Did you know…


Did you know…

… that today is Tony the Tiger’s Birthday? In 1952, Kellogg’s introduced Tony the Tiger as the advertising cartoon mascot for Kellogg’s Frosted Flakes breakfast cereal. Since his debut, the character has spanned several generations and become a breakfast cereal icon. Tony, have a gr-r-reat birthday! 😉

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Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“Sometimes you find out what you are supposed to be doing by doing the things you are not supposed to do.”

— Oprah Winfrey

Keep repeating Random Acts of Kindness daily


  1. Have lunch with a homeless person
  2. Leave someone flowers anonymously
  3. No matter how annoying they can be, tell your siblings how much you appreciate them
  4. Pick up somebody else’ tab next time you go for a coffee
  5. Make an effort to get to know someone you don’t usually talk to
  6. Make your voice count – sign a petition for a good cause
  7. Know someone who’s feeling under the weather? Pay them a visit!
  8. Life can get really busy – take some time out to spend with a family member
  9. Help an elderly person cross the road or up the stairs
  10. Volunteer your time for a good cause

Creativity – Random sentences generated for the day


  1. We have a lot of rain in June.  This year is below average
  2. This is a Japanese doll.  Hmmm….
  3. Last Friday in three week’s time I saw a spotted striped blue worm shake hands with a legless lizard.  Interesting conversation. 

Random phrases for today. So far the day is cool :)


  1. High And Dry Meaning: To be left behind; abandoned. Being in a helpless situation without a way to recover.  No. Not happening.
  2. Don’t Count Your Chickens Before They Hatch Meaning: Do not rely on something you are not sure of. I agree with this phrase wholeheartedly.
  3. Roll With the Punches Meaning: To tolerate or endure through the unexpected mishappenings you may encounter from time to time.  Yes. My Risk Mitigation mindset.
  4. Read ‘Em and Weep Meaning: Often said by the winner in poker, as the others ‘weep’ over the loss.  Hmmmm…..  Who’s the winner?
  5. Cry Over Spilt Milk Meaning: It’s useless to worry about things that  already happened and cannot be changed.  No needle can sew the split milk.  Best to bury the past and move on.  Let Go is the best policy. 

Ten drawings for creative people, to motivate and inspire


Alex Mathers
Writer, illustrator, in search of creative genius. Founder of: http://www.RedLemonClub.com – self development for creative people.
Jul 17

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Making Anger work for you – I did.


I was angry, very very angry and defocused and depressed on 13th May.

I channelised my energies to get 14 new learnings and certifications from Udemy on subjects I had never explored.

My blog is in front of you which now has over 21ooo views, 11500 likes and on linkedin I now have over 13000 follower.  I focused and channelised my anger and negative energies to convert it into POSITIVE.

The result – My Sugar average for90 days fell to 6.75. Weight dropped by 12 kilos and my BP came normal. My heart doctor permitted me to travel ! WOW!

Make Anger Work for You

Why Feeling Your Anger is Good for You

A man yelling in anger

Hell hath no fury like me in a political argument. My heart pounds. My breath speeds. My face reddens. I look like I just worked out, but that sweaty, vibrant flush is pure, righteous anger.

Wise people throughout human history have taught us to beware the excesses of anger. Christianity, Islam, Buddhism, and ancient Greek philosophy all provide some choice wisdom on the subject. Science bears these teachings out. Frequent, intense, or prolonged anger causes physical and psychological stress, increasing our risk of committing intimate partner violencegetting into a car crashabusing drugs, and even suffering from heart disease.

Anger is also associated with several mental illnesses, like Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder, and can exacerbate the symptoms of Generalized Anxiety Disorder.

Yet there’s another body of evidence, which indicates that not all anger is bad. Indeed, psychologists argue that in moderate doses, anger can: motivate us, make us more creative, deepen our relationships, help us advocate against social ills, and inspire us to pursue our goals.

Imagine anger as a big dog. When it’s out of control, that dog becomes a risk not only to intruders but to its owner. But sometimes, a barking dog can help keep its owner safe — as long as the owner trusts the dog won’t turn on them or their loved ones. In the same way, by dealing with anger mindfully, we can channel our rage to address the underlying issue — without the big dog of our anger turning around and biting us in the process.

The Surprising Benefits of Seeing Red

Just like our dogs bark when a suspicious stranger comes to the door, anger is the human brain’s way of signalling that something just isn’t right. Human beings are highly attuned to standards of fairness, and when we experience disappointment, disrespect, injustice, or unmet expectations, we may become angry.

That’s not inherently a bad thing. At best, anger can be a mark of conscience. As the American Psychological Association points out, if it weren’t for righteous anger at injustice, women may still not have the right to vote. In our personal lives, anger can help us work harder to achieve our goals. Several studies have found that anger can help us advocate for ourselves, with people who demonstrated anger in mock negotiations having their demands met more often than people who projected happiness.

While anger can distort our thinking and make it difficult to reason calmly, under certain conditions it can actually make us more rational. Even the irrational side of anger can be good, making us more creative. While in the long term, anger is an exhausting and unsustainable emotion, research has shown that feeling anger allows us to think in more unstructured ways for short periods of time, opening our minds to inspiration.

When Your Anger Keeps You Back

Seeing red isn’t always rosy. While anger itself is value-neutral, dealing with that anger inappropriately — either by repressing it or by harming ourselves and others — can have negative consequences for ourselves and our relationships. Think again of that dog: if you let it run wild without any training at all, it will bite you; but if you keep it in a cage all the time, it may act out against strict restraints.

Unhealthy ways of coping with anger include aggression toward yourself or others, like shouting, screaming, physical violence, and self harm. Some people may become passive aggressive, withdrawing and acting out rather than engaging affirmatively with the conflict.

While aggression can help us get what we want, it can also have negative long-term consequences. Anger helps us most in negotiations when the person we’re negotiating with is less powerful than us or has fewer options than we do. While we should be assertive in advocating for ourselves, there’s a fine line between being a tough negotiator and a bully: no one wants to be that person screaming curses at a service worker in public.

Channeling Anger in a Healthy Way

So how do we train the dog? Just like we’d search for what made our dog bark so we can address the threat, we can understand what our anger is telling us and make positive changes.

Some psychologists recommend the STAR-R system as a way of mindfully dealing with anger. STAR-R stands for Stop, Think, Ask, Reduce, and Reward. If you find anger is overwhelming you and affecting your daily life in a negative way, you can use whatever method works for you. The shared goal is to slow a situation down and take a moment to think so we don’t harm ourselves and others.

Let’s use the example of me in a political argument, with which I started the piece, to understand how the STAR-R system works. Picture me, sitting at a friend’s kitchen table as another guest makes comments I find offensive. My heart is beating faster. My color and voice are both rising. I’m about to shout something spiteful or aggressive rather than engaging and productive.

First, I can stop. I can check in with how I’m feeling. I can notice my racing heart, my labored breathing, and the burning feeling in my chest. I can begin to calm myself down by taking a long, slow breath.

Next, I can think. What will happen if I lose my temper? While I may genuinely find this person’s behavior objectionable, if I scream at them or insult them, they will disengage and double down on their viewpoint, and I won’t be able to get my point across or change their mind.

Then, I can ask. Why am I so angry? Are their comments discriminatory against my identity or the identity of my loved ones? Am I hungry and tired, and thus have a shorter fuse than usual? Are there more productive ways I can engage with this person and issue to enact the social change I care about? At this stage, I can imagine alternative ways to approach the situation in order to address the underlying problem. For example, I could invite my “opponent” to have a longer discussion over coffee; I could go shout slogans at a protest; or if my opponent has a misconception about mental health, I could help educate myself and others by writing an article about the issue for Talkspace!

Finally, I can reduce my anger by taking a moment away from the conversation to collect myself, or by having a snack if I’m hungry and irritable (hanger is real!).

The final step in STAR-R is reward. This calls for acknowledging when we’ve successfully approached our anger mindfully instead of acting out, and perhaps giving ourselves a well-deserved treat.

Make Anger Work for You

There’s nothing shameful about a dog barking when it’s hurt or hears a scary noise. In the same way, there’s nothing inherently wrong with anger. Rather than shying away from anger, repressing it, or losing our heads at every slight, we can view anger as our body’s invitation to address an unmet need, right a social wrong, or solve a conflict.

Anger is a powerful emotion and coping with it in a healthy way is hard work. We won’t always get it right, but we can acknowledge our effort, channel our anger into things we really care about, and — as always! — commit to growth.

I did and since 13th May I got 14 certifications. Got 20000 Views on my blog and 10000 likes and now have nearly 13000 followers on Linkedin – visit http://www.parkhe.com

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ENGAGE Issue 137
Wednesday 18th July 2018.

by Rachel Green, Director, The Emotional Intelligence Institute
www.theEIinstitute.com
Welcome to this week’s Engage newsletter. A big hello to all our new subscribers from around the world including from Canada, the USA and Australia. Thanks for joining us.

How meditation can ease anxiety
Anxiety is an emotion that few of us like. Yet we all get anxious from time to time. Some of us have more anxious episodes than others and for some, anxiety is an almost constant companion. However, most of us would like to reduce anxiety.

Just as developing greater skills in emotional intelligence involves many techniques and strategies, there isn’t just one way to learn how to reduce anxiety, there are many ways.

One key way is meditation. Mindfulness meditation, and meditation generally, is coming increasingly under the scientific spotlight. It is now a much sought-after and proven technique for managing your emotions. Specifically it has been found to help people reduce and soothe anxiety.

For those people with minor levels of anxiety, meditation may be all that is needed to help reduce it. For most people with anxiety however, meditation may work best when used as an adjunct to other therapies.

In Perth, Western Australia? Free meditation course in August.

On each Tuesday evening In August 2018 I am teaching a free course on “Meditation for beginners: How to use meditation to reduce stress and anxiety”. I have used meditation to overcome panic attacks and have had a regular meditation practice for over 30 yrs. It is free and is on Tuesday evening 7th, 14th, 21st and 28th August – get there for 6.50pm finish at 8.30 pm. At Armadale hospital, Albany Highway, in the building where the after-hours clinic is, (used to be community health). People are requested to attend all four sessions as they each build upon the previous one.

Emotional intelligence skills: What is meditation?

Let me describe meditation very simply to you, as really it is simple.

Meditation helps people monitor and calm their minds. In meditation people focus on a single, wholesome object, e.g. breathing in and breathing out; or on a phrase such as “peace and calm”, and so on.

While they are paying attention to this object they watch their mind in case it drifts away onto thoughts, memories, sensations, regrets, planning, criticisms or other distractions. If this happens, which it invariably does, they gently bring it back to focusing on their meditation object, instead of commenting on the thoughts that arise. They do this over and over again.

In essence that is what meditation is.

Want to learn how to meditate? Our professionally produced recordings “Happy not hassled” explain how to meditate, what to do if you think you can’t and how to manage your emotions through meditation, and they include four guided meditations of different lengths and types so you can practise in the comfort of your own home.

Course: Meditation for beginners

For those of you who are keen to learn some meditation and live in the Perth area, I am letting you know that the Armadale Meditation Group is re-running its course on “Meditation for beginners: How to use meditation to reduce stress and anxiety“. I am teaching it and have used meditation to overcome panic attacks and have had a regular meditation practice for over 30 yrs.

It is free and it is on every Tuesday evening in August – get there for 6.50pm finish at 8.30 pm. At Armadale hospital in the building where the after-hours clinic is, (used to be community health). People are requested to attend all four sessions as they each build upon the previous one.

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Tuesday, 28th August 2018

Emotional intelligence skills: How can our mind increase anxiety?

Various thoughts can start and build anxiety. When we think to ourselves. “What if I can’t pay the mortgage?” or “What if I broke down?” or “What if I get sick?” anxiety can attach itself to them.

The more energy and attention we give to these thoughts, and the more we believe them, and the more we focus on them, the more likely anxiety is to grow.

For example, if we say, “What if I break down?” and then say to ourselves, “Oh that would be awful, what on earth would I do, it will be late at night and if I got out of my car I could get mugged, and then no one would know as Jonathan is away and I could be left for hours without being able to get help and I might die”.

This sequence of thoughts escalates anxiety. One thought leads to another thought and so a proliferation of thoughts occurs and we are in the grip of anxiety.

Emotional intelligence skills: How can meditation help manage anxiety?

  1. It can teach us how to recognise an anxious or negative thought as soon as it arises.
  2. It teaches us how to let the thought go without agreeing with or adding to the thought, so we don’t give it power or energy.
  3. We learn it is “just a thought”, and so don’t worry about it or believe it.
  4. It teaches us to return to our object or the present moment instead of focusing on the thought, idea or sensation that may promote or develop our anxiety.
  5. When we return to focusing on our calming object, at this point, peacefulness and calm can build and anxiety diminish.
  6. It teaches us that peacefulness is already inside us, we just have to get out of the way and let it arise. Anxiety does not usually occur in the present moment when we are focusing fully on what we are doing (in my experience, anyway).

Instead, anxiety is often brought about by thinking about an anticipated negative future, that may never arise.

Meditation helps to keep us in the present moment and stops us becoming attached to thoughts that can start or nurture our anxiety.

Learn how to meditate now. Our professional recordings “Happy not hassled” will guide you through four different meditations and give you instructions on how to meditate and how to use meditation to manage your emotions.

Joke Corner

Thanks to John Ingram in Western Australia for this week’s joke.

The duck is dead

A woman brought a very limp duck into a veterinary surgeon. As she laid her pet on the table, the vet pulled out his stethoscope and listened to the bird’s chest.

After a moment or two, the vet shook his head and sadly said, “I’m sorry, your duck, Cuddles, has passed away.”

The distressed woman wailed, “Are you sure?” “Yes, I am sure. Your duck is dead,” replied the vet.

“How can you be so sure?” she protested. “I mean you haven’t done any testing on him or anything. He might just be in a coma or something.”

The vet rolled his eyes, turned around and left the room. He returned a few minutes later with a black Labrador Retriever. As the duck’s owner looked on in amazement, the dog stood on his hind legs, put his front paws on the examination table and sniffed the duck from top to bottom. He then looked up at the vet with sad eyes and shook his head.

The vet patted the dog on the head and took it out of the room. A few minutes later he returned with a cat. The cat jumped on the table and also delicately sniffed the bird from head to foot. The cat sat back on its haunches, shook its head, meowed softly and strolled out of the room.

The vet looked at the woman and said, “I’m sorry, but as I said, this is most definitely, 100% certifiably, a dead duck.”

The vet turned to his computer terminal, hit a few keys and produced a bill, which he handed to the woman.

The duck’s owner, still in shock, took the bill. “$150!” she cried, “$150 just to tell me my duck is dead!”

The vet shrugged, “I’m sorry. If you had just taken my word for it, the bill would have been $20, but with the Lab Report and the Cat Scan, it’s now $150.”

Summary

There is now measurable, scientific evidence that practising meditation produces positive changes in brain functioning and strengthens the immune system. Gain the benefits from the “Happy not hassled” recordings or join me at the free meditation classes in August. I hope you find peace and calm this week!

Talk next week,
Blessings
Rachel.

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Daily Capsule | 18th July

Grofers goes an extra mile to get Rs 2,500 Cr in revenue this fiscal

In an effort to bring 100 million new customers online and generating Rs 2500 crore in revenue this fiscal, Delhi-based online grocery marketplace Grofers announced its foray into the FMCG segment with the launch of seven new brands under two categories – Budget and Popular G-Brands. It has also launched its app and website in Hindi. The Popular G-Brands category offers brands including ‘G Mother’s Choice’, ‘G Happy Day’ and ‘G Happy Home’. The ‘Budget category’ has ‘HaveMore’ and ‘SaveMore’ brands which claim to offer entry-level quality products.

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Flipkart beats Amazon, Google in LinkedIn’s top 10 companies

Online network for professionals, LinkedIn, has selected IT products provider Directi, ecommerce market leader Flipkart, and digital financial services company One 97 Communications which owns Paytm, as the top three companies in India. The report ‘India’s economy on LinkedIn in 2018’ has listed top 10 companies, which has placed Flipkart’s arch rival Amazon in fourth place and Google-parent Alphabet in seventh.

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These 6 tools make life easier for HR managers and recruiters

Human Resource Management is a burgeoning industry. While talent and performance management have always been critical tasks for HR professionals, the increasing availability of tech-enabled HR solutions has given HRM a new dimension. Organisations world over are using a variety of tools and software to recruit, monitor, train, analyse, and appraise talent, engage workforce more meaningfully, foster cross-team collaboration, increase transparency across departments.

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Hotelogix ties up with IHM-Mumbai; to offer cloud-based property management training

Cloud-based hotel property management system solution provider Hotelogix has tied up with the Institute of Hotel Management (IHM), Mumbai to train students. Hotelogix had recently raised $5 million in a funding round led by Vertex Ventures, and the round saw the participation of Accel Partners and Saama Capital. Co-Founder Prabhash Bhatnagar said that with shifting technology trends, it has become imperative for the institute to train their students on cloud-based PMS.

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It is not cowardice to give in


IT IS NOT COWARDICE TO GIVE IN —

Repeating what he had told Kitty and Rano earlier in Sholapur at the start of the Blue Bus Tours:

Very seriously, whenever you get excited, or feel others are unjust, or you feel they pass remarks, or you feel you are in the right and they in the wrong — the very moment you feel all this, remember me and get control. Pinch yourself, go aside. You must take practical steps. The moment you feel excited, make a fuss, remember me and begin singing or dancing — very practical solution.

You will at once turn it into laughter. If you cannot get control, then take this practical step; if not, you are lost. The slightest advantage given to the ego, with the help of the mind [emotion], bursts with all fury.

Spiritually, it is not cowardice to give in. If you cannot love, at least have the courage to give in. All this I have said a million times, but it goes in one ear and out the other. This is the last time I will tell you. If it goes out, all go. You all fight for no reason but lack of control. This is not yoga but bhoga. Bhog means taking, i.e., selfishness. Yoga implies giving, i.e., selflessness.

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It is not cowardice to give in


IT IS NOT COWARDICE TO GIVE IN —

Repeating what he had told Kitty and Rano earlier in Sholapur at the start of the Blue Bus Tours:

Very seriously, whenever you get excited, or feel others are unjust, or you feel they pass remarks, or you feel you are in the right and they in the wrong — the very moment you feel all this, remember me and get control. Pinch yourself, go aside. You must take practical steps. The moment you feel excited, make a fuss, remember me and begin singing or dancing — very practical solution.

You will at once turn it into laughter. If you cannot get control, then take this practical step; if not, you are lost. The slightest advantage given to the ego, with the help of the mind [emotion], bursts with all fury.

Spiritually, it is not cowardice to give in. If you cannot love, at least have the courage to give in. All this I have said a million times, but it goes in one ear and out the other. This is the last time I will tell you. If it goes out, all go. You all fight for no reason but lack of control. This is not yoga but bhoga. Bhog means taking, i.e., selfishness. Yoga implies giving, i.e., selflessness.

Lord Meher Online 2021-22
Photo: AMBPPCT