The right thing to do is often obvious. It’s not the choice that’s difficult so much as dealing with what the choice means.
We have to have a hard conversation. We have to break someone’s heart. We have to do something hard. We have to break out of the prison of how other people think we should live.
The price of avoiding these things is making yourself miserable. While the pain of dealing with reality is intense, it’s over rather quickly. The suffering of miserableness never really goes away.
The choice of being miserable is the bargain you strike with yourself to avoid pain.