boss: New Rules for the Next Generation of Leaders.

Let’s dig in and see how much we can learn in just 3 lessons from the book:

  1. Learn how to lead yourself if you want to become a great leader.
  2. You will influence others best when your communication skills are excellent.
  3. Don’t gossip, prepare for difficult questions, and use people’s names when talking to them.

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Lesson 1: The best leaders are the best at leading themselves.

When I was a missionary, our leaders had to teach us but also take care of their own areas. I didn’t understand how they could do it until I spend more time with them. 

That’s when I realized that they were so good because they were excellent at leading themselves.

This requires you to be just as good at organizing your own life and improvement as you are at doing so for a whole team. It might sound daunting, especially if you’re new to your position, but there is hope for you.

The first rule you want to follow is don’t panic. Things change fast in the business world. Technology throws ideas at us at lightning speeds. It’s completely normal to be afraid occasionally, and you can learn to handle it.

One helpful way is to ask yourself if you want what’s in front of you more than you’re afraid of it. If you can answer yes, then push through your fears and go for it!

Also, learn to be creative. It used to be that you could become an expert in your field and that would be enough, but not anymore. If you want to stand apart, learn the ropes of other fields.

Additionally, always be learning and working harder. Assess your current knowledge. Pay attention to the skills you need to work on and make a plan. Check the LinkedIn profiles of people you admire to see what they’re good at and work on those things.

Lesson 2: Focus on others and make your communication skills top-notch if you want to have a positive influence on them.

In one of my favorite speeches I’ve attended, a leader I admire used a phrase that I’ll never forget:

“It’s not about you!”

This is some of the best leadership and life advice I’ve ever received. It still has a huge impact on everything I do today, especially whenever I get the chance to lead.

Research from the University of Texas confirms this, too. It identified that leaders don’t use the word “I” as much as non-leaders. So if you want to be excellent, stop thinking and talking so much about yourself!

It doesn’t do any good to just try to avoid doing something bad, you want to fill the gap with what’s good. And that’s thinking about your employees. You don’t want to talk about them behind their backs, and we’ll get to that in a moment. 

You need to focus on the needs of your people and not your own. If you’re lost in what you need to improve all the time, you won’t be receptive to their needs.

Under-communication is another must-avoid when working with others. 

One survey by Accountemps identified that not communicating often or openly enough hurts morale than anything else a manager can do wrong! So it’s better to do it too much than not enough.

Lesson 3: Use people’s names when talking with them, avoid gossip at all times, and know how to deal with difficult questions.

You’re not born with excellent communication skills, but you can learn them. Some of the most basic ones you can apply in just a few minutes to start seeing results!

One of the first is to remember people’s names and use them when you’re speaking with them. It’s an excellent persuasion tool, but you also need to check that you’re using the right names, too!

I had a manager once that wasn’t great at being a leader. But I do remember how he would always my name while talking with me. It did make me feel like I mattered, at least a little bit.

Additionally, we often overlook the power of eye-contact. Building this habit when conversing with employees will express confidence.

Sometimes, however, an unexpected question comes up that you won’t know the answer to. You can’t know the answer to everything, so don’t try to do that. Instead, maintain confidence by using one of these three techniques:

  1. Refer the person to another who might have the answer.
  2. Defer the question to another time by telling them you’ll get back to them.
  3. Ask them to be more specific.

You also want to avoid gossip at all times. 

Have you ever been around someone that only likes to talk about other people? Every time I see this, I lose trust in the person. If they’re talking about another person behind their back, then what’s to stop them from talking about you behind yours?!

Don’t lose your employee’s trust. Never talk about other people when they’re not around.

Becoming The Boss Review

Becoming The Boss is an excellent book that I highly recommend everybody read, not just managers. I especially liked how it focused on looking inward at how you can improve as a leader. It seems that so much of being a boss these days is about having a commanding presence with no humility, but we need leaders that can see their faults too!

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Who would I recommend the Becoming The Boss summary to?

The 60-year-old executive who doesn’t think they need to change anything to be a better leader, the 36-year-old that just got their first management position and feels a little out of place, and anyone that wants to learn to lead themselves.

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The grateful pumpkin

It might not be autumn where you live, but the iconography of the large orange pumpkin travels around the world.

People carve faces into them, stick a candle inside and use them to ward off the darkness.

Perhaps we could consider writing on one instead. Inscribing all the things we’re grateful for, all the people who show up in our lives. We could highlight our heroes, our friends, the selfless people who show up for the community instead of simply looking for a shortcut… We could even remind ourselves of the systems, situations and dynamics that we take for granted.

Seeing that pumpkin every day is a great way to remind myself of how extraordinarily lucky I am. Even when it seems as though the news is an unending litany of selfishness and tragedy, it’s possible to find someone who made a difference.

Thank you for caring, for showing up and especially, for leading.

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3 ideas, 2 quotes, 1 question (November 26, 2020)

“Working to deliver the most wisdom per word of any newsletter on the web.”

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Happy 3-2-1 Thursday,

Let’s get right to it. Here are 3 short ideas from me, 2 quotes from others, and 1 question to ponder this week.



“If you genuinely care about the goal, you’ll focus on the system.”

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“Successes are revised mistakes.”

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“Amazing social skills are a superpower.

The ability to deliver bad news in a good way is a superpower.

The ability to de-escalate a tense situation into a calm one is a superpower.

The ability to transform a lose/win situation into a win/win situation is a superpower.”



John F. Kennedy on gratitude:

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.”

Source: Thanksgiving Day Proclamation, 1963


Writer and entrepreneur Kevin Kelly on making life count:

“I am now 55 years old. Like a lot of people in middle age my late-night thoughts bend to contemplations about how short my remaining time is. Even with increasing longevity there is not enough time to do all that I want. Nowhere close. My friend Stewart Brand, who is now 69, has been arranging his life in blocks of 5 years. Five years is what he says any project worth doing will take. From moment of inception to the last good-riddance, a book, a campaign, a new job, a start-up will take 5 years to play through. So, he asks himself, how many 5 years do I have left? He can count them on one hand even if he is lucky. So this clarifies his choices. If he has less than 5 big things he can do, what will they be?”

Source: My Life Countdown


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Does this need to be said?

Does this need to be said by me?

Does this need to be said by me right now?

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Urgent and Important.. A motivational story

A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up the remaining open areas of the jar.

He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”

What are your big rocks? - Cutting Through Chaos

“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else, the small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party, or fix the disposal.”

“Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

27-11-2020 My Daily Weblog

ARJUNA, if you fight this battle, think of how it shall benefit you. If you die during battle, you will go to heaven and be in eternal peace. If you shall be victorious O ARJUNA, you will be the ruler of this Kingdom. O ARJUNA, stand up, take courage, and fight!

या तो तू युद्ध में मारा जाकर स्वर्ग को प्राप्त होगा अथवा संग्राम में जीतकर पृथ्वी का राज्य भोगेगा । इस कारण हे अर्जुन ! तू युद्ध के लिए निश्चित करके खड़ा हो जा ।। ३७ ।।


The Blessed Lord spoke unto Arjuna:

O ARJUNA, by considering victory and defeat, pleasure and pain, gain and loss with indifference, you will not commit any sin.

जय-पराजय, लाभ-हानि और सुख-दुःखों को समान समझकर उसके वाद युद्ध के लिये तैयार हो जा : इस प्रकार युद्ध करने से तू पाप को नहीं प्राप्त होगा ।। ३८ ।।

Begin the day at 4.30. New Alarm was UNSTOPPABLE, Finally got up with heavy legs (wanting to rest some more) Lower back pain that’s not going for several days now,

Made some great Tea with Nettle Leaf tea added to normal Tea and to make it even stronger added Earl Grey Tea bag and Tea Masala tea bag, I like my morning cuppa Tea – strong, very strong. Add Cloves and Cardamom for taste,

Sometimes my tea is like a Kadha so esseniial for a COVID SURVIVOR with one teaspoon of Turmeric powder, bit of ginger, bit of Cinnamon too,. When I have back pain I try adding Moringa Powder too,

My 2nd Cuppa is actually my normal tea – made by wife, By then I am fully awake, done my weight, Temperature, BP, SPO2 checks and taken any medicines I forgot to take in the night.

These days wife gives me another antibody booster dose in the night and what it does is help clean the stomach and makes you hungry at the right times of the day, LIke yesterday – at 4 pm I was DINNER READY. But Cyclone Jowar had brought cold weather, incessant rains in Bengaluru city making morning or evening walks impossible, Impossible because, BBMP the Municipal corporation makes us choose only those as corporators who have JCB excavator machines. They get work for 5 years and are 24/7 at work digging holes, making roads, breaking roads, digging sewage water lines or drinking water pipe laying very close to ,,,,, FIBRE OPTIC CABLES so that we have no internet and we can not complain about them on SOCIAL MEDIA. Such Wise men,,, these corporators!

I began painting after a break and completing 3 in one go now and they are ready for Watercolor – final treatment and finishing touches, 6 years of amateur paintings – picking from web a great pic, printing it and then making a replica so I can learn, It is still Hobby painting, Wife as Mentor comes in telling me to straighten the staircase lines and ensuring that even in a Green and white only pic – I should add a different color to stairs as if that is why I wish to paint ! 🙂 🙂

But rant apart, this helped me gift over 3500 paintings for Covid Warriors and that was the high point, the real pineal gland pleasure (pun intended).

Thought provoking phrase today…

An Arm and a Leg

Meaning: Something that is extremely expensive.

Costs an arm and a leg.

Expensive things will cost you one of these. Figuratively speaking, of course.

And …

A Weird word


to play about, frolic or gambol

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