The Speech Wiz asks, “Do you have humility agility?” — The Speech Wiz

via The Speech Wiz asks, “Do you have humility agility?” — The Speech Wiz

The Speech Wiz asks, “Do you have humility agility?”

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“Great leaders don’t need to act tough.
Their confidence and humility serve to underscore their toughness.”
Simon Sinek

One of the most essential habits for a speaker to exhibit is the act of humility. With humility, a speaker’s content reaches levels of effectiveness audiences will appreciate and admire. Without humility, a speaker’s content may sound empty and self-serving leaving an audience to feel exploited but not served.

Every speaker is a servant speaker. To not comprehend this simple characterization is to miss the essence of why you speak and why you have an audience. The passion to speak is driven by the axiom, “I speak because I have something to say that needs to be heard by someone other than me.” The validation for speaking is, “I speak because what I have to say will be said to the benefit of those who hear me speak.”

With these two guidelines in place, you must learn how to speak with humility in order for your message to reach and serve your audience. Building your content around three elements can help you become a speaker with effective and sincere humility agility.

The three elements are:

  1. Falling Down
  2. Lifting Up
  3. Learning From

Let’s look further into how these three elements can create humility agility when you speak.


When you take the stage, your audience expects you to share intimate details of your life journey with them. They want to learn vicariously from your travails without having to experience it first hand for themselves. As a result, they want to know about the times you fell down. It is not only okay to tell them about your failures, stumbles and short falls, it is expected.

Don’t worry. Everybody falls down. We are humans, not robots or gods. We dream, vividly imagine, plan and still come up short. That is not an issue. Part of having humility agility is the level of comfort and familiarity you have with telling your “falling down” story. It is a moment on the stage of self-reflective insight. Feel free to tinge it with humor of a self-deprecating nature. Poking a little fun at yourself makes you more human. And that will help you establish a connection with your audience.

More lessons are learned from falling down and rising to triumph than any other experience. We all have them. They only need to be of value. Whatever lesson you learn from missing your mark is of great value to your audience. It inspires them to perceive what is possible if they apply themselves to a purpose.

Your story does not need to be an earth-shifting monumental tale. While your story may not have changed the planet, it most likely changed your world. That’s impact from the stage. You just have to learn how to humbly own the story, extract the learning significance from the story and then place it appropriately within your larger message.


English author John Donne famously wrote, “No man is an island entire of itself…” In other words, no one is self-sufficient; everyone relies on others. There is a good chance that, in your life journey, you have as well.

We all get help. Some of this help may come from friends, family, colleagues, teachers or coaches. In this element of being a speaker with humility agility you should look to extol the virtues of someone who helped you in your journey. Sharing the credit with a person who either inspired or guided you on your path to accomplishment sets into motion for your audience an examination of their journey. Who has been of assistance, inspiration or guidance in their life?

When we humbly acknowledge the contribution of another person to our personal achievements, three things happen. First, you give credit where credit is due. Second, you inspire others to give selflessly of themselves, for nothing more than the shear reward of seeing someone else triumph. Third, you establish a special place of respect and admiration in the minds of your audience for those that have been of support, inspiration and guidance to them.

This is a moment in your speech when you should speak humbly and sincerely. You can’t fake it here. Only honest, genuine sentiment, culled deeply from your heart, will pass muster. When you lift someone up through humble praise you raise us all.


We already know what every person in the audience is thinking before you speak, “What’s in it for me?” Sharing a learning from moment is your opportunity to answer that question.

The goal is to humbly share the “A-ha” moments of your journey without bragging. This is when you let your audience know the payoff you’ve received from the road you’ve traveled. For many speakers, it is an unexpected humbling experience. Many times, the lesson or lessons speakers ultimately learn from their journey extend far beyond mastering a skill or conquering a challenge. You may come to learn that the most humbling lessons are often the ones you learn about yourself. Lessons spoken of with humility about your ability to whether the crucibles of commitment, resolute intention, and perseverance can have a profound impact on your audience extending your message significantly beyond a foundational phrase or your speech’s theme. Humbly sharing the learning from of your experience is a powerful skill that will well serve your humility agility when you speak.


Humility is the quality of being humble. It means you have the ability to put the needs of another person before your own. It also means not drawing attention to yourself unless by doing so you can inspire others, acknowledge those who were of support and guidance to you, and create value for others by humbling sharing lessons you have learned along the way.

Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “Practice radical humility. Take no credit for your talents, intellectual abilities, aptitudes, or proficiencies. Be in a state of awe and bewilderment.”

A humble speaker is a modest speaker offering honest wisdom and perspectives they have been blessed to experience and then share from the stage. Master the skill of humility agility and your speeches will have lasting impact beyond your deepest desire.

Thanks for your support as a reader of my blog and I eagerly welcome any comments on how you’re thinking about achieving the possibility of your promise. Also, I would appreciate any suggestions you might have for future posts in this blog on a topic near and dear to you in the comments section below. As always, please feel free to share this post with a friend or colleague.

To Your Speaking Success.
The Speech Wiz

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Three Stages Of Perceiving Impermanence
by Shinzen Young

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Impermanence is just appreciating the normal changing-ness of each experience at deeper levels of poignancy. One way to think about this is in terms of three aspects of impermanence: the trivial, the harsh, and the blissful.

At first, impermanence may present itself in a kind of trivial way. For example, you are meditating, and you start feeling an itch. You get preoccupied with it for a while. Then something distracts you, and when you come back, the itch is gone. You didn’t actually feel it go, you are just aware that something previously present is now absent. Your attention was broken, but you still noticed that something changed. This level of understanding impermanence is based on a lack of continuous concentration. A deeper appreciation of impermanence comes about through continuous concentration.

As your concentration skills grow, and you are able to focus on things more continuously without being distracted, you begin to appreciate how things continuously change. But continuous change does not necessarily imply smooth change. At this stage, your experience of change may be abrupt, jagged, perhaps even harsh. For example, you are watching a pain in your leg, and you notice that it is pounding, twisting, stabbing, shooting, crushing, or exploding. Now, these are very abrupt and uncomfortable modes of movement, but they are movement nonetheless. They are ways in which the pain sensation is changing. It seems like somebody has stuck a knife in your leg and is twisting it to the right, to the left, jabbing it in, pulling it out. It is harsh, it is abrupt, it is jagged, but it represents a continuous contact with changing-ness.  This doesn’t happen only with painful experiences. The same can happen with intense pleasure.

Eventually, your concentration and equanimity skills mature to the point where your experience of change is not only continuous, but smooth as well. A softening takes place. The impermanence becomes fluid, soothing, bubbly, more like an effortless breathing in and out. This is because your focus is like a high-resolution monitor or a high-definition TV screen, and you are able to perceive subtler movements with clarity. To make a techie metaphor, it’s as if you have increased the sampling rate or bandwidth of your change detector. You can’t force this to happen, but as you are paying attention and developing an acceptance of the harsher kinds of impermanence, they break up into gentler kinds of impermanence—stately undulations, effervescence, effortless spread, and collapse. When this happens, the impermanence starts to comfort you, it becomes like a massage.

At this point, we are on the edge of an important transition, because now we can yield to the flow and let it “meditate us.” The perception “I am meditating” fades into the background and is replaced by the perception that “impermanence is meditating me.”

About the Author: Shinzen Young is a meditation teacher, and excerpt above is taken from his book ‘Science of Enlightenment.’


Shireen Davenport

The Prayer of Repentance

The prayer was read aloud numerous times in Baba’s presence, often with an added prelude written by Baba. For example in 1954 it was read aloud in Baba’s presence by his disciple William Donkin with the following prelude:

O the eternally benevolent Paramatma! O all-merciful Allah! O the most merciful God Almighty! O giver of all boons, Yazdan! Being fully aware of your absolute independence and your absolute indifference, Baba, with all humbleness, implores you, O allmerciful God! to accept the prayer of repentance from him on behalf of all his lovers and on behalf of all who are worthy of being forgiven.

The Prayer of Repentance was dictated in Khuldabad, India in November, 1951.

We repent, O God most merciful; for all our sins;
for every thought that was false or unjust or unclean;
for every word spoken that ought not to have been spoken;
for every deed done that ought not to have been done.

We repent for every deed and word and thought inspired by selfishness,
and for every deed and word and thought inspired by hatred.
We repent most specially for every lustful thought and every lustful action;
for every lie; for all hypocrisy;
for every promise given but not fulfilled,
and for all slander and back-biting.

Most specially also, we repent for every action that has brought ruin to others;
for every word and deed that has given others pain;
and for every wish that pain should befall others.

In your unbounded mercy, we ask you to forgive us, O God,
for all these sins committed by us,
and to forgive us for our constant failures
to think and speak and act according to your will.

Eruch Jessawala described the process of translating prayers by Baba. “When a prayer was given by him, it remained a prayer. Some words were in Gujarati, Urdu, some in Hindi or Persian, most in English. Then we’d do a little dressing-up in English and read it out to Baba, and he’d approve what he had dictated. He also inspired the ones who would do the dressing-up. The whole thing was ‘rattled out’ in the first place, given quite spontaneously.”

Meher Baba originally dictated the prayer in the Gujarati language in Khuldabad in November 1951. It was then translated into English by two disciples Eruch Jessawala and William Donkin.” However it was not recited aloud until one year later on November 8, 1952.
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photo: Baba praying (to Himself)
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The Amusing And Crazed Best Friend A Poem by Jay

The Amusing And Crazed Best Friend

A Poem by Jay

The Amusing And Crazed Best Friend

Whose best friend is that? I think I know.
Its owner is quite sad though.
It really is a tale of woe,
I watch him frown. I cry hello.

He gives his best friend a shake,
And sobs until the tears make.
The only other sound’s the break,
Of distant waves and birds awake.

The best friend is amusing, crazed and deep,
But he has promises to keep,
Until then he shall not sleep.
He lies in bed with ducts that weep.

He rises from his bitter bed,
With thoughts of sadness in his head,
He idolises being dead.
Facing the day with never ending dread.

With thanks to the poet, Robert Frost, for the underlying structure.