Toastmasters learning day

Thank you DTM PALLAVI SINGH and Toastmasters of Prudent Prodigy International ONLINE TMC for kindly inviting me as your General Evaluator this evening and giving me this Certificate of Appreciation. My sincere thanks to all Role takers, TMs, future TMs and Guests.

True Self-knowledge

To arrive at true self-knowledge is to arrive at God-realization. God-realization is a unique state of consciousness.It is different from all the other states of consciousness because all the other states of consciousness are experienced through the medium of the individual mind whereas the state of God-consciousness is in no way dependent upon the individual mind or any other medium.A medium is necessary for knowing something other than one’s own self: for knowing one’s own self no medium is necessary.

——-AVATAR MEHER BABA[GEMS FROM THE DISCOURSES OF MEHER BABA By Meher Baba. An Avatar Meher Baba Trust eBook June 2011. Copyright © 1945 by Circle Productions, Inc. (a New York Corporation), Copyright © Adi K. Irani, 1967 Copyright © 2007, Avatar Meher Baba Perpetual Public Charitable Trust, Ahmednagar, India.]

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Learning Body language from Vanessa van edwards – her newsletter i subscribe

I found Vanessa Van Edwards on Udemy when I was learning and beginning my Toastmasters Pathways journey. In one of the exercises we have there, we have to research a topic and speak. I found Apart from Content, it was Vocal variety, Gestures and Body Language, Personality which had important place in a Public Speaker’s repertoire.

Her focus and Special Expertise lay in BODY LANGUAGE. You can see the newsletter below, go to her website and take her Udemy courses if you are so inclined.

Are you ready for some interesting science facts? Me too!
As you might know, once a month I gather all of my favorite studies and tips into one fascinating, interesting, unique little newsletter. My goal is to share facts with you that you can then share with others. So then they say,
That’s so interesting!
…I also like to make them a game for you. Here’s what I got for you today:
1. Republicans prefer politicians with…

  1. deep voice and a square jaw
  2. big eyes and a longer than average face
  3. above average height
  4. small ears and bushy eyebrows

Seriously, research looked at this. This study found Republicans prefer politicians with 1. deep voice and a square jaw! I am gearing up for a big US election season. In fact, please mark your calendars to watch the US Presidential debate with me on September, 29th! My Watch Guide will help you look for interesting cues. I also analyzed the last five Presidential Debates for your amusement!

Presidential Debate Analysis + Watch Guides

I also analyzed of Kamala Harris’ body language. It’s going to be an interesting election year…

2. In conversation we tend to…

  1. Overestimate how much people like us
  2. Underestimate how much people like us

Does she like me?! Is a refrain I constantly say in my head. Good news! This study finds we tend to 2. Underestimate how much people like us!
Remember: You are likable. You are worthy.
3. Research says you should trust your…

  1. dog
  2. horoscope
  3. aha moments
  4. nightmares

You have a problem. You have been trying to solve it for hours. You go to sleep. You wake up at 2:00 a.m. thinking….”aha! I know the answer.” Turns out that you should trust that 3. aha moment! If you have taken any of our courses you know I am obsessed with aha moments. So I’m thrilled this study found when a solution to a problem seems to have come out of thin air, it’s most likely right.

From the study:
“A series of experiments conducted by a team of researchers determined that a person’s sudden insights are often more accurate at solving problems than thinking them through analytically.”Bottom line: Trust yourself.
4. Some of Beethoven’s famous works may have been inspired by…

  1. His cat
  2. His daughter
  3. His view of the ocean
  4. His heartbeat

A cardiologist, medical historian, and a musicologist teamed up to analyze Beethoven’s famous works. They found some of his rhythms may in fact reflect the irregular rhythms of his own heart, caused by cardiac arrhythmia! 4. his heartbeat might be what inspired his work!

…you never know what can be your spark of inspiration! Be sure to check out our post:

40 Productive Things to Do When You’re Bored

5. True or False: How much you worry can change over time.
I have come out publicly as a neurotic. And it turns out science has found that the worrying part of our brain can change over time (true!). AND this is different for men and women.
“Women high in neuroticism tended to have thinner cortex in the anterior cingulate with increasing age, while men high in neuroticism tended to have thicker cortex in the anterior cingulate with increasing age, compared to those with lower levels of neuroticism.”
So… don’t get mad at your partner, friend, spouse for worrying too much–they can’t help it!
To your success,

nik’s free book summaries newsletter

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1-Sentence-Summary: Hold Me Tight gives you advice on how to build and sustain a deeper connection with your spouse or partner by identifying the importance that every kind of emotion has in creating a lasting relationship and how to handle each of them maturely.

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Favorite quote from the author:

Hold Me Tight Summary

If you had to rank the quality of your relationship with your significant other on a scale of 1 to 10, where would it be? We’d all hope for at least a 7 or an 8. But occasionally we get into relationships and situations within them that might make us think of a much lower number.

Establishing and maintaining a bond with your partner isn’t easy. You both have past traumas, endless challenges, and stresses that get in the way. 

Is there hope, even if your connection seems to be hanging by a thread?

According to clinical psychologist and researcher Dr. Sue Johnson, there is. She’s helped many couples reconnect with her wildly successful Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). 

Now, she wants to teach you how it can help your relationship too.

That’s why she wrote Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of LoveIt will show you the exciting results of some couples who have been through EFT and give you tools to apply its principles to improve your own relationship.

3 of my favorite pieces of relationship advice from this book are:

  1. Blame is a common killer of healthy relationships, but you can beat it by becoming aware of the patterns you follow when feeling and expressing it.
  2. The “buttons” your partner pushes to get you angry come from past trauma, but emotional vulnerability will help you get through.
  3. Difficulties are inevitable and can make it hard to stay united with your spouse, but identifying the reasons a disconnect began will help.

Let’s get right to it and help you find out how to become closer to your partner!If you want to save this summary for later, download the free PDF and read it whenever you want.

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Lesson 1: Notice the patterns you follow when you begin blaming your significant other to have a healthier relationship.

Do you remember the ice bucket challenge? While dumping ice water on your head and donating to charity is a nice thing, cold water on a marriage isn’t so nice. 

But too often we fill buckets of blame and resentment toward our partners then dump them when the time seems right. Like water on the fire of a healthy relationship, this can put out the flame of love you once had for each other. 

It might even start with something as little as fighting about minor household chores. You know it’s a problem when the argument spirals out of control into a yelling match.

The author had one therapy session with Pam and Jim that shows how this happens in real life. When Pam tried to compliment Jim and offer more support, he scoffed and turned away. This upset Pam who began blaming Jim for their difficulties. 

Your relationship might experience similar occurrences when a tiny thing explodes, but you can learn to avoid them.

Start by looking back to what started the argument in the first place. Like Pam and Jim, you might notice the patterns you always follow in these situations. 

Once you know how these fights usually go it’s a lot easier to see how to change. After Pam and Jim could see where their fight started, they stopped blaming each other and made up.

Lesson 2: Emotional vulnerability is the only way to defeat the fights that start when your partner pushes your buttons.

Have you ever said something to your spouse and out of nowhere they fly into a fit of rage? We judge these experiences harshly from our perspective because it seems so insignificant. But to them, it’s not. 

That’s because each of us carries emotional baggage from past trauma. When others push the right buttons, it reminds us of the horrific experience and we go into fight or flight mode. 

This is exactly what’s happening to your significant other when they explode at the seemingly tiniest thing.

The author once saw this in herself when she noticed her husband getting tired while they were talking. 

After becoming furious at him, she realized that this little thing only reminded her of a past boyfriend that would fall asleep during important conversations.

Your secret weapon here, though, is understanding. It can come from both sides, too. From your side, you need to look for the experiences that get you frustrated in these moments. 

Once you can see them clearly, you can open up emotionally to your partner. This gives them an understanding they previously didn’t have, which makes it much easier for them to take care of you through it.

Lesson 3: Look for the reasons a disconnect began when life challenges make it hard to stay united with each other.

My wife and I have a rule that unless absolutely necessary, we don’t discuss important topics at night. That’s because they usually result in a bigger argument that we wake up the next day thinking was stupid.

Sometimes, however, life’s challenges get in the way and make it difficult to connect well with each other. When a burden of sickness, mental illness, or the death of a loved one weigh us down, they also hinder our relationship.

An example of this from the author’s EFT work was with Claire and Peter. Everything was going well until Claire got hepatitis. She started to get frustrated with Peter, blaming him for not taking care of her and focusing too much on his work. 

But when she asked for help, this only made Peter feel annoyed. But Claire wasn’t the only one with a burden, Peter had a big project going on at work.

The way out of these situations starts with recognizing the wedge between you and your partner and try to reconnect. To do that, look at when and how things started going bad. Ask yourselves, “what started this fight?”

For Claire and Peter, examining the origins of their frustrations with each other helped them see clearly enough to apologize, stop stonewalling and getting angry, and commit to breaking these bad habits.

Hold Me Tight Review

As a married man, I found Hold Me Tight to be super helpful. It made me realize the parts of my relationship with my wife that are emotionally healthy and how to improve the areas that aren’t doing as well. This will be a game-changer book for all couples if they will be open and honest with themselves about what they learn from it!

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Who would I recommend the Hold Me Tight summary to?

The 22-year-old who just broke up with her boyfriend of three years, the 46-year-old couple that isn’t great at communicating, and anyone who constantly fights with their partner and wants to have a deeper and more peaceful relationship.

The post Hold Me Tight Summary appeared first on Four Minute Books.Keep learning,

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Many happy returns of the day Sh. Narendra modi ji.

Narendra Modi ji Happy Birthday to you. Have a great one! May this one also be filled with Health, Wealth, Peace, and Joy and you enjoy this and many many more in the years to come with the choicest family, friends, relatives and Enjoy the Fun moments and cherish them for years to come. May God Blessyou .Warm Regards Dhananjaya Parkhe

9. World Patient Safety Day – 17 September

9. World Patient Safety Day – 17 September

Patient Safety

This day is celebrated to increase public awareness and engagement, enhance global understanding, and spur global solidarity and action to promote patient safety.

Content marketing opportunities:

  • Listicle idea: X Things you must take note of in your health insurance
  • Infographic idea: How do surgery checklists improve patient safety?
  • Video idea: How have governments focused on patient safety during COVID-19?
  • Podcast idea: Is it fair to get angry with doctors when a family member dies?

Random Paragraph

According to the caption on the bronze marker placed by the Multnomah Chapter of the Daughters of the American Revolution on May 12, 1939, “College Hall (is) the oldest building in continuous use for Educational purposes west of the Rocky Mountains. Here were educated men and women who have won recognition throughout the world in all the learned professions.”

Random Phrases of the day

  1. Top DrawerMeaning: High quality, exceptional; something that’s very valuable.
  2. Playing PossumMeaning: Pretending to be dead, or to be deceitful about something.
  3. You Can’t Teach an Old Dog New TricksMeaning: It can be challenging to teach a person something new.
  4. Ugly DucklingMeaning: One who may seem plain at first in appearance or capability, but later turns out to be beautiful or great.
  5. Happy as a ClamMeaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted.

quotes of the week

Arthur Schopenhauer“I’ve never known any trouble than an hour’s reading didn’t assuage.”

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via RSS Feed Kettering“One fails forward toward success.”

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via RSS Feed Meir“One cannot and must not try to erase the past merely because it does not fit the present.”

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via RSS Feed Lindbergh“Living in dreams of yesterday, we find ourselves still dreaming of impossible future conquests.”

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via RSS Feed de Balzac“It is easy to sit up and take notice, What is difficult is getting up and taking action.”

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nik’s book summaries newsletter

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