From a Single parent raised by my mom when I became an Orphan I learnt the biggest lesson. My mom once told me that Weaning a child who is breast fed and the mom stops feeding him/ her is the toughest challenge a 6-8 month kid faces in their life. It initially makes them rebellious, cranky, crying and persuading the mother to somehow agree to feed the child her milk. I first observed it closely in Agricultural college in the Veterinary classes. I then observed this more closely in family where children were born and understood when i faced this personally.
When a mother leaves for her heavenly abode that is the WORST phase in any loving son/ daughters’life.
I learnt this lesson and rarely used this with few mentees and observed the similar behavior. When a mentor gives Emotional Investment in the mentee the mentee relationship changes from Adult/Adult transactions to Parent/Child relationships. If not well handled this can make Mentoring go haywire and once in my experiene it did. And I could not handle it being a male/ a father/ a grandfather – NO ONE, NO ONE can ever replace a mother in our lives.
Did you know…
… that today, besides being Mother’s Day (Happy Mother’s Day to all you fabulous moms!) is National Apple Pie Day? And what better way to celebrate than with a slice of pie?!
Today’s Inspirational Quote:
“A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary.”
— Dorothy Canfield Fisher
My mother wanted me to have a STATUS atleast two levels above her and my father who were Government Teacher and father a PS to the Chief Secretary. I was refused permission to join Armed forces, refused permission to join ( Even though I was the 1st person selected) to be a Lifetime Non-Sanyasi Hindu Missionary to work in North East for Vivekananda Kendra, Kanyakumari.
I was allowed to do menial work, child labour, odd jobs, even becoming a Sales person at 12 and was religiously funded for 3 years my typing lessons as a skill which I hated but she would say, The skills remain with us for life. She sent me to hobby classes to College band, All indoor and outdoor sports and games, learn to play flute, drawing, painting, sewing, stitching, tailoring and every skill I could acquire like electrician, cycle and motorcycle repairer etc. etc. The quote was “Learn to find dignity in labour and never look down on any one”. These stuck in my life, they taught me to be humble and have humility. My father died when I was 12, he was stickler and Sticked me heavily whenever i made mistakes. His teaching was never chase money, build goodwill, learn to give and build a reputation – God keeps the count, pray to him to be able to give more. What profound Gyan for the Babyboomer! I grew and groomed on such teachings and was taken to many spiritual, academic, business mentors to learn from them.
My mother broke tradition and became an Entrepreneur starting the First Montessory school at home for kindergarten children in 1957 ( I have written a full chapter in my book published about Start up Mentoring – published on Amazon. in).
We miss you, Akka!