Did you know…

… that today is Bald Eagle Comeback Day? On June 28, 2007, in a ceremony in Washington, D.C., the bald eagle was officially removed from the list of threatened and endangered species, 40 years after coming close to extinction. After nearly disappearing from most of the United States, the bald eagle is now flourishing across the nation and no longer needs the protection of the Endangered Species Act!

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Today’s Inspirational Quote:

“One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.”

— Henry Miller

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If You Don’t Prioritize Your Life, Someone Else Will | flevy.com/blog

If You Don’t Prioritize Your Life, Someone Else Will

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“A ‘no’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” So said Mahatma Gandhi, and we all know how his conviction played out on the world stage. But what is less well known is how this same discipline played out privately with his own grandson, Arun Gandhi.

Arun grew up in South Africa. When he was a young boy, he was beaten up twice: once for being too white and once for being too black. Still angry, Arun was sent to spend time with his grandfather. In an interview with Arun, he told me that his grandfather was in demand from many important people, yet he still prioritized his grandson, spending an hour a day for 18 months just listening to Arun. It proved to be a turning point in Arun’s life.

I had the opportunity to apply Gandhi’s example of prioritization to my own life, hours before one of my daughters was born. I felt pressure to go to a client meeting the next day. But on this occasion, I knew what to do. It was clearly a time to be there for my wife and child. So, when asked to attend the meeting, I said with all the conviction I could muster…

“Yes.”

To my shame, while my wife lay in the hospital with my hours-old baby, I went to the meeting. Afterward, my manager said, “The client will respect you for making the decision to be here.” But the look on the clients’ faces mirrored how I felt. What was I doing there?! I had not lived true to Gandhi’s saying. I had said “yes” to please.

As it turned out, exactly nothing came of the client meeting. And even if the client had respected my choice, and key business opportunities had resulted, I would still have struck a fool’s bargain. My wife supported me and trusted me to make the right choice under the circumstances, and I had opted to deprioritize her and my child.

Why did I do it? I have two confessions:

First, I allowed social awkwardness to trump making the right decision. I wasn’t forced to attend the meeting. Instead, I was so anxious to please that even awkward silent pauses on the phone were too much for me. In order to stop the social pain, I said “yes” when I knew the answer should be “no.”

Second, I believed that “I had to make this work.” Logically, I knew I had a choice, but emotionally, I felt that I had no choice. That one corrupted assumption psychologically removed many of the actual choices available to me.

What can you do to avoid the mistake of saying “yes” when you know the answer should be “no”?

First, separate the decision from the relationship. Sometimes these seem so interconnected, we forget there are two different questions we need to answer. By deliberately dividing these questions, we can make a more conscious choice. Answer the question, “What is the right decision?” and then “How can I communicate this as kindly as possible?”

Second, watch your language. Every time we say, “I have to take this call” or “I have to send this piece of work off” or “I have to go to this client meeting,” we are assuming that previous commitments are nonnegotiable. Every time you use the phrase “I have to” over the next week, stop and replace it with “I choose to.” It can feel a little odd at first — and in some cases it can even be gut-wrenching (if we are choosing the wrong priority). But ultimately, using this language reminds us that we are making choices, which enables us to make adifferent choice.

Third, avoid working for or with people who don’t respect your priorities. It may sound simplistic, but this is a truly liberating rule! There are people who share your values and as a result make it natural to live your priorities. It may take a while to find an employment situation like this, but you can set your course to that destination immediately.

Saying “yes” when we should be saying “no” can seem like a small thing in the moment. But over time, such compromises can create a life of regrets. Indeed, an Australian nurse named Bronnie Ware, who cared for people in the last 12 weeks of their lives, recorded the most often-discussed regrets. At the top of the list: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

I have a vision of people everywhere having the courage to live a life true to themselves instead of the life others expect of them.

To harness the courage we need to get on the right path, it pays to reflect on how short life really is, and what we want to accomplish in the little time we have left. As poet Mary Oliver wrote: “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

I challenge you to be wiser than I was on the day of my daughter’s birth. I have great confidence in the good that can come from such a decision.

Years from now when you are on your death bed you may still have regrets. But seeking the way of the Essentialist is unlikely to be one of them. What would you trade then to be back here now for one chance—this chance—to be true to yourself? On that day what will you hope you decided to do on this one?

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About Greg McKeown

Greg McKeown is a powerful listener, social innovator, inspirational speaker and the author of the “Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less.” He is an accomplished public speaker. He regularly speaks to business communities, giving dozens of speeches per year. He has spoken at companies including Apple, Facebook, Google, LinkedIn, Salesforce.com, and Twitter and organizations including SXSW, Stanford University and the World Economic Forum.

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Kidambi Srikanth: Exclusive: In the form of his life, Kidambi Srikanth vows much more – Times of India

Kidambi Srikanth, on the verge of breaking in to the top ten in the BWF men’s singles rankings, opens up on his back-to-back Super Series titles, his love for training and how Indian badminton is on the rise.

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Tea, Shawls, Lincoln Stamp and Everything Else Modi Gave Trump

Tea, Shawls, Lincoln Stamp and Everything Else Modi Gave Trump

The Quint27 June 2017
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The Lincoln stamp that Modi gave Trump. (Photo Courtesy: Ministry of External Affairs)

Prime Minister Narendra Modi met US President Donald Trump at the White House on Monday for their first meeting since both of them assumed office. Modi gifted Trump a folio containing an original commemorative postal stamp of Abraham Lincoln that had been issued by India in 1965.

He also presented Trump a wooden chest with intricate inlay pattern that is a specialty of Hoshiarpur in Punjab.

The First Lady Melania Trump was presented with a hamper containing a traditional, handcrafted Himachali silver bracelet, tea and honey from Kangra valley. She was also gifted hand-woven shawls from Jammu and Kashmir and Himachal Pradesh.

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The issue of the stamp Modi gave Trump, apart from honouring the memory of Lincoln, also symbolised the closeness of the ideals for which Lincoln stood and those which drove Mahatma Gandhi. Both leaders believed in the basic goodness of the common man, and in emancipation of the downtrodden.

Modi became the first foreign leader to enjoy a White House dinner since Trump came to power and the two leaders discussed a range of issues.

In a joint press briefing, Trump stressed on eliminating and destroying radical Islamic terrorism and emphasised on how both nations – the US and India – are deeply affected by the malaise of terrorism.

Modi also laid special emphasis on the growing camaraderie between India and the United States, asserting that eliminating safe havens of terror and bringing stability to Afghanistan were major priorities of both nations.

Source: Tea, Shawls, Lincoln Stamp and Everything Else Modi Gave Trump