If you like tuna and tomato sauce- try combining the two. It’s really not as bad as it sounds.
How was the math test?
Lets all be unique together until we realise we are all the same.
Should we start class now, or should we wait for everyone to get here?
Surprise your parents with flowers
House chores can be tiring – offer a helping hand
Make someone a cup of coffee
Feed a stray animal if you spot one
Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
Gift someone something they complimented you for
Compliment someone today!
Hug your parents
Answer the phone in a cheerful voice – even if it is a sales person
Save water – take a shorter shower today
- Drive Me Nuts Meaning: To greatly frustrate someone. To drive someone crazy, insane, bonkers, or bananas. Hmmm… other way round actually.
- Cry Wolf Meaning: Someone that calls for help when it is not needed. Someone who is lying. Came true!
- I Smell a Rat Meaning: A feeling that something is not quite right, or awry. Final test done. Results on expected lines. Gut feel came true.
- Two Down, One to Go Meaning: Two things have been completed, but there is one more that has yet to be finished. Will finish soon.
- Up In Arms Meaning: Angry; being roused to the point that you are ready to fight. But I gave up. No point raising my BP and suffering. Let others suffer.
- It’s Not Brain Surgery Meaning: A task that’s easy to accomplish, a thing lacking complexity. Probably Brain surgery was a better option.
- Down To The Wire Meaning: A tense situation where the outcome is decided only in the last few seconds. Absolutely true – within few seconds all was over! Criss cross of messages and failed communications.
Sad end of a saga, stretched beyond necessary.
Things Don’t Change, WE change! – said Henry David Thoreau. In my life, I have seen that not only WE change, We help change. But sometimes, we come across People who have piles of masks and masks which require constant unpeeling. The process is not pleasant for the untrained surgeon like me but also for those who laboriously have put them on and maintained very protectively for years!
But, sometimes, unwittingly, people open their mind’s windows or closed Silos – like the Johari Windows and we get a peep into their Brains. The darkest parts are become visible to us and once we have got an insight into this side of people – judgements become easier.
Sometimes though, the masks which are not carefully worn -fall off and the Real faces in all their gory, bloody ways become visible that cause sadness and does not help us.
Blossom – A Didactic Cinquain
Wilting, happening, growing
Braver that I, perhaps?
Free verse by jay
All that is present is not absent,
absent, by all account is Absent.
Now absentminded is just the thing,
To get me wondering if the absent is inattentive.
How happy are inadvertent, occasional omission!
Odd, obvious, occasional omission.
Never forget the unintended and accidental occasional omission.
Just like copious remarks, is polemical prefaces.
Do polemical prefaces make you shiver?
They cause BrainFog in my brain!
Why do we need a Master/ Mentor?
Story shared by a friend on WhatsApp this morning.
Once upon a time, a cow went out to graze in the jungle. Suddenly, she noticed a lion racing towards her. She turned and fled, fearing that at any moment the lion would sink his claws into her. The cow desperately looked for someplace to escape and at last, saw a shallow pond. Barely evading the lion’s reach, she jumped into the pond, and in the heat of the chase, the lion blindly leaped after her.
To the surprise of them both, the pond was extremely shallow yet filled with deep recesses of mud. After toppling over each other, the cow and the lion found themselves a short distance apart, stuck in the mud up to their necks. Both had their heads above water but were unable to free themselves no matter how much they writhed.
The lion repeatedly snarled at the cow and roared, “I am going to enjoy the sound of crunching your bones between my teeth!”
He thrashed about in fury but soon became fretful as he found no prospect of escape.
The cow thoughtfully laughed as the lion struggled to free himself and asked him, “Do you have a master?”
The lion disdainfully replied, “I am the king of the jungle. Why do you ask me if I have a master? I myself am the master!”
The cow said, “You may be the king of the jungle, but here all your power has failed to save your life.”
“And what about you?” Retorted the lion. “You are going to die here in this mud too!”’
The cow smiled mildly and said, “No, I am not.”
“If even I, the king of the jungle cannot free myself from this mud”, snapped the lion, “Then how can you, an ordinary cow?”
The cow gently replied, “I cannot free myself from this mud, but my master can. When the sun sets and he finds me absent at home, he will come looking for me. Once he finds me, he will raise me up and escort me home sweet home.”
The lion fell silent and coldly glared at the cow.
Soon enough, the sunset and the cow’s master arrived. He immediately recognized the plight she was in and lifted her to safety. As they walked home, the cow and the master both felt renewed gratitude for one another and pitied the lion they both would have been happy to save if only the lion had allowed them.
The cow represents a surrendered heart, the lion represents an egoistic mind, and the master represents the Guru. The mud represents the world, and the chase represents the struggle for existence therein.
Its good to be independent and not rely on anyone. But don’t take it to an extreme, you always need a partner/coach/mentor/ friend who will be always on the lookout for you.
Having them does not mean you are weak, it’s just that you can be stronger with their help.
Make sure to share this story with your partner/coach/mentor/ friend and express your gratitude.
Crashing, sounding, splashing
Such feelings of pain
Thru a friend on FACEBOOK
Some beautiful answers and way of thinking of Turkish poet Jalaluddin Rumi
What Is Poison ? ? ?
He Replied With A Beautiful Answer – AnyThing Which Is More Than Our Necessity Is Poison. It May Be Power, Wealth, Hunger, Ego, Greed, Laziness, Love, Ambition, Hate, Or AnyThing.
What Is Fear ? ? ?
Non Acceptance Of Uncertainty. If We Accept That Uncertainty, It Becomes Adventure.
What Is Envy ? ? ?
Non Acceptance Of Good In Others. If We Accept That Good, It Becomes Inspiration.
What Is Anger ? ? ?
Non Acceptance Of Things Which Are Beyond Our Control. If We Accept, It Becomes Tolerance.
What Is Hatred ? ? ?
Non Acceptance Of Person As He Is. If We Accept A Person Unconditionally, It Becomes Love…
“ I pray to God so hard but He never answers my prayers. I cannot understand why that should be. I thought God did not let anyone down!”
This earnest appeal was put to Baba by the princess of an Indian state, who had stayed on in Ahmednagar for days in the hope of Baba granting her a moment’s darshan — He did. And thus, as she might have realized, was her highest prayer answered ! However in replying to her, Baba said:
“ God not only does not let anyone down, God is constantly forgiving those who let Him down.”
82 Family Letters, p 259
By Mani S Irani
Photo Courtesy : My God Pictures
If you want to be certain about the object of love before giving your love, it is only a form of calculating selfishness.
Love in which there is no sense of restraint cannot be born of a conviction which is based upon things accessible to the mind
Love and happiness are the only important things in life, and they are both absent in the dry and factual knowledge which is accessible to the intellect.
——-AVATAR MEHER BABA
[Source- Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-136-137 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]
Love in which there is no sense of restraint cannot be born of a conviction which is based upon things accessible to the mind. And where there is no love, there is no bliss or beauty of being.
In fact, God’s nature as the ocean of love cannot be grasped by the mind. God has to be known through love and not through intellectual search after miracles. That is the reason why I do not perform miracles for those who are closest and dearest to me.
——-AVATAR MEHER BABA
[Source- Discourses by Meher Baba, volume-I, p-138 (Copyright ©1967 by Adi K. Irani, King’s Rd., Ahmednagar, Maharashtra, India]
Photo: trialsanderrors via Flickr
Here’s how to get what you want from difficult people
By Nicole Gravagna
Jul 17, 2018
How do I get what I want from difficult people?
To deal with difficult people, first recognize that difficult people are simply people who don’t feel safe.
Psychological safety is a technical-sounding term that is getting thrown around a lot recently. Google discovered that psychological safety was the one thing that was present in productive teams. When psychological safety wasn’t present, teams weren’t nearly as productive.
When you experience psychological safety, you are able to relax. You can stop watching your back. You can be creative and invest your energy freely because you know that you aren’t going to regret it.
When we say that a person is a “difficult person” what we really mean is that this person isn’t relaxed and investing themselves freely. That person is fighting, shoving their way through their work, and generally causing a challenge for everyone around them.
First, let’s identify a few types of difficult people. Then, we can uncover how those people are missing the relaxed-productivity of psychological safety. Finally, I’ll give you some hints on how to deal with them productively.
Here are a few examples of difficult people you might recognize.
Robin is the 20-year veteran office manager of a logistics company. She has conflicts with most of the new employees when they don’t follow her very specific instructions on office protocols. There are signs all over the office with instructions on how to use various filing cabinets, computer systems, and conference phones. Employees routinely get a lecture from Robin if they fail to follow her rules.
Tim is an aggressive boss. His employees know that when things don’t go his way, he will raise his voice and use name-calling as a strategy to solve the problem. People usually give him what he wants because they want him to stop his aggressive behaviors.
Anna acts swiftly. She’s so fast at problem solving that she often solves problems without discussing the problem with her team. Although this behavior sounds productive at first, her fast action often undermines her coworkers who are already working on the problem.
It’s easy to see how each of these difficult people is causing a lack of psychological safety in the office. Robin is nitpicking; Tim is shouting; and Anna is undermining. But look closer. They are each doing these behaviors because they themselves don’t feel a sense of psychological safety.
Robin is worried that she’ll look bad if the office isn’t tip-top. Tim is worried that he’ll fail as a boss if he doesn’t get his way. Anna is worried that she’ll miss an opportunity to heroically solve a problem. None of them are aware that their behaviors are weighing so heavily on others because each one of them is desperately trying to do the only thing they know how to do.
So, what can you do to ease their tension and increase your chances of having a productive working relationship with them? Ironically, you can tell them they are doing a good job.
You see, difficult people are caught in an extreme feedback loop. They are desperate to do a good job, but they don’t check in with their coworkers to see how their efforts are being received. They become desperate to get positive feedback so they do more of the same efforts towards doing a good job.
From the outside, these people seem unreasonably stubborn and uncharitable. From the inside, these people feel diligent and hardworking.
To work with difficult people, genuinely find something you believe they do well, then tell them so. Become the person who gives them the honest positive feedback they so desperately crave. Align with them and then don’t be afraid to ask specifically for what you need from them. Difficult people are powerful people. It takes a lot of power to be difficult. Once you get on the same page with these folks, you can move mountains together.
This article first appeared on Quora.
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