Diamond is merely a Lump …

Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“A diamond is merely a lump of coal that did well under pressure.”

— Author Unknown

I was reading an article

From Ashes To Ashes To Diamonds: A Way To Treasure The Dead . It is very interesting ! It talks about “From Ashes To Ashes To Diamonds: A Way To Treasure The Dead””

Most of the diamonds synthesized from cremated remains come out blue, due to trace amounts of boron in the body. These diamonds, made from the ashes of animals, were created through the same process used to make diamonds from human remains.

I once said to a mentee that you are a Raw Diamond and a good mentor can turn you into a Masterpiece.  I mentioned 3 different cuts Indian Cut vs Belgium Cut vs Russian Cut which is given to the Raw Diamond. 
  1. Where a stone is cut has no more relation to the quality of the cut. At least not in what is observable in the finished product. There definitely still is a difference in yield, but that is only of concern for the manufacturer.
  2. The difference in cut-quality depends upon the goals and the organisation of the manufacturer. The cutting might be anywhere in the world for that matter. Therefore, you can still find very nicely cut Russian-cuts, a growing percentage of high quality Indian-cuts and in bigger stones, still more than Gary thinks, mostly Belgian-cut stones.
  • Pre Glasnost Russians cut by the text book with little regard for yield. Russian was the best cut.
  • Belgium has very little cutting today – some is very good – most is pre prepared and sent to Asia for finishing.
  • A few years back all Indian and most Israel diamonds were sold thru Belgium as Belgian Cut – or the better cut stones as Russian Cut.
  • Today it does not matter much as there are terrible and beautiful diamonds cut everywhere. Buy the diamond and not the location – that is the best advice.

Same things almost apply to the Mentor who becomes the Sculptor for the Masterpiece or the Diamond cutter improving the 4C Qualities of the Diamonds and bringing out their inner FIRE and increasing the yield by cuts so that the Weight gives the desired price to the seller.

Sometimes, though it gives me the feeling that the Mentees are not finally CARBON so essential for making of a Diamond but are made of a brittle, fragile sandstone which can only be crushed to make sand and used in the plinth of a building and NOT Diamond. The death wish of the mentee, in such cases to be a masterpiece can only be fulfilled if the building architect designs and makes it the world’s best – otherwise it remains another mundane structure.

To me personally, Mentoring is both art and science.  There are thousands of approaches and there would be million mentors in the world each monopolising their own tricks of the trade and techniques and approaches.  I just focused on 11 of them and practiced them for 20 years.  It does not make me a diamond ! or even diamond material ready for the cuts.  The mentor leaves behind the legacy of mentees who when they do well – the mentor becomes PUREST FORM OF CARBON and may not require any polish – just the basic things they do to be the Blue Diamond preserved by some as their Dead.  That would be my last wish! 

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After Google WHO? You guessed it – WhatsApp Forwards !

This one is a forward from a friend .

It reads like Life Coaching tips.

This list of life tips are attributed to Mexican Billionnaire Carlos Slim Helu, once the world’s richest man – very interesting 👇

  1. Have a firm handshake.
  2. Look people in the eye.
  3. Sing in the shower.
  4. Own a great stereo system. Music is life.
  5. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
  6. Don’t expect life to be fair.
  7. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.
  8. Always accept an outstretched hand.
  9. Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
  10. Whistle.
  11. Avoid sarcastic remarks.
  12. Choose your life’s mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery ABSOLUTELY!.
  13. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.
  14. Lend only those books you never care to see again.
  15. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that he has.
  16. When playing games with children, let them win.
  17. Give people a second chance, but NOT a third.
  18. Be romantic.
  19. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
  20. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
  21. Don’t allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It’s there for our convenience, not the caller’s.
  22. Be a good loser.
  23. Be a good winner.
  24. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
  25. When someone hugs you, let him be the first to let go.
  26. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
  27. Keep it simple at everytime.
  28. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
  29. Don’t burn bridges. You’ll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
  30. Live your life so that your epitaph could read, NO REGRETS.
  31. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.
  32. Never waste an opportunity to tell people you love them.
  33. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped and loved you.
  34. Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.
  35. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
  36. Begin each day with some of your favourite prayer
  37. Once in a while, take the scenic route.
  38. Send a lot of greeting cards. Sign them, ‘Someone who thinks you’re terrific.’
  39. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
  40. Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.
  41. Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.
  42. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.
  43. Make someone’s day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.
  44. Become someone’s hero.
  45. Marry only for love, it is key to your happiness if every other thing fails.
  46. Count your blessings.
  47. Compliment the meal when you’re a guest in someone’s home.
  48. Wave at the children on a school bus/house/street/
  49. Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with PEOPLE. That is emotional intelligence.
  50. Share this to help your friends.
  51. Make sure someone says THANK-YOU to you every day…. 👌

88.8 numerologically may not be ok but ..

Then I read this article somewhere

I Quote

4 Reasons Why You Are Seeing 888 – The Meaning of 888

Are you suddenly seeing 888 everywhere? You were guided here to help prepare yourself for the next stage.

As humans, we are all supported by the Universal Creator and a benevolent spiritual team of guardian angels and spirit guides that steer us in our life purpose and help us remember who we truly are.

One of the ways the Universe communicates with us is through repetitive numbers. For example, seeing 888 everywhere is not just a coincidence, but a message that you need to decode.

This message is important for you to understand as it is a step in your spiritual advancement. Here are the four possible reasons why you are seeing 888 at this time in your life.

1st Meaning of 888: You Have Knowledge and Wisdom to Share

The meaning of 888 can relate to a completion of a spiritual learning. What was meant to be learned was learned.

You weren’t born knowing who you truly are or what you are meant to do in every moment of your life. But you found your way here and realized that every experience in your life – up to this point – was filled with a lesson that helped you learn more about who you truly are.

And from this, you gained wisdom. Wisdom is knowing when to use what you learned to make a situation in your life better.

Your wisdom becomes one of your most trusted sources for guidance and when you share your wisdom, it becomes a guiding post providing inspiration and direction for others as they experience similar situations along their life paths.

You gain a greater sense of purpose for living your own life as you help shape the future path for others as they find meaning from your experiences and wisdom. Your impact affects them personally as they embark upon their own life journey to positively influence others.

You remember that every person that crosses your path becomes better when you contribute your knowledge and wisdom – ultimately making this world a better place for all.

“The wisdom acquired with the passage of time is a useless gift unless you share it.” ― Esther Williams, American Athlete / Actress (1921 – 2013)

2nd Meaning of 888: You Receive Only What You Are Ready to Receive

The meaning of 888 can relate to something that you’ve seeded some time ago and it is finally ready for harvesting. And your return is more than what you planted! On another level, this harvest can also refer to mastering a new skill or some new spiritual learning. Once you truly understand that new knowledge, you’ll be ready to move on to the next level of your spiritual evolution.

As you advance, you understand that your life is a series of choices every day, and every choice you make is like planting or sowing a seed. A seed is anything you give, such as your time, money, resources or love. From the standpoint of “sowing and reaping,” your choices have consequences. So when you see 888, the Universe is letting you know that it’s time to reap whatever you have planted through your choices.

This means every word you spoke and every step you took led you in the direction of your life today. This includes what you read, what you watched and listened to, what you learned, who you spent your time with and what you invested in. All your past choices influenced who you’ve become so far and what you have, or will have soon.

It took patience and persistence. Things were challenging for a while, but you kept going, and now you’ll see what the Universe has waiting for you.

Whatever you’re going to reap – a personal dream, a professional goal, financial prosperity, a relationship resolution, or spiritual healing – seeing 888 is a clear sign that the ripe fruits of your labor are ready to get picked.

In matters of relationships of any kind, the most important part of sowing is your intention behind the giving, even a simple thought is a form of giving. Be sure you are genuinely being helpful, generous and truly happy to give so you can also reap generously and happily in return. Remember that life is like an echo and what you send out in the world, will come back to you. So whatever you think, say or do has a ripple effect, touching everyone and everything. When you look at your life today, what are you sending out that is coming back to you?

In this context, when you see 888, it basically means what you give is what you get. What you see in the world is a mirror of what you have given. So make sure to give the world the best that you have, and the best will come back to you.

“The world is a great mirror. It reflects back to you what you are. If you are loving, if you are friendly, if you are helpful, the world will prove loving and friendly and helpful to you. The world is what you are.” – Thomas Dreier, American Editor (1884 – 1976)

3rd Meaning of 888: You Have an Abundance Mindset That Attracts Opportunities to You

Seeing 888 can mean that you are shifting your perspective to focus on the goodness of what you have in your life and “what is working well” for you. In this sense, you are focusing on the positive things. As you focus on all the wonderful things that surround you, you’re clearing the path for more positive energy to flow into all areas of your life and creating a place for abundance.

When you have a true abundance mindset, opportunities find their way to you more easily, which can lead to achieving financial goals and other favorable end results. The Universe sends you situations that have the same energy of your vibration. Because it’s all energy, the Universe will rearrange itself to match your abundant mindset. Known as the law of attraction, it’s the energy you are focusing on and attracting to you. So when you trust and feel confidently positive about your choices, the Universe will bring you experiences that will match this feeling.

The important point is that you have freedom — the freedom to choose your thoughts and the way you react to situations. Although you can’t control events, you can control your attitude toward those events.

So whether you’re focused on managing financial or legal matters, thinking of a career change or becoming self-employed, or even improving your personal relationships, it’s up to you to have a positive mindset. This will attract more abundance into your life, because like attracts like!

When you see 888, remember this: No one can ever take away your freedom to choose your attitude. When you choose to have an abundance mindset, everything becomes a possibility. There are no limits to what you can have and who you can become.

When you imagine a world based on giving rather than taking, you can see a whole new world with many possibilities. The Universe is abundant and there is more than enough of everything to go around for everyone.

4th Meaning of 888: You Are in The Flow of True Abundance

It is commonly known that the number pattern 888 symbolizes financial abundance and material wealth. Whenever you see 888, the Universe has noticed the efforts you put into your work or professional projects and it’s ready to issue a paycheck, so to speak. In that respect, seeing 888 signifies that some of your projects have come to an end and you are ready to harvest what you’ve seeded which translates into financial reward.

However, being in the flow of abundance isn’t always about having lots of money. Having financial abundance but being a slave to it in some way is not living in true abundance. When you live in true abundance, you remember that you came from the Universal Source. This means you are an individualized expression of the Creator. Like a ray of sunshine, you are an expression of the golden sun and you radiate from it. From this perspective, you’re radiating light into this world by sharing, giving and serving. In the big picture, you see that there is no lack because you originally came from the Universal Source of love and abundance.

A good measurement of your level of abundance is the amount of peace you feel within. The more aligned you are with the flow of the Universe, the more you will allow the divine to effortlessly flow through you in order to feel calmness and harmony at the core of your being.

What Should You Do Next When You See 888?

Life is living in the details. Being grateful for the little things means you recognize that everything is a miracle, even the air you breathe each day. According to John Hopkins Medicine, you take about 17,000 breaths a day, so that’s 17,000 opportunities to be thankful!

When you vibrate in gratitude for the small miracles, your energy for gratitude will radiate significantly more when big miracles happen. So the more thankful you are, the more you’ll attract positive abundance in all parts of your life. As a tip, gratitude also shortens the time to receive abundance. Similar to heating water, when you increase the temperature, the speed of boiling is faster. So add the warmth of thankfulness to everything in your life!

The truth is that the material things of this world won’t last forever, so recognize the things that DO last forever, and build your life around them. You are the artist in your life so be intentional in the life you want to create.

Abundance is present everywhere and it’s waiting for you to realize it. When you are aware of it, you can receive it, be grateful for it, and ultimately be in its flow. It is your birthright. No one is more or less worthy of abundance. You just need to accept it. And when you are grateful to receiving it, you experience even more abundance.

In the end, seeing 888 is a message of being in the flow of divine abundance. As you internally release all that doesn’t serve you, your outer world aligns with peace, harmony and abundance. In this higher state of being, you can create everything you can imagine for the highest good of all.

Go forth and build!” End Quote

WOW! 88.8 ! No its not Poker Win but it is a Win all the same. May make me a Diet Mentor now.

So Congratulations to me.  The credit for this goes to my loving wife and family and my Doctors who did not let me waver like true mentors for one moment from my goal. They set three big strategic targets for me after my 2 heart attacks

  1. Get to 68Kg – your weight when you married 38 years ago and present a Jay as he was to your wife.  Motivating but tough.
  2. Second Get to Under 90 Kg before May 2018 and maintain the weight.
  3. Come to 80 Kilos by 31st July and you will have nearly Reversed your Heart disease by strict medical management, Walking as the only exercise other than some breating Yoga exercises and Extremely strict Dietary conrols and managemnt.

 

I like to MEASURE.  Without measuring nothing is achieved.  I used different Apps for Walking measurement, Steps measurement, Weight measurement, BP measurement, Sugar measurement

Without Documentation of what you do, you can not prove as people are interested to have an EMPIRICAL (sic !) EVIDENCE that what you claim is true..  So I maintained a journal in which i record all the above and my Insulin dosage plus I also record EPISODES such as the number of times I fell down, Number of times I ate out, No. of days on travel, No. of issues – fractured hand, Arthritis, Frozen shoulder, Extreme sweating etc as told to maintain by my Great Doctors who are now friends.  Without their help it was not possible.

Look at these pics – Before and After. This was ME in August 2007 when TNT CEO visited India and I had just returned from Tirupati after a headshave and a Darshan. I weighed a good 135 Kilos then and was ready for a Heart Attack.  I had stopped all forms of Alcohol in 2006 beginning and stopped Non-vegetarian food much before that by I was still eating lots of namkins and salted, fried peanuts and was smoking to glory as a chainsmoker.

dp Aut 2008As Diabetes was detected in 2006, I was put on Tablets and No Sugar, Minimal Salt food and I had reduced my food intake by about 20% overall without of course stopping the peanuts and snacks which put my blood sugar out of control and the Doctor to comment – other than your Kidneys everything seems wrong and you are waiting for a silent heart attack soon.  I changed the doctor though, as he was mostly abroad and was not guiding me correctly and I was left to the mercy of his wire thin dietician who had run out of ideas about giving me recipe’s as none of her 20 recipe’s worked.
dp july 2007 Weight drop after diabetes was not very significant but I managed to get the photographer to get this shot so I look thinner in the picture atleast with a french beard or a ‘goatee”.  🙂 I still weighed 132 Kilos in July 2008

The below picture is when I was honoured as an Honorary Professor of SIBM Pune, Bangalore by the Chairman of Symbiosis Dr. Muzumdar.  I was donating all the honorarium earned adding something from my own for their library.  Did so from 2000 to 2014.

June 2010 and I still weighed 135 Kilos as you can see from the pic below. DP June 2010

The picture below is 6 months after my 2 quick silent heart attacks of which one was noticed in Feb 14 by Symbiosis students and I was admitted to Narayana Hrudayalaya of the world famous Dr. Devi Shetty.  My Weight 108 Kg. August 2014.  When admitted the famed doctor said it is a case requiring triple bypass but your heart pumps at 15% and it is not feasible to operate. They did PET Scan and other tests and put me in ICCU for 8 days which were very boring with hospital diet food and smells and nauseating atmosphere . Two great things happened. 1. I stopped snoring 2. I stopped smoking thereafter. cropped-dp-barcode-with-tagline.jpeg

Dr. Shetty also advised me to meet the HOD of Endocrinology and now my friend Dr. Satish Kumar for putting me on Insulin, his medication and diet controls.

I was very reluctant to take insulin. Wanted to hire a nurse or go to a hospital to get injected as I would relate it to 14 injections in the stomach thing which was a fear I had about the dog bite.  Although I had a pet dog in my childhood called Tomy but I was very afraid of injections in the stomach.  But I changed my fears and went on with treatment.

Next came diet. After 2 – 4 changes of dieticians opinions Dr. Satish asked me to cut food intake to a total of 20% of what I was eating before the Episodes and my wife would listen to his advice intently and make me accept and adapt to this extremely strictly.  She maintained my food timings, quantity and watched for my excesses I would indulge on my walks etc. and added couple of juices = White gourd and fresh Grass juice to my morning breakfast.  Daughter pitched in with her client’s Sericha Tea with lunch and dinner and another daughter suggested Figs to reduce cholestrol with breakfast.

All in all I was in good hands = well disciplined, well monitored and controlled.

Weight 135 Kg.jayparkhe2028729 copy 2Dec2011

My only task was to Walk. I had started short walks post retirement in the morning and evening.  Dr. Satish motivated me to increase it periodically.  So from 2.5Km a day I have come to average 12.5 Km per day this year.  In April I crossed 10000Km on the Nike Apps meant for runners but I measured my Km walked.

All of this worked.  Then this year I realised I sleep a lot in the day time some times 2 to 6 hours as sisesta.  My weight touched on April 9 2018 98 Kilos and I was told to stop sleeping in the noon and instead walk for about 2 Km in the Sun.  It started showing results.

Post my birthday, I fitted into Readymade Slim fit Jeans after many many years and you can see the delight on my face. But I still had to go to the next target level. dp april 9 I weighe today and my Cuttent Weight 88,8kg.  For past 15 days it has been in the range of 89 to 90 kilos.  I think I am going to achieve the 80 kilo target by the due date doing what I am doing. It is working. 

So personally, it is a bigger victory than a Poker victory as even if you win 10 Million or 1- billion you can spend it all but you can not reverse the heart disease and earn more years to live with your family and friends.  My personal gratitude to all who helped.

To end, I had a brief Mentoring intervention of 60 days with a mentee and I once shared a joke with her to say ” Jaane Kiski mentoring karta firta hai,  iska wazan 5 Kilo ghat gaya hai” – it was a rigorous mentoring assignment and what this meant is “Don’t know who he mentors or what he does but his weight has gone down by 5 Kilos” So perhaps she also deserves kudos for being with me in that crucial period of losing weight and helping me achieve my target.

So next is 80.0 Kilos by 31st July. 🙂

 

I don’t like to be called a First Lady

I do not like being called SIR as it means to me – SLAVERY OF INDIAN RYOTS.  As a Child, I began work and did menial jobs.  There was no such thing as CHILD LABOUR and it was not a banned activity.  There were no laws to stop it.  I was born 6 years after independence of India and was Rebellious as a kid.  In College I was impressed by Karl Marx and his Economics and DAS KAPITAL.  Our Professor C.S.Mishra in UTD Ravishankar University, Raipur was one of he best and consulted by the Planning Commission on many matters by Shri V.C. Shukla who was the Vice Chair of he Planning commission and later a minister.  I decided then that SIR is a carry over – a baggage and baggasse’ of the British Empire and denounced it.

I then came across this saying by the American President Kennedy’s wife.

“The one thing I do not want to be called is First Lady. It sounds like a saddle horse.

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I liked this poem 

While on my 10km morning walk, i take few breather breaks . As I was sitting in bench reading my smartphone, I noticed some spiderweb threads around my arms.

I googled. I found the best quora answer – Strip 😃😃😃

But on further search I found a Gem of a poem. Sharing .

You have wasted my life
And you have grabbed my youth
I’ve lost too much time
Caught and blinded by your female crime
…and hide at the same time

Never I dream my life
You know I live my dream
Caught in a spider’s web
Misery, suffer, pain, injustice
Caught in a spider’s web
Misery, suffer, pain, injustice

Darkness has grasped my skin
Scars will heal but the pain will last
Promise me you’ll pay your toll
You will suffer, lose your soul

You have missed your chance
You’ve had it all in your hands
Brought to blame another’s back
Let them gag in your suffering track

Caught in a spider’s web
Misery, suffer, pain, injustice
Caught in a spider’s web
Misery, suffer, pain, injustice

Caught in a spider’s web